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    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 10th Oct 16, 11:25 AM
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    From Nightmares to Dreams come true!
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    • 10th Oct 16, 11:25 AM
    From Nightmares to Dreams come true! 10th Oct 16 at 11:25 AM
    Hmmmm isn’t this strange typing my life onto a blank page for strangers to read. I’m not quite sure why I decided to do it but now I’m here I’m going for it!

    A bit about us?
    I’m a 33y young single mummy to a daughter who is 7 aka little miss and a son who is 3 aka rat pants. I work 3 days a week in the admin department at my local hospital. Little miss is at school and rat pants private nursery. Little miss suffers from CVS (undiagnosed but more on that later!) Rat pants has a list of additional needs by mainly autism and I have PMDD (it’s real, it’s horrible and it has almost claimed my life on several occasions, but I am still fighting the good fight!)

    I have stated this blog to try and keep myself on the straight and narrow hahahahahaaaa when little miss was born in 2009 I was around 15K in debt, in February 2010 I took out a plan with step change (CCCs then) between 2010 and 2015 I worked hard to clear it, during that time I met a man, was made redundant, got married, had rat pants, separated from my husband….yet I continued to pay and do what was needed. In March 2015 I became Debt free…..bloody proud is an understatement.

    Fast-forward to today and I have around £2k credit card debt and £500 overdraft. This is mainly due to moving house (50miles south) the move was quite quick from deciding I was moving to moving was around 2 months. I left my job there, we moved and we started a new life as we needed a fresh start (long battle in court with the ex costing £2.5K! and 2 children with extra needs in and out of hospital had driven me crazy never mind the PMDD!)

    Due to all the crap (there really was a lot and some days I am not sure how I survived the last 3 years!) I booked a holiday. This will be the first time I have taken the children abroad and the first holiday since 2015. We are off to Disneyland Paris…squeal! I am so excited I can hardly think straight. I am not telling the children just going to the airport and seeing the reaction on their faces when we get there!

    This leads me to my goals –

    • Clear Debt by Dec 2017
      • Slightly prioritising Disney holiday over Debt…I know not very DFW but its manageable debt that isn’t affecting our life and we all deserve the holiday!
    • Save for Holidays
      • Disneyland in May
      • Glamping in August
    • Better budget, keep to budget and curb my shopping hobbits

    My current financial to-do list –

    • Do a SOA / Budget
    • Pay Council Tax…missed it last month and got a very angry red letter through the door (was an honest mistake with the move!)
    • Chase up Ex for maintenance…not a usual thing to have to do, despite his lack of effort to see the children he has always paid, I just change the account he pays into and I also made him mad when I moved so he’s playing games this month
    • Look into changing energy companies to a green energy/not big six…OVO possible?

    My current none financial to-do list –

    • Order prescriptions
    • Find out where I am going Friday at the hospital…little miss has an appointment but I don’t know where the hospital is here yet!
    • Ironing…my cleaning and ironing lady left 2 weeks ago and I have not found a new one…debating not finding a new one…not sure we’ll manage (between work and my sons additional needs there is little time to do anything!)
    • Catch up on sleep…yes this is a real to-do item! I need 8 hours a night min and I’ve had about 5-6 for the last weeks so I am running a deficit
    I think that's enough for now although like talking I could go on forever!
    Last edited by MeandThe2; 10-10-2016 at 12:53 PM.
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    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 10th Oct 16, 6:49 PM
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    • #2
    • 10th Oct 16, 6:49 PM
    Bit of a bonus
    • #2
    • 10th Oct 16, 6:49 PM
    Home form work whoop whoop!

    Letter from council to say I've been under paid HB, they owe me £174.70 and my 4 weekly payment will increase by £69.88. I am going to put the £174 towards paying my over draft of an the extra £69 every 4 weeks towards my credit card. I figure I have been managing without it so I can continue to do so. Total of £838.56 towards paying off the CC over the next 12 months.

    Also checked the bank and the maintenance money is in the new account...so glad as I didn't need that argument today!

    Working on my budget but it's slow going but as soon as its done I will post

    More soon
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 12th Oct 16, 2:28 PM
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    • 12th Oct 16, 2:28 PM
    Throwing it at me!
    • #3
    • 12th Oct 16, 2:28 PM
    Well hello there


    Yesterday I arrived home to a letter form the credit card company telling me that I was so good at spending money I didn't have that they were increasing my balance by another £1k on the 9th of November. Cut up the card...problem half solved!


