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    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 11th Sep 16, 9:56 PM
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    OS ways and Poor Health
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    • 11th Sep 16, 9:56 PM
    OS ways and Poor Health 11th Sep 16 at 9:56 PM
    Earlier today I joined a very good new thread on getting back to old style ways . I managed to take it in another direction by mentioning how ill health can impact on doing everything the old style way . As this was off topic to the original post . I will be posting on the original topic but without going off in another direction
    This seems to happen a lot of the time across the threads as many old stylers do have to cope with this problem .
    Many moons ago PREPARE AT HOME began a lengthy thread on being os with health problems and there have been a couple of other threads over the years .
    I am wondering if the time is right for another thread on the subject with the proviso it is not offering advice on medical subjects as that is for the professionals . We all do many things day to day to minimise fatigue and pain and though they are little things we have developed them to cope and others may not be aware of how helpful the little changes can be .
    I would be interested to see if others would like to join such a thread . I am not very techie as you will gather from my rambling post and have never started a thread before - I hope this posts !
    polly
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    • candygirl
    • By candygirl 5th Oct 16, 7:04 PM
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    Sorry to hear that LW It hasn't made my anxiety n depression any worse yet, so fingers crossed it wont It has however helped with my severe nerve pain xx
    "You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf"

    (Kabat-Zinn 2004)
    • Tink_04
    • By Tink_04 5th Oct 16, 7:11 PM
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    Had a bit of a batch cook today and made 10 portions of chilli so some for tea and some for the freezer - handy to do this when I'm making something so I have a handy meal ready for bad days!

    What are your favourites tips for things to do to make those bad days better?
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    • Lynplatinum
    • By Lynplatinum 5th Oct 16, 11:53 PM
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    Update and thanks
    Evening all

    Thanks ever so much for your good wishes and hugs - am sure the good vibes helped!

    Been treating myself very gently today - but with yoga and wheatbags pain level is almost down to normal. At least I can now sit and lie in comfort!

    Even managed a small walk for half an hour (with a sit on a convenient bench in the middle!) Then a small glass of wine to act as an anesthetic - I am not allowed to take painkillers as was over prescribed them in the past so have to use alternative methods.

    Still (counting blessings) at least I now have the time to look after myself!

    More of the same tomorrow (yoga and wheat bags - ergo may give hoovering which I need to do but its not that bad) but a new (potential) friend is coming round for coffee (for the first time) so that is something to look forward to.
    Nite all
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    • Tink_04
    • By Tink_04 7th Oct 16, 1:44 PM
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    Been feeling a bit off this last week - but plodding on - the cold is starting to get to me too
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    • candygirl
    • By candygirl 7th Oct 16, 11:39 PM
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    Picked my puppy , Bonnie , up today .She is absolutely adorable, n into everything already Hope she sleeps tonight
    "You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf"

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    • Lynplatinum
    • By Lynplatinum 8th Oct 16, 12:16 AM
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    Compannionship helps deal with pain
    Hiya

    Does anyone else agree with this statement?? I found that my new friend coming round helped me to ignore the pain (yesterday) and that on my gentle peramble today I a dog walker to whom I had chatted before was a good incentive to walk that little bit further while chatting. Doggie was lovely to talk to as well.

    Candy girl I'm sure your lovely pup will help you along with mood and effects of illness. I am so envious!!!

    Next week I am off to my friends house to dog sit for a week (she and her Mum are going on a coach trip together - they do this every year) I am so looking forward to my furry companion for a week! She is just lovely and obedient little woof - bless her!
    Nite all
    NSDs 2015:185/330 (allowing for hols etc)

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    Life gives us only lessons and gifts - learn the lesson and it becomes a gift.' from the Bohdavista
    • ariarnia
    • By ariarnia 8th Oct 16, 10:51 AM
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    Yes and no.

    I find it can help on an okay day, but on a day when I'm really struggling company can push me into feeling worse.

