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    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 31st Dec 15, 6:16 PM
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    Frump to Fab 2016 - Lets make it AWESOME!!!
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    • 31st Dec 15, 6:16 PM
    Frump to Fab 2016 - Lets make it AWESOME!!! 31st Dec 15 at 6:16 PM
    Good afternoon and welcome to our bright shiny new thread full of hope and optimism and new beginnings.

    To the newbies, a big, friendly hello and welcome.

    To our returners - it's good to see you all again.

    To our lurkers - come on.....join in........you know you want to

    So for the newbies......

    What is this fabbing malarkey all about ........

    Well basically it's about turning our lives around, taking control of our destinies and making dreams come true. And it all starts with Fabbing.

    But why "Fabbing".

    What do we mean by that word. Yes I know it's a made up word but it encompasses everything we want to achieve.

    A new fabulous us for our new fabulous lives.

    I think that for many of us "fabbing" is where it starts because so many of us have, at some point, lost our way a bit.

    In a nutshell, somewhere along the way we allowed ourselves to become frumpy. Maybe we gained a bit too much weight, maybe we stopped looking in the mirror, maybe we just stopped caring about ourselves.

    But this new year is where all that stops.

    A New Year brings a clean slate, a fresh start.

    I want to take this opportunity of wishing you all a Very Happy, Peaceful and Prosperous New Year. Tomorrow take time out to have some fun. Do something that gives you pleasure.

    We start in earnest on January 2nd.

    In the meantime, if you want to make a start then tomorrow take the first step on your journey to Fabdom.

    Step 1. Wear perfume.


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    • Ellsbel
    • By Ellsbel 6th Oct 16, 10:16 AM
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    Hope you have a better night tonight Carmen.
    Very chilly here today so I'm wearing a favourite navy blue sweater with a floral scarf and jeans. I wore my navy boat type shoes to walk with the dog - they're quite smart, with a silver buckle on the front; think it will soon be time to get the boots out though!
    Just having a coffee before a spot of decluttering.
    Hope everyone is well and have a good day all.
    • maman
    • By maman 6th Oct 16, 11:41 AM
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    Chillier here too ellsbel. I've put a navy Jack Wills sweatshirt on with jeans and will probably need a jacket or at least a cardi as well when I go out later. The sweatshirt has lacy sleeves so not as thick as usual ones.


    I've been quite good with fabbing this morning. This is generally the time of year when I stop looking after my feet and legs properly but so far I'm keeping it up. So defuzzing, moisturising and still using a bit of tanning cream.


    In yesterday's paper there was a discussion about what's fashionable for legs. Many of those seen around the fashion shows are still sticking to bare legs even at this time of the year, others wearing sheer tights but not nude. Suggestion was that opaques should be either just 30 denier or go the whole hog and wear thick wool or cotton mix. I think bare legs is OK if you go everywhere in a taxi but not so good for public transport or walking down the street. The flesh coloured look that Kate wears was criticised as a bit frumpy but as everywhere she goes is a bit of a formal occasion then bare legs probably wouldn't be acceptable.


    I thought of you when watching that diabetes programme LL. It was really scary. I couldn't believe that woman having the amputation was in her fifties. She looked 20 years older. The comfort eaters having bariatric surgery were sad too. It's only since joining SW that I've met people who have a psychological relationship with food. For me it was just a case of falling into poor habits and finding some will power and motivation but for them it did seem so linked with depression etc.


    Going to get my nails done later. I feel I should have a break from shellac but it's a dilemma as they look so smart. I'll probably have them cut short as a compromise.


    Have a good day all.
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 6th Oct 16, 11:33 PM
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    Hello lovely ladies.

    I'm another one who wore a navy sweater today.....

    Ellsbell....I think you're right, it's probably best to reduce carbs in stages rather than going at it bull at a gate. So stage 1 might be cutting out sugary stuff and then once you are comfortable with that, then stage 2 would be looking at reducing starches such as grains, white rice, potatoes and some of the starchier root vegetables.

    Some people who try going too quickly have experienced what they call "carb flu" which can be a bit grim.

    Apparently being diabetic is a bit like being an alcoholic. It's a lifetime thing. So yes the idea is to reduce blood sugars as quickly as possible but unfortunately you can't then go back to old habits. Alas, It's a lifetime of vigilance.

    I agree though there seems to be a surprisingly large number of people who have issues around food.

    I think there is also a shocking amount of ignorance, even among the medical profession. Most GPs have no training in nutrition and even some specialist diabetic nurses aren't really very knowledgeable about diet.

