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    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 11th Sep 16, 9:56 PM
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    OS ways and Poor Health
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    OS ways and Poor Health 11th Sep 16 at 9:56 PM
    Earlier today I joined a very good new thread on getting back to old style ways . I managed to take it in another direction by mentioning how ill health can impact on doing everything the old style way . As this was off topic to the original post . I will be posting on the original topic but without going off in another direction
    This seems to happen a lot of the time across the threads as many old stylers do have to cope with this problem .
    Many moons ago PREPARE AT HOME began a lengthy thread on being os with health problems and there have been a couple of other threads over the years .
    I am wondering if the time is right for another thread on the subject with the proviso it is not offering advice on medical subjects as that is for the professionals . We all do many things day to day to minimise fatigue and pain and though they are little things we have developed them to cope and others may not be aware of how helpful the little changes can be .
    I would be interested to see if others would like to join such a thread . I am not very techie as you will gather from my rambling post and have never started a thread before - I hope this posts !
    polly
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    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 11th Oct 16, 9:27 PM
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    Larumbelle It sounds as though your new lady could be a real treasure So pleased you feel on the up again . Do you get to share the allotment goodies . I had butternut squash soup earlier , wasn't os as I picked it up when I cut through Marks earlier today . It was a bit mild for me but I will be making my own version in future . Just squash , carrot , celery , onion , ginger garlic , red chilli and sage - not a fan of sage it's one of the very few herbs I don't like . There was milk in it but not a fan of milky soups Mine will have marigold organic stock and loads of chopped flat leaf parsley which grows in abundance in the garden and freezes well ..
    I feel for you over the loss of your cat . I have always had cats since childhood and am without one for the first time in years . We love all our pets but sometimes one lodges in our heart for life . It's some years since mine was run over and I can't bring myself to adopt another .
    I am glad you are able to engage with the things that help you . I wish my daughter was able to cope but she had so many people with no empathy or understanding that she can't stand her space being invaded . She's had to go over bad times so often it worsens her lack of self esteem and never gets the support she needs . It is good to know it can work .
    LW Good luck with the cards . Do you draw them yourself or download the images ? I saw your picture on the daily , such lovely smiley dogs . You sound very like my daughter in some ways , her home is her safe place and she doesn't welcome invaders .
    Nomoon I bashed into the door frame earlier we should form a club .I hope those struggling today have a better day tomorrow .
    Slowly I hope you get some sleep tonight .
    If Spider is out there I have been meaning to ask you about the oven you mentioned a while back . When the kitchen is done I don't think I need a big double oven like my present ancient one . I no longer have to have a large family size one and I read your post a while ago and thought the one you mentioned sounded suitable .
    Well I hope to get to bed soon . Town always exhausts me , at least the flu jab was over in seconds .
    Take care all
    polly
    • Lynplatinum
    • By Lynplatinum 11th Oct 16, 11:21 PM
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    Furry Friends
    Hiya All

    As I may have said I am doggie sitting at my friends house this week.

    Have had an upsetting time with my tenant who has threatened me with talking to the council!! I have spent thousands (£750 £5,000 ++++ smaller amounts) on trying to cure the damp and now, the only firm I can get to do the next thing that might be likely to cure it is not able to do it until January (they promised me November, then changed their mind once I've paid the deposit for £2,700 of work!) She is blaming me. I can gather together I diary of what I have done to cure the problem - since my mum didnt have the problem when she lived there I am guessing it may be what she is doing?? But am getting guttering sorted in case it is that!!!

    Anyhooo I digress - sorry but am v upset by her attitude - and the little doggie I am looking after understands and snuggles up to me when she sends another upsetting txt. Also the little woof tells me when its walkies time so I get out in the lovely countryside and fresh air and get exercise and it helps me to get things back in perspective. I would just keep on going on about it wit a human so once again, doggies are better!!