    EG - my shoulder has been hurting me for the last few days. I've been pottering around being careful with it, but it's likely it's going to flare before it gets better (posttraumatic arthritis in the joint).

    OH knows that in a day or two I might become very withdrawn and spend time in the spare room without the kids. He just leaves me be.

    I need to take the 'superman' painkillers and relax (release tension) when my shoulder flares. I can't do that around other people because I'm too worried about not snapping at them or 'seeming' lazy or being encouraged to join in a game and ending up hurting more.

    For me, just taking a day to relax and let the pain pass, works - My doctor calls them “duvet and chocolate days.”
    Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you. Anne Lamott

    It's amazing how those with a can-do attitude and willingness to 'pitch in and work' get all the luck, isn't it?
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 8th Oct 16, 2:46 PM
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    Candygirl Bonnie sounds fab - please give her a cuddle from Auntie Wolfy.

    Lynplatinum in answer to your question - for me, a definite NO. At least, not human company. Canines only when I'm hurting; I can't cope with trying to make intelligent conversation as well as deal with my extreme nervousness around people when my pain levels are up. (I have very bad social phobia, and though I'm good at bluffing my way through being with other people, I suffer severe "fallout" afterwards, in that I relive the whole thing over and over and over again in my head, dissecting every part of the conversation to work out who I offended, how many inane or totally idiotic things I said, et cetera and ad nauseam, til I nearly drive myself demented).

    Ariarnia I hope your current shoulder pain lets up soon - sounds like you're more like me, take yourself off somewhere to "lick your wounds" in private.

    Update - GP has told me to cease and desist taking Gaba immediately, and she's flagged it up on my record as not to be prescribed for me in the future.
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 9th Oct 16, 5:15 PM
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    2 Weeks Later !!!
    Hello all . Finally able to type again . Thanks to the brave souls keeping the thread ticking over . LW You seem to be having a very bad time right now . As one who's just got back the use of an arm and shoulder I empathise very much . I hope you feel somewhat better soon .
    LynP I was longing for a wheat bag over the past 2 weeks . I've always been aware of them but a hot water bottle used to do the trick until this time when I couldn't hold and fill one safely . As the pain started in my right shoulder and moved down to my elbow and into my spine I needed heat around my neck and back . I was in no fit state to go out . I would be interested which one you or others on the thread use as I know they can be a bit of a fire risk in some instances .
    Prinzess I will send good luck vibes that you will get to move .
    LW Just noticed you have been taken off the Gaba , hopefully you will feel better as a result .
    Take care all I need to catch up .
    polly x
    • Nicki
    • By Nicki 9th Oct 16, 5:25 PM
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    Hi Pollyanna. I don't like the smell of wheat bags but I have two of these. https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B001RXNF92/ref=mp_s_a_1_7_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1476030136&sr=8-7&keywords=heat+pack

    One lives in the freezer and when I take it out to use it, the other goes in so there is always one cold for use. The one not in the freezer at any given time can be used hot though I personally find ice packs more soothing than warm ones. You can buy a Velcro sleeve for them to fasten in place round a knee or other joint.
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 9th Oct 16, 6:30 PM
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    Thanks Nicki . I can't bear cold but followed your link and found a heatable pad on buy one get one free so will give that a go .
    polly
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 10th Oct 16, 5:00 PM
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    Pollyanna - welcome back, btw - I use microwavable wheat bags; the trick is to not let them dry out so much (through repeated use) that they combust. I always put a half-filled mug of water in the microwave with them when I am heating them up, and *touch wood* have never had any problems with them.
    HTH.

