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    • cheerio14
    • By cheerio14 26th Sep 16, 11:16 AM
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    Need reassurance making the right decision - family/job
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    • 26th Sep 16, 11:16 AM
    Need reassurance making the right decision - family/job 26th Sep 16 at 11:16 AM
    Hi all - my situation is all a bit complicated but in a nutshell - I'm in the process of getting a divorce from my husband and due to various reasons have had to move 70 miles away. This has left me with a 50 mile commute each way to work, so I leave at 6.30 and get home at 5.30. I've got a little boy so I don't see him much during the week. We're now going through a court process to decide access arrangements and all of this has made me realise I need to prioritise him. I've managed to get a new job which is 8 mins from my house (in traffic!) in the same field I'm in now but because of the slight change of sector results in a £10k pay cut! I think I can afford this but the thought of such a big change is terrifying and I just need a bit of reassurance that it's ok for me to take this risk in order to prioritise my family.

    When I spoke to my parents they didn't seem that impressed with the move which shook my confidence on it a bit. Can anyone offer any words of wisdom?! TIA
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    • Kynthia
    • By Kynthia 26th Sep 16, 9:37 PM
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    Time is so valuable and a long commute is so draining. So you are definitely gaining something for the drop in income. Plus nothing has to be permanent. When things settle down a bit you can look around for a job that isn't such a step back or reduction in pay that is still a short commute away if you want, or wait a few years.
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    • duchy
    • By duchy 27th Sep 16, 1:47 AM
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    Will you be getting any child support which will help offset the reduction ?
    What you'll save in takeaways by dropping the 50 mile commute will help too.

    You are reducing the work/home balance for now, it makes perfect sense.
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    • determined new ms
    • By determined new ms 27th Sep 16, 3:37 PM
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    i've just taken a 16K pay cut to work part time and be with our little one. I've stepped back in responsibility as well. You can do it, it's only money and time with your lo is priceless x
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    • ThomasMJacobs
    • By ThomasMJacobs 11th Oct 16, 10:25 AM
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    If you can afford it then you should take it up. Put your son first before everything!
    • tara747
    • By tara747 12th Oct 16, 12:45 PM
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    I don't even have a kid, and I'd take the job closer to home. Time is precious and a long commute would make me miserable!

    Plus you'll be saving money on travel costs.

    You're definitely doing the right thing. Good luck to you.
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