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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 25th Jul 16, 7:16 PM
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    Budget Wars - A New Hope (with apologies to George Lucas)
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    • 25th Jul 16, 7:16 PM
    Budget Wars - A New Hope (with apologies to George Lucas) 25th Jul 16 at 7:16 PM
    A New Hope is a very fitting title for my first ever DFW diary. For the first time in around 18 months I really have hope. I am one of those people who has always seen September as the start of the year. Because of back to school I suppose. And this year is the first September I can honestly say I am 100% looking forward to in years.

    My situation is complicated but to simplify, I took the enormous step to not only become self employed but to sell my family home to finance my new business in 2011. I turned my back on a very well paid career to go out on my own.
    In that period I have had many challenges. Gone to hell and back owing wages and HMRC. Dont worry the wages were paid back long ago as quickly as I could. And I repaid HMRC.
    The stress of being responsible for other peoples lives is intense if you've never been there. At my lowest point I deactivated my voicemail to avoid the energy company being able to contact me.

    At one point I owed around £40,000 all business related. Primarily on a loan, but some CC.

    Time and again I bashed my head against my mental bars and wondered if I could physically carry on. But I did. Through hell and high waters. Quite literally in fact....

    This last year has not been easy. I worked as the sole employee of my business during my entire pregnancy with DD and went into labour whilst still at work. When my baby was 4 months old I got seriously ill and spent a week in hospital. My lovely FIL was diognosed with the big C 2 months ago. And life has wobbled along precariously as always.

    The reason for my new hope is I finally made a big decision. To stop the business I am running & build another. It wont be easy but it will get me out of the hole I am in & allow me to take on paid employment around the new business. I have 4 days left of my old situation and then good night vienna!

    I love MSE. It and the people of it have been such a comfort. And now I am hoping to use this diary as a place for me to record my baby steps towards a life less stressful, adrenaline filled & chaotic.

    Bob
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    • PurpleFairy26
    • By PurpleFairy26 6th Oct 16, 8:11 AM
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    Hi Bob hope your DD slept well (and therefore you too) and she hasn't too many after effects of yesterday.

    Sounds like the business is progressing well, it's all a learning curve isn't it. If you can access the business coaching it maybe useful (assuming it's not too cost prohibitive). As I business coach myself I know only too well the benefits of coaching

    Hope today brings good things to you.
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 6th Oct 16, 8:58 PM
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    Eek just coming up for air. Of course the sickness didn't end at 7pm did it. Up most of the night, completely vomited over twice. Up for a shower at 2am while OH stripped our bed (of course) and then we all settled down again only to have the same thing happen...it was a long night. When she was ill again at 7am I decided a trip to the doctors was necessary. We managed to make it to the walk in clinic by 9 and get a ticket for the queue. So by 10 we'd seen a doctor and come home. The good news is that the doctor wasn't worried as all her vitals were fine. He just emphasised the need to monitor her fluid intake and output to avoid dehydration. The terrible nappies started and continued up to teatime.
    Now DS is playing up a bit with his cold....

    Was annoyed that I had to miss harvest festival as it was the first big occasion at his new school. And we've had to cancel our day out to celebrate her 1st birthday tommorow as no one felt like risking D&V in a hire car. Oh well.
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 6th Oct 16, 9:02 PM
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    Hi Bob hope your DD slept well (and therefore you too) and she hasn't too many after effects of yesterday.

    Sounds like the business is progressing well, it's all a learning curve isn't it. If you can access the business coaching it maybe useful (assuming it's not too cost prohibitive). As I business coach myself I know only too well the benefits of coaching

    Hope today brings good things to you.
    Originally posted by PurpleFairy26
    Hi PF

    I didn't know you were a business coach that's so interesting. The one I have seen charges £80 an hour so it's not cheap. But I do think she was good.

    Bob
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 6th Oct 16, 9:07 PM
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    Morning,

    Teething is so horrible, poor DD, hope she managed to settle and you had some sleep last night.

    Well done on the eBay sales

    I hope the work side eases, great that the meeting went well though
    Originally posted by Purplemumof2
    Thanks PMO2 I think it was definitely a bug rather than teething. Thanks for all the kind words too.

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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 7th Oct 16, 6:55 AM
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    Flashback time!! Oh I remember the time-trial bed stripping so well. Shivers down the backbone!! That is not one you ever remember fondly.

    I should have taken out shares in breadsticks, the amount my boys gnawed on while teething. I wished the swedish style hard roll things were suitable for us, but they were not (ingredients-wise), they would be fab for biting on.