    Larumbelle - am therefore agreeing with you and hope you can feel able to get another furry companion soon.
    Nite all
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    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 12th Oct 16, 11:15 AM
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    Lyn I'm sorry to read about your tenant problems . Was any damp present when she viewed the property ? It sounds as if it could be something she's doing if it wasn't there when she took the tenancy . I would compile that list in case you need a record to show the council and I would also from this point tell her to contact you by letter only ( if she has been emailing or phoning ) as you both need a paper trail )
    The threads are full of the effects of drying laundry indoors without opening windows and not airing bathrooms after use so it could be something as simple as that . If she does contact the council they will be aware that at this time of year landlords can struggle to get repairs carried out .
    Try not to spoil the rest of your week worrying and be thankful for the empathy your little companion has in abundance .
    As a last thought I seem to remember the house is in a different area to where you live now , is there anyone in that area who has knowledge of building and would assess the situation . Many retired trades are willing to take a look .
    polly
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 12th Oct 16, 12:45 PM
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    LW Good luck with the cards . Do you draw them yourself or download the images ? I saw your picture on the daily , such lovely smiley dogs . You sound very like my daughter in some ways , her home is her safe place and she doesn't welcome invaders .
    Originally posted by pollyanna 26
    I usually use photos of my canine guests as a basis, and work from there; I have some software that does backgrounds and fancy writing; and I have a machine that plugs into the laptop that cuts fancy shapes, letters and numbers. I also re-use any removable bits from old cards, to jazz things up a bit.
    Unfortunately, the only thing I can actually draw is my breath, and sometimes I have a job with that!
    I totally agree with your daughter - no human invaders in my home, thank you! I've been through more counselling in one lifetime than anyone should have to endure in three; and unfortunately I've always found it counterproductive - I've spent years carefully burying the shyte that happened to me, and don't need anyone, however well-intentioned, making me dig it up and rake it all over again!
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    • Larumbelle
    • By Larumbelle 12th Oct 16, 4:29 PM
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    Polly Yum, yes I will be making some squash soup! I also use a thicker version of squash soup as a base for curries, it is yummy and much healthier than a cream sauce. I get to share in the allotment produce there is so much that there's no point in splitting 50/50, we just each take what we like! We plant spares 'just in case', we swap/get given plants from other plot holders, and we plant extras just because we have space doing nothing and it seems a shame not to. So we end up with an abundance, there is more than enough for us both to have our fill, plus to share out to friends etc.

    We like to experiment with new and 'different' crops. One big success has been oca (not okra!!!!) which I had never heard of before we grew it. It is so strange, you can eat it raw and it has the texture of carrot but tastes a bit like lemon. Or you can cook it in wedges and it has the texture of floury potato but tastes like you already put the salt and vinegar on! It's strange in a good way. We started off with just a few tubers last year off ebay (it is expensive to buy!) and got a huge crop. This year we are trying salsify and scorzonera for the first time. We also have an albino pumpkin growing! And can't remember if someone gave us the plant or if it is just a freak of nature LOL

    I know what you mean about engaging, Polly and LW. It has taken me a good few years to engage if I am honest. Counselling - well, I have tried it before with no success, and while I have a much better personal relationship with my current one (who is specialised in a particular field) I have refused to dig into the past, like you LW I feel that going deeply into things will be counterproductive. So I mainly talk about the here and now, and while I will discuss the effect that The Past has on me now, I do not go into The Past itself. I do feel it is helpful, not hugely so in some respects, but it gives me a non-judgemental ear and that is enough. The support workers deal more with the practical stuff in the here and now.

    Lyn if your mum never had a problem it sounds like it is something your tenant is doing. It's not likely to be a construction issue or rising damp because they don't suddenly appear overnight. Unless it is confined to one specific place it is not going to be penetrating damp from a damaged pipe or gutter or roof tile. So it is most likely condensation-based - which can be hugely affected by lifestyle! That doesn't necessarily mean that it is 'her fault' as such, but does mean she might be able to change habits to lessen it. Maybe giving your tenant some printouts on how to minimise it along with a cheap hygrometer and a dehumidifier might be a solution? The council will only be interested if there is a statutory danger to health, and even then, they will be reasonable and accept that you are already taking all reasonable steps - and they will expect her to do everything she can to minimise the problem as well. So please try not to let it get to you x

    LW your cards sound lovely! What cutting machine do you have? I have a Silhouette that I love! I am lucky as I also have use of a laser cutter through a friend, though I haven't had much of a play yet.

