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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 5:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5320917&page=501

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/news/family/2016/03/martin-lewis-launches-new-money--mental-health-policy-institute

    http://blog.moneysavingexpert.com/2016/05/16/the-money-and-mental-health-policy-institute-whatll-it-really-do

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/credit-cards/mental-health-guide
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 10:29 AM.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
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    • heartbreak_star
    • By heartbreak_star 17th May 17, 10:26 AM
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    heartbreak_star
    It sounds odd, but I LOVE hearing people are booking and have gone for their smear tests. I know too many people who think it's painful or find it undignified...it's like "guys, it's five minutes and it could save your life".

    Well done ladies!

    HBS x
    I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.

    #JC4PM
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 17th May 17, 11:11 PM
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    xXMessedUpXx
    It sounds odd, but I LOVE hearing people are booking and have gone for their smear tests. I know too many people who think it's painful or find it undignified...it's like "guys, it's five minutes and it could save your life".

    Well done ladies!

    HBS x
    Originally posted by heartbreak_star
    It took me 5 years to summon the courage to go, for me ironically it was the fear of beind tole i had cancer that frightened me most, but after a friend went to hers and then they found pre cancerous cells it spurred me on to get it done. I did have a panic attack the first time but Swain bought me a Pikachu from build a bear :P as a reward for being brave. This time round was so much easier. I just whipped my kecks off and it was over in 5 mins.

    Get it done Izadora you'll thank yourself later.
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
    To see the rainbow you need both the sun and the rain to make its colours appear
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    • jobbingmusician
    • By jobbingmusician 18th May 17, 8:59 PM
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    jobbingmusician
    Just checking in briefly. MU - special hugs to you - congratulatory ones! - as it sounds as if your health and return to work are both going really well

    Squish cupboard duly replenished, and here's hoping we will hear from WaS soon. xxxxx
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    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 19th May 17, 3:21 PM
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    mellymoo74


    Separation anxiety



    Old boy needing a love

    Hospital keeps allowing g OH to go to fast then wonders why he collapses the next day.
    Tired.
    • elsien
    • By elsien 20th May 17, 5:47 PM
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    elsien
    Next door are "fixing" their car. As far as I can work out this involves playing Eastern European rap very loudly and revving the engine continuously for several hours. As it is parked right outside my house I am not happy.

    Next week is when we should get some more information about where the cut in hours to our contract is coming from. I have hastily rejoined the union and need to rummage out my contract.
    I have also just had the trauma that is clothes shopping as all my summer ones appear to have shrunk. Not one of my better weeks overall this week.
    Hope all are ok?
    Melly, are you taking time for yourself? You do need to so you don't crash and burn.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 20th May 17, 7:43 PM
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    mellymoo74
    Just tried to explain that to OH
    Not sure it sunk in lol
    I do have list of needs for tomorrow
    On way home now
    Wiped and have animals to sort when I get there
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 21st May 17, 9:22 AM
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    mellymoo74
    Had a regal tomcat love this morning
    In order to achieve this needed to lock Ty out.

    Pickle ran in and gave tomcat a huuuuge kiss, he gave her a kiss back it was lovely.

    I am about to walk the monkeys then shower and clean for a bit.
    • faerielight
    • By faerielight 21st May 17, 11:01 PM
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    faerielight
    hi guys, i'm slipping into a really dark place, not coping emotionally with all recent events, I'm so lonely , my friend still hasn't been in contact either
    Many thanks to all who contribute on MSE
    • elsien
    • By elsien 21st May 17, 11:58 PM
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    elsien
    Are you not still going to your BPD group, faerie? Isn't there anyone there who can offer a bit of extra support at the moment?
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • faerielight
    • By faerielight 22nd May 17, 12:52 AM
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    Hi Elsein, I'm struggling to go more than once a week, due to being so physically ill, It's frustrating, as it's such a blockage to accessing my mh service I've been stuck mostly in bed, too zapped and ill, and in pain, to get out of the flat , plus I'm feeling particularly agoraphobic recently
    Many thanks to all who contribute on MSE
    • elsien
    • By elsien 22nd May 17, 12:39 PM
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    elsien
    I wouldn't worry about it, Penitent. Always handy to know that I'm not wittering away to myself.
    And while we on the subject, a quick wave at the missing people to say I'm thinking about you and hoping that everything is as ok as it can be when life has thrown you a curveball.
    Faerie, what have you done before when you've felt like this that has eased things a little for you?
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 22nd May 17, 12:42 PM
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    mellymoo74
    No penitent rules on this thread are different

    PALS involved
    ITU allowing OH to over extend himself leading to collapse
    Still hadn't contacted RAID.

