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    • redfox
    • By redfox 16th Jun 16, 8:27 PM
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    Elite 11+ shopping and chat thread
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    • 16th Jun 16, 8:27 PM
    Elite 11+ shopping and chat thread 16th Jun 16 at 8:27 PM
    Welcome to a new long lasting Elite 11+ glitch and chat thread.

    Please see post number 2 for all the relevant information on the thread. Savvybuyer's excellent lists are in the subsequent posts.

    It's a great group and community so enjoy!
    Last edited by redfox; 16-06-2016 at 9:38 PM.
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    • Enterprise 1701C
    • By Enterprise 1701C 12th Oct 16, 10:05 PM
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    I think you can adopt me!
    Originally posted by Sunshinemummy
    OMG Don't need another kid

    Seriously though, so far since the kids left home we have moved DD twice already, this is the third, and DS twice.

    And we are going on a 4 hour drive this time, get back Friday, then have the weekend to do a few bits, then we have a wedding to go to on Monday, staying overnight and back on Tuesday, so it is a bit of a whirl at the moment! Somehow I need to fit in some washing too.
    What is this life if, full of care, we have no time to stand and stare
    • marrbett
    • By marrbett 12th Oct 16, 10:06 PM
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    Thanks cjj, I know we have had this conversation before quite a while ago now and I am still no closer to resolving it.

    I saw a job advertised in a shop window the other day, something I thought I could do, but I couldn't bring myself to ask about it yet I will talk to anyone and anybody who will listen to me anywhere else.
    Originally posted by Tinyshoes
    What about some voluntary work in a charity shop, to 'find your feet' for a bit??
    • bubbs
    • By bubbs 12th Oct 16, 10:06 PM
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    When he is assessed he could have carers coming into his own home.
    Originally posted by pippo
    He has been assessed but not correctly and they did sort it out but not enough , he falls at least once week and really not safe on his own
    Dont really know why im worried as nothing to do with me bu they became friends and dont want to se him come to harm
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    • Sunshinemummy
    • By Sunshinemummy 12th Oct 16, 10:07 PM
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    I haven't worked for 19 years now.

    I think that's what I need something I feel in control over, my terms....
    Originally posted by Tinyshoes
    19 years....... no wonder you are taking tentative steps.

    If money is not needed, take your time and make your choices wisely. Could you re-train? i.e. Learn acrylic nails, then you can do this from home and work when you want to do.

    If OH is being a pain.......(all men are) bill him for all the work you do in the house, and as his personal slave and the money you save him... he will soon shut up!

    Think about your ambition, it does not have to be work related... and go for it... everything is else is superficial!
    x
    Accumulative cost of having adult child in 2017.
    January - One day off work for OH to take him to an exam as car broken - 40 mile round journey. Different car £450.
    • Arthien
    • By Arthien 12th Oct 16, 10:09 PM
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    Do you get the weekend free?
    Can you use your wages to sort the building site out?
    I would set yourself a goal of seeing how things are in 12 months, and then make decisions. x
    Originally posted by Sunshinemummy
    We get some weekends free, but a lot of them have been busy recently, seeing family and doing boring-but-necessary things like mortgage meetings. Even then, hubby spends every free minute trying to work on his project as he really wants to run his own business next year. And he also really wants to do up the house himself, he'd feel really disappointed if I/we paid someone, but it might have to happen at this rate.

    This job was supposed to be 6 months to build my skills and move onwards, but I'm not sure whether that'll be enough for a new employer, not to mention whether I can stand another 4 months there
    I think it doesn't help that I used to be home by 4.50 as I started at 8, whereas now I'm driving further and not getting home til 6.30 fairly often, it feels so much later even though it's not really.
    On the countdown to Christmas
    • davemorton
    • By davemorton 12th Oct 16, 10:09 PM
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    Evening all!

    I've just been doing some cleaning out of my kitchen cupboards and I've decided to recycle a large bag which used to contain Maltesers...

    Feeling a bit fed up at the moment, my relatively new job isn't going as well as I'd hoped, to the point that I've considered walking out a few times recently. It's not helping that I'm feeling like I've got so little evening time to do anything. I'm basically commuting, working, more commuting, cooking tea, unloading/reloading the dishwasher, going for an evening walk with DH, doing laundry then going to bed

    Our house DIY project has also stalled as DH is working hard on a new potential money-making computer programme. I shouldn't complain as he can't do everything, but living in a building site isn't fun after 3 years. I feel like I'm constantly waiting for the fun bit of life to start, and it's not happening!

    Apologies for the moan, just one of those evenings.
    Originally posted by Arthien

    I dont know how much of a building site, your building site is, but if it is every room, could you make loads of effort over the next few weekends to get just one room done, so that at least you have an oasis from all the building work, where you can both relax?
    • cjj
    • By cjj 12th Oct 16, 10:11 PM
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    Thanks cjj, I know we have had this conversation before quite a while ago now and I am still no closer to resolving it.