    Had a bit of a spend day yesterday, both kids need a full new winter wardrobe of clothing. Went round all the charity shops and picked up some bit for them and then a few for me. Got a few more bits in the sale at the supermarket too...no idea how much I spent...spending diary may be needed especially whilst I am in my OD



    To-do list Update -

    Financial to-do list –


    • Do a SOA / Budget - Working on it...harder than I thought
    • Pay Council Tax…missed it last month and got a very angry red letter through the door (was an honest mistake with the move!) - Lost the bill...hunt for this tonight!
    • Chase up Ex for maintenance…not a usual thing to have to do, despite his lack of effort to see the children he has always paid, I just change the account he pays into and I also made him mad when I moved so he’s playing games this month - Done
    • Look into changing energy companies to a green energy/not big six…OVO possible? - on the back burner until I have time

    None financial to-do list –


    • Order prescriptions - Done
    • Find out where I am going Friday at the hospital…little miss has an appointment but I don’t know where the hospital is here yet! - Found letter, have post code for Sat Nav...win
    • Ironing…my cleaning and ironing lady left 2 weeks ago and I have not found a new one…debating not finding a new one…not sure we’ll manage (between work and my sons additional needs there is little time to do anything!) - Hahahahaha enough said
    • Catch up on sleep…yes this is a real to-do item! I need 8 hours a night min and I’ve had about 5-6 for the last weeks so I am running a deficit - Now urgent!
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 16th Oct 16, 11:38 AM
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    • 16th Oct 16, 11:38 AM
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    • 16th Oct 16, 11:38 AM
    No a lot to report money wise

    In other news had a trip to the hospital to meet my daughters new consultant, lucky for her she'd done her home work and knew what my daughter was suffering. I have been fighting with the old consultant for 4 years to get a diagnosis of CVS as she meets every one of the diagnosis criteria but she would not listen to me. New consultant has started the process of diagnosing her by ordering all the 'process of elimination' tests. Although the tests will suck and put my daughter through some discomfort it is positive news.

    Started my spending diary as of Friday, I start my financial week on a Friday as this is when I get my tax credits and do my weekly shop (supposedly!)

    Friday -
    £3 Lunch meal deal (Friday treat!)
    £3.20 Hospital Parking

    Saturday -
    £1 Parking
    £40.99 Vape smoking supplies (around 2 months supply and new batteries)
    £20.07 Company shop (discount food shop for NHS staff)

    Today I need to do an online food shop for the week!

    This week I need to get my money straight as it's financial month end for me Wednesday. I get paid the 20th so my money month goes 20th to 19th. Works for me so I'm sticking to it!
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 19th Oct 16, 8:39 PM
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    • 19th Oct 16, 8:39 PM
    Month End Sep 2016
    • #5
    • 19th Oct 16, 8:39 PM
    As explained my month runs 20th to 19th so today is month end for September pay...make sense to me anyway!

    Numbers -

    Over Draft £390.20
    Credit Card £1700ish (to be confirmed when I find the bill!)
    Car & Emergency Fund £50
    Holiday Savings £0
    Savings £0

    Not paid this months council tax again...really need to get a direct debit set up for that along with finishing changing all the addresses from the move in July!

    Rubbish but could be worse!
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 19th Oct 16, 9:34 PM
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    • 19th Oct 16, 9:34 PM
    Oct to Nov Budget
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    • 19th Oct 16, 9:34 PM
    In
    Pay - 772.27
    Tax Credits - 1332.4
    Carers - 248.40
    Child Benefit - 137.60
    HB - 334.96
    HB Back Pay - 174.70
    DLA - 220.40
    CSA - 205.00

    Out
    Rent 675.00
    Child Care 640.00
    Car 375.00 (MOT due this month and Insurance Jan)
    Savings 175.00 (holiday, Emergency fund, xmas)
    Everything Else 160.00
    Food 160.00
    Car Repayments 150.00
    Kids 130.00
    Credit Card 100.00
    Council Tax 82.00 x 2 (last months and this)
    Petrol 80.00
    Gas & Electric 61.73
    Water 30.91
    Internet/TV 30.91
    Mobile 22.62
    AA 22.43
    Phone 19.00
    TV 12.18
    Home Insurance 12.00
    Netflix 5.99

    Start -390.20
    In 3,425.73
    Out 3,026.77

    = 8.76

    Things I know happening this month -
    Little Miss Hair Cut £15
    My Hair Cut £85
    Tickets for Show £60 (2 x £15 little miss's best friends in a show 1 x £30 I think, best friend split up with boyfriend so said I would have ticket and go with)
    Rat Pants Birthday £20 gifts already sorted but need cake and birthday tea (McDonald's will make his day thankfully!)
    Partylite £16
    Swimming lessons £82.40

    Will come out of Everything Else and Kids fund in budget, most of these things I committed to before I really started looking at money. Next month I will be more careful with making commitments that involve money!

    Things not budgeted for (yet!) but will need paying -

    Gardener £34
    Beauty £ 25
    Daughters Spending Money £20
    Sons reward chart treats £10
    Anything else that crops up...usually a lot with kids!