    Although like most of us I tried to eat well and make wise food choices It was only when I actually got to see a nutritionist that I began to fully understand the role that Diet plays in health.

    I think that programme was certainly a valiant attempt at shocking people into taking action but I think they missed a golden opportunity to give dietary advice. It did seem that they were just pushing bariatric surgery to save the NHS money.

    I saw the end result of out control diabetes with my mum. I know I am genetically at risk but I not going down that route. Mum developed full blown diabetes in her early 50s. I am 65 and am just starting to struggle with sugar levels so I am lucky in that I have had that extra 15 years.

    However, I am not complacent, that programme was my wake up call. Time for me to get serious. I have not touched anything sugary since. I even threw some chocolate away.........

    On a lighter note, tomorrow is Fab Friday. I shall be out and about so will dress nicely.
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    • Floss
    • By Floss 7th Oct 16, 7:05 AM
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    Morning

    Will be fab-fridaying today in skinny jeans, white converse high-tops, a blue & pink paisley silky tunic, a light pink glittery zip-up cardi and a plain pale blue scarf. DH has to go into his HO so will have a mooch at Cheshire Oaks, then we're off to the Trafford Centre for lunch & crockery-shopping. We know how to live!
    • maman
    • By maman 7th Oct 16, 12:16 PM
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    Morning

    Will be fab-fridaying today in skinny jeans, white converse high-tops, a blue & pink paisley silky tunic, a light pink glittery zip-up cardi and a plain pale blue scarf. DH has to go into his HO so will have a mooch at Cheshire Oaks, then we're off to the Trafford Centre for lunch & crockery-shopping. We know how to live!
    Originally posted by Floss

    That sounds really pretty floss. What sort of crockery are you buying?


    I've been thinking about shoes/footwear after my comments about legs yesterday. Obviously that all applies if you're wearing a skirt. With jeans/trousers I've been thinking about what to wear between sandals and boots at this time of the year. With high tops you can wear socks underneath but what about ordinary Converse (or similar)? I see so many people wearing either just those little liner things or nothing. I'm worried about cold ankles. Any thoughts?


    I'm going to wear the same navy sweatshirt as yesterday. It's not that I'm dirty but I always change into 'house clothes' when I get home so an outfit can stand a few wears usually. I'll do my make up and spray perfume and feel fab!.....even though I'm only going food shopping.
    • chanie
    • By chanie 7th Oct 16, 4:28 PM
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    I've been thinking about shoes/footwear after my comments about legs yesterday. Obviously that all applies if you're wearing a skirt. With jeans/trousers I've been thinking about what to wear between sandals and boots at this time of the year. With high tops you can wear socks underneath but what about ordinary Converse (or similar)? I see so many people wearing either just those little liner things or nothing. I'm worried about cold ankles. Any thoughts?
    Originally posted by maman
    What about some ankle boots?. Mine sit just on the ankle and don't 'feel' like boots, if you know what I mean. I've even worn them with a dress, which is difficult to pull off when you are 5ft!!!

    I've had some rushing around today. I picked up the curtains and hung them, although I had to pop back out to get extra curtain hooks. I also went to Costco and bought an autumn jacket. It's grey, padded and sits on the hips. I've been on the look out for a light jacket for ages and this fits the bill, although it's very much a practical item.
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    • Floss
    • By Floss 7th Oct 16, 7:11 PM
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    Maman I have some red regular Converse too, in summer I wear liners but when it's chillier I wear striped or star-print socks The crockery is to go on our new table when we entertain, we wanted porcelain but it obviously is out of fashion! We need to rethink now, but bought cutlery instead
    • sugarbaby125
    • By sugarbaby125 7th Oct 16, 11:02 PM
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    Hello Ladies,

    It is cold in London now, so my central heating went on yesterday. On Monday it was so hot in London, I was wearing a short sleeve t-shirt and now I have to wrap up in layers, hat, gloves and scarf.

    I have a horrible cold, but I still went to work, as we have a half term for 2 weeks coming up, so I need to work for the 1st 2 weeks of October. Hopefully I will soon be feeling a whole lot better.
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 8th Oct 16, 2:12 PM
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    Good afternoon lovely ladies.

    Getting colder here too, making good use of my new coatigans, they make great "inbetweeners" for when you need an extra layer but aren't ready to wear a coat yet.

    Good news - I have lost a lb this week - well since Wednesday really. After watching that diabetes programme which scared the living daylights out of me I have been vigilant......no sweet stuff, and other than Friday when I had some oven fish and chips, I have not touched any starchy carbs.

