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    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 27th Oct 16, 9:11 AM
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    The Simple Bare Necessities feat. Gratitude & Recipes
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    • 27th Oct 16, 9:11 AM
    The Simple Bare Necessities feat. Gratitude & Recipes 27th Oct 16 at 9:11 AM
    Hello

    I think that the time may be right to start a new diary. So much has changed since I started my 2nd diary, which can be found HERE and we're a whole lifetime away from my first diary, which can be found HERE

    Whilst my first 2 diaries concentrated on living a simple life, concentrating on debt-avoidance for my (then) DP and I, we had a 'bit' of a tumultuous 2015, which meant that my DP became my DH and we 'Two' became 3, with the safe arrival of Baby Greying

    Our focus has changed dramatically. Far from contemplating 'downsizing' (a bit of a misnomer in terms of our house, honestly, I've been in bigger 'flats'! ) and somehow achieving early retirement; we now have a future focus that needs us to be super fit and active for as long as we can be. Also, as older first time parents, we are both committed to try to be in Baby Greying's life for as long as possible, without being a burden. Because whilst being older does have some distinct advantages when applied to parenting, there is no denying there's a downside too..............

    Also, the economic climate is changing once again. Blame it on whatever you like, but there is always some reason why prices of x, y or z rise. There is always a reason why, when you find a way to combat inflation; someone comes along and changes the rules of the game. A good example of this is our wood burner. When we had it installed, we had access to a goodly amount of free wood, we both had the time and energy to process it and we could live with parts of the house being cold. Forward 10 years; more people have stoves - and are all chasing that 'free' wood, 'purchased' logs are now very expensive around here and we've no time to stack nor chop wood. It's become easier, and 'as expensive' to flick the on switch for the central heating....... a cleaner in-house option, that can keep the whole house a manageable temperature and Baby Greying at a safe and comfortable temperature.

    Now it does matter if our hair-brained money saving wheezes make our teeth fall out or our toes freeze orf, because it impacts on our ability to look after Baby Greying in the now and in the future. Our health and well-being is a priority - but still not at any price. We want to have it all,;but with only a modest budget available, we're gonna have to get creative. I rarely shop in the 'big 4' supermercados. We purchase some things from mrL, some from mrAl. A smattering from mrW, mrT and m&$ (bananas mostly), with h0me bargins and h3ron f00ds being the sources of our regular shopping. We also have access to a food co-operative and I occasionally get to go to the next city along to get bulk purchases of pulses and spices.

    Our focus now (that we've got over the shock of Baby Greying ) is to move on from Greying Towers. The long and short of it boils down to it not being the right environment for us to bring up a child here. There are nicer places. We need to find them. So a move is on the cards. However, some renovation of the towers is necessary, and whilst funding has always been an issue; now we have the added upheaval of trying to do work around a baby. Not impossible, but not ideal. It's also still proving impossible to find reliable tradespeople. We're looking for a plumber, again

    The one thing that I've come to recognise with age is that there is always 'good stuff' in every life. Even when you're really going through the mill. There are good people, who say or do good things to help you. There are the wonders of nature to take in at every turn. There is humour everywhere, even if you have to look under a few rocks to find it. It is important to be thankful, even on the dark days. And I try to do that - and find writing it down, in my online diary a good exercise in stopping. And thinking.

    We like food at Greying Towers. I write about it alot. I take pictures of me tea. We're vegetarian (at present) and so vegetables feature. Alot. When it's gifted HG produce, it's even better

    So, do you fancy climbing aboard for the new adventure. Taking some time out to Fall apart in my backyard with Me, DH and BG?

    Greying X
    Last edited by Greying Pilgrim; 29-10-2016 at 8:24 AM.
    'Ich habe genug'

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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 15th Jul 17, 4:48 AM
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    Take care of you GP. Xx
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    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 15th Jul 17, 7:56 AM
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    I hope that the nasty fan hitting stuff is resolved to your satisfaction asap.
    X
    MM
    Originally posted by maddiemay
    Regretfully it is beyond that point and we're into damage limitation territory now

    beanie - U 2 But wot u doing up at 4.48am??

    Good Morning

    Tea last night was indeed pizza with oven chips. I tried the m&$ essential range - steak cut. They were ok... if anything, they seemed to cook unevenly.... not too sure what could be done about that. I'd give them a try again, but they don't rank as the best oven chips I've ever had. They were £1 for 900g.

