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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 5:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5320917&page=501

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/news/family/2016/03/martin-lewis-launches-new-money--mental-health-policy-institute

    http://blog.moneysavingexpert.com/2016/05/16/the-money-and-mental-health-policy-institute-whatll-it-really-do

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/credit-cards/mental-health-guide
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 10:29 AM.
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    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 20th Jul 17, 8:35 PM
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    This door has closed and the temp position I'm in has been offered to someone who starts at the end of the month.

    Looks like I'll be resting soon.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 21st Jul 17, 2:30 PM
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    Sorry you didn't get the job but at least there's a positive
    Looks like I'll be resting soon.
    Originally posted by Gingernutty
    For the first time in what seems like forever I've got a weekend where I'm not staying away from home or dealing with house guests!!
    The only downside is that IzHe's going to his friend's birthday tomorrow (I already had plans with the girls so have had to miss it) so will be staying there and he's been doing so much overtime this week that I feel like I've barely seen him. On the plus side, I get to have a Buffy marathon on Sunday morning without the annoying commentary
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 22nd Jul 17, 1:43 AM
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    Feedback: I didn't expand on the answers and there were candidates with more recent/current experience.

    So my experience was too long ago and I didn't waffle.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 22nd Jul 17, 5:28 PM
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    MU - I hope you are doing ok. Did you need to call 911?

    Gingernutty - sorry interview didn't go your way, are you registered with lots of employment agencies? If not is that something worth doing?

    I'm still away! The first hotel was nice so stretched it to two nights and then didn't seem worth driving back in between. Last night we stayed in a different place that was "ok". Tonight we are in a B&B which seems ok so far. I'm a bit stressed because when I booked I paid by PayPal and had it confirmed. When we arrived the guy showed us to the room and said we pay in the morning. I said I'm sure I've paid in full and he said it just a holding charge, I was sure it wasn't but didn't like to speak up. After he left I checked online and both my PayPal and the booking website says I've paid in full. DH says that's no problem just tell the guy tomorrow morning but I'm getting stressed because what if he says it isn't I know that sounds daft as I have it in writing but I always get afraid of confrontation and not being believed.

    Anyway I hope you all are doing ok, hugs if anyone needs them x
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 25th Jul 17, 4:14 PM
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    Ended up not calling them, survived till my GP appointment. I've been told to come off my anti depressant as they think thats what was contributing to the mania. Been off it a week and not feeling too great. Was told to restart it if i find my mood going south. And to book another appointment, and they'd try again for the mental health team referal. Got my PIP form filled in and sent off, now to see if i get called for an asessment, thankfully the charity who helped with my form can accompany me so i wont be on my own if it does happen.

    Back to being on budget this week. Last week was a bit of an impulsive mess so today i took all the cash out i need for the week and my debt card is going in the drawer so i can;t use it. Managed to go swimming twice last week and going again tonight, so at least thats something positive from the manic episode.
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    • jobbingmusician
    • By jobbingmusician 25th Jul 17, 11:57 PM
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    Sooo glad to hear you feeling better, MU. Now all we need is WaS...

    (All you need is WaS.....) Hope you're lurking, hun! <3
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    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 25th Jul 17, 11:57 PM
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    MU - are they going to try you on an alternative medicine? Well done getting that pip form done

    We got back on Sunday evening and I am very glad to be home. I feel "safe" here I did a mega tidy up yesterday and paid for it with a backache today, but the house looks lovely which brightens my mood.

    It was strange but after our little trip away I realised that although when I'm at home it's really reassuring to know DH is nearby, I didn't like it when we were away and he was with me all the time. I really like being able to escape to a different part of the house and to read in quiet!

    I hope everyone is getting on ok xx
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 26th Jul 17, 10:37 AM
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    Does anyone have any contact with WaS off this page? I hope she is ok.
    I don't like the way on the internet something might have happened to someone and their online friends have no knowledge, I've always thought that a downside of it. Sometimes people just drop off the radar
    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 26th Jul 17, 11:18 AM
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    MU - well done on getting the PIP form sorted and I hope things level out for you soon.

    Dandy - you sound like me. I really enjoy going away but love the feeling of comfort when I get home, the flat being clean gives me a great sense of calm (no matter how much I ache) and I miss IzHe when he's not there but find myself craving some peace if he's around all the time

    I don't know if anyone's in contact with WaS but I hope everything's alright with her. There seem to be a few MIAs at the moment. Big hugs and squishes to all and I hope everyone's okay.
    • dekaspace
    • By dekaspace 27th Jul 17, 6:16 PM
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    Had bad hay fever for past week or two of course at worse when we had that heatwave a few days ago so been more exhausted than usual then had the work trial meaning I felt even worse.


    Whats on my mind now was I have been in the area almost 38 months now and since day one noticed in town centre next to station the local hang out of drunks and junkies who are well known and banned from many local shops and from buying drink from off licenses.


    I lived here since Christmas and noticed since day one chav/junkie stereotypes jamming the back door open to block and I used to close it when I first moved in as thought people just forgot but was subjected to mouthful of abuse from (ironically enough) toothless chavs.