    I have not even been tempted. All I have to do is think about those visions of leg amputations and gangrenous feet and my carb cravings just disappear.

    Bought a nice car for DS2 yesterday and I now have his so I am once again a car owner. I did try going car free and gave it 3 months but I did miss the spontaneity of being able to just nip out whenever I wanted.

    Having a bit of A cleaning day today and just going to repot a couple of new saplings I picked up this week. Garden looking neat and tidy now ready to be "put to bed" for winter.

    Right time to get cracking. Have a fab weekend.
    • sugarbaby125
    • By sugarbaby125 9th Oct 16, 11:12 AM
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    Hello Ladies,

    Still got my cold, but did not allow that to interfere with my plans for the weekend. I went to celebrate the 14th Birthday of one of my great nieces yesterday in her home.

    I had a really good time. Good music, great food and good conversation with my Sister and 2 nieces. The teenage friends of my great niece had a great time and her younger sister who is only 7 did her best to be the centre of attention.

    I wore a red sleeveless top, black long pull on skirt, red waterfall cardigan, black scarf and hat with my black leather gloves and my black patent leather Van Dal sling back shoes. No make up or nail polish, but lots of perfume. I was carrying my every day black leather handbag and my patent leather Playboy tote bag.

    The weather has turned warm again in London which I am glad of as I am going out tonight, hopefully to have a really good time dancing my legs off.
    • maman
    • By maman 9th Oct 16, 12:33 PM
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    It's nice and bright here too sugarbaby and about 14 degrees. I didn't expect you to let your cold stop you having a good time.


    on losing that pound LL. Hope you have a good week coming up. Any progress with the bungalow? I'd love to see pics.


    Despite this I decided that it's officially the end of summer here so I've sorted through my clothes and put away all the summery stuff. Since I did MK on my drawers and wardrobes it really is much easier to get through it. I'm not sure I absolutely love everything I have but I'm getting there. A few bits are off to the CS on my next trip and I'm going to monitor carefully that I wear the things I've kept. Obviously some will only be worn occasionally as they're for occasions but I do seem to still have rather a lot.


    Thanks for the advice on shoes/socks/boots. I have ankle boots chanie but was hoping not to have to wear them yet but I think it's time and any purchase of Coverse or similar can wait until the spring. I do love the idea of pretty socks though floss. I tend to wear plain black all the time.


    Although I've got a set of 'best' crockery it only comes out on high days and holidays. If I'm honest just at Christmas. All the rest of the time I have plain, white bone china. The majority of it comes from Wilkos although I have added bits from TKMaxx and I saw some the other day in Home Bargains.
    http://www.wilko.com/all-dinnerware/wilkinson-dinner-set-bone-china-white-12-piece/invt/0308474


    That's a basic set but you can buy pieces individually and add other things. I've got some lovely pasta bowls
    http://www.wilko.com/all-dinnerware/wilko-best-pasta-bowl-bone-china-white-large/invt/0308484
    and acquired other things like a gravy boat and serving dishes along the way.


    We have an octagonal (nips off to count number of sides) art deco table so I never use a cloth just brightly coloured table mats and napkins.


    I went to a local town yesterday to return something to Argos for my DD. While I was there I just had to browse TKMaxx. As well as some towels I bought myself a lovely fine wool, red jumper. It'll be ideal for brightening up a dark jacket or wearing with my black pencil skirt.


    Not much happening her today. DH is busy and has been out since before 8 o'clock so I'm ahead of myself. I've sorted the clothes, got some washing on the line and after lunch I plan to relax with a book. I find it really hard to do nothing but I'm going to force myself.
    • Floss
    • By Floss 9th Oct 16, 3:28 PM
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    Maman just after posting yesterday I went into Sainsbobs and bought a white ribbed 4 place set and a bold floral 4 place set, both porcelain! Happily DH is very happy with my executive decision

    Just pottering in my "hobby room" (really the box room with a table & shelves for all my stuff!) and writing my "presents to make" list listening to Johnny Walker
    • chanie
    • By chanie 9th Oct 16, 9:11 PM
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    floss pleased you managed to get your crockery. I really like Sainsbobs for housewares. It's not somewhere I'd think to look, but when I do, they have nice stuff.

    As you can tell, I'm slightly obsessed with homewares at the moment. Over the past few months, I've bought new bedding for DD, crockery, a bin, drinking glasses, sofas, curtain pole, nets and curtains. It probably doesn't seem a lot, but we've barely bought anything since having the children.