    I had been hoping to get back down the allotment today, but the weather here is not great. I tried to venture into town (which is literally only a few hundred yards away!) but only got as far as the subway. There was a beggar there. Having been homeless I have changed my attitude on beggars a bit. It really is true that most beggars aren't homeless and most homeless people aren't beggars. But I asked are you actually homeless? Because having been homeless, I know the system and can contact people who might be able to help. I called my support worker, spoke to her, then spoke to him again, and he started to change his story as what he was saying wasn't adding up. I gave him numbers for salvation army and the law centre, but I don't think he was actually homeless. I gave up on going into town after that and came home feeling upset and anxious. Now I just feel quite sad and down about it.


    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 13th Oct 16, 3:48 PM
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    I know what you mean about engaging, Polly and LW. It has taken me a good few years to engage if I am honest. Counselling - well, I have tried it before with no success, and while I have a much better personal relationship with my current one (who is specialised in a particular field) I have refused to dig into the past, like you LW I feel that going deeply into things will be counterproductive. So I mainly talk about the here and now, and while I will discuss the effect that The Past has on me now, I do not go into The Past itself. I do feel it is helpful, not hugely so in some respects, but it gives me a non-judgemental ear and that is enough. The support workers deal more with the practical stuff in the here and now.
    <SNIP>
    LW your cards sound lovely! What cutting machine do you have? I have a Silhouette that I love! I am lucky as I also have use of a laser cutter through a friend, though I haven't had much of a play yet.
    Originally posted by Larumbelle
    The other problem I have with counselling, is I have considerable trust issues - and I am deeply suspicious of anyone who does counselling for a living.

    Re the cards - I have a Cricut Mini, which is quite fun, if not the easiest piece of kit I've ever used. I thought it had gone wrong recently; but the problem turned out to be the latest update to Adobe Air, a piece of software that Cricut use for their machines - rolled back to the previous "incarnation" and all was well again.

    I've been looking back over seven years' worth of doggie photos, to find ones suitable for cards; that's a LOT of photos to go through, particularly as I take ridiculous amounts of them whenever we have dogs staying.

    I am envious of your allotment - though I struggle to manage our tiny bit of garden now; the back is nearly all lawn, which Mr LW keeps cut (I can, on a good day, just about manage to use the mower, but I can only do a quarter of the lawn in one hit) - the rest of it falls to me to do, or at least supervise, as Mr LW barely knows a nettle from a nasturtium!
    LameWolf
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    • Lynplatinum
    • By Lynplatinum 13th Oct 16, 11:30 PM
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    Trying to be positive
    Hiya

    Tenant has sent a preformed latter from the council and it says that I must reply within 14 days and that they might come and inspect it!!! Lord knows what bundle of half truths shes told them.

    Luckily my name could just as well be 'Mad filer' !! So have dates, receipts, estimates stretching back the 2 and 1/2 years shes been there!! Also all e-mails. Can prove Im a good landlord!! Also still in touch with previous tenants who will back me up!

    Am gonna call council in the morning.

    This is making me feel quite unwell and am thinking - just sell the darned place and live off the money till I peg it! Am also gonna talk to my accountant in the morning!

    Am certainly going to send an estate agent round to find out what I could get for it. Hopefully she finds somewhere else soon.

    Sorry, sounding off - but anger doesnt help aches and pains!!