    I saw a job advertised in a shop window the other day, something I thought I could do, but I couldn't bring myself to ask about it yet I will talk to anyone and anybody who will listen to me anywhere else.
    Originally posted by Tinyshoes
    What was the job Tiny ? Do you feel you would enjoy doing it xx
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    • Arthien
    • By Arthien 12th Oct 16, 10:13 PM
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    I dont know how much of a building site, your building site is, but if it is every room, could you make loads of effort over the next few weekends to get just one room done, so that at least you have an oasis from all the building work, where you can both relax?
    Originally posted by davemorton
    Yes it's every room. The spare room is probably the closest to being done, but there's always an issue. We nearly finished the downstairs loo (start small! ) and then the ceiling paint peeled off as DH removed the masking tape from the newly painted walls...

    I'm hoping the prospect of having parents to stay for Christmas will be enough to spur him/us into getting at least a couple of rooms finished. My mum will definitely have a hairy fit if she has to use the downstairs loo in the night
    On the countdown to Christmas
    • davemorton
    • By davemorton 12th Oct 16, 10:13 PM
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    Update on the wine TM.
    It isnt the best. It is okay for £3.15 a bottle, but I would not pay much more than that.
    • Sunshinemummy
    • By Sunshinemummy 12th Oct 16, 10:14 PM
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    Thanks cjj, I know we have had this conversation before quite a while ago now and I am still no closer to resolving it.

    I saw a job advertised in a shop window the other day, something I thought I could do, but I couldn't bring myself to ask about it yet I will talk to anyone and anybody who will listen to me anywhere else.
    Originally posted by Tinyshoes
    Market research?

    OMG Don't need another kid

    Seriously though, so far since the kids left home we have moved DD twice already, this is the third, and DS twice.

    And we are going on a 4 hour drive this time, get back Friday, then have the weekend to do a few bits, then we have a wedding to go to on Monday, staying overnight and back on Tuesday, so it is a bit of a whirl at the moment! Somehow I need to fit in some washing too.
    Originally posted by Enterprise 1701C
    That is a good point, we always moved DS2... why the heck he couldn't get himself organised and moved I have no idea.

    Where are they moving to?
    Accumulative cost of having adult child in 2017.
    January - One day off work for OH to take him to an exam as car broken - 40 mile round journey. Different car £450.
    • davemorton
    • By davemorton 12th Oct 16, 10:16 PM
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    Yes it's every room. The spare room is probably the closest to being done, but there's always an issue. We nearly finished the downstairs loo (start small! ) and then the ceiling paint peeled off as DH removed the masking tape from the newly painted walls...

    I'm hoping the prospect of having parents to stay for Christmas will be enough to spur him/us into getting at least a couple of rooms finished. My mum will definitely have a hairy fit if she has to use the downstairs loo in the night
    Originally posted by Arthien
    There you go then. Living room and loo finished by Christmas, its not too long to wait.
    If 2 of you go at it, a room can be painted in a day/max 2 days, so just the plastering etc to do then its plain sailing
    • Serendipitious
    • By Serendipitious 12th Oct 16, 10:17 PM
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    Serendipitious
    I dont know how much of a building site, your building site is, but if it is every room, could you make loads of effort over the next few weekends to get just one room done, so that at least you have an oasis from all the building work, where you can both relax?
    Originally posted by davemorton
    I agree whole-heartedly with this, in the past when I've done houses, I always made a cosy nook with two armchairs, phone and TV and a low light, just to have a 'retreat' area in which to eat and relax. Makes all the difference, even if it's just a corner of a room.
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    • Sunshinemummy
    • By Sunshinemummy 12th Oct 16, 10:17 PM
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    We get some weekends free, but a lot of them have been busy recently, seeing family and doing boring-but-necessary things like mortgage meetings. Even then, hubby spends every free minute trying to work on his project as he really wants to run his own business next year. And he also really wants to do up the house himself, he'd feel really disappointed if I/we paid someone, but it might have to happen at this rate.

    This job was supposed to be 6 months to build my skills and move onwards, but I'm not sure whether that'll be enough for a new employer, not to mention whether I can stand another 4 months there
    I think it doesn't help that I used to be home by 4.50 as I started at 8, whereas now I'm driving further and not getting home til 6.30 fairly often, it feels so much later even though it's not really.
    Originally posted by Arthien
    At least on the weekends you are not working. OH has his goal, which is fab. I have to admit with my OH, my motto is 'don't have any expectations, then he cannot disappoint me!' so you may have to suck up the building plot and the work until he is on his feet a little and then it will be time to sort the house and make the decisions about your job (unless a better one comes along... then go for it girl!) x
    Accumulative cost of having adult child in 2017.
    January - One day off work for OH to take him to an exam as car broken - 40 mile round journey. Different car £450.
    • Enterprise 1701C
    • By Enterprise 1701C 12th Oct 16, 10:19 PM
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    Enterprise 1701C
    Market research?



