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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 5:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5320917&page=501

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/news/family/2016/03/martin-lewis-launches-new-money--mental-health-policy-institute

    http://blog.moneysavingexpert.com/2016/05/16/the-money-and-mental-health-policy-institute-whatll-it-really-do

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/credit-cards/mental-health-guide
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 10:29 AM.
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    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 6th Jul 17, 9:44 AM
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    MU, I'm glad things are calming down a bit for you. As well as keeping them separate, is there any way you can put them in different packaging/stick something to the packets so that it's obvious which is which?

    I'm at the stage of the month where I really hate being female. Despite knowing that it's only the hormones talking I'm in a massive grump, hate everyone (although nobody quite so much as myself), keep being tetchy with IzHe and am swinging between wanting to cry and wanting to punch things/people. Ah, the joys... Oh well, at least it'll go away in a couple of days.

    I hope everyone's keeping well xx
    • calleyw
    • By calleyw 6th Jul 17, 10:59 AM
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    Morning my lovelies,

    Hugs ans squishes and handshakes all round. And extras for the MIA's hope you are ok.

    I live among a strange lot. Bins are collected tomorrow and they are suppose to be collected from 7am onwards. The first bin was put out 10.45am today!!!!! This is a regular thing not just someone going away.

    Just when I though I had a handle on my achilles tendonitis. The lump on the back of my heel had gone down. its come back again

    Back to square one again. Need to take the dog out in a min but it will be a very slow walk. Its annoying as I wanted to up my exercise to try and get fit and in the process loose some weight.

    So can't do any running or jumping around at the moment. Seems cycling and swimming are the exercises to do. Can hardly take the dog out for a walk on my bike. And really don't want to been seen in a swim suit.

    MU glad that you have sorted it. But please be careful. And it wont hurt to see the dr.

    Looks like its going to be warm again today so keep your fluid intake up.

    Everyone take care

    Yours

    Calley X
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    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 6th Jul 17, 11:16 AM
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    And really don't want to been seen in a swim suit.
    Originally posted by calleyw
    Calleyw my DH feels the same (he's just over 22st), but he's discovered that if he gets to the pool 30-40 mins before it shuts then it's almost empty. Also quite often they've already cashed up the till so they just wave him in for free!
    • calleyw
    • By calleyw 6th Jul 17, 11:40 AM
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    Calleyw my DH feels the same (he's just over 22st), but he's discovered that if he gets to the pool 30-40 mins before it shuts then it's almost empty. Also quite often they've already cashed up the till so they just wave him in for free!
    Originally posted by dandy-candy
    Dandy,

    Thanks for that. Mind you for me its the whole thing of changing afterwards as well.

    I did say to my partner that what I would do is put my cossie on and go down in my dressing gown. No need to get changed and just do the same to come back

    Yours

    Calley
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    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 6th Jul 17, 11:58 AM
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    Can hardly take the dog out for a walk on my bike.
    Originally posted by calleyw
    I quite often see people on bikes walking/running dogs along the seafront. I know that it wouldn't work if you had to turn corners but I've always thought it looks like a great way to give a dog a good run at a speed you couldn't manage on foot.

    I've also seen someone on a skateboard letting the dog pull them along

    I hope the tendonitis clears up again soon.
    • calleyw
    • By calleyw 6th Jul 17, 12:34 PM
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    I quite often see people on bikes walking/running dogs along the seafront. I know that it wouldn't work if you had to turn corners but I've always thought it looks like a great way to give a dog a good run at a speed you couldn't manage on foot.

    I've also seen someone on a skateboard letting the dog pull them along

    I hope the tendonitis clears up again soon.
    Originally posted by Izadora
    I tend to go over fields and along the canal. So its not so easy. And then jumping off to pick up the poo.

    A few years a go at seaside town I thought this young woman was walking her cat Nope turned out to be a rabbit on a lead

    Yours


    Calley X
    Hope for everything and expect nothing!!!

    Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz

    If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin
    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 6th Jul 17, 1:27 PM
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    A few years a go at seaside town I thought this young woman was walking her cat Nope turned out to be a rabbit on a lead
    Originally posted by calleyw
    Where I used to live, there was a woman whose cat came along of its own accord when she walked her dog
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    • jobbingmusician
    • By jobbingmusician 6th Jul 17, 2:02 PM
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    Love your new avatar, Ono!
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    • whitewing
    • By whitewing 6th Jul 17, 3:39 PM
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    If I go swimming, I wrap my towel around me and leave it by the side of the pool. No one has ever complained, probably because the prospect of me without it is worse. In the water, I always keep submerged to my neck!