    Ok enough - back to the things that matter!
    Larumbelle - I have been spoiling myself this week as am 'on holiday' and treated myself to a chilled As!a butternut squash soup - really nice, very creamy, not too many calories, filling. Not quite spicy enough for me - will make some when Bnut Squash is on offer and freeze!! Sure I can find a recipe or guess at one!
    Lamewolf - yep I really need to review my C card situation - I know I moved some with me and I think I know where they might be!!! It will be a good way of telling folks where Ive moved to. therefore need to be pro-active and do them sooon!
    Nite all - stay well
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    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 14th Oct 16, 3:58 PM
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    Lyn please go ahead and sound off; we can't do much in the way of practical help, but just telling your friends here hopefully helps a bit. Your tenant sounds a bit of a fruit cake tbh.
    Just a thought - sending an estate agent round for a valuation might shock her into silence, if she thinks you might be considering selling the place.

    My lovely friend Jack Spaniel is here for the next fortnight; so very little else is going to get done, as he needs two good walks each day, and lots of cuddles.
    LameWolf
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    • Slowly57
    • By Slowly57 14th Oct 16, 4:28 PM
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    The other problem I have with counselling, is I have considerable trust issues - and I am deeply suspicious of anyone who does counselling for a living.
    Originally posted by LameWolf
    My other half does counselling and arguably the most important part of it is to find someone you like and trust. There's http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk also the BAPC http://www.bacp.co.uk/ and BACP http://www.babcp.com/ - a lot of help and advice there.
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    • Slowly57
    • By Slowly57 14th Oct 16, 4:45 PM
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    [QUOTE=Lynplatinum;71439535]Have had an upsetting time with my tenant who has threatened me with talking to the council!!/QUOTE]

    Lyn that is dreadful - obvs your tenant hasn't taken into account that the council (if they even get involved) will listen to BOTH sides. We lived next door to anti-social behaviour some years back and I found keeping a diary the most stressful part - it almost forces you to concentrate on the bad stuff to the point of making you obsessed with it. I hope you get it sorted soon xxx
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    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 14th Oct 16, 4:45 PM
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    My other half does counselling and arguably the most important part of it is to find someone you like and trust.
    Originally posted by Slowly57
    Indeed. Something I never achieved. I always felt as if I was going in there prepared to do battle; and of course when you're dependent upon whatever the NHS can provide, it's very much "take it or leave it".
    I even had one counsellor start the conversation, not with "Good afternoon" or anything like that, but with "Why do you wear those glasses?" Errrrr...... because I can't see a darn thing without them?? It was all downhill after that!
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    • Slowly57
    • By Slowly57 14th Oct 16, 5:02 PM
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    "Why do you wear those glasses?" - social skills fail lol.
    Also you cannot 'send' someone to therapy - they need to want to go.
    Hope things are improved xxx
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    • Prinzessilein
    • By Prinzessilein 14th Oct 16, 7:01 PM
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    Evening folks!

    Lame Wolf...your comment about being asked why you wear glasses reminds me of an eye-test I had many years go...back in the days when we had eye-tests carried out at school (we had nit-inspections...colour-blindness tests....regular eye-sight tests ...and IIRC a dental check too...plus inoculations/jabs carried out at school too)...when my turn came I sat down and the eye-doctor asked me to take off my glasses, which I did, and he then asked me to read the letters on the chart tuck to the door...my response was 'what door?'!!!...I wore the standard little round NHS glasses (NHS glasses only came in one style- and the height of luxury was that we could choose pink, blue or brown frames) and the lenses were about as thick as my thumb (well almost!)...one look should have warned him that I don't see without them!

    I am a real wheat-bag fan...I can't bear rubber bottles. I have started using them in bed (early this year but it is COLD!!!)...and also use them sometimes during the day..warmed up and tucked into the small of my back, so soothing for the pain!