    Will need to work these into the budget next month and find money for this month. I might have ditch the savings although Xmas is coming and the Holidays are booked. I really don't want to be in my overdraft at the end of next month but might have to settle for halving it instead of clearing it?

    Enough for now as my brain is tired from thinking !
    • miracleworker
    • By miracleworker 1st Nov 16, 7:26 PM
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    • 1st Nov 16, 7:26 PM
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    • 1st Nov 16, 7:26 PM
    Hi Meand The2,

    Hope all is well.
    Miracleworker

    Debt: £4,164.51. No. Of Debts Repaid: 4/8.
    • ab_saver
    • By ab_saver 1st Nov 16, 9:31 PM
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    • 1st Nov 16, 9:31 PM
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    • 1st Nov 16, 9:31 PM
    Just dropping by to say hi - and that it sounds like you know exactly what you are doing - I'm amazed at what you have tackled with so much going on in your life!
    House fund: £1610 / £10,000 _£1000 emergency fund #208 - £110/ 1000 _
    • chevalier
    • By chevalier 2nd Nov 16, 5:32 AM
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    • 2nd Nov 16, 5:32 AM
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    • 2nd Nov 16, 5:32 AM
    good luck with making a start, keep going
    chev
    I want a job that is less than an hour driving away from my house! Are you listening universe?
    • MrsTinks
    • By MrsTinks 2nd Nov 16, 9:31 AM
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    In
    Pay - 772.27
    Tax Credits - 1332.4
    Carers - 248.40
    Child Benefit - 137.60
    HB - 334.96
    HB Back Pay - 174.70
    DLA - 220.40
    CSA - 205.00

    Out
    Rent 675.00
    Child Care 640.00
    Car 375.00 (MOT due this month and Insurance Jan)
    Savings 175.00 (holiday, Emergency fund, xmas)
    Everything Else 160.00
    Food 160.00
    Car Repayments 150.00
    Kids 130.00
    Credit Card 100.00
    Council Tax 82.00 x 2 (last months and this)
    Petrol 80.00
    Gas & Electric 61.73
    Water 30.91
    Internet/TV 30.91
    Mobile 22.62
    AA 22.43
    Phone 19.00
    TV 12.18
    Home Insurance 12.00
    Netflix 5.99

    Start -390.20
    In 3,425.73
    Out 3,026.77

    = 8.76

    Things I know happening this month -
    Little Miss Hair Cut £15
    My Hair Cut £85
    Tickets for Show £60 (2 x £15 little miss's best friends in a show 1 x £30 I think, best friend split up with boyfriend so said I would have ticket and go with)
    Rat Pants Birthday £20 gifts already sorted but need cake and birthday tea (McDonald's will make his day thankfully!)
    Partylite £16
    Swimming lessons £82.40

    Will come out of Everything Else and Kids fund in budget, most of these things I committed to before I really started looking at money. Next month I will be more careful with making commitments that involve money!

    Things not budgeted for (yet!) but will need paying -

    Gardener £34
    Beauty £ 25
    Daughters Spending Money £20
    Sons reward chart treats £10
    Anything else that crops up...usually a lot with kids!

    Will need to work these into the budget next month and find money for this month. I might have ditch the savings although Xmas is coming and the Holidays are booked. I really don't want to be in my overdraft at the end of next month but might have to settle for halving it instead of clearing it?

    Enough for now as my brain is tired from thinking !
    Originally posted by MeandThe2
    I know you've not posted it up for comment as such but obviously the council tax is the priority here Definitely get that one taken care off asap! DD is the way forward

    Child care looks high! Yikes! I assume the small rat pants gets free sessions? Is there a cheaper child minders around? Worth checking at least

    If you use the SOA calculator http://www.stoozing.com/calculator/soa.php and format for MSE it's way easier and it makes sure you can list everything on there
    DFW Nerd #025
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 16th Jun 17, 10:15 AM
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    The Nightmare returned!
    Well I started this diary with really good intentions and then all hell broke loose!

    After my last post Little Miss had a horrible CVS episode that ended in a hospital stay and then I got meningitis! Yes meningitis the really horrible type where you end up in an ambulance in the the middle of the night and spend a very long time in hospital isolation. It was a horrible and I am still seeing a neurologist for ongoing health issues.

    Due to an extended absence from work and having to get through the last few months best we could my finances and everything else are in a bit of a mess. I also had to cancel our holiday to Disney We lost about £250 but at the time my health was worth more and I had to let it go.

    It's time to get back on track! These are the 3 areas I need to focus on -

    Finance -
    Where am I financially?
    What is my debt and how do I clear it?
    Preparing for financial changes in the future

    House, Home & Family
    Simplify and get organised
    Keep on top of cleaning
    Get a better balance work/family time/house duties

    Health
    Lose weight
    Get the operation I need (won't do it until I lose weight)
    Get more sleep!

    the what, when, how is still to be worked out!
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 17th Jun 17, 10:21 AM
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    Morning!

