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    • greent
    • By greent 30th Dec 15, 12:31 PM
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    KonMari 2016 - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up
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    • 30th Dec 15, 12:31 PM
    KonMari 2016 - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up 30th Dec 15 at 12:31 PM
    Link to 2015: thread: http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5146700


    'The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up' by Marie Kondo is a home organisation/ decluttering book like no other. Instead of looking for things to discard, Marie Kondo says we should instead look for things we wish to keep - using the 'does it spark joy?' method. Ultimately this means that everything in our homes should spark joy for us You might not think that everyday and seemingly mundane items can't spark joy - but you need to think around it a little. So whilst an iron may not spark joy, wearing ironed clothes may. A cheese grater may not spark joy, but your child may really like grated cheese in their wraps - which brings joy.


    Marie Kondo also says that this should be done quickly and properly. This may take six months to achieve, but tidying properly should mean doing it just once. This is against the often-seen decluttering advice of doing 15 minutes a day, or a drawer/ shelf a day.


    MK suggests an order as to what to sort through first and subsequently. This is important - she starts with items which many people do not have an emotional attachment to (clothes) and builds up to sentimental items (photos) so that a person's joy-meter can be developed along the way.


    Many MSE-ers have been following the KM method (kondo-ing) successfully. It fits into the MSE ethos by changing your mindse - you will no longer want to shop mindlessly for something 'just because' or 'it'll do' - you will want to buy only joyful items, thereby often saving ££ on random, impulse purchases.
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    • mavvymoo
    • By mavvymoo 18th Oct 16, 9:42 AM
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    Morning all

    I am back I am still in a Black place but really need to snap out of it.

    Loads has gone on and at the end of the awful few weeks I lost my dog who has been with me for 11 years since he was a puppy. It was a horrible time which ended with us taking him to Cambridge as the vets couldnt find out what was wrong with him. We got him there and he was scanned and they found a tumour and that was it No bringing him home again.

    I miss him so much as DH works away and I spent all my time with him here and now I feel so lost

    So I am taking it day by day and know there is nothing I can do and we did all we could for him.

    Before that and even now I feel so let down by certain 'friends' who just expect me to do everything ( same as you GQ with your Aunt etc' )

    DH and I had to do the clothes sale a couple of days afterwards and we got NO help at all and set everything up and took £240 in 2 hours and packed it all away again with no help

    The following day I had said I would help at a lunch for 56 people and ended up walking out as I was so sick of someone there moaning and digging at me for hours so had to get out before I ended up strangling her

    So I am taking a big step backwards and let them get on with it
    I will enjoy watching the fallout

    I have also fallen off the rails not with food for once But with buying everything in the shops if its not nailed down Some of it I love and it brings me joy but most of it no it really doesnt do anything for me at all

    So back to the bible I think for me as I know KM has helped me see things a lot of things I wouldnt have noticed before.

    The good thing is my friend has got a moving date of the 28th of this month so that should keep me busy helping them.

    Thank you everyone for just being there and on this BL**dy train with me No matter how many times we need to get off we will get back on board at sometime and continue this journey which is life and all it throws at us


    Thanks for allowing me to vent there is loads more but will leave that for another day


    Mav x

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    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 18th Oct 16, 9:46 AM
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    Wow, lots going on - house purchases checked, rooms painted, and I'm loving the African donations. Especially when it's a local initiative, then you *know* it gets to the intended recipients

    GQ, I'd no idea that a property was checked out like that by the council before it was passed on to another tenant. I suppose if people aren't as conscientious as your family, it means the council have to do it themselves, which result in higher council tax, eventually?

    I was going to ask you about bonfires again - accelerant, actually. Do you use any particular "product" to help the bonfire start? Does anyone else? I'm definitely getting on with cutting down this laurel hedge of mine, gradually transferring the twiglets and heavy branches to the hardstanding at the front of my house - I'll offer it to local peeps, as suggested, but I'm wondering about what's left, and other stuff I have too....


    ETA - Mavvy, we crossposted, so sorry to hear things are still so tough for you it sounds like you're right to pull back. Sending you positive, loving thoughts.



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    • Wednesday2000
    • By Wednesday2000 18th Oct 16, 10:40 AM
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    Loads has gone on and at the end of the awful few weeks I lost my dog who has been with me for 11 years since he was a puppy. It was a horrible time which ended with us taking him to Cambridge as the vets couldnt find out what was wrong with him. We got him there and he was scanned and they found a tumour and that was it No bringing him home again.

    I miss him so much as DH works away and I spent all my time with him here and now I feel so lost

    So I am taking it day by day and know there is nothing I can do and we did all we could for him.







