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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 25th Jul 16, 7:16 PM
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    Budget Wars - A New Hope (with apologies to George Lucas)
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    • 25th Jul 16, 7:16 PM
    Budget Wars - A New Hope (with apologies to George Lucas) 25th Jul 16 at 7:16 PM
    A New Hope is a very fitting title for my first ever DFW diary. For the first time in around 18 months I really have hope. I am one of those people who has always seen September as the start of the year. Because of back to school I suppose. And this year is the first September I can honestly say I am 100% looking forward to in years.

    My situation is complicated but to simplify, I took the enormous step to not only become self employed but to sell my family home to finance my new business in 2011. I turned my back on a very well paid career to go out on my own.
    In that period I have had many challenges. Gone to hell and back owing wages and HMRC. Dont worry the wages were paid back long ago as quickly as I could. And I repaid HMRC.
    The stress of being responsible for other peoples lives is intense if you've never been there. At my lowest point I deactivated my voicemail to avoid the energy company being able to contact me.

    At one point I owed around £40,000 all business related. Primarily on a loan, but some CC.

    Time and again I bashed my head against my mental bars and wondered if I could physically carry on. But I did. Through hell and high waters. Quite literally in fact....

    This last year has not been easy. I worked as the sole employee of my business during my entire pregnancy with DD and went into labour whilst still at work. When my baby was 4 months old I got seriously ill and spent a week in hospital. My lovely FIL was diognosed with the big C 2 months ago. And life has wobbled along precariously as always.

    The reason for my new hope is I finally made a big decision. To stop the business I am running & build another. It wont be easy but it will get me out of the hole I am in & allow me to take on paid employment around the new business. I have 4 days left of my old situation and then good night vienna!

    I love MSE. It and the people of it have been such a comfort. And now I am hoping to use this diary as a place for me to record my baby steps towards a life less stressful, adrenaline filled & chaotic.

    Bob
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 12th Mar 17, 8:43 AM
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    Morning

    Just a quick post before I head back to work. Was there tidying up till 1am last night. But at least I am on top of things for the big event today. Can literally walk in the door and ready to go.

    I did manage to get the children's accounts closed that we missed the bank for last weekend, yesterday, so that is a positive.

    I also forgot to note that the joining incentive of £100 had been paid by DD so currently have £240 including the council tax break money sitting there in the final repayment pot. I keep leaning towards just doing it. But if can't hurt to wait a bit.

    We did also manage to take our family photo for the month, but we didn't realise the photo booth would print our picture out in tiny multiple images rather than a few big ones. So we have about 12 tiny family photos for March

    Hope everyone has a good day.

    Bob
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 12th Mar 17, 9:05 AM
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    Have a good one Bob. Hope today goes well.
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    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 12th Mar 17, 9:33 AM
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    Ah Bob what a bummer about the rates rise. I hope the appeal is successful but it's the last you need really, isn't it?

    Sending you lots of positive vibes, if anyone can do it, you can. Have a dodgy hug too.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

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    • mummytogirls
    • By mummytogirls 12th Mar 17, 3:57 PM
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    Hope today goes smoothly and quickly Bob.

    Yay to you getting the bank accounts closed down finally as well as the £100 being paid xx
    Mummytogirls x

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    • PurpleFairy26
    • By PurpleFairy26 12th Mar 17, 5:07 PM
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    Lovely news in the £100 and the stash that takes you closer to DF. Hope the rates thing gets sorted soon and in your favour.
    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 12th Mar 17, 6:58 PM
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    Thanks Cat it did

    Sashy Awe thanks very much. Positive vibes much appreciated!

    Mummytogirls Thank you. It was a very busy one. Home now.Hope your feeling better?

    PF thank you. Hope your ok.
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    • JWPopps
    • By JWPopps 13th Mar 17, 1:53 PM
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    Like all responsible parents I have a tiny horses harness and carriage and get DD to pull it all home She's a bit slow on her tiny legs but a lump of sugar works wonders.
    Originally posted by Bobarella
    ....I'm reconsidering this child-free thing...
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 13th Mar 17, 2:27 PM
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    Oh god...Had been having quite a nice 'relaxing' day (is it ever really, with a 2foot nutter on the loose?

    When what drops into my inbox but an email replying to my rates query. Worded as ' they need more information and it could entail a visit or complex rating calculations' I literally feel sick now. Apparently it could take up to 40 days for this to happen.

    The first new payment would be due on April 15th so only around a month till then now. Just want it resolved.

    Have to go out in a minute.

    I just don't know how I feel about any of it. On the one hand a successful weekends events. Everyone happy, some money made. On the other it is bone wearyingly hard work at times. Yesterday I was at work from 9.30 to around 3, with no break, a lot of cleaning and that was on the back of a night that ended at stupid o clock the night before.

    I'm all over the place. Me and DH never row, but he was getting really angry with me yesterday about the measuring up thing for the rates, and I was angry back because it's yet another thing I have to do on top of everything else.

    I don't believe in quitting and I've worked myself into the ground these last 5 years to try and deal with the situation my actions have created but I am at my wits end I think.

    Surely we go to work to be paid? Something which in all honesty I barely am.

    I know no one can tell anyone else what to do or how to live their lives so I'm more ranting really.