    Tea this evening will be summat on a curry vibe. i'm thinking I will definitely do dalcha with the remaining courgette to make good use of it

    Can't actually think of owt else MS to report, nor remind myself of.....

    Better shuffle orf.

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • rtandon27
    • By rtandon27 15th Jul 17, 8:11 AM
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    Sending big hugs your way GP to help lighten the load!

    Bear - hooray for soup making - we've some broc & stilton soup on the planner as guests are coming! (Freeezer lightening in progress. )
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    • Cheery Daff
    • By Cheery Daff 15th Jul 17, 8:37 AM
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    Have a hug from me Greying ((((((())))))))) hope you manage to find some cheerfulness in the day despite your ongoing "situation" (and that the damage is limited as much as possible) xx
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    • Upsidedown Bear
    • By Upsidedown Bear 15th Jul 17, 10:57 AM
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    That, my darling, is super-fab.

    I've some $h1t going down in RL, so please forgive my absence.

    But HM soup making, with YUM results.....

    X
    Originally posted by Greying Pilgrim


    I've never made soup before which is...embarrassing.

    A house a few streets away has a "Please help yourself" basket in the garden. There were some small turnips and courgettes and I decided I would make soup with them. I thought potatoes could be added and OH (who makes soup) agreed.
    So - turnip, courgette and potato soup


    Hope the RL stuff is sorted soon
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    • UncannyScot
    • By UncannyScot 15th Jul 17, 11:07 AM
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    Hi Greying
    I read more than post on your diary, love your food ideas and have been inspired (along with receiving my Grans old cookbooks and recipes from my wee Mam) to have a go at being a better cook and baker.
    Sorry to hear of the RL !!!! storm and hope as others have said that the damage limitation is as successful as possible, I was going to post an emoji hug but as has been pointed out by others it does look very dodgy, so (((((HUGS)))))
    You are an inspiration, keep on going cos you ROCK
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    R.I.P. T.P.
    • rtandon27
    • By rtandon27 15th Jul 17, 5:14 PM
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    Sending some weekend hugs your way GP xoxoxox

    ...and remember that in the midst of the sh!te, you did have pizza & wedges for your tea - so a little 'something' is still right with the world!
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    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 18th Jul 17, 7:37 AM
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    Good Morning

    Busy reminding myself it is Tuesday We took a little (pre-planned) time out from Greying Towers/Greying Town and went to look at summat in a different part of the country. We even had an overnight stay All done with budgets at the forefront of our minds. However, I've learnt that the sooner you book prem1er 1nns, the less it costs. I dithered, and had to pay a £7 'stoopid tax' for my dither!!! Still, I'll know for next time It was all a bit of an experiment on so many levels anyway.

    We took the opportunity to visit an aircraft hangar of a mrT's. I think our breakfast would have represented better value had we avoided having coffee....... I'd forgotten how much coffee 'out' costs, and how it very often tastes indifferent..... I did however, hit the 'world food' aisles and spent some of my 'bulk buy float' on chickpeas, mung beans and lentils. I did see something that confirmed why having other people 'pick' shopping would never work for me. I watched whilst an employee picked up 2 of the most battered, bashed and distortionatedly dented tins of coconut milk off the shelf, and put them in the client's shopping bags on the trolley. The tins shouldn't even have been sold as YS'd they were that bad - why send them out, surely the customer would reject them and send them back? Who's going to pay £1.40 for 2 badly damaged tins?

    We did pick up some cheap sandwiches too, and had them as our picnic lunch during a 'bonus' NT visit on the way home. The weather was glorious, the view magnificent. The NT property was...... quirky, but we possibly wouldn't bother going there again (difficult to access), but I'm glad that we were able to combine visits to 2 'new' nt places in our visit - we definitely got value for money

    Back to reality with a 'bump'. A major task will divert my attention for the next... who knows how many days. That's life I guess, but I'm getting resentful of spending time on 'important' but no longer priority stuff. This one can't be let go of though, so I've got to divert all my energies into it.

    The remaining food budget is squeaky, but we've got plenty of food 'in'. I must sort out my accounts to reflect what I've bought and which 'budget' it came out of.

    I've not done a meal plan for the rest of the week. Best get on to that. We had pasta with 'cupboard bits' last night (sounds like there was dust and woodlice in it....... )

    I'm behind with my UFM reading with being away. But I did read more of my library book, so swings and roundabouts.