    Originally posted by mavvymoo
    I'm sorry to read that.xxx
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    • maddiemay
    • By maddiemay 18th Oct 16, 11:04 AM
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    mavvymoo
    So sorry about the loss of your companion and furry best friend, they leave such a huge gap in our lives when they have to leave us, shed loads of virtual hugs on the way to you.

    Enjoy watching the fall-out from the local stuff, perhaps now at last people will realise just how much you have done for the locality. It is good to have a place such as this to vent one's feelings and disappointment.

    OH and I have been away so much this summer, couple that with ill health means that little Kondoing has happened, but I am mentally ready to start up again, albeit at a slow pace.

    I have now pretty much caught up with the thread, apologies for not having been able to offer any support or congratulations to people over the last few weeks, but I have been with you in spirit.

    GQ
    Condolences on the passing of your dear Nan, she sounds a lovely lady and will always be part of you. Try to avoid murdering the Aunt if at all possible - we would all miss you so much if you were banged up for murder I hope that the clearing of the bungalow works out in time and that the family are able to give her a lovely send off. Be aware that you may experience a bit of a crash health wise when this is all over and take care of yourself as best you can.
    • MMF007
    • By MMF007 18th Oct 16, 12:58 PM
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    Oh Mavvy, I am so sorry about your four legged companion. People who do a lot get put upon - remember the old adage, 'If you want something doing ask a busy woman'?
    You certainly have had a lot to deal with, one way and another.

    Be kind to yourself and don't keep trying to be Superwoman*, it took me years to learn that you really don't get any thanks from most folk, you just get taken for granted. (*leave that to GQ for now ).

    drum roll DH, who was rained off from work, has just reappeared to report that he has removed the large volumes of books that had remained untouched for several years. He has committed to reading them , with a vague mention that they can be released after that. I am concerned about where he is planning on housing them in the meantime.......
    I shall kondo the rest of the shelf in the multipurpose room this afto, while the magic is a-Wooing!

    I was about to release a very old pinny, dark brown polyester affair, utilitarian is probably the right word! However (I love starting sentences with words that are not suitable ), I have a cunning plan. DH uses the arm of the sofa to balance various bits of paper, invoices, his mobile, the day's post, etc, etc Inevitably, one wrong move and it cascades onto the floor.
    It drives me mad

    So, (ha, ha, unsuitable word to start a sentence again, I'm in a cheeky mood,) I plan on making the apron into a sort of holster for the arm of the sofa. Shouldn't take too much work cos it already has a large pocket on the front! Go MK MSE !
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    • hebwood
    • By hebwood 18th Oct 16, 1:45 PM
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    Mavvy


    So sorry to hear about your dog, you have my sympathies - been there, had to do that.


    I endorse what other people are saying, be good to yourself, and vent away here as necessary.


    Likewise with GQ.


    Thoughts and virtual hugs being sent to you, and anyone else who needs them.


    H.
    • shanks77
    • By shanks77 18th Oct 16, 1:59 PM
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    Mavvy so sorry to hear your fur face had to cross the rainbow bridge. My thoughts are with you xx
    • Slinky
    • By Slinky 18th Oct 16, 2:04 PM
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    Oh my goodness, I don't believe it. Another property we're interested in (not the one near our previous aborted purchase), having been bitten once I'm now twice shy, I've just paid £6 and downloaded the title document for it. It appears to have similar issues to the one we've just pulled out of. This house is built behind another house in what was probably part of their garden. The original house appear to own the drive and we would have rights to pass across it....

    Ho hum, bullet dodged there I think.
    Originally posted by Slinky
    Having had another read of the title, I think I've read it the wrong way round. It's hard to work out when the names are all of people you have no idea who they are! I think it's the case where the drive is owned by the house we are interested in, and the neighbour had a right of way over it. However, further down it appears this right of way was 'extinguished' in 1982, so it looks like there may not be a problem after all.
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    • By Floss 18th Oct 16, 3:30 PM
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    Having had another read of the title, I think I've read it the wrong way round. It's hard to work out when the names are all of people you have no idea who they are! I think it's the case where the drive is owned by the house we are interested in, and the neighbour had a right of way over it. However, further down it appears this right of way was 'extinguished' in 1982, so it looks like there may not be a problem after all.
    Originally posted by Slinky
    Might be worth paying for a legal search on that before you commit...
    • GreyQueen
    • By GreyQueen 18th Oct 16, 4:41 PM
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    GQ, I'd no idea that a property was checked out like that by the council before it was passed on to another tenant. I suppose if people aren't as conscientious as your family, it means the council have to do it themselves, which result in higher council tax, eventually?

    I was going to ask you about bonfires again - accelerant, actually. Do you use any particular "product" to help the bonfire start? Does anyone else? I'm definitely getting on with cutting down this laurel hedge of mine, gradually transferring the twiglets and heavy branches to the hardstanding at the front of my house - I'll offer it to local peeps, as suggested, but I'm wondering about what's left, and other stuff I have too....


