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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 5:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5320917&page=501

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/news/family/2016/03/martin-lewis-launches-new-money--mental-health-policy-institute

    http://blog.moneysavingexpert.com/2016/05/16/the-money-and-mental-health-policy-institute-whatll-it-really-do

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/credit-cards/mental-health-guide
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 10:29 AM.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

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    • dekaspace
    • By dekaspace 24th Jun 17, 12:30 AM
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    dekaspace
    Hmmm ADD, I was told by a psychologist he thought I had it back in 2002, but the waiting list was 6 months for the initial check to see if you got further appointments, and took in total around 2 years to get an assessment and at any time they could say they thought you didn't have it so left it.


    And after I had my autism assessment in 2012 I assumed I had that instead.


    But I hear either you can have both or one is misdiagnosed as another, certainly I am told my autism is so high functioning I am almost "normal"


    Someone mentioned a few pages back it sounds like I have it.


    On subject of sleep both times I was in bed around this time woke up for different reasons first was druggie/alcoholic knocking on the front door for my block and as my bed is against the wall where the door is it woke me, he knocked for 30 minutes and took me another 30 to get back to sleep so still woke up around 11


    Last night was in bed at 12.40 woke up 2.30 desperate for bathroom and at same time realised I had not taken my hay fever tablet, went back to bed but was too awake for about a hour so got up and put computer on, did drift a bit but looked at clock ant it was 6.30am! rushed to bed woke at 10.30 by phone but didn't get to it in time back to bed and woke up for good at 12.30


    So technically I got 7-8 hours sleep but out of sync.
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 24th Jun 17, 7:06 AM
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    Pyxis
    I was misdiagnosed for years as having depression, which I later found out is a symptom of adult ADHD. It's no wonder you get depressed when you can't work out why you are a 'misfit' and not functioning in quite the same way as other people!

    Needless to say, none of the anti-depressants I was put on did any good at all, and one actually led to me having a breakdown.

    At the time, NHS diagnosis wasn't available even for children, so I saw a Consultant privately, so no long-drawn-out waiting.
    Once diagnosed, the medication was prescribed by my GP, though, on the instructions of the Consultant.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

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    • elsien
    • By elsien 24th Jun 17, 8:16 AM
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    elsien
    De as pace, I recall being told by a psychologist a few years ago that a lot of people with autism also have add/adhd, although I don't recall the figures.

    Off out now to agility with Gitdog - need to drag someone along to take photos of his athletic prowess. Or more accurately, his sunbathing if it's a sunny day.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • * sorry *
    • By * sorry * 24th Jun 17, 10:02 AM
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    * sorry *
    I apologise
    I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing posting this or not, please get the mods to remove it if not!

    I owe you all on this thread a huge apology due to my antics on here, and I just wanted to say firstly, I'm sorry, and secondly, please don't stop posting, or worry that he's going to come back and make more stupid AEs (he is a she btw) In fact, I'm outta here after this.

    (just scroll past this post if you missed the shenanigans over the past few days)

    I do have a few 'issues' myself, not that that's an excuse, but I need to address these. I think Pyxis responses made me see that. I thought I was being pithy/cheeky/humorous but I now think what I did was totally inappropriate for a thread which has become some people's 'sanctuary'

    I'm really sorry Waves and Smiles for disrupting your thread, and Penitent, for antagonising you, both here and in The Arms!


    I know this is probably a bit random on a Saturday morning.. internet pest coming in and apologising, but I just wanted you all to know I really regret those posts and usernames and I hope no-one had a bad reaction to it.


    Have a nice weekend
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 24th Jun 17, 1:26 PM
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    Pyxis
    I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing posting this or not, please get the mods to remove it if not!

    I owe you all on this thread a huge apology due to my antics on here, and I just wanted to say firstly, I'm sorry, and secondly, please don't stop posting, or worry that he's going to come back and make more stupid AEs (he is a she btw) In fact, I'm outta here after this.