    I'm having a very rough time with nasty withdrawal symptoms having stopped taking Gaba; but from what I can ascertain, this should pass, hopefully sooner rather than later, as I have Big Jack Spaniel arriving on Friday for a fortnight's stay.
    I'm definitely not fit company for humans right now, though *waves to Lynplatinum*
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 10th Oct 16, 5:22 PM
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    Thanks LW I've only just caught up on posts and was so sorry to read about Bailey - it's the price we pay for the love we give and receive isn't it . I hope Cassie and yourself will find comfort in each others company when she visits next . Withdrawal is a nightmare , my daughter spends a lot of time in the company of a bucket ! I hope when you are clear of the Gaba you will feel less anxiety although the cold weather isn't helpful for low mood either . Take care x
    polly
    • candygirl
    • By candygirl 10th Oct 16, 7:35 PM
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    Hi ladies.It seems that Bonnie is a nocturnal, furry pirahna.She refuses to sleep in her crate, so have relented n let her sleep with me, as she's still sooo tiny.I know i'm soft , but the noise she was making was ear splitting
    Am absolutely exhausted, but happy
    "You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf"

    (Kabat-Zinn 2004)
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 10th Oct 16, 7:50 PM
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    Hi Candy enjoy every moment . You can look on it as very mse , a soft and furry hot water bottle
    Take care
    polly
    • Lynplatinum
    • By Lynplatinum 10th Oct 16, 11:36 PM
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    Hiya Polly

    My wheatbaag was made by a local craftsperson and have just made a 'guest' one my self (as my last hot water bottle died!!) I use 1 kg organic wheat (ordered from a health food shop - who range the manufacturer to check it was OK for this purpose); a few drops of lavender oil; a handful of lavender flowers (dried out and harvested from my lavender plants). The outside was made from an old tea shirt - I created a tube 30 cms long by 10 cms (so the orignal material was an oblong of 20 cms by 30 cms). My own wheatbag is about 20 years old and still functioning - do not heat for more than 4 mins for a kilo sized bag!!!

    LW - sorry to hear that altering your meds is making you feel worse. Sending virtual hugs and good vibes
    Nite all
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    Life gives us only lessons and gifts - learn the lesson and it becomes a gift.' from the Bohdavista
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 11th Oct 16, 9:16 AM
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    Hi Lynn - Thanks for the lavender bag tutorial I do have organic lavender flowers and oil . I also have some old flannelette sheets ( about 30 to 40 years old ! ) which were the childrens many moons ago and bits of them have been used for different projects over the years - they don't make sheets of that quality anymore . I shall look into wheat and also digging my machine out of the black hole - fingers aren't up to hand sewing anymore .
    I hope you're feeling better now this cold weather is a literal pain . x
    Just noticed Mothernerd in the background , I check the turtles when I can because I find your posts really motivate me into doing something positive . I hope you too are feeling better and would love it if you would join in and get us all off our backsides !
    I'm off to the nearby town shortly and then it's flu jabs at the surgery .
    Will be back on later and I wish you all a good day .
    Larumbelle how is it going with your new lady ? Prinzess Any news on the flat ?
    This time of the year can be hard so I would love to hear how you all cope .
    See you later
    polly
    • Larumbelle
    • By Larumbelle 11th Oct 16, 12:29 PM
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    Hi guys :-)

    Polly my new lady is really good She strikes just the right balance, she is supportive without being patronising, just what I need. And she hasn't hassled me about not having a cooker LOL. She has helped me to apply for PIPs and is coming with me to my doctor's appointment next week. She's definitely the best one I have had. We got on like a house on fire right away, but she told me that if you don't gel with a support worker you can ask to change and nobody will mind, different workers have different ways of going about things and they know that each person's approach will suit some clients better than others. I'm mentioning that in case this helps anyone!

    I haven't had a great week or so, but I feel as though I am on the up again now Yesterday I went to the allotment I share with a friend and picked three of the biggest butternut squashes I have ever seen. This afternoon I am going back there to clear some of the triffids weeds that have struck up here, there and everywhere. I started helping my friend with the allotment in the first place because he didn't have enough time to keep on top of it, so I feel a little bad that I abandon it for weeks at a time when my health takes a nosedive. But it is surprising, it's only the weeds that are an issue when I let things slide, the crops seem to just take care of themselves. A lot of the plot holders are down there constantly mollycoddling their plants, whereas ours seem to thrive on neglect I definitely feel like the fresh air and moderate exercise are good for my mind, once I can actually get the motivation to go and do it.