    Hope baby-girl is feeling better this morning, they do shrug things off quickly, leaving you knackered and traumatised, with a pile of laundry like Everest.

    Only one week now til Half Term (that has come around too quickly - five weeks gone already???) when you won't have to be messin' about with too many buses.

    Happy Friday - try not to worry, baby paracetamol is great stuff, I knocked DH out with it for 4 hours solid the first time we ran out of ib & paracetamol and I told him to try the liquid stuff. 10 minutes and he was totally comatose. Fast acting stuff that.

    I still threaten him with it on occassion - squeak! pass the cheese.
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 7th Oct 16, 3:34 PM
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    Hello All

    We managed to get all the way to 11pm last night and then the sickness happened again. It was horrible as it really upset her and she cried for about 30 mins afterwards. Poor girl. Guess who got hit by the vomit comet. Poor me.
    I was expecting another bad night but not a peep. We all got some rest finally.
    Today has still been nice despite it not being the 1st birthday dreams are made of. We got her a helium balloon from Toys this morning and managed coffee out complete with cupcake and candle which they said was ok to light. She even had a sip of her first babycino.
    I'm finally clear on the washing pile!

    In other news after a lot of hard work I now have the venue up on two large web platforms which are searchable for anyone looking for London locations. One is more for big events the other for anyone looking for meeting space, workshops etc. I am really proud of myself for this as it means I am doing all I can to ensure the success of my venture. I have a 3rd submission almost ready to go, but their site is incredibly complicated to use and it has taken me days of doing little bits to get 90% there. Still a win.
    I chased up the film production companies contacted last week and have heard back from 4/6 now. It's a constant tap tap tap of the ball to get it rolling I find.

    Anyway. A decent end to a difficult week. Have 2 events on tommorow but I'm not required to really be there other than letting in and out and cleaning after each. An easy day If Sunday is nice we may try and carry out our plans for the missed day out then.

    Bob
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 7th Oct 16, 3:48 PM
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    Flashback time!! Oh I remember the time-trial bed stripping so well. Shivers down the backbone!! That is not one you ever remember fondly.

    I should have taken out shares in breadsticks, the amount my boys gnawed on while teething. I wished the swedish style hard roll things were suitable for us, but they were not (ingredients-wise), they would be fab for biting on.

    Hope baby-girl is feeling better this morning, they do shrug things off quickly, leaving you knackered and traumatised, with a pile of laundry like Everest.

    Only one week now til Half Term (that has come around too quickly - five weeks gone already???) when you won't have to be messin' about with too many buses.

    Happy Friday - try not to worry, baby paracetamol is great stuff, I knocked DH out with it for 4 hours solid the first time we ran out of ib & paracetamol and I told him to try the liquid stuff. 10 minutes and he was totally comatose. Fast acting stuff that.

    I still threaten him with it on occassion - squeak! pass the cheese.
    Originally posted by f0xh0les
    Foxy you do make me laugh I can only imagine winter bug season X 4 we actually ran out of duvets in the end. Today everything seems so much brighter.

    The bus thing is a discussion point tbh. I am finding the sprawl of my set up these days troublesome. We live 45 mins walk from the venue. If I say do a viewing at 11am I am then there say 30 mins and if I then walked home to arrive at 12.15 we'd have roughly 2 hours there before I trotted out again. School run and home by 4.30. some nights I have to do an evening view or meeting which means cycling in the dark to get back to the venue and home. It can be a long drawn out days business.

    If I had a car I could dot around much easier. But I feel very torn on that. We have done without for 3 years. We don't do weekend trips out as we often haven't got time. A new car, well new to us, would be about £2,000 if we stuck with our usual spend. And I don't have that to spend on a car right now and Im not keen on borrowing. So it is an issue to roll around and consider but nothing is happening anytime soon.
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 8th Oct 16, 10:23 AM
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    So unwell. Come 3pm yesterday I was starting to feel nauseous. Managed to do the party tea then went to lie down. From then on was up and down to the loo constantly.

    Then at 2am my son started being ill too. Now the only person left who isn't sick is my husband. He has had to cover me today for the bookings we have so he was off out at 9 to let the first ones in. Poor guy he was up half the night with our son. you can't cancel though.