    (just scroll past this post if you missed the shenanigans over the past few days)

    I do have a few 'issues' myself, not that that's an excuse, but I need to address these. I think Pyxis responses made me see that. I thought I was being pithy/cheeky/humorous but I now think what I did was totally inappropriate for a thread which has become some people's 'sanctuary'

    I'm really sorry Waves and Smiles for disrupting your thread, and Penitent, for antagonising you, both here and in The Arms!


    I know this is probably a bit random on a Saturday morning.. internet pest coming in and apologising, but I just wanted you all to know I really regret those posts and usernames and I hope no-one had a bad reaction to it.


    Have a nice weekend
    Originally posted by * sorry *
    Well, 'Sorry', that was very brave of you.
    Apologising is never easy, but it does show that you can be a bigger person, so I for one am happy to accept your apology.

    However, if we can be of any help, support-wise, with your issues, even if we are just being an ear, don't stop posting. People do strange things when they are under a lot of stress, or have other problems going back years, and the internet can be the modern way of 'kicking the dog' when bad feelings get too strong.

    However, you have realised that real people are involved in that 'kicking', and that is really good, because you have proved you do have some empathy for others, and that they are people, not just words on a screen.

    Good on you.

    I hope you will stay, but if you really don't feel you can, I wish you all the best.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, P.P..
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    • dekaspace
    • By dekaspace 24th Jun 17, 3:27 PM
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    dekaspace
    I was misdiagnosed for years as having depression, which I later found out is a symptom of adult ADHD. It's no wonder you get depressed when you can't work out why you are a 'misfit' and not functioning in quite the same way as other people!

    Needless to say, none of the anti-depressants I was put on did any good at all, and one actually led to me having a breakdown.

    At the time, NHS diagnosis wasn't available even for children, so I saw a Consultant privately, so no long-drawn-out waiting.
    Once diagnosed, the medication was prescribed by my GP, though, on the instructions of the Consultant.
    Originally posted by Pyxis

    There never is a perfect answer, back when I was 18 I told doctor I was depressed so he gave me anti depressants which at most took edge off but still was heavily anxious, as I keep saying chicken and egg with me as each thing bleeds into something else.


    I was always feeling like a misfit as you call it which made me anxious but loved the small things in life like watching a movie or going for a walk to park, or reading a book, these days don't even have that despite having a tablet and computer and access to so much, again a chicken and egg as I have so much I don't just get stuck in and feel like as im not feeling it then it must be because I have something better available.


    So everything in my life is chicken and egg when in past it just came naturally.
    • elsien
    • By elsien 25th Jun 17, 4:11 PM
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    elsien
    WaS, if you're hovering I know how much the heat knocks you for six so am hoping now it's cooler things will be slightly more bearable for you.

    Saturday morning agility. Trainer explains it's my fault himself is being useless as he's looking to me for direction which I'm not giving him. That'll be because he never takes any notice of me the rest of the time so I have no expectations whatsoever about being the focus of his undivided attention.
    In his initial burst of enthusiasm he goes over the 5 ft A frame twice without having to be physically hauled over. Sun comes out, concentration of a gnat gets tired and by the end of the hour he's looking at the jumps with his best "you're having a bloody laugh" expression. Kept everyone except me amused

    I now also realise just how unfit I've got having huffed and puffed my way round the course.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • calleyw
    • By calleyw 25th Jun 17, 6:03 PM
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    calleyw
    Afternoon my Lovelies,

    Hugs and squishes all round.

    Had an eye test today. Guess what I need glasses for close work so reading and computer work. That was £59 I had not budgeted on spending this week end!

    Oh well only money.

    Hope everyone is coping better in this cooler weather.

    Everyone take care.

    Yours

    Calley X
    Hope for everything and expect nothing!!!

    Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz

    If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 26th Jun 17, 6:04 PM
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    xXMessedUpXx
    I sweare everything happens at once. First i get a letter telling me its PIP renewal time (that should be ok as i'm going to get proper help with it) then i get a letter off tax credits basically asking if im in a realtionnship with tw@tty washing up liquid housemate! So those need chasing up, still need a doctors appointment still need to ring dvla. I've basically managed none of the above today.