    I am so tired, really need to go to bed earlier I am sure my tiredness contributes to most of the other problems!

    Each day I am going to set small goal in each of the 3 areas I am working on, I am also going to start a spending diary and I have joined the flylady group on here to help with the cleaning.

    Finance - Draw out weekly cash, check CC balance
    House/Family - Clean bathrooms, tidy playroom, enjoy community picnic with kids
    Health - Go to bed by 10, Drink 4 bottles of water (2l)

    Updates later
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 17th Jun 17, 10:37 PM
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    Had a fab day today! The community get together was a perfect way to spend a sunny Saturday afternoon.

    Spending £12.18 in the coop on around 80 ice lollies & choc ices for the community picnic as our shared contribution...best money I have spent in ages as the kids love handing them out and everyone enjoyed them

    Not much of the to do list got done as we were too busy enjoying ourselves and we took an afternoon nap. did manage to tidy playroom, drink 6 bottles of water and do a load of washing so better than nothing!
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 18th Jun 17, 6:28 PM
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    Fathers day with all the family back up North so nothing but family time today.

    Spending £14.45, £10 petrol and then bottled water and snacks...need to remember the snack bag next time!

    Going to do my bullet journal for the week so I know what I have on and then go to bed!
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 19th Jun 17, 11:38 AM
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    'Day off'
    Monday is my 'day off' sounds nice doesn't it but what it really means is both children are in nursery/sch and I am not at work so I can get all the jobs that need doing done!

    Started with a trip to B&M where I picked up another fan (man is it hot!) also got some bits to organise the draws in the kitchen and picked up some cheep water battles for the kids (3 for £1.99) We spend far too much money on water (£6 a week min!) I love having bottles in the fridge so we can just grab a bottle when needed, hoping to save money by refilling the bottles I have bought for the kids and refilling the bottles I already have in there for me.

    Joined in the fly lady weekly thread on here and managed to get most of today's list done already...go me!

    Today's to do's -

    Finance - sort the monthly budget and find out what debts we have
    House/Family - complete fly lady list, reading with kids
    Health - Drink more water, bed by 10pm

    Also need to meal plan for the week and go food shopping - I hate this job! I think it's because I have become lazy and we are all about the connivance. Family dinners have gone out the window and been replaced by rubbish TV dinners. Going to see what we have in already, do one big shop and make a point of sticking to meal plan this week.
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 19th Jun 17, 8:15 PM
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    Spent a lot of time today looking at my budget/SOA! it's no easy to work out as I have money coming in weekly/4 weekly/Monthly and some of the amounts change depending on the month. I will keep working on this

    My debt stands at -
    Car £3550 - this is interest free, I pay £150 a month at the moment
    CC 3455.05 - Min payment of approx £155 per month

    I would like to pay off the CC by the end of the year and then increase the loan repayment to £300. I would be debt free by end Sep 2018.

    My finances could change drastically in Oct 2018 with my income going down by up to £180 per week, this will depend on the decision of my sons DLA renewal. Hopefully he will get awarded again but I need to be prepared in case he doesn't
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 20th Jun 17, 7:27 AM
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    The last 2 nights I've been in bed by 10 and I feel so much better for it! Need to keep it up

    Today is going to be an expensive day a I need to fill the car up £40, I have physio £30, school trip to pay for £15, Nursery photos £19, Order ink for printer £? and food shop £? (meal plan and list done yesterday)

    Also need to sort out my TC childcare audit, this is the 3rd one in 4 years and it is a pain in the backside. Lots of form filling and paperwork finding/printing. My childcare this year £8140 once rat pants is in school September it should reduce £4900 a year!

    As I mentioned in a previous post my month used to run from the 20th to the 19th as I am paid on the 20th but this isn't working for me so I am going to do my monthly budget by calendar month and see how I go! Will post a full budget for the month, will start a spending diary and ensure I stick to what I budget...well hopefully!
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 20th Jun 17, 10:50 AM
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    another casualty
    Wishing you all the best in your goals
    • MeandThe2
    • By MeandThe2 20th Jun 17, 12:57 PM
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    Wishing you all the best in your goals
    Originally posted by another casualty
    Thank you!

    I m currently #2682 (Nov 2016) from you Quite everything and start again thread, I've been reading it over the past few days. Once I am up to date (may be a while!) I will come say hi Although I don't know the full story yet I am incredibly impressed with everything you have done x
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 20th Jun 17, 2:40 PM
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    another casualty
    Thank you
    That thread could be longer than a monthly omnibus of eastenders .
    I don't think it's as depressing tho Thanks for perservering
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