    We went bed shopping this weekend. We've seen a bed we like, but haven't bought it yet, as we need to think about logistics, e.g. decorating before they arrive. MIL donated us her old bed, so it's really old so a new bed is overdue.
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    • sugarbaby125
    • By sugarbaby125 10th Oct 16, 10:58 AM
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    Hello Ladies,

    My cold is almost gone, thank goodness, it was slowing me down.

    I went to the pub last night for a DJ night of dancing. I ran into Wayne on the pavement outside the pub!

    I was wearing a sleeveless cerise pink, v neck Kaleidoscope polyester jersey dress. I wore my black patent Van Dal sling back shoes, my black leather long jacket and my black leather gloves. I layered my perfume with body lotion and body powder. No make up or nail polish. I was carrying my patent leather Osprey handbag.

    I must admit that I would not have had a good night out if Wayne had not stuck by my side most of the night. He is still hoping that I will eventually forgive him and resume our previous relationship, but I am still angry at the careless and thoughtless way he treated me on our last date. I was raised as a Christian and have always considered myself a Christian, but the hardest thing to do well is to 'turn the other cheek' and to 'forgive those who trespass against us'. It was a really loving feeling dancing with Wayne, but it did not make me want to start dating him again, it just reminded me of how good it felt to be in his arms and just what a great sex life I had with him. Great sex is not the be all and the end all of a relationship and it does not make me want to forgive Wayne. How he behaved on our last date was the final straw. How can a middle aged man be so immature? He is still talking about us getting engaged! Then he wonders why I will not answer him, except to tell him he must have gone crazy. He still misses me every day, still checks his phone every day to see if I have called or sent him a text, even though I have told him so many times, that I deleted his number. I feel uncomfortable if I lose my temper because I hate losing control of my emotions because of someone else's negative behaviour towards me. I ultimately have to do what is best not only for me, but for my children as well, so I will be single for a while. I am old enough to know what I want from a relationship and how I deserve to be treated and I am not willing to settle for less.

    I will just have to wait and see if Wayne ever acknowledges just how appallingly he behaved, but let's just say I will not be holding my breath.

    I will continue to enjoy life as an independent, single mature woman.
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 11th Oct 16, 12:07 PM
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    Good morning lovely ladies.

    Good news....have now lost a total of two pounds and two inches off my waist. It's the waist measurements that matter the most because that means I will be reducing visceral fat which is so bad for diabetes.

    Am eating well and no carb cravings. No doing so well with exercise. Been to Physio today she said my shoulders are very stiff - Thats what's adding to the neck pain and headaches. People keep telling me whiplash can take several months so I'll just have to be patient.

    No news on bungalow, the vendor is keeping it open hoping for a higher offer. I've decided to carry on looking and am viewing a townhouse on Thursday.

    I have now got DS2s car so I can start getting out and about again. I'm not driving long distances because I'm still in quite a bit of pain but at least I can manage short hops now. I was starting to get a bit stir crazy.

    Nice dry day but quite chilly. Going to do a nit of domestic godessing this afternoon but first a late breakfast and then a rest.

    DS2 deals up to Jon for a little autum break so hoping to do a few bits round the house and put the garden to bed for the winter, tidy up the sheds etc.

    I think I'll take your lead MAman and have a bit of wardrobe sort out, put the summer stuff away and I will have a bit of a cull whilst I am at it.
    • Floss
    • By Floss 11th Oct 16, 2:28 PM
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    LL & Maman, I had a cull and a sort yesterday - I have finally accepted that the majority of whites don't suit me, and have consigned the hot-climate stuff to the CS. Not that we frequent hot climates often, the last time was 2011 for our honeymoon!

    I also picked up a lovely silver pleated skirt half price in Sainsbobs, that will look fab with black boots & a black top
    • Carmen
    • By Carmen 11th Oct 16, 7:06 PM
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    Good evening ladies,
    Sugar, I'm sure Wayne will get the message eventually, if he is that 'fond' of you he might realise that friends without benefit would be better than lose your friendship all together.

    Chanie, floss, I love mooching about in Sainsbobs home and wear section, the quality and prices are quite good also.

    Twinnie, good luck with the townhouse.