    Shall try and sort everything tomorrow.

    Also for the next weeks i have £40 a week to live on. If i can stick to that i should have £500 of my £2000 overdraft paid off (well i'm going to owe it to Swain instead but means less interest charges and hes letting me pay it back when its all sorted over time)
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
    To see the rainbow you need both the sun and the rain to make its colours appear
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    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 26th Jun 17, 6:11 PM
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    Gingernutty
    Awww. You caught a good'un there MU.

    I got a call from the nurse prescriber who told me that the consultant has OK'd a prescription for ADHD meds.

    She's sent the fax to my GP practice and I've booked a doctor's appointment to be referred for tests to rule out underlying problems.

    This is big stuff......
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 27th Jun 17, 3:25 PM
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    xXMessedUpXx
    Awww. You caught a good'un there MU.

    I got a call from the nurse prescriber who told me that the consultant has OK'd a prescription for ADHD meds.

    She's sent the fax to my GP practice and I've booked a doctor's appointment to be referred for tests to rule out underlying problems.

    This is big stuff......
    Originally posted by Gingernutty
    Aye he's a good un

    Hopefully thats a step forward for you

    i've managed to make a doctors appointment (even if the phone line said they were closed so i had to go in person), i;ve rang dvla and they are sending me forms and i'm waiting to hear back on help with pip renewal .

    Now i plan to chill for the rest of the afternoon
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
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    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 27th Jun 17, 4:56 PM
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    fax
    Originally posted by Gingernutty
    Have I just clicked the 1995 edition of this topic
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 27th Jun 17, 5:15 PM
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    Pyxis
    Have I just clicked the 1995 edition of this topic
    Originally posted by onomatopoeia99
    I still use my fax. Mostly for instructing a building society to make a payment out of a savings account. They won't allow emails for obvious reasons, or verbal instructions over the phone.
    It's too far away for me to go in person.

    It works well.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
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    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 27th Jun 17, 6:36 PM
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    Gingernutty
    Not every GP practice has an nhs.net account which is considered the only secure way to email stuff.

    So many parts of the NHS still use fax machines.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 27th Jun 17, 8:04 PM
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    xXMessedUpXx
    i went swimming first time in quite a while

    it was relaxing (and knackering).

    i hope everyone is ok, special shout out to those who've not been on for a while, hope you're ok too *hugs and squishes*)
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
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    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 27th Jun 17, 11:36 PM
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    Good luck with the meds gingernutty

    Messedup the old style board has good threads for eating/living on a very tight budget so it might be an idea to look there for managing with £40

    I've been out charity shopping the last two days as it gets me out of the house, makes me walk, and doesn't break the bank buying clothes
    I dug out my diary and checked my weight in October when my meds were put up to a higher dosage and I've put 10lbs on since then they also aren't helping so much anymore so I've started reducing the dose so I can switch to a different one. It might be a rollercoaster getting there, but I'm feeling pretty positive that it's the right thing to do.
    • calleyw
    • By calleyw 28th Jun 17, 10:23 AM
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    calleyw
    Morning my Lovelies,

    Hugs and squishes and handshakes all round for all. Its nice cool in the fort today.

    Rained here last night. My pots needed it as they where as dry as a bone even though I have been watering them. My water butt has some water in it will check it out later.

    I know self diagnose is not always a good idea. But I have had a physical issue for a at least a couple of months. Seems I have achilles tendonitis

    Which is a massive pain as I walk twice a day both to walk dog and for me to get some exercise. So have taken a break this week of walking the dog and trying some stretches if no better in a couple of weeks off to the dr. not sure what they can really do. But that messes up the plans I had to start walking further and taking up couch to 5k!!!!!

    Food shopping done and now I will potter about today. As not got any plans. Well apart from popping to see my mum.

    Everyone take care.

    Yours

    Calley X
    Hope for everything and expect nothing!!!

    Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz

    If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin
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