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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • maman
    • By maman 10th Jul 17, 11:01 AM
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    good to see you back scatterbrain.


    Aiming for Mon-Thurs again this week - fingers crossed
    Originally posted by sukeyboo
    Same here sukey.


    Definitely no plans to drink today, so that's a start.


    3 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 10th Jul 17, 12:13 PM
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    Hi Scatterbrain! Good to see you posting again, and well done on the 36 days.

    10/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 10th Jul 17, 7:32 PM
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    Today is going to be 4/18 but I'll check in again this evening. Feeling tired and jaded after a restless night's sleep. Hello Monday morning!
    Originally posted by Wanna Bee Free
    Checking in again to confirm 4/18 for me today. Aiming for number 5 tomorrow.

    Welcome back Scatterbrain!
    No. 44 Save 12K in 2017 £7,100/£7,500 94%
    AFDs 106/150 14/4/10/9/7/3/18/15/17/5/3 70%
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 10th Jul 17, 9:13 PM
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    6/20 AFDs today
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 10th Jul 17, 10:05 PM
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    6/17 for me please shaggy
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • smiley_77
    • By smiley_77 11th Jul 17, 12:47 AM
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    9/30 a bottle of brandy was left open and untouchd by me.

    I think it is right about work mates badgering so they dont have to face their own reality. But it is blooming annoying!!!

    Also OH badgers, but less so. Think he would be happier if i started again
    in fact when i have fallen off the wagon before he has helped !

    I am doing a sponsored run soon so am trying to use that to motivate me.Oh and icecream
    Do I really need it? Probably not.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 11th Jul 17, 9:02 AM
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    Morning all, 10/21 for me please.

    Welcome back Scatterbrain from me too.
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    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 11th Jul 17, 10:37 AM
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    6/12 for today please Shaggy
    • maman
    • By maman 11th Jul 17, 11:09 AM
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    Also OH badgers, but less so. Think he would be happier if i started again
    in fact when i have fallen off the wagon before he has helped !
    Originally posted by smiley_77

    My DH is an enigma. He drinks daily but probably across a week we have a similar amount. Unlike me he can have a couple of small glasses with/after supper and then stop. Personally I'd rather have what I like on drinking days (within reason and now helped by my lower tolerance/stop button) and have some AF days.


    Where he's odd is that he either offers me a glass on AF days and then says how disciplined I am when I refuse or raises his eyebrows if he sees me drinking mid week!


    I think what helps is that lately he drinks either whiskey or red wine whereas I've been having gin, dry whites or fizz. I prefer it that way as sharing a bottle always ends up with me taking the lion's (or should that be lioness's?) share.


    No eyebrows will be raised today.


    4 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • newstartDMP
    • By newstartDMP 11th Jul 17, 4:56 PM
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    Please can I sneak in?

    I've noticed my alcohol (mostly wine) consumption is creeping up, with me having a couple of glasses most evenings. Since I'm trying to become more disciplined with my spending, it seems like a good time to be more disciplined with my drinking too. I'm going to aim for 5 AF days per week, I was AF yesterday and plan to again tonight - so will have completed 2 / 16 AF days left for July.
    Make up to £10 a day

    July £26

    • PriceySOS
    • By PriceySOS 11th Jul 17, 8:02 PM
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    10 please, Shaggy, ta
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 11th Jul 17, 8:52 PM
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    Hello All. Welcome Newsrart.

    8/25 please
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 11th Jul 17, 9:05 PM
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    7/20 AFDs today
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 11th Jul 17, 10:40 PM
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    Checking in again to confirm 5/18 for me today. Aiming for number 6 either tomorrow or Thursday.

    Welcome to Newstart!
    Last edited by Wanna Bee Free; 11-07-2017 at 10:43 PM.
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    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 12th Jul 17, 8:10 AM
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    Morning all, 11/21 for me please, and hi to Newstart.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £11,183.81/£12,000
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 12th Jul 17, 9:17 AM
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    Well done on the brandy front Smiley!

    Welcome Newstart! Good luck with the cutting back on spending and the 5 AF days a week.

    I don't know that I was ever that interested in what people had in their glasses, so I don't think I bullied people per se in my drinking days. I'm absolutely certain that I encouraged people to have another one towards the end of the evening when perhaps they might have been wiser not to, and I definitely encouraged OH to drink with me, which he did, a lot, and often. Fortunately for me he's been 100% supportive since I stopped, but I think that's mainly due to the fact that I was absolutely vile to him on a pretty regular basis when I'd had waaaaaay too much to drink. Neither of us wants to go back to that. There's no doubt that if you're in the mood to drink more, doing so with other people feels like more fun than doing it on your own, and I think that's where my problem probably got out of control and a lot of the badgering comes from.

    Miraculously OH's 20 year sleep problems cleared up about three months after I stopped drinking and he cut right down, so he doesn't want to go back to sloshing it back every night either. But it was a long time before he connected and accepted the relationship with drinking a few glasses of wine with his disrupted sleep. Denial, I suppose. Anyway, both of us feel very comfortable with where we are now, which is fantastically helpful and keeps us on the straight and narrow.

    12/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 12th Jul 17, 9:25 AM
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    Welcome Newstart

    Declaring early again for tonight so that will take me to 7/12 please Shaggy
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 12th Jul 17, 10:24 AM
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    Please can I sneak in?

    I've noticed my alcohol (mostly wine) consumption is creeping up, with me having a couple of glasses most evenings. Since I'm trying to become more disciplined with my spending, it seems like a good time to be more disciplined with my drinking too. I'm going to aim for 5 AF days per week, I was AF yesterday and plan to again tonight - so will have completed 2 / 16 AF days left for July.
    Originally posted by newstartDMP
    Welcome and Good Luck!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 12th Jul 17, 10:27 AM
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    Monthly Challenge : June 2017
    June2017

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 30 days AF

    = Target Achieved

    = Target Beaten


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers
    17/TF
    Barny1979
    26/25
    CathyBird 28/21

    CuppaTea 16/17
    Eltee 22/20
    ElusiveLucy
    9/16
    FakePlasticTwee 15/TF

    GreenKaren 6/5
    Honey Bear 30/30
    Macpep1 9/14

    MaggieM 3/8
    Maman 5/3
    Poor Single Lady 19/24
    Pricey 19/22
    Shaggy 12/21

    SukeyBoo
    11/12

    WBF 3/TF


    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 12th Jul 17, 10:32 AM
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    Monthly Challenge : July 2017
    July 2017

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = Target Achieved

    = Target Beaten


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers 2
    /10
    Barny1979
    7/20
    CathyBird 11/21


    CuppaTea 6/17


    Eltee
    2/21

    ElusiveLucy
    4/13

    FakePlasticTwee
    /25

    GreenKaren 3/8

    Honey Bear 12/31

    Macpep1 3/14


    MaggieM /7

    Maman
    4/10

    NewstartDMP 2/16
    Poor Single Lady 8/25
    Pricey 10/20

    Scatterbrain 3/15
    Shaggy 7/21

    Smiley77 9/30

    SukeyBoo
    7/12

    WBF 5/18

    WJN222 1/10

    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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