    ETA - Mavvy, we crossposted, so sorry to hear things are still so tough for you it sounds like you're right to pull back. Sending you positive, loving thoughts.



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    Originally posted by Karmacat
    There is absolutely no connection between council tax accounts and council tenancies. Different departments, different budgets, no possibility of cross-funding.

    When a council property is handed back, there will have to be checks done and there may be some refurbishments necessary to bring a property up to scratch before it can be re-let. If said refurbishments are deemed as a result of reasonable wear and tear, the council landlord will absorb them and pay for them from its Housing Revenue Account (that's where the rents go).

    If they are a result of accidental or deliberate damage, or the removal of fixtures and fittings, they are within their rights to bill the outgoing tenant or their estate. Whether they get the money back is another matter.

    Also, if goods and refuse are left in the property or its garden, they have to be removed. This will be a two-part charge to the council; one fee for the removal (vat-able) plus another fee for the disposal of same (also vat-able). I have seen a whole house and garden clearance take 16 labour hours and be billed at nearly £2,000 before.

    Councils also have to be very careful of things like lean-to buildings, sheds etc which are left on the grounds, as if they are still there when the property is re-let, they could be liable if they injured anyone and by having them there, the council is taking on continuing liability for repairs and perhaps even eventual replacement.

    In certain circumstances, council inspectors may agree that some things can be left in the property, such as carpets in vgc (in pet free households) and window coverings. This is to benefit the incoming tenant, who may just keep them for a while until they can sort themselves out.

    Council homes are rented unfurnished but the landlord is obviously responsible for the fixtures and fittings. HTH.

    re bonfires, I don't use any accelerants. It really shouldn't be necessary at all and is potentially dangerous to you and polluting to the environment.

    The key to bonfiring is to have everything as dry as possible so you may realistically have to leave things several weeks or even a couple of months or mor. The less moisture in the stuff, the easier it will ignite, the faster the burn and the less the smoke.

    It's best to let the things get very dry, then make yourself a little bit of a fire bundle with crumbled newspaper, twigs and other small stuff and just set a match to it.

    With bonfires, because a pile of timber can attract animals, I like to build the bonfire from scratch just before lighting it, so I know there are no little critters inside who risk becoming crispy critters.
    Last edited by GreyQueen; 18-10-2016 at 4:46 PM.
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    • mrs-moneypenny
    • By mrs-moneypenny 18th Oct 16, 5:05 PM
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    So sorry to read about your dog Mavvy, hugs to you. It is a sad and difficult time when or pets become so poorly and pass over the rainbow bridge.

    Hugs to all who need them. Haven't done any kondoing today but I've wrapped a load of Christmas and birthday presents that will be given away tomorrow so they will be out of my way.
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    • greent
    • By greent 18th Oct 16, 6:18 PM
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    Sorry to hear about your dog, Mavvy


    Box of items delivered to CS today (mainly some unsold items from the NNS at the weekend + a couple of other items) along with a small bag of rags. Cheques posted out to all of the sellers at NNS (I'm treasurer), just leaving me the cash to bank which I will hopefully get done tomorrow

    Some more paper stuff recycled, and that's about all I've achieved kondo wise

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    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 18th Oct 16, 6:22 PM
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    GQ, thanks for that post - I'd no idea of any of that though my Nan lived in council housing all her life, and only left it to go into (council) sheltered housing ... I was 300 miles away, a flibbertigibbet in my 20s enjoying the Lunnon scene ... I suppose nobody told me such things were "kept from us" in my family in those days.

    Thanks also re the bonfire, lack of accelerant. I thought there'd be a pollution issue, but also thought I might be overthinking it. Drat that its mostly about it being dry! It rained for about 36 hours solidly over the weekend I've been cutting and chopping and taking the stuff into the front yard (which means launching it like spears over the broken garden gate, which can't be opened) and the pile is now about four feet high, four feet wide, and up to eight feet long. And I'd be really surprised if that was more than a quarter of it
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    • mavvymoo
    • By mavvymoo 18th Oct 16, 6:53 PM
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    Thank you everyone for your support I have been keeping myself so busy (mainly shopping) and other things but I know I need to stop ! and its just all hit me at once.

    But I will take it one day at a time and I will get there.

    Lolly Lola and the kits are all doing well. 2 of the kittens have been spayed as I couldnt catch the others at the time Any other time I can stroke them but I am sure they knew something was up the day they were booked in. They keep me on my toes as they sit on the door step making such a row until I feed them We are going to try and get the others in this week Might need a bit of luck and fingers crossed on that day.