    That is a good point, we always moved DS2... why the heck he couldn't get himself organised and moved I have no idea.

    Where are they moving to?
    Originally posted by Sunshinemummy
    Up to Yorkshire!
    What is this life if, full of care, we have no time to stand and stare
    • cjj
    • By cjj 12th Oct 16, 10:20 PM
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    SSM you are very wise.

    Must go to bed now as another early start.

    TS hope we can chat again tomorrow. I feel we have a lot in common.

    Hope snaps Dad ok. Bubbs I hope the man gets a solution xx
    Cherish those you have in your life because you never know when they won't be there anymore.

    No matter how you feel, get up, dress up & never give up.
    • Tinyshoes
    • By Tinyshoes 12th Oct 16, 10:20 PM
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    Can you purchase a year?




    I know people who have done washing/ironing and made a fortune... one person ended up having 6 people working part-time in their garage whilst the person just collected/dropped off the items/marketed/accounts etc.

    TS have you thought about something like this?



    Why don't you make some enquiries, the rules change all the time so it maybe beneficial for you x

    I totally agree about not being paid for family, when we took our plus 2 children in, we never took a penny for them as they were ours and we were lucky to have them x
    Originally posted by Sunshinemummy
    I have no idea whether you can purchase a year guess I should look into it. I need to get one of those statements as have only worked out qualifying years myself, they might have other ideas of how much I am short.

    I could do washing and bit of cleaning but any more ironing than I already do, not sure how my hands would hold out because of the osteoarthritis.
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    • Sunshinemummy
    • By Sunshinemummy 12th Oct 16, 10:22 PM
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    What was the job Tiny ? Do you feel you would enjoy doing it xx
    Originally posted by cjj
    Good points well made cjj x

    Yes it's every room. The spare room is probably the closest to being done, but there's always an issue. We nearly finished the downstairs loo (start small! ) and then the ceiling paint peeled off as DH removed the masking tape from the newly painted walls...

    I'm hoping the prospect of having parents to stay for Christmas will be enough to spur him/us into getting at least a couple of rooms finished. My mum will definitely have a hairy fit if she has to use the downstairs loo in the night
    Originally posted by Arthien
    Good things come to those who wait.... it will be worth it when it is done x

    He has been assessed but not correctly and they did sort it out but not enough , he falls at least once week and really not safe on his own
    Dont really know why im worried as nothing to do with me bu they became friends and dont want to se him come to harm
    Originally posted by bubbs
    It is because you are a lovely person who cares.
    Accumulative cost of having adult child in 2017.
    January - One day off work for OH to take him to an exam as car broken - 40 mile round journey. Different car £450.
    • marrbett
    • By marrbett 12th Oct 16, 10:22 PM
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    SSM you are very wise.

    Must go to bed now as another early start.

    TS hope we can chat again tomorrow. I feel we have a lot in common.

    Hope snaps Dad ok. Bubbs I hope the man gets a solution xx
    Originally posted by cjj
    me too. Night night, its nice to be back...I did some glitchy shopping today too.
    • Sunshinemummy
    • By Sunshinemummy 12th Oct 16, 10:23 PM
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    I have no idea whether you can purchase a year guess I should look into it. I need to get one of those statements as have only worked out qualifying years myself, they might have other ideas of how much I am short.

    I could do washing and bit of cleaning but any more ironing than I already do, not sure how my hands would hold out because of the osteoarthritis.
    Originally posted by Tinyshoes
    Are you entitled to benefits that you are not claiming? It may take some of the pressure off you if you could increase your income x
    Accumulative cost of having adult child in 2017.
    January - One day off work for OH to take him to an exam as car broken - 40 mile round journey. Different car £450.
    • Sunshinemummy
    • By Sunshinemummy 12th Oct 16, 10:25 PM
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    Up to Yorkshire!
    Originally posted by Enterprise 1701C
    I know that... and in with OH's parents.

    But Yorkshire is huge, which area?

    SSM you are very wise.

    Must go to bed now as another early start.

    TS hope we can chat again tomorrow. I feel we have a lot in common.

    Hope snaps Dad ok. Bubbs I hope the man gets a solution xx
    Originally posted by cjj
    Thanks, not often called that. Sleep tight x
    Accumulative cost of having adult child in 2017.
    January - One day off work for OH to take him to an exam as car broken - 40 mile round journey. Different car £450.
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