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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 5:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5320917&page=501

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/news/family/2016/03/martin-lewis-launches-new-money--mental-health-policy-institute

    http://blog.moneysavingexpert.com/2016/05/16/the-money-and-mental-health-policy-institute-whatll-it-really-do

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/credit-cards/mental-health-guide
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 10:29 AM.
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    • faerielight
    • By faerielight 15th May 17, 7:42 PM
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    thanks Polly I didn't have it out with the GP today, but she has finally agreed to prescribe me the steroid kit so that's a relief
    Many thanks to all who contribute on MSE
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 15th May 17, 8:01 PM
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    pollyanna 26
    Faerie as promised earlier my thoughts on things . Just my view and meant kindly .
    As I mentioned earlier I have read through the various threads with all the information re the will and your hope for a secure roof in the future .
    In view of the complexity of the situation the 500.000 additional burden added on the main home and the state of disrepair , additionally not knowing if the work that has needed doing on the property abroad will be reclaimable by your uncle as he has had to deal with that and you do not know if that was funded by your mother or he is owed that it will I imagine be a very lengthy process to sort out .
    I know you are grateful your uncle took on the fight to restore your rightful legacy despite the threats . Whatever the situation between you both treasure that one good and brave deed whether it was for your mother or you or maybe a mixture of both .

    You are better leaving the whole thing firmly in the hands of the solicitor for now . I can't ask you not to stress , plan or ponder the future but until the final figures are calculated try to shift your focus to the things that may be possible in the here and now .

    Two things that stand out to me are the fact you somehow need to access proper physical support - rather like WaSs Bubbly Bulldozer .I'm aware you have some hours of physical in home personal care but you need the type that understands the system for proper nhs care , dwp and day to day issues .

    I'm aware it's like searching for a needle in a haystack but it does still exist I assure you and it may take some searching but try the websites and advice online for the charities and voluntary organisations connected to any or all of your conditions .

    The second thing is the obvious need for decent GP treatment . That is where a decent support worker can help and even act as an advocate on your behalf .

    I know it's a big challenge but may be more productive than dwelling on the outcome of the will .

    We have had two outstanding GPs caring for my daughter but we have also had to work over the years to educate reception staff , hospitals , clinics and two consultants in a different way to deal with complex physical and mental health conditions which has not only helped my DD but other patients too as a result of challenging the so called "Norm"
    Apologies for the long post and to the rest of the posters here.

    pollyx
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 16th May 17, 1:15 AM
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    mellymoo74
    OH has a leak today's scan showed so back into theatre he goes tomorrow

    He was on form this evening he has promised to not be so grumpy when he has come home lol.
    Also asked repeatedly whether one of the nephews had been in, this nephew was there the first day and has been in a good 5 times but OH can't remember any of it.
    He told his sister he loved her and she told him so that was good.

    I am still hanging on, have a chat about a job tomorrow yes the timing sucks but it's walking distance and OH will be in for 4 or 5 months so needed.
    Last edited by mellymoo74; 16-05-2017 at 1:18 AM.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 16th May 17, 1:18 AM
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    And yes I'm still restricting
    I got a dinner made for me yesterday and a pizza bought for me today.

    Also lots of nagging from sister in law
    Will be OK gonna try docs again
    • heartbreak_star
    • By heartbreak_star 16th May 17, 10:49 AM
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    heartbreak_star
    Good luck melly - to OH for op and to you with the job! Sis-in-law is nagging for your own good haha.

    Well yesterday was a bit rubbish. Got told my lab has lost so much funding in the last year that we don't have the money for myself and a couple of others to have our contracts renewed. And so the job search begins again...

    HBS x
    I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 16th May 17, 10:54 AM
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    He's got the nurse to call to check I'm OK as I didn't call last night

    Lots of road closures due to the bomb scare

    Tired and face broken out
    • heartbreak_star
    • By heartbreak_star 16th May 17, 11:03 AM
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    heartbreak_star
    Bomb scare? Yikes!!

    Must be something in the air, my face ain't great atm either

    HBS x
    I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 16th May 17, 11:08 AM
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    Started yesterday is a word war 2 bomb

    Stress and no vits is my problem I think.
    Bloody stupid brain
    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 16th May 17, 3:28 PM
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    onomatopoeia99
    Good luck for the job melly and best wishes to your OH. Good luck with job hunting to hbs as as well.

    I've just resigned from all my committees and involvement with events for my hobby, Saturday basically did me in, I got home and could barely stay awake (probably shouldn't have been driving if I'm honest, I was that tired) and was in bed by 8.30pm. Also had to take yesterday as leave as I was still too exhausted to work, while the painkillers have reduced the number of night-time wakeups, I'm still struggling too much in the evenings and at weekends and can't keep up with the correspondence, never mind the 6am starts for events, so I've had to knock it all on the head.
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    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 16th May 17, 4:02 PM
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    Izadora
    Good luck with the job hunting Melly and HBS.