    Those who have mentioned about companionship - I find it helps, and it doesn't. I lost my darling kitty Baloo earlier this year, he was almost a therapy cat, when I had night-time flashbacks he would snuggle into me and bring me back to reality. I still miss him terribly and even have a little cry for him now and then. He was like my rock and kept me going through some very dark times. He wasn't old at all, only about eight (rescue kitty) but he developed a sudden serious illness. We battled through surgery and feeding tubes, and he seemed to be on the up, but then his organs began to fail and it was kinder to let him go peacefully and before he suffered further Because this was only a few weeks before I lost my home people kept making 'helpful' comments that maybe it was for the best, but I can honestly say that losing him was far, far worse than losing my home. I don't feel like now is the right time for another pet, but when I feel like it is, I will definitely get another furry companion. Animal companionship definitely helps me. But as for humans - it depends. When I am at my lowest it doesn't help at all, in fact it makes me feel even worse. Even though I have some fantastic friends who are as understanding as they can be. But at the same time, I am dependent on friends to a degree, and I do know that I wouldn't be back on the up now if it wasn't for one of those friends dragging me up. I guess it varies from person to person what helps and what makes things harder.

    I don't use a wheat bag, but I have a Snugglesafe pet heat pad that is amazing. It stays warm for hours and hours and is safe. But it is also rigid, so won't suit everyone, you can't drape it across the painful area the same way you can a wheat bag. They are also pretty expensive (I got mine as a freebie when my sister was working at a vet's). Wilkinson's had wheat bags very inexpensively last winter, I got some for my old neighbour who had arthritis and he found them very helpful. I haven't looked to see if they have them back in this year though.

    Anyway, I am back off to the allotment while I am still able to force myself to leave the house! Hope everyone is having a good day, hugs for all those who need (or want) one
    Last edited by Larumbelle; 11-10-2016 at 12:31 PM.


    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 11th Oct 16, 3:34 PM
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    Hi ladies.It seems that Bonnie is a nocturnal, furry pirahna.She refuses to sleep in her crate, so have relented n let her sleep with me, as she's still sooo tiny.I know i'm soft , but the noise she was making was ear splitting
    Am absolutely exhausted, but happy
    Originally posted by candygirl
    Ha! She's got you wrapped around her little furry paw already, methinks! What does Buddy think of her?

    Larumbelle aww, hun, I am so sorry to hear of Baloo's passing. Believe me when I say I understand the world of hurt that cat-shaped hole in your life is giving you. My beloved Penny-Dog passed away in 2002, and I still miss her.

    I'm glad your new lady is good, and you're getting on well with her.

    They threatened me with the CMHT people a few years back, and I refused point-blank. I think I'm just too weird for any of them to get their heads around, really.

    I've managed a trip into town with Mr LW, to get a prescription filled (diclofenac-with-misoprostol, and hydroxychloroquine, both of which I've been on for ages, so no nasty surprises this time) and also did a quick whizz round Morries (you'd be surprised how quick Mr LW can push my wheelchair!) to get some bits Ald! doesn't sell. I'm cream crackered now!

    I need to get on and get some Yule cards made; I can never find anything suitable in the shops, (unless we trek into Newport Pagnell and visit the Pagan shop there, which means three circuits of the town to find a parking space first) and I begrudge paying out good money for something that's not-quite-what-I-want, iyswim. If it was left to me, I wouldn't bother sending cards at all, but Mr LW likes to send them. Fine, says I, I'll make 'em, and he can write the dratted things!

    Enjoy the rest of your *checks calendar* Tuesday everyone.
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
    • Nomoonatall
    • By Nomoonatall 11th Oct 16, 6:54 PM
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    Hi all,

    Hope everyone is as well as they can be.

    Having a very wobbly time at the moment. Walking into everything and have the bruises and scrapes to prove it!

    I've reached that age where I'm looking forward to the 'first proper frost' to get rid of this hanging cold! I never thought I'd say that! x
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