    Apart from that most that came round were friendly and you never had any noise, at least heard from my flat but about 3 months ago noticed a massive increase in rough people hanging around outside my flat or outside the building, and noticed many were the well known junkies and alcoholics who were banned from town centre shops (and been a victim of threats in Subway 2 months ago though they didn't recognise me)


    What I found out is they are banned from using that dark alley anymore, so I assume they are coming round to my neighbours, meaning I hear at weekends people trying to kick on back door, or loud drunk/high people screaming upstairs to get in at all hours of night, or people ringing my buzzer anytime from 8pm Friday/Saturday night through to 6am the next morning demanding to get in.


    Writing this as though I cope with it, I feel like it may escalate and having well known substance abusers who are also known for stealing from shops, and a few weeks back having someone peering through my windows on a Saturday night and fleeing when he saw me I worry for the future.


    So wanted a bit of feedback.
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 27th Jul 17, 6:37 PM
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    Is it a Housing Association block? If so, you could tell them what's going on?
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    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 27th Jul 17, 8:40 PM
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    101 and report antisocial behaviour.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • dekaspace
    • By dekaspace 27th Jul 17, 8:47 PM
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    It's council, what I was thinking is as theres no set time limit and often the arguments are random by time police come round they may of dispersed each time that and I was tolerating it as everyday noise, and just put my buzzer on silent at nighttime and tell friends if they want to come round knock my living room window


    Most of it is like a few meet at back door and talk for a few minutes, leave, come back, leave again


    Which makes me think why so many people coming and going at all hours.


    The glass on back door (thick door with about 10 individual pieces of plastic/glass) has been kicked in on many areas, and theres obvious damage to a lot of door, it doesn't even shut right without force though has been like that since I moved in, You can pull it shut with a lot of force and it locks but when you press the door release button you have to use a lot of force to open it.


    I am a anxious person so its hard to tell what I should tolerate but I would assume people would agree that people, well known junkies and thieves at that would make most people paranoid.
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 27th Jul 17, 8:53 PM
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    Gingernutty's suggestion sounds good.......you could have a word with someone, tell them all that, and see what they suggest.

    If it's drug dealers, the sooner it's stopped, the better.

    You could ask for strict anonymity.
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    • dekaspace
    • By dekaspace 27th Jul 17, 9:01 PM
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    Well one of the regulars is this guy who for first year of living in town I saw around 5pm every day with about 10 cans of Special Brew type cider and so staggering about he had to hold himself up, this was every day.


    A few times saw him drunk 10am with a kid around 5 and again 10 cans of cider in his bag effing and blinding at the kid for wanting to play then trying to blag free bus travel for him and his kid from bus driver (Im assuming shes in care and he had random access)


    Saw him often downing cans and chucking them in road, and a few weeks back was in Subway and he tried nicking a drink, and when was caught hid at side then pocketed dozens of milks and sugars, then got on same bus as me so steaming drunk he screamed at bus driver as he couldn't keep his balance, then when got off had a wad of cash in his hand (£200-£500 in 20s)


    A hour later saw him walking into my block.
    • jobbingmusician
    • By jobbingmusician 27th Jul 17, 11:19 PM
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    I'm off on holiday for the next 10 days, so have a good time all, while I'm gone! xxxxx
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    • whitewing
    • By whitewing 27th Jul 17, 11:42 PM
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    deka, I think if he is so drunk and has a young child you should just phone 999. You could also tell them about previous occasions when you have seen him with a roll of notes. Perhaps say that you don't want to give your name. If you know the town has cctv that would cover the interaction with the child, then state that at the time.

    Please don't assume someone else will report it. Everyone thinks that and that is why some youngsters are let down so badly.
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    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 28th Jul 17, 2:30 AM
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    WaS where are you? i hope your'e ok

    I've started taking my anti-d again, felt too low without it. Should probably see my GP (in 3 weeks time)
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    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 28th Jul 17, 11:15 AM
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    JM - have a fabulous holiday!!

    Deka - As others have said, give 101 a call and see what they say. Also, as WW pointed out, a lot of people don't report things like that because they presume someone else will have done.

    MU - I hope you manage to get an appointment in a bit less than 3 weeks!!

    I can't begin to express how happy I am that it's the weekend and that IzHe and I have very little planned. This week's been utterly manic at work, which is admittedly a lot better than my usual levels of boredom, and I'm looking forward to being able to switch off for a couple of days.

    Hugs and squishes to all xx
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 28th Jul 17, 10:38 PM
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    I feel bad.

    I went to a choir concert on Wednesday and agreed with my friend (choir member) to go to a pub to listen to a band tonight.

    She mentioned them on FaceAche and was enthusiastic about them so I agreed to go and meet her there.

    Today, she cried off as they have an early start tomorrow and needed to get to bed early.

    I went anyway. I arrived late, knew no-one else and had a drink (cola) while the bamd finished tbe first set.

    And stood like a lemon being completely ignored as they played loud music and prepared for the second set.

    After less than 20 minutes there, knowing absolutely no-one else and unable to hear conversation, I left.

    I don't do pubs, loud music or complete strangers.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
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