    Ono, sorry you've had to give up your involvement with events and hopefully your pain gets better soon. Can you still enjoy the hobby as a spectator or is it not the same as being fully involved?
    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 16th May 17, 8:18 PM
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    I might attend some as a spectator, I know lots of people involved and have done for 25 years plus in some cases so it's always good to catch up. Had a really nice email back from one of the committee chairmen supporting my decision to resign and offering to help with anything that I couldn't do due to the movement problems that my shoulder is causing me.

    Code, thinking of you.

    Tea, how's the new job going, if you've started?

    Think I'm going to have a hot chocolate and a painkiller and go to bed.
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    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 17th May 17, 12:27 AM
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    xXMessedUpXx
    Some good news, got my smear test results-i got the all clear! The HPV thats showed up last time has gone! and don't have to have another till 2020!

    I finally spoke to the lovely Occ Health lady and sge wrote a report saying no more than 6 hours per shift and recommends i have fixed days! My manager is on holiday till sunday but i'll hopefully be dicussing which days then.

    Oh and i'm currently on a crisp ban, well, i'm allowing myself one bag a day as a treat but no more than that, and no takeaways. Its Swain's birthday on thirsday so i'm currently going mad trying to find him presents, (have a few already but need to find a few more)
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
    To see the rainbow you need both the sun and the rain to make its colours appear
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    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 17th May 17, 9:45 AM
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    Izadora
    Had a really nice email back from one of the committee chairmen supporting my decision to resign and offering to help with anything that I couldn't do due to the movement problems that my shoulder is causing me.
    Originally posted by onomatopoeia99
    That's really nice of them and at least you know it's an option if you find you miss it too much.

    Some good news, got my smear test results-i got the all clear!
    Originally posted by xXMessedUpXx
    Yay, good news. Thank you as well cos it's reminded me that I need to book mine. I was meant to do it last month and forgot.
    • heartbreak_star
    • By heartbreak_star 17th May 17, 10:26 AM
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    It sounds odd, but I LOVE hearing people are booking and have gone for their smear tests. I know too many people who think it's painful or find it undignified...it's like "guys, it's five minutes and it could save your life".

    Well done ladies!

    HBS x
    I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 17th May 17, 11:11 PM
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    It sounds odd, but I LOVE hearing people are booking and have gone for their smear tests. I know too many people who think it's painful or find it undignified...it's like "guys, it's five minutes and it could save your life".

    Well done ladies!

    HBS x
    Originally posted by heartbreak_star
    It took me 5 years to summon the courage to go, for me ironically it was the fear of beind tole i had cancer that frightened me most, but after a friend went to hers and then they found pre cancerous cells it spurred me on to get it done. I did have a panic attack the first time but Swain bought me a Pikachu from build a bear :P as a reward for being brave. This time round was so much easier. I just whipped my kecks off and it was over in 5 mins.

    Get it done Izadora you'll thank yourself later.
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    • Penitent
    • By Penitent 18th May 17, 11:50 AM
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    My sleep pattern is officially !!!!ed. I seem to have managed to simultanously feel nauseous, dizzy and dissociated--how can I be nauseous if I'm not in my body? Today is not going to be productive.

    Might have a kitchen in two or three weeks, so the living room can be a living room again. At least then I can get out of this room.
    • jobbingmusician
    • By jobbingmusician 18th May 17, 8:59 PM
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    Just checking in briefly. MU - special hugs to you - congratulatory ones! - as it sounds as if your health and return to work are both going really well

    Squish cupboard duly replenished, and here's hoping we will hear from WaS soon. xxxxx
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    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 19th May 17, 3:21 PM
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    Separation anxiety



    Old boy needing a love

    Hospital keeps allowing g OH to go to fast then wonders why he collapses the next day.
    Tired.
    • elsien
    • By elsien 20th May 17, 5:47 PM
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    Next door are "fixing" their car. As far as I can work out this involves playing Eastern European rap very loudly and revving the engine continuously for several hours. As it is parked right outside my house I am not happy.

    Next week is when we should get some more information about where the cut in hours to our contract is coming from. I have hastily rejoined the union and need to rummage out my contract.
    I have also just had the trauma that is clothes shopping as all my summer ones appear to have shrunk. Not one of my better weeks overall this week.
    Hope all are ok?
    Melly, are you taking time for yourself? You do need to so you don't crash and burn.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 20th May 17, 7:43 PM
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    Just tried to explain that to OH
    Not sure it sunk in lol
    I do have list of needs for tomorrow
    On way home now
    Wiped and have animals to sort when I get there
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