    Upstairs still moving out
    Last night they sat on a car park next to my house for an hour
    Were seen by nice neighbour

    Tired
    Took diazapan last night to make sure I slept
    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 22nd May 17, 1:27 PM
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    Izadora
    Penitent, I shouldn't worry, I often do the same. I generally don't know what to say/can't offer practical advice but don't want to 'ignore' people either.

    Big hugs and squishes to all who need them and I hope things start to improve for you soon.

    Completely happy stuff but penguined in case it seems a bit glib when people are suffering:
    Spoiler (highlight below to view):
    It's my last week at work as an unmarried woman!! I tried my dress on again yesterday (with some fantastic shaping underwear that's also really pretty) and it's amazing how much better it looks with completely smooth lines underneath it. I was happyish with how it looked anyway but now just really can't wait for IzHe to see it cos I think he'll love it - bless him, I could probably turn up in a bin bag and he'd still tell me I looked beautiful but it's the first time in pretty much forever that I've put something on and been happy with what I saw in the mirror.
    It's weird because getting married wasn't ever something which was particularly important to me but I'm so excited that in just over 2 weeks IzHe will be my husband.
    • elsien
    • By elsien 22nd May 17, 3:56 PM
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    elsien
    No penitent rules on this thread are different

    PALS involved
    ITU allowing OH to over extend himself leading to collapse
    Still hadn't contacted RAID.

    Upstairs still moving out
    Last night they sat on a car park next to my house for an hour
    Were seen by nice neighbour

    Tired
    Took diazapan last night to make sure I slept
    Originally posted by mellymoo74
    Upstairs moving as in taking themselves elsewhere never to be seen again??? That's great news if that's what's happening.

    Hope you manage to get somewhere to Pals, melly, but bear in mind that part of their role is to protect the organisation from formal complaints so they're not impartial.
    It is ok to take a day off from visiting if you really need to, you know. Can other family stand in for day while you recharge your batteries?
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 22nd May 17, 4:39 PM
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    mellymoo74
    He doesn't want then
    He wants me
    I don't know if he will understand my not going.
    He was upset last time (one of the reasons I want RAID involved to help him understand)

    Told PALS his care is fine it's not taking his mental health into account that's the problem.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 22nd May 17, 8:25 PM
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    mellymoo74
    Not gone up
    Couldn't leave house as furniture has been thrown downstairs again all day
    Also last night means I have another 3 people who need to know where I am at all times as they are concerned for my safety.
    Was her and 3 lads last night.

    Migraine
    And the guilts
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 23rd May 17, 12:35 AM
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    xXMessedUpXx
    Depressive episode is kicking in.

    eurgh.

    went to Swain's last night and just felt utterly crap. Felt guilty for feeling down and generally not feeling able to comunicate or be social. Don;t know how he puts up with me but he does. Heard nothing about this managing bipolar course so booking gp appointment as i feel i'm going to need it.
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
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    • heartbreak_star
    • By heartbreak_star 23rd May 17, 8:50 AM
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    heartbreak_star
    WaS, if you're reading - last night's incident is not your fault.

    I'm so glad my cousin and her kids are OK...and so sad for those who aren't.

    HBS x
    I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.

    #JC4PM
    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 23rd May 17, 9:29 AM
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    Izadora
    MU, I know it's going to be harder than normal to remember this at the moment but it's because he loves you. There's no need to feel guilty, just try not to shut him out too much.

    I hope you manage to get an appointment with the GP to get things sorted.
    • jobbingmusician
    • By jobbingmusician 23rd May 17, 10:30 AM
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    jobbingmusician
    Just wanted to log on to wave at everyone (I'm still reading and I think clicking thanks is a good idea, Penitent - I did that for a while but now just try to post every so often.)

    Special hugs to elsien as I know there is job uncertainty ATM. ((((()))))
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