    I do think the others are Boys so the vets are happy to leave it another week or so just sheer luck I caught the 2 little girls on the first attempt.

    Also the grown up (was baby) massive Rabbit still lives on the garden and think he/she is miles too big for the cats to tackle so they just ignore it totally and just pretend they dont see it. The Cats are also terrifed of the Witch of Eastwick (chicken) who chases them and steals their food if she gets a chance

    Life goes on in this madhouse


    Mav x

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    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 18th Oct 16, 6:59 PM
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    Mavvy, it sounds like all the animals might be a distraction, in a good way. It's lovely to hear about it.
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    • 3forholidays
    • By 3forholidays 18th Oct 16, 7:13 PM
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    Mavvy Sorry to read about the loss of your beloved dog.

    GQ I must commend you on the very comprehensive account of how local government financials work.
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    • By PollyWollyDoodle 18th Oct 16, 7:25 PM
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    Mavvy, so sorry to hear it. Anyone who's lost a beloved pet will know how hard it is. Glad you have the cats to entertain you, but nothing really helps with the ever day sadness of missing a familiar companion.

    Definitely time to step back and let others do the work (or not!) for a change.
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    • mrs-moneypenny
    • By mrs-moneypenny 18th Oct 16, 8:04 PM
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    Hope everyone is as well as they can be.
    Sorry so many people on the thread seem to be having a difficult time of things at the moment, I hope the worries problems or concerns that are weighing you down ease soon.

    Stairs and landing carpet swapped this morning so kondoing the old carpet to the tip tomorrow along with mils old leaky waterbutt and a couple of other bits.
    Wrapped all the Christmas pressies for my mum, sister & brother plus their families along with birthday gifts for the rest of the year, they are all going to mums tomorrow along with a bag full of books I've finished with and a pair of shoes I think mum will like(if not they will go to the CS in her town)
    Have done all the shredding this afternoon so that's out in the recycling now.

    Going to read a book now
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    • GreyQueen
    • By GreyQueen 18th Oct 16, 8:35 PM
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    GQ, thanks for that post - I'd no idea of any of that though my Nan lived in council housing all her life, and only left it to go into (council) sheltered housing ... I was 300 miles away, a flibbertigibbet in my 20s enjoying the Lunnon scene ... I suppose nobody told me such things were "kept from us" in my family in those days.

    Thanks also re the bonfire, lack of accelerant. I thought there'd be a pollution issue, but also thought I might be overthinking it. Drat that its mostly about it being dry! It rained for about 36 hours solidly over the weekend I've been cutting and chopping and taking the stuff into the front yard (which means launching it like spears over the broken garden gate, which can't be opened) and the pile is now about four feet high, four feet wide, and up to eight feet long. And I'd be really surprised if that was more than a quarter of it
    Originally posted by Karmacat
    My employer is one of the hundred-odd english councils who still own their own stock, a lot of councils have sold theirs off to be housing association stock. I do know that here, if someone has lived in a property for 50 years like Nan has lived in her bungalow, we'd not charge the estate, but she's in a different council area, so I don't know what their policy would be.

    It's a point of honour to us as a family that everything will be tickety-boo and spotless.

    I'm grinning at the thought of you hurling spears of cherry laurel over the broken gate like some madcap Boudicca. Certainly sounds like you have a job on there.

    Where I've had to burn branch wood, or rain-sodden and rotten timbers, I've stood them up together as if wigwams for a few weeks. This maximises the airflow and speeds the drying. One time, I inherited a pile of rotten and sodden timbers behind an old lottie shed. They'd probably been re-usable when stashed there but had been in contact with the soil for years and were rotted and so waterlogged that they were very heavy and completely unburnable.

    I dragged them out to a bit of open soil and stood them on end in a wigwam and left them to the winter sun, the breeze and the occasional rain for about three weeks. They completely dried out and went up in a roar when I did burn them.

    Perhaps you can look at making temporary wigwam piles (I've also done this with snarls of green bramble canes) and letting them dessicate for a few weeks? You may well have to have a succession of fires if you have a huge volume of biomass to get rid of.

    Hell, wish I was a free agent not tied to a job or I'd offer to come and help - will garden for food.

    Whilst I've been away, have had a long chat with the folks about progress at the bungalow and also been over to a pal's for an hour or so. We had a good old natter plus I was able to declutter a birthday present and card, so that counts as kondo-ing, right?
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    • silvasava
    • By silvasava 18th Oct 16, 8:52 PM
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    Mavvy - so sorry to hear of the loss of your furry friend. Do find some consolation in that he was dearly loved and cared for all his life. Glad you are taking a break for a while - sounds as if a few people are in for a shock wake up call.
    Managed to get a few bits photographed to sell on FB but it much else done on the kondo front today
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