    Big news for me....I heard yesterday that I have been approved for the ground floor flat! I sign the contract on Monday...then the council will supply me with paint and I will get someone to decorate for me. (The last tenant was a footie fan and had her kitchen painted scarlet with black tiles - her teams' colours!...I am planning on 3 walls magnolia and one duck-egg blue...nice and neutral is my style!)....and I need to start with packing!....It will be so good to have a ground floor flat,...as well as having my lovely Mum as a my new neighbour!
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 14th Oct 16, 7:49 PM
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    Prinzess I am so happy to read your good news , can I uncross my fingers now ? So nice to be even nearer your dear mum , you can keep each other company during the cold winter months .
    LW I hope you and Jack are snuggled up together . How is the shoulder now ? my daughter has been referred for an x ray on hers today , a week tomorrow ( I don't recall Saturday appts in the past ) think she'll need the sick bowl as she has the methotrexate late Friday afternoon and between that and the shed load of other meds is barely functional for about 3 days - interesting times as Mr P would say !
    Lyn I feel annoyed on your behalf at the attitude of your tenant . You do seem to have all the evidence to see her off but such a shame it spoiled your country break . I am a fan of the files but begrudge the space they occupy , however they do come in handy at times so well done on the record keeping that alone shows you are a responsible and organised landlord . I would consider whether it would be financially possible to sell instead of renting . Life's too short for hassle if it's affordable . Either way I would show her the exit as soon as legally possible , such a shame one bad apple sours the whole thing . Big full moon at the weekend - cloud permitting -
    make a wish and send it out to the universe .We were discussing it on another thread and I said I'll be like the hare outside and gazing upwards .
    Thanks to the recent posters I will be back either later or tomorrow ,
    Friday night is family phone call night to catch up on the week . I want to watch HIGNFY as I missed last week so I'm hoping the offspring talk rather faster than last week !
    Take care all
    polly x
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 15th Oct 16, 5:39 PM
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    Prinzess yep, I had the lovely plastic NHS frames as a child, too - I've worn specs since I was 5 years old (apart from a stint in my 30s when I went for contact lenses).
    I am SO PLEASED that you've been approved for the ground floor flat!

    Pollyanna thanks, the shoulders are both still very painful, but hey, it could be worse, right? Jack is lovely; we had a super walk this afternoon, 45 minutes (on the mobility buggy for me) past the petanque piste, and down to the Roman ruins, all in lovely October sunshine. And Jack made friends with two little Pugs as well.
    LameWolf
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    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 15th Oct 16, 7:56 PM
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    LW That sounds like a lovely trip out and the added joy of sunshine . Jack sounds lovely , there's always a joyous tone in your post when a furry friend is in your home . Did you and Mr LW ever consider keeping on your regulars once the franchise ends ? I seem to remember some discussion on the subject on one of the threads . hoping those withdrawal symptoms leave soon x
    Prinzess How's the packing going ? I would love a minimal life but I have so much " stuff " I couldn't upsticks in a hurry . I love duck egg blue it should be calming and relaxing - unlike the red and black Lyn I hoped you managed to get in touch with the council and have a better idea how things stand . The best laid plans eh , sometimes we don't factor in idiots .
    Hope all is well with Larumbelle that is a wonderful allotment , interesting and very productive .
    Hi to Slowly am hoping you feel a little better , hello to all who follow . On the old thread things used to go pretty quiet in late autumn and winter as people battled the elements and sad , increased pain etc . As LW said to Lyn you don't have to come here only on good days and be bright and positive , this is a safe place to let off steam , have a little moan etc . We all have bad days and this is not a judgemental place . All of us walk in those shoes x
    I'd love to know how our thread friends are and wonder if TMD is feeling any better plus all the others who posted or read .
    Take care all - the full moon will be hidden behind the heavy cloud here - been raining all day . However I will summon my inner Pollyanna and go and do my hare gazing at the moon impression - after all it's still there behind the cloud .
    Take care all , wishing you a peaceful night
    polly x
    • Larumbelle
    • By Larumbelle 15th Oct 16, 10:56 PM
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    LW that counsellor sounds so rude. I agree with Slowly that liking and trusting your counsellor are absolutely key, as is being ready for it and receptive to it. I had an NHS referral to the charity that provides my counselling, but they actually do a pre-screen to make sure you are mentally in a place where you can benefit from it. My funding comes to an end in January and I am already fretting about how I will manage without it.

