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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 15th Jul 17, 8:40 AM
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    Good luck with it PSL.

    15/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 15th Jul 17, 4:44 PM
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    Afternoon all, 13/21 for me please.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £8,571.97/£12,000
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 16th Jul 17, 8:45 AM
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    16/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 16th Jul 17, 9:09 AM
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    12/25

    Missed that mark yesterday. But back on it.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 16th Jul 17, 9:19 AM
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    Morning all, 14/21 for me today please - though I've got vague plans to see friends today but not sure whether it is lunch or what we are doing, and I am going to try to avoid drinking.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £8,571.97/£12,000
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    • PriceySOS
    • By PriceySOS 16th Jul 17, 1:27 PM
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    12 please, Shaggy, thanks
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 17th Jul 17, 8:55 AM
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    17/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 17th Jul 17, 9:23 AM
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    Morning all, well needless to say my plan not to drink anything with friends at lunch yesterday didn't really work, but it was all quite restrained - I had about 330ml of wine all up, what's that - two "small glasses"? Anyway, either way, still on 14/21 for today.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £8,571.97/£12,000
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    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 17th Jul 17, 10:31 AM
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    Declaring early for tonight on 9/12 please Shaggy - going to try and reach target this week which gives me plenty of scope for some bonus days next week
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 17th Jul 17, 2:45 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : July 2017
    July 2017

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = Target Achieved

    = Target Beaten


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers 2
    /10
    Barny1979
    8/20
    CathyBird 14/21

    CuppaTea 9/17
    Eltee 7/21

    ElusiveLucy
    8/13

    FakePlasticTwee
    /25

    GreenKaren 3/8

    Honey Bear 17/31

    Macpep1 3/14


    MaggieM /7

    Maman
    6/10

    NewstartDMP 2/16
    Poor Single Lady 12/25
    Pricey 12/20

    Scatterbrain 3/15
    Shaggy 10/21

    Smiley77 9/30

    SukeyBoo
    9/12

    WBF 6/18

    WJN222 1/10

    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 17th Jul 17, 2:56 PM
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    2017 Annual Challenge (Jan Feb Mar Apr May June combined totals)
    2017 Targets
    = 50 Days AF

    = 100 days AF

    = 150 days AF

    = 200 days AF

    = 250 days AF

    = 300 days AF

    = 350 days AF

    = 365 days AF

    = target achieved


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers
    116/TF
    Barny1979
    146/275
    CathyBird 142/252

    CuppaTea 99/200
    DebJay 85/TF
    DizzyImp 52 /TF
    Eltee 123/200
    ElusiveLucy
    79/TF
    FakePlasticTwee 119/TF

    GreenKaren
    81/120
    Honey Bear
    181/365
    LoveASale 50/TF


    MaggieM
    48/185
    Maman 72/TF


    PollyAnna 54/TF
    Poor Single Lady 128/TF
    Pricey 118/250
    ScatterBrain
    137/TF
    Shaggy 102/260

    SukeyBoo
    80/150

    WBF 47/150



    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 17-07-2017 at 3:00 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • smiley_77
    • By smiley_77 17th Jul 17, 6:48 PM
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    12/30[COLOR="red"]Big FAT fail!!!! Ive drank for the last three days. Massive work stress working all day and into the night. I know it shouldnt be a reason but i couldnt help myself. I am posting now to try to stop.Before i come off the wagon altogether. Why can some people have a few drinks and others need to go to oblivion?" COLOR]
    Last edited by smiley_77; 17-07-2017 at 6:50 PM. Reason: spelling
    Do I really need it? Probably not.
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 17th Jul 17, 8:54 PM
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    1 more for me please shaggy
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 18th Jul 17, 8:00 AM
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    I am posting now to try to stop.Before i come off the wagon altogether. Why can some people have a few drinks and others need to go to oblivion?"
    Originally posted by smiley_77
    I don't know Smiley, and if I did I'd have done something about it years ago rather than keep drinking until I had to stop completely. My OH can stop after one or two and he makes it look easy, but I never could. Never wanted to stop, and the more I drank the more I wanted to drink. Simple as that. I hope you find your happy equilibrium, I really do.

    Never forget that even one drink you don't have, or one whole evening off the booze, or one evening that you consciously stop because you have a lightbulb moment and realise carrying on would be an act of self-sabotage - is a real victory. Keep posting, we're all rooting for you.

    Stopping altogether is a toughie to begin with but with the right support and tweaks to life, perfectly possible for most of us, gets easier as time goes on, and finally an absolute liberation. I could slip up at any time and I'd be right back where I started, but I honestly don't want to go back to that life. I've always known that the easiest way for me to do that would be to have 'just one' because 'one wouldn't hurt.' It wouldn't, but I wouldn't stop at one because I never did. It's knowing that that keeps me stopped.

    I used to dread evenings out with friends because they always ended up with me drinking too much and feeling $*it for at least a couple of days afterwards although that didn't stop me drinking at home on those days. One of the couples is getting married this weekend and I'll be the only sober one amongst us, and all I can feel is relief.

    18/31 please, Shaggy.
    Last edited by Honey Bear; 18-07-2017 at 8:08 AM.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 18th Jul 17, 8:20 AM
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    Morning all, 15/21 for me please.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £8,571.97/£12,000
    Save 12K in 2016: £20,880.11/£15,000
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    July AFDs: 18/21 2017 AFDs: 159/252
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 18th Jul 17, 11:21 AM
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    10/12 for today please Shaggy
    • maman
    • By maman 18th Jul 17, 11:54 AM
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    Out for a (planned) meal with a few drinks last night. I enjoyed it.


    Back on the wagon today.


    7 AFDs please Shaggy
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    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 18th Jul 17, 6:04 PM
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    14/25

    Lots on right now not helping. Planned drink Thursday and possibly tommorow which is annoying.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • maman
    • By maman 18th Jul 17, 6:15 PM
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    14/25

    Lots on right now not helping. Planned drink Thursday and possibly tommorow which is annoying.
    Originally posted by Poor_Single_lady
    Don't worry PSL every one counts.

    I know we all get unexpected invitations but I find that if I plan round my diary it helps. I forget who it was but we had a poster some time ago who didn't want to give up but beat herself up every time she had a drink. That wouldn't work for me. I enjoy my planned drinking days as much as I feel good about about being AF.
    • PriceySOS
    • By PriceySOS 18th Jul 17, 8:02 PM
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    14 please, Shaggy, ta

    . I enjoy my planned drinking days as much as I feel good about about being AF.
    Originally posted by maman
    Well put, Maman - me too
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