    What about aquaerobics, calley? I always enjoyed that.
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    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 6th Jul 17, 4:24 PM
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    Finally had a day were I ate something without terrible cramps and rushing to the loo (sorry if tmi) Still not sure if it was a tummy bug or part of my citalopram withdrawal, but just glad it's gone

    When I had my mammogram last month the consultant mentioned how important it is to have a correctly fitting bra. I wasn't sure if it was a general comment or directed at me. I've been wearing the same ones for years and have put on a good stone and a half since I bought them but stupidly it never occurred to me that my size might have changed! I finally went out yesterday and got a new one and was shocked to find I'm no longer a C cup, but a DD I'm hoping if I get a grip on my eating they will get smaller
    Health penguin my mum died of breast cancer. She had a huge bust and didn't notice the lump until it was the size of a plum stone. I dread the thought of getting a big bust incase I miss something too penguin end

    I'm going out tomorrow to an exhibition and I'm a bit nervous about the crowd situation. DD is coming again this year but DH is going to come too and drive so I don't have to face public transport and can "escape" quickly if it all gets too much! Fingers crossed tummy behaves for me
    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 6th Jul 17, 5:21 PM
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    Dandy, enjoy the exhibition and hopefully you won't feel the need to escape for any reason.

    I often think that, even with the pain/tiredness/everything else that you get, worrying about needing to go and not knowing where the toilets are is probably the worst thing about IBS/having an upset stomach for an extended period of time.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 6th Jul 17, 6:23 PM
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    Do you live near me ono
    I end up with anything from 1 to all 4 with me when I walk the dogs.

    Today no better
    Cal is aware of today's reason to shout am exhausted and not in best of moods so happy niece moved to sat
    Though I am supposed to be being beautified at some point over weekend by other niece

    Giving up
    OH is an idiot
    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 7th Jul 17, 11:45 AM
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    Melly, I hope you manage to get your beautifying at the weekend. You really deserve/need someone doing something nice for you and if there's anything any of us can do to help then just holler.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 7th Jul 17, 1:30 PM
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    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 7th Jul 17, 2:18 PM
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    Hi all,
    Back from the show. We got there as soon as it opened so it wasn't too busy, but it was getting very uncomfortable when we left. Huge freebie goodie bags, lots of tasters and tummy behaved

    Having a bed rest now to unwind and also drinking lots of water. I'm trying to get back into knitting but keep dropping stitches I think my fingers have forgotten what to do!
    Melly your pic hasn't loaded properly, I'm guessing it's something lovely and furry
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 7th Jul 17, 7:49 PM
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    Got the shakes and upset. Penguin sick animal
    Just seen a missed call on my phone from the local vets and its got me all stressed and angry. I found a hedgehog in my garden a few weeks ago acting strange (first one I've seen in 20 years) and I wasn't sure if he was injured. I tried both the office and mobile number of the nearest wildlife sanctuary and couldn't get a reply. I rang the local vets and asked if they could look at it and check he was ok and they said to leave it with them and the vet would look at it when he had a moment. I dropped it off and said I'd pick him up later to release him back where I found him.
    The vet called later and said it had a broken jaw and puncture wound like something had attacked it and he thought he'd best put it to sleep. I said would it be worth trying the sanctuary again and he said that his vet group dealt with the sanctuary anyway so not much point. I said I don't interfere with wildlife normally but he said its injury meant it would have had a slow painful death, so it was for the best I had bought it in.
    Anyway they have no reason to ring me but I know from past dealings that they make billing calls on Fridays and I'm actually wondering if they are going to have the audacity to bill me for putting the hedgehog to sleep?! It's really stressing me out and if it is that then I'm appalled because being made to pay for an injured wild animal seems not only morally wrong, but will put me off trying to get help for one in the future which means next time another one might have to suffer a slow and painful death. I'm so upset and angry. I really don't know if I should call them tomorrow or see when they next call me. Probably best to call them but I hate hate hate confrontation, but I don't think it right that I should pay either. So upset now

    Penguin end
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 7th Jul 17, 7:56 PM
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    Dandy, don't worry.

    Vets are obliged to treat wild animals and not charge the person who brings them in.

    I took a bird to mine once, and was told that. I nursed it at home and took it in twice more for check-ups, all with no charge.

    You phoned them and they said to bring it in. If they had been going to charge you, they would have said there and then, but as I've said, they are obliged to treat wild animals brought to them, so please don't worry.
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    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 7th Jul 17, 7:59 PM
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    Oh I hope so Pyxis. They're quite a money grabbing bunch there and I just can't think of any other reason they'd have to call me as we don't have any pets anymore.
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 7th Jul 17, 8:02 PM
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    Found this on an RSPCA thing:

    "To ensure treatment is available for all sick or injured wild animals, we have an agreement with the British Veterinary Association (BVA).
    This Memorandum of Understanding clarifies the arrangements between vets in private practices and the RSPCA regarding Initial Emergency Treatments (IETs).
    It states that:
    • During practice hours small wild mammals and wild birds should be treated free of charge if they are brought to a veterinary surgery. Vets are obliged by their professional code to provide any necessary pain relief or euthanasia.
    • Out of practice hours, or if a larger wild animal is involved e.g. a deer, the RSPCA will contribute to the cost of the IET or euthanasia."

    Elsewhere it says that vets aren't obliged to give long courses of treatment, just obliged to relieve suffering. Courses of treatment would be undertaken by wildlife centres/sanctuaries, etc., which is fair enough.
    Last edited by Pyxis; 07-07-2017 at 8:04 PM.
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    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 7th Jul 17, 8:05 PM
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    Omg Pyxis you are a marvel. I'm actually in tears here reading that, I can't thank you enough. I have a leg to stand on now if they try charging me! A million hugs to you, it had me so upset. Not what I needed just after coming off my meds! Xx
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