    Prinzess I am so happy for you! And I bet your mum is thrilled as well I LOVE duck egg blue, I have a feature wall of it in my own kitchen (actually I only had enough for one small wall, but it looks good anyway ) I got really scared of the 'responsibility' of choosing a colour scheme to decorate, but when I look back now it has been one of my favourite things to do ever!!! Re packing, if you have a McDonalds nearby their fries boxes are great for packing! Strong, clean, stack easily... and best of all, completely free and available in apparently limitless quantities! They are also just the right size that even if they are full of something heavy like books they are still manageable.

    Polly I always love reading your posts, they are like a little virtual hug

    I do wonder about TMD as well - please give us a wave if you are reading this hun, I hope you are okay x

    I was at the allotment today again, I avoid Saturday mornings as they are quite busy, but I ventured down this afternoon and it was quiet and peaceful and lovely. The only other grower there was someone I know quite well now, so I felt safe. It turns out that the 'ghost pumpkin' is actually called a boer squash, and he gave us the plant! He mentioned that his butternut squashes hadn't done very well this year so I gave him one of ours. I got a lot of weeding done and now I ache But I see it as getting time in the bank for when I won't be able to get down there and do anything, either because of health or weather.

    I hope everyone is having a good weekend, and their various furry friends as well xxx


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    • By pollyanna 26 15th Oct 16, 11:14 PM
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    Hi Larumbelle I was about to go to bed when I noticed the new thread and your reply . I have invited her to join in here too if she likes . Glad to see you've had a good day but sorry to hear the funding is coming to end . Sometimes when one door closes another one opens . I will post tomorrow but am a bit brain fog now . I enjoy your posts too - You seem stronger each time you write , I hope your proud of yourself , I am .
    Night night , sleep tight
    polly x
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 16th Oct 16, 2:33 PM
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    LW That sounds like a lovely trip out and the added joy of sunshine . Jack sounds lovely , there's always a joyous tone in your post when a furry friend is in your home . Did you and Mr LW ever consider keeping on your regulars once the franchise ends ? I seem to remember some discussion on the subject on one of the threads . hoping those withdrawal symptoms leave soon x
    Originally posted by pollyanna 26
    I thought about going freelance, and realised very quickly that it would be more stress than I could cope with, and likely make me ill again; however, I have today sent off an email to another company that I found online, given them the whole details, including the dates of my final existing booking, plus details of my seven years experience, so hopefully they'll decide they want me. There's a plus point in that I'd be bringing customers with me, as several have asked to know if I sign up with another company, and one definitely doesn't want to send her dog to anyone else - not even another host with the same company, as he's a sensitive little soul, and he's got used to coming to me.
    Fingers crossed.....
    LW that counsellor sounds so rude. I agree with Slowly that liking and trusting your counsellor are absolutely key, as is being ready for it and receptive to it. I had an NHS referral to the charity that provides my counselling, but they actually do a pre-screen to make sure you are mentally in a place where you can benefit from it. My funding comes to an end in January and I am already fretting about how I will manage without it.
    Originally posted by Larumbelle
    Aww, hun, sorry to hear your funding will cease. Isn't that just the way? I had similar with physiotherapy - just as I was starting to see a little benefit, the eight session limit was reached and I was on my own once more - and back to Square One within a fortnight. Hey ho.....
    I do think you're a stronger lady than you think, though, yes I know I have only your posts here to go on, but I honestly think you'll find the inner strength you need. Don't forget, you have your virtual friends here rooting for you. x
    LameWolf
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    • Nomoonatall
    • By Nomoonatall 16th Oct 16, 2:45 PM
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    Hi folks,
    Been having a few rubbish nights lately. Bad insomnia last night, so thought I'd batch cook some veggie curry at 3am.

    Here's a tip...don't batch cook curry when you're feeling ill. It'll just taste of illness! Also, if you have a migraine at the time, don't think about using turmeric. The bag split, I have bright yellow hands..the sink is yellow too, didn't notice for hours!

    I'm having toast for tea. x
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