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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 5:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5320917&page=501

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/news/family/2016/03/martin-lewis-launches-new-money--mental-health-policy-institute

    http://blog.moneysavingexpert.com/2016/05/16/the-money-and-mental-health-policy-institute-whatll-it-really-do

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/credit-cards/mental-health-guide
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 10:29 AM.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
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    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 2nd Sep 17, 12:37 PM
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    Gingernutty
    I've booked a taster driving lesson for Wednesday.

    Booked into a Jobs Fair for Friday.

    Have a job interview for 20th. Need help from my old office. Have made the decision to volunteer on Monday so that I can make myself useful around the old office. Hopefully, fingers crossed they may help.

    If they say no, I ve got to do some serious revision without some essential, specialist books.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 2nd Sep 17, 5:35 PM
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    Gingernutty
    OK.

    After therapy session where I overwhelmed my therapist with everything I've got going on, I'm going to stop just desperately looking for jobs, definitely take a year out and work towards some sort of mental, spiritual and physical self improvement.

    So I'm going to decline the offer of a job interview and stick to the goal of looking for part time work possibly closer to home.

    Next session is next week.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • Torry Quine
    • By Torry Quine 2nd Sep 17, 6:32 PM
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    Torry Quine
    GN I'm exhausted just reading all you have planned! Thanks for the link to the spoons info, today is definitely a low spoon day.

    We should have been going away on our holiday today so feeling pretty yuk.

    Penguin about Loon's health His hair is nw coming out and the top of his head looks like he's been sunburned. It's a horrible visible reminder of what's happening .

    I keep having horrible dreams when he isn't with me any more
    End penguin
    Life is like riding a bicycle, to keep your balance you must keep moving . Albert Einstein.

    I can bear pain myself, he said softly, but I couldna bear yours. That would take more strength than I have -
    Diana Gabaldon, Outlander
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 2nd Sep 17, 7:55 PM
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    Pyxis
    (((((((Torry)))))))
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, P.P..
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    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 3rd Sep 17, 12:45 PM
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    mellymoo74
    Torry
    Take care of yourself
    Xxxx
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 3rd Sep 17, 9:33 PM
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    Gingernutty
    I've found my provisional driving licence.

    Booked to see another show and provisionally pencilled in a couple of courses offered by the local adult education service.

    I haven't left the house today at all. I only woke up at 1.30pm.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 4th Sep 17, 10:38 AM
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    Gingernutty
    So last night, I sorted out some photocopying I could do when I brought my last timesheet up.

    I put it in a folder with some letters to post and put the folder in my bag. I also left a bag full of magazines by my bag so as not to forget it.

    I forgot to put the timesheet in the folder. And the ID lanyard to pass into the library.

    I only realised about the lanyard on the bus to work.

    And the timesheet as I was standing by the in-tray.

    So I raced out the door this morning and joined the commuter throng to give some magazines to the volunteer hub.

    This is me on the tablets.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • dekaspace
    • By dekaspace 4th Sep 17, 2:29 PM
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    dekaspace
    Finally after 2-4 weeks of feeling awful im almost over my virus, might of been even better but had to get up 7.30 for college and still made it late due to traffic, will be glad of sleep tonight, sounds fun as Im doing a tourism class I have to help out at Freshers Fair tomorrow.
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 4th Sep 17, 5:11 PM
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    dandy-candy
    Gingernutty how long have you been on these tablets?
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 4th Sep 17, 7:08 PM
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    Gingernutty
    Slightly less than a month.

    We're still at dose tweaking stage.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 5th Sep 17, 6:02 AM
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    Pyxis
    Slightly less than a month.

    We're still at dose tweaking stage.
    Originally posted by Gingernutty
    My doses got tweaked a two or three times over the first year or so.

    After several years now, I do my own tweaking, (sanctioned by the Consultant), up to a certain maximum dose per day, depending on the demands being made of me on the day.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, P.P..
    ¥ ¥ ¥
    X ~O
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 5th Sep 17, 7:41 AM
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    dandy-candy
    Slightly less than a month.

    We're still at dose tweaking stage.
    Originally posted by Gingernutty
    Ahh that explains it I always find the first few months I have dotty moments
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 5th Sep 17, 2:32 PM
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    Gingernutty
    I've borrowed a book from tge library about ADHD.

    Found it in Child Health.

    The descriptions of children and their symptoms right down to developing co-morbidities in the teen years like dysthymia fits me to T.

    On the one hand it feels good to get a proper diagnosis.

    On the other hand, if I'm such a clich!, why wasn't I diagnosed earlier? I'm 49 FFS.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 5th Sep 17, 6:03 PM
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    xXMessedUpXx
    I found a picture of me when i was 16.....i was so slim back then decided to use it as motivation to lose weight, look at the pic, get motivated. I went swimming yesterday and today. Only lost 1lb since last week but its a start at least
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
    To see the rainbow you need both the sun and the rain to make its colours appear
    weight lost: 1lbs
    • dekaspace
    • By dekaspace 5th Sep 17, 6:48 PM
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    dekaspace
    Tired but feeling ok at minute, friend turned up and didn't leave till like 9.45 and I was up at 7.45 for college, went to bed 12.30 as decided to tidy up so had like 7 hours sleep and at college again today.