    Lots of clearing up in the gargen has accumulated in a huge pile of rubbish! I think this weekend will be the ideal time for a bonfire as there is lots of rain forcast next week

    It has been quite cold today so, the log burner is alight for the first time since Spring! I was hoping for a mild winter

    Carmen xx
    • sugarbaby125
    • By sugarbaby125 11th Oct 16, 10:09 PM
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    Hello Ladies,

    I am enjoying being at home in the warm, watching recorded TV programmes.

    I did not want to be unkind to Wayne, but he has forced my hand. I will not be talking to him or dancing with him when I run into him in future. I will never be rid of him if I do not cut him off completely. Me being friendly has only made him believe I will eventually change my mind and resume our relationship.

    Found out we finish work on Thursday not Friday. I am so happy to have another day off work. I will have to decide what fun thing to do on Friday.

    I do not have summer clothes and clothes for colder weather. I simply layer my clothes in cold weather.

    LL you are doing so well at not eating carbs, but I must admit I am not willing to give them up, even though both of my parents were diabetic. My Doctor regularly tests my blood for sugar and only once over the last few years was there sugar in my blood. I am all too aware of the risks, but I need to enjoy what I eat. I do like vegetables and fresh fruit, but I try to eat more vegetables than fruit to get my 5 a day.

    I am slowly losing weight, but at least I am not stagnant or gaining weight. I really want to be more toned and be small enough in size to wear all of my rather vast wardrobe of clothes. Far too much of the clothes I own do not fit me. Tight clothing is not only uncomfortable, it is not flattering, so I have to make the effort to continue to lose weight and not just for health reasons.
    • maman
    • By maman 12th Oct 16, 5:56 PM
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    It's a shame when you enjoy dancing with him sugarbaby but if Wayne can't get the message that it stops there then you'll have to be tough.


    Is it this skirt floss?
    https://tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/p/Grey-Pleated-Full-Skirt/130289615-Grey?searchTerm=:newArrivals&searchProduct=


    I've got a few pleated skirts. One is long and silky and I'm going to experiment with wearing it with a woolly jumper for a different look. It's a bit dressy for everyday wear but I think it'll look good for perhaps going out for lunch. Not quite woolly jumper weather yet though. We're still having bright, autumn days.


    White's not a good colour on me either. Most of what I have are vests or tee shirts that I only wear after I've had my sunshine holiday. Once my tan fades they look dreadful.


    We went bed shopping this weekend. We've seen a bed we like, but haven't bought it yet, as we need to think about logistics, e.g. decorating before they arrive. MIL donated us her old bed, so it's really old so a new bed is overdue.
    Originally posted by chanie

    We're planning to redecorate the bedroom too and I was wondering whether to go the whole hog and get a new bed. At the moment we have one with drawers underneath and I have one of those valances to cover the base bit. I don't like it as it's a bit too frilly for my tastes. Any ideas? Does everyone else cover the base up? DH fancies, at least, a new headboard and I fancy one of those tallish upholstered ones a bit like this:
    http://www.tesco.com/direct/aspire-furniture-derwent-headboard-in-malham-weave-fabric-sand/137-2772.prd?skuId=337-6576


    That one looks as if I could recover it easily if I changed the colour scheme. We're definitely having a new carpet and I've got one new set of bedding. At the moment we have the wall behind the bed papered and I might still go for that (something else to choose) as otherwise the room will be very pale and neutral. Forgive me thinking aloud but it's very much at the planning stage.


    I'm out for dinner with friends tonight. I'm looking forward to it as they're back in the area for a few days having moved away. It's a country pub so not too dressy. I've decided on straight black trousers, my new red fine knit jumper and ballet flats. I'll wear my black padded biker style jacket. I thought of wearing my velvet one but maybe a bit dressy for a pub.


    Back soon.
    • chanie
    • By chanie 12th Oct 16, 8:07 PM
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    maman and floss I like those pleated skirts and I bet they look amazing when you wear them, but they don't suit me. As an inverted triangle body shape, I'm supposed to suit more structured clothing. Lo and behold, when I tried on a pleated skirt, it looked terrible on me. I'll be sticking to a line skirts.

    maman the bed we are ordering is a divan base with 4 drawers. The drawers on divan bases are normally quite flimsy so we are going to use them for towels, jumpers and my handbags as they are lightweight. The bed we have chosen is similar to the headboard in your link, but we've gone for a dark grey one. Beige would look better, but felt a darker colour would be more practical with young children.
    In answer to your question, we aren't planning on covering the divan. A quick Google only came up with valence sheets and I'm not really keen on them - I remember them from my childhood. Running enough, I don't really see them in shops anymore, so I guess they aren't fashionable at the moment.
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