    Gotta go.

    Bob
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    • PurpleFairy26
    • By PurpleFairy26 13th Mar 17, 4:31 PM
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    Oh Bob that's rubbish, my experience the wheels of bureaucracy go very slowly....

    I definitely agree its not unreasonable to expect to be paid for work done. One of the main reason DH gave up his self employed income.

    Sending hugs x
    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 13th Mar 17, 4:47 PM
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    Oh Bob that's rubbish, my experience the wheels of bureaucracy go very slowly....

    I definitely agree its not unreasonable to expect to be paid for work done. One of the main reason DH gave up his self employed income.

    Sending hugs x
    Originally posted by PurpleFairy26
    Thanks PF for reading my rambling angry woman post!
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    • kirtsypoos
    • By kirtsypoos 13th Mar 17, 4:48 PM
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    Oh god...Had been having quite a nice 'relaxing' day (is it ever really, with a 2foot nutter on the loose?

    Bob
    Originally posted by Bobarella
    I'm most amused by the above - tickled my Monday afternoon

    Oh Bob, I really feel for you with the rates issue - you run around constantly and can't possibly do anymore than you are doing but something like this can have such an effect on your morale and your fledgling business.

    I firmly believe that you will see a massive difference between now and next year with the amount of events you are having and the publicity generated but it's whether weathering the storm now is doable for you.

    Big hugs
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    • greent
    • By greent 13th Mar 17, 6:50 PM
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    Ah, Bob - hope they come out sooner rather than later - and that the result is favourable.

    Rant away whenever necessary.... xx
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    • hugglemonster
    • By hugglemonster 13th Mar 17, 7:20 PM
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    Sending you massive virtual hugs and lots of tea and cake, always good to let out your frustrations. I bet your dh is just as annoyed with have to appeal the measurements but you're the nearest one to rant to too!

    Hope you've managed to relax a little bit, doesn't get any better my dd is a 5ft nutter shimmying around the house

    I also hope the measuring is done as quickly as possible.

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    • mummytogirls
    • By mummytogirls 13th Mar 17, 8:20 PM
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    Oh Bob, sorry your peaceful (ish) afternoon turned into a stress.

    Fingers crossed that the rates get lowered and then you can hopefully continue. I do agree though you do lots of running around xx
    Mummytogirls x

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    • boxofpaws
    • By boxofpaws 13th Mar 17, 10:03 PM
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    Bobarella, do not doubt yourself. Appeal, but even if the rates increase, you will still make a success of your business. Just look how far you've come already. I know it's hard work but look how much momentum it's gathering! You cannot give up, you simply can't, you inspire too many people on here.
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    • Treadingonplaymobil
    • By Treadingonplaymobil 14th Mar 17, 5:02 AM
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    Hope you have a less stressful day today Bob. Big hugs.
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 14th Mar 17, 5:22 AM
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    Morning Bob,

    What a stressful time you're having at the moment, no wonder you're both snappy.

    Boo to the 40 days for a response, that ridiculous.

    Hope today's much calmer xx
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    • Verbatim
    • By Verbatim 14th Mar 17, 7:56 AM
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    Hi Bob
    I'm in awe at your resourcefulness and energy. You're bound to have wobbles when setting up a business on your own is so scary, hard and fraught with difficulties.
    At some point, and only you will know when, you'll decide whether the business is going to provide a secure income commensurate with your input. Setting it up and getting established is bound to take time but I'd be asking myself what success would look like and when realistically I'd be there. I know you don't want a car but it must have made life so difficult over the dark short days of winter getting yourself and your child/children back and forth. I can't remember when your youngest starts nursery/school but that too will make it easier.
    Also when the children are both at school it may be easier to understand whether your time/income ratio would be better as an employee or whether your business is providing a more flexible work/ life balance with a suitable income.
    I hope life will get easier over the spring and summer with more events and parties and lighter longer days.
    Best wishes
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    • Macey1510
    • By Macey1510 14th Mar 17, 8:29 AM
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    Hi Bob, I hope you have a good day today!
    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 14th Mar 17, 8:54 AM
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    I'm most amused by the above - tickled my Monday afternoon

    Oh Bob, I really feel for you with the rates issue - you run around constantly and can't possibly do anymore than you are doing but something like this can have such an effect on your morale and your fledgling business.

    I firmly believe that you will see a massive difference between now and next year with the amount of events you are having and the publicity generated but it's whether weathering the storm now is doable for you.

    Big hugs
    Originally posted by kirtsypoos
    Thanks Kirsty glad it made you smile Wise words as always.

    Ah, Bob - hope they come out sooner rather than later - and that the result is favourable.

    Rant away whenever necessary.... xx
    Originally posted by greent
    Thanks Greent I hope so too.

    Sending you massive virtual hugs and lots of tea and cake, always good to let out your frustrations. I bet your dh is just as annoyed with have to appeal the measurements but you're the nearest one to rant to too!

    Hope you've managed to relax a little bit, doesn't get any better my dd is a 5ft nutter shimmying around the house

    I also hope the measuring is done as quickly as possible.

    H x
    Originally posted by hugglemonster
    Glad to hear the nuttiness doesn't end, they just get taller
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