    DS was supposed to be at a party today as well so I've had to cancel that. Just feel dead.
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    • kirtsypoos
    • By kirtsypoos 8th Oct 16, 10:58 AM
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    Sorry you feel so poorly Bob, hope you and DS are better soon, sending hugs!
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 8th Oct 16, 11:56 AM
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    Oh pox! at least you know it is a 24 hr thing. Me and my big mouth eh? Mine have absolutely no sense of timing. If they are getting anything, it will be the Friday that school breaks up they will start. I mean, what kind of kid gets sick over the holidays??? The week before the holidays, fine! not a problem, but I have plans dammit!! So inconsiderate (and they are sooooo childish).

    DH came down with a migraine last night, lost his vision in spots, couldn't see to work his fork (!!) so he has now 72 hours to laze about and blame it on that. He seems fine now, is playing on the xbox with the kids, but is in no fit state to touch a hammer or nail. See, that was supposed to be sympathy, but it just turned out sarcasm. I should have been a nurse.
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 8th Oct 16, 4:12 PM
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    Oh you poor things....hope you all feel better soon. Big hugs xx
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    • By apple muncher 8th Oct 16, 6:29 PM
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    Hope you all mend soon x
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 8th Oct 16, 6:59 PM
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    Get better soon Bob and family, and a belated happy birthday for yesterday for dd.
    Lots of love to you and yours xxx
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 9th Oct 16, 10:48 AM
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    Thanks all so much for the kind wishes. And Foxy hope Mr F feels better soon. I have never had a migraine. They sound so awful.

    Well. DH having done 2 hours of bike riding yesterday to facilitate the 2 bookings we had (both of whom have emailed their praise for the venue and hope to return) was up being sick through the night so thank goodness I'm feeling brighter. Still very tired and fuzzy but to be expected after almost 48 hours of illness.
    DS has managed a shower and breakfast today. DD seems well in herself but clearly still has a bad tum.

    If DS stays well today I'm going to aim to get him back to school tommorow . He hasnt been sick since the early hours on Friday/Saturday so I think should go back.
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 10th Oct 16, 12:20 PM
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    Our school rule is 48 hrs after the last bout of v/d. they are safe to return to school. Wish other people would stick to it - in Manchester they lost 24 kids in one day to a v/d outbreak, I walked into the class at the end of the day and there were only 6 of them sitting there. The teachers were terrified they were going to get it. 4 days before the end of term.

    Oh poor Mr Bob! What a star for keeping it at bay until the weekend is over.

    Mr F is absolutely fine, he didn't leave the house all weekend, hardly left the sofa, I made him lots of posh tea and coffee (YS), he did lots of reading and computer playing and toddled off to work this morning on his bike. So I assume he has recovered. It is all stress related - start of Uni teaching last week.
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 10th Oct 16, 10:52 PM
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    Yes I think we are the same rule wise. How awful on that class all getting sick en masse. The teacher must have been thinking it's my turn next! I am glad Mr F is back in the saddle.
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 10th Oct 16, 11:10 PM
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    So today was a bit mental. I just couldn't sleep last night, don't know if it was the effects of daytime sleeping on Saturday or what but I was awake till about 3 or 4. Horrible when that happens.

    Because OH needed a day in bed I did the school run anyway but felt so rubbish I left the house with no coffee or toast. Got DS to school then me and DD walked to the business to drop off some cash and I did a mad clean for an hour and a half as it needed it after the weekends events. From there walked/bused home. Had my winter boots on for the first time this year and forgot that they really hurt the soles of my feet unless I wear two pairs of socks or one really thick pair so ended up with hideous blisters on the soles of my feet. Found a composter on the walk home with a take me sign so I nabbed that.
    Got home. Hoovered the whole house. Put away all the sickness related bumf, like 16 duvets, sick bucket, another stack of dried bedding. cleaned the kitchen. Checked my banking. Did the shopping and came back. Then school run again, finally had a sandwich so first food of the day at 4.30, not good.
    Made a lasagne and managed an hours work whilst OH watched DD then cycled back to the business to show a potential client around. Left there at 8.30 cycled home. DD still awake. She seems to be linked to me in terms of sleeping still. We had the lasagne and watched an episode of The B, sent an email advertising the business to a large regional network, answered 2 enquiries both wanting dates that are booked already. And came to bed.

    Today has literally been a blur.
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 11th Oct 16, 5:31 AM
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    Phew! I'm tired just reading that

    Hope everyone is feeling much better today and that you got some sleep last night.

    The business is really taking off, what is it that you're doing?
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 11th Oct 16, 9:43 AM
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    You need a cape with SB on it!
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    • By Ratison 11th Oct 16, 8:45 PM
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    Yay Bob has a diary - I've been away a while, but have subscribed. Hope everyone has had a vomit free day!
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