    Still have that virus but its more of a mild cold now, just have to blow nose now and again and cough once or twice to clear throat

    Was funny earlier though as I had a mild cough and my nose blew a snot bubble when I did so lol.
    • faerielight
    • By faerielight 5th Sep 17, 9:53 PM
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    faerielight
    penguin



    Hi guys, I saw my bowel surgeon yesterday, he has deemed it too risky to operate on me at the date given at end sept.due to how ill I am, so it's being put on hold ... I'm so relieved, I've been so worried that I wouldn't make it if they did.. I've got another health scare via my rheumatologist.. possible vasculitis, so waiting on more tests. I haven't responded the the steroids for the addisons, and have had to be on prednisone for weeks as my asthma got really severe.. basically they are still trying to get to the bottom of what is causing the severe inflammatory response that is making me so ill. He is thinking of trialing me on an auto immune modifying drug, I've been in bed for so long, I haven't been out to the PD centre for weeks or anywhere. The things keeping me sanish are doing a bit of adult colouring in bed sometimes, my cats, and my lovely new PA, who I'm so pleased with. and so pleased I'm finally free from the care agency Had a £350 windfall today, after I should have been on a water rate reduction for 2 years, after I submitted the incontinence info, as I've been made to pay £58 a month which was insane, and they finally got me on the tariff, down to £17.50 PM and backdated it,so that's a relief
    Many thanks to all who contribute on MSE
    • Torry Quine
    • By Torry Quine 5th Sep 17, 10:06 PM
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    Torry Quine
    faerie good to hear from you, been wondering how you are.
    Life is like riding a bicycle, to keep your balance you must keep moving . Albert Einstein.

    I can bear pain myself, he said softly, but I couldna bear yours. That would take more strength than I have -
    Diana Gabaldon, Outlander
    • faerielight
    • By faerielight 6th Sep 17, 6:43 AM
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    faerielight
    aww thanks Tory I'm still here, thanks for thinking about me
    Many thanks to all who contribute on MSE
    • dekaspace
    • By dekaspace 6th Sep 17, 6:32 PM
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    dekaspace
    Not to bad today but had a bit of a down episode as I slept longer than I wanted, managed to cut back on sleep last few months and its rare I get over nine and a half hours and its nine and a half I aim for but give some room in case I am watching a good movie so I get maybe eight and a half, or I have a day where I am allowed a sleep in but still worked out between 8-9 and a half hours almost every day and rarely less.

    Slept ten and a half maybe close to eleven but maybe as I was up almost 18 hours as was up at 7.45am and in bed just after 1am so didn't wake till 11.45am when I had class at one so had to clear my head, have a 10 minute shower and then missed the bus by 30 seconds to town so I missed my college bus by 2 minutes so arrived 30 minutes late, didnt get told off for it but it caused me anxiety and its on my attendance log as being late.

    Meant to have allowances because of my disability but still waiting for learning support to arrange it so until then will cause me anxiety.

    Still though, im impressed I am doing better than have for years it seems moving to social housing despite the neighbours having kids that run about sometimes and some drug users on other side of block its better, im still drained from years of anxiety but more open to help.
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 7th Sep 17, 6:59 AM
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    Pyxis
    Am a bit upset. Well very upset, to be honest.

    Was talking to someone during the evening, and suddenly they turn on me. Apparently I had said something. When I asked what I had said, the reply was, you know full well, or words to that ilk.

    So, totally shocked, I apologised for whatever it was I had inadvertently said, and was then told it wasn't inadvertent, that I had meant it.

    Protesting my innocence just got more insistence that, whatever it was, I had meant it, and that I did know what it was.

    Apologised once more for upsetting them with whatever it was I had done, but got more of the same, so started feeling angry and shut up.

    And this was in public.

    Am still none the wiser.

    This person, who I've only met once before, a while ago, does have some problems, but I don't know what they are.
    The trouble is, that you can be chatting off and on for several days here and there, perfectly ok, and then wham! You get hit with an accusation like this, right out of the blue. I then remembered that something similar had happened the last time I'd met them.

    If you knew what the trigger was, that set off this type of reaction, you could avoid it, but I have absolutely no idea.

    So it will mean an active avoidance of them strategy on my part, which isn't nice, but I really don't want to become upset again by something that I've no idea will cause offence. I'd be scared to say anything at all, however seemingly innocuous.


    Does anyone know if there's a particular MH condition that can manifest in this way?
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, P.P..
    ¥ ¥ ¥
    X ~O
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