    Right, best greet the day.... Tuesday, Tuesday, Tuesday..... and get on with things.

    Ta for your ongoing support. It helps more than you know......

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • Cheery Daff
    • By Cheery Daff 18th Jul 17, 8:29 AM
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    Ooh Greying, I'm SO glad you got some time away what fun! glad you got to see some new NT properties too I used to have NT membership but we're in a bit of an NT desert here plenty of other lovely things but nothing NT (other than free countryside places) for about 50 miles. Also Mr Cheery is NOT a fan of wandering round posh country houses

    UFM has been ignored by me too back on the case today with a packed lunch for my work trip most vexed as 'm off on a work trip today, and changed travel plans at the last minute to go to a different station - checked online in the taxi to the station and it said I could have an off peak ticked for £104 but at the station the machine would only give me an anytime one for £147 of course I was running late and didn't have time to sort at the ticket office - so thats £43 stupid tax for me

    (Fortunately this is a work expense for a project I hold the budget for so the priority is speed and limited messing about - I like to think Id be more thrifty with my own dosh! )

    Have a good TUESDAY greying
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 18th Jul 17, 2:18 PM
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    Happy Tuesday.
    Glad you had a good break.
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    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 18th Jul 17, 6:17 PM
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    Cheery - it's interesting about NT 'deserts' - we love holidaying in Dorset (or did pre- BG), and the one thing that is against it is the lack of NT properties to visit - once you've done the obvious T. Hardy esq attractions. Although I did enjoy going to..... Cloudshill? - T.E. Lawrence's cottage. Although they are a bit of a 'one time' event. Not too sure things change from one year to the next. And I'm with Mr Cheery - the grand houses can get very samey - hence why I love the gardens, or open spaces or beaches, or woods or....... You are a marvel - coping with extreme budgetting whilst selling a house, travelling for work, keeping up with friends, living your life............RESPECT!

    I have no idea what is for tea - I've not even thought about it. My mind has been elsewhere today. DH was in full care mode with BG whilst I battled with printers and stamps - and there is more to come

    So, I am grateful for these 3 things today;

    my wonderful, wonderful family (Greying) - without whom, there would be no meaning in life - we may be a small 'unit', but we're family, and mean everything to one another

    for the offer of professional help to tackle my Nemesis* - so grateful.................... (*and no, t'ain't chocolate! )

    honesty
    - sometimes you just gotta confess, enough is enough...........

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • rtandon27
    • By rtandon27 24th Jul 17, 3:35 PM
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    A week without GP is like a week without sunshine

    Hope all is well with both of you & little BG - sending love & hugs your way!
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    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 25th Jul 17, 8:54 AM
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    Good Morning

    rtandon - thank you for dropping in I've just been up to my oxters in a situation that seems to have drained every fibre of my being, strength and resolve. Maybe I'm just getting old............. Fighting Goliath is exhausting, frustrating, head-frying and stress-laden, I can see why people don't do it. I haven't been able to think much about money saving. Although I am very pleased to report that my autopilot kicked in and we're had some pretty frugal meals The chipper, pizza haus nor curry house has not been neared, never mind entered into We've a brief respite, before things may or may not kick off again, so life is tiptoeing back to normality.

    I'd reached saturation point by Saturday, so we headed off on an adventure that had been planned, and part of which was in my THT - so I can tick another thing off We visited an elderly relative who'd not yet met BG - it was nice to see them, and they were glad to see us we took a picnic lunch and headed over to one of our favourite haunts to munch that Then on the way home we called in on a NGS open garden. Overpriced entry, small garden, weak tea and mean slices of cake...... is all that can be said about that. Oh, and a magnificent view - which I don't think you'd tire of waking up to everyday. Think we're gonna stick to NT gardens in the future though, more methinks

    My remaining grocery budget is currently standing at £6.80 Don't know if I can make it. I'll try, but I'm doubtful. I did start off the month taking money 'back off' myself for last month's overspend, so I did start with a lower figure, but still.....

    Someone is very kindly gifting us a little bit of HG garden produce, which is gratefully received. HM cake exchanged in return is a feature of this little transaction - I'll have to save the last of my eggs for it.

    Tea this evening is slated to be soup - by necessity rather than 'oh, 'tis loverly weather for soup......'

    Right, best get and do a bit of tidying up and get summat for my brekkie. I've had my coffee, showered and dressed, so not a bad start to the day!

    Ta for your continuing support. It's greatly appreciated and never taken for granted. Ever.

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • MeandO
    • By MeandO 25th Jul 17, 9:38 AM
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    Sending positivite thoughts your way Greying, hope things get better for you soon xx
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    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 26th Jul 17, 7:17 AM
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    Good Morning

    Well, yesterday was an UP & down day and no mistake. The down bit is probably because I don't understand how a process works - and despite asking, I've not received answers Still, patience isn't my strong suit - perhaps answers will emerge out of the ether in time..............

    Needless to say, we didn't have soup It wasn't the weather for soup - pavement splitting sunshine all around but I ran out of time too. So, instead of defaulting to 'take-away' eating fresh air or toast, I rummaged in the freezer and we had l/o bolognaise, a YS'd stick of garlic bread and some pasta. The garlic bread was really quite nice - from m&$. I wouldn't pay proper price, but for 50p it was far superior to the mrW 'essentials' one that I would otherwise buy.

    Today is soup weather Actually, it would help my budget if I made the soup I was going to do yesterday, and save tonight's tea for another day. I was going to use up some gifted courgettes, but they are in good condition, and will last days more yet. mmm, think I'll aim for soup - unless we get a heatwave by this arvo - which can't be ruled out I suppose, British summer and all that.

    Can't really think of owt else MS. Can't really think straight at all at the mo But I'm trying, 'tas oft been said, I'm trying......

    Yesterday I was grateful for these 3 things;

    timely intervention from a tip-top professional - so grateful for their help

    for an e-mail with picture attachment showing a friend's 'conquering' achievement - they are such an inspiration

    e-mail submissions saving me postage costs

    Thanks for popping in. Very, very much appreciated.

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • Upsidedown Bear
    • By Upsidedown Bear 26th Jul 17, 9:31 AM
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    No wise words but sending love and a hug if that's appropriate.



    I will be making soup today
    The Devil whispered in my ear "You are not strong enough to withstand the storm".
    Today I whispered in the Devil's ear "I am the storm".
    Das ist der beste tag meines lebens
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    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 26th Jul 17, 10:33 AM
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    No wise words but sending love and a hug if that's appropriate.



    I will be making soup today
    Originally posted by Upsidedown Bear

    Love and hugs always graciously accepted Bear

    Wot flavour soup ya making?

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • Upsidedown Bear
    • By Upsidedown Bear 26th Jul 17, 10:59 AM
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    Love and hugs always graciously accepted Bear

    Wot flavour soup ya making?

    Greying X
    Originally posted by Greying Pilgrim
    I have the following:

    Carrots - ready peeled and chopped. Very YS
    A bag of butternut squash/courgette/red onion/red pepper. Very YS

    Courgette/beans - free from the nice people nearby
    Potatoes of the wonky variety

    I may just use all of it and call it "Smilie's Special Soup"
    The Devil whispered in my ear "You are not strong enough to withstand the storm".
    Today I whispered in the Devil's ear "I am the storm".
    Das ist der beste tag meines lebens
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    • Cheery Daff
    • By Cheery Daff 26th Jul 17, 12:56 PM
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    Sorry to hear you have issues requiring Much Patience Greying. I'll gladly lend you some of mine, although I confess at the minute it"s a bit threadbare and useless amd used up with house buying I hope you get the answers you need soon xxx

    I picked up a couple of reduced things in Mr T yesterday - some sandwich thins reduced to 50p, and something else that now escapes me... oh a bag of salad leaves. But most of the reductions were rubbish and not worth bothering with - 75p for a bunch of 'fresh' herbs so disintegrated and battered that I couldn't even tell what they were - I don't think so!!

    I did however acquire a bag of red lentils, 2kg for £3.60 I think. Should last us a while - I made a nice simple dahl for tea last night with green beans, and there wasn't much left so i brought it to work to have spread on sandwich thins with salad, like a kind of lentil pate off to see if that's worked in a minute...
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    • starnac
    • By starnac 26th Jul 17, 10:31 PM
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    Phew! Greying! I have finally made it through your "new" diary! I can't believe I have been away so long!

    Anyway. Lots of cwtches to you and BG (and DH of course) and I hope that you get a satisfactory resolution to your "situation". If there is anything we can do to help please shout. I will be sticking around now. I've missed you all.
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