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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • Green Karen
    • By Green Karen 18th May 17, 9:54 AM
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    10 AF days for me please Shaggy.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 18th May 17, 10:09 AM
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    Morning

    3 more AFDs for Monday, Tuesday and yesterday.



    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 18th May 17, 10:11 AM
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    It might not have been drink Pollyanna
    I do that kind of thing all the time even when I am sober. Hope nobody took it tho.
    Originally posted by Poor_Single_lady
    Me too! I love pinless transactions as I'm much less likely to leave my card behind....
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 18th May 17, 10:13 AM
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    I've been out for coffee with a friend this afternoon. She's got cancer and although she's having chemo the outlook doesn't look good. It puts my aches and pains into perspective.
    Originally posted by maman
    Sad times
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 18th May 17, 10:18 AM
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    16/25 please. At this rate I'll be going for the whole month.
    Originally posted by fakeplastictwee
    Over the hump
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 18th May 17, 10:23 AM
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    Monthly Challenge : April 2017
    April 2017
    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 30 days AF

    = Target Achieved

    Alcohol Free Days
    Arkers 16/TF

    BaileysOnIce 2/10
    Barny1979
    27/23
    CathyBird 22/21
    CuppaTea 16/18
    DebJay 10/10
    Diyer 14/17
    Eltee 23/24
    ElusiveLucy
    10/14
    FakePlasticTwee
    13/18
    FreysMum
    18/ 26

    GreenKaren 3/20

    Honey Bear 30/30

    JP1964 1/11
    LoveASale 7/14

    Macpep1 5/17

    MaggieM 5
    /12
    Maman
    10/10

    NewMe 5/TF
    PollyAnna 10/10

    Poor Single Lady 18/23
    Pricey 14/18
    ScatterBrain 28/28

    Shaggy 19/17
    Smiley_77 8/28

    SukeyBoo
    14/12
    WBF
    9/14


    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 18th May 17, 10:27 AM
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    Monthly Challenge : May 2017
    May 2017

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = Target Achieved

    = Target Beaten


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers 14
    /15
    Barny1979
    13/24
    CathyBird 15/21

    CuppaTea 9/17

    Diyer 5/20

    Doshwaster 5/20
    Eltee 7 /21

    ElusiveLucy
    1/4
    FakePlasticTwee
    17/25
    GreenKaren 10/7

    Honey Bear 17/31

    JP1964 /31

    LoveASale
    3/TF

    Macpep1 /14
    Maman 9/10
    PollyAnna 8/12
    Poor Single Lady 17/31
    Pricey 7/24

    ScatterBrain
    /TF
    Shaggy 12/21

    SukeyBoo
    9/12
    Toni'sFriend 13/31


    WBF 5/14


    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 18th May 17, 10:38 AM
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    2017 Annual Challenge (Jan Feb Mar & Apr combined totals)
    2017 Targets
    = 50 Days AF

    = 100 days AF

    = 150 days AF

    = 200 days AF

    = 250 days AF

    = 300 days AF

    = 350 days AF

    = 365 days AF

    = target achieved


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers
    80/TF
    Barny1979
    96/275
    CathyBird 86/252

    CuppaTea 66/200
    DebJay 85/TF
    DizzyImp 52 /TF
    Eltee 85/200
    ElusiveLucy
    67/TF
    FakePlasticTwee 77/TF

    GreenKaren
    65/120
    Honey Bear
    120/365

    LoveASale 47/TF

    MaggieM
    45/185
    Maman 50/TF


    PollyAnna 44/TF
    Poor Single Lady 83/TF
    Pricey 77/250
    ScatterBrain
    104/TF
    Shaggy 69/260

    SukeyBoo
    55/150

    WBF 37/150



    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 18-05-2017 at 10:43 AM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 18th May 17, 11:12 AM
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    Thanks Shaggydoo I love the surfer!
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £11,183.81/£12,000
    Save 12K in 2016: £20,880.11/£15,000
    Save 12K in 2015: £25,464.86/£10,000
    Aug AFDs: 20/21 2017 AFDs: 189/252
    • PriceySOS
    • By PriceySOS 18th May 17, 1:11 PM
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    11 please, Shaggy, ta
    • maman
    • By maman 18th May 17, 2:25 PM
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    I've come up with what I think is a great idea to monitor units and intake. Ok, 4 pint milk bottles have markings on the side to indicate the pints. Why don't wine bottles have the same for for units? It would stop me guessing!!
    Originally posted by CuppaTea

    Do they? I've never noticed.


    I'm strangely flattered that people thought I came across younger than I am. I think that's been the problem. I don't feel old or 'think' old IYSWIM so being under the weather was making me feel old and mortal and miserable.


    I'm much happier today. I've had a fair bit of exercise this week with an hour's walk this morning and two lots of dancing. There's definitely a feel good factor to exercise alongside the obvious fitness. I know what I've done pales into insignificance alongside the likes of Barney but I'm pleased.
    Delighted to achieve the full 4 for the SNC this week.


    10 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • fakeplastictwee
    • By fakeplastictwee 18th May 17, 3:12 PM
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    Thank you for keeping the yearly total Shaggy! It's really great motivation. I've just calculated that I have had roughly two thirds of the days this year alcohol free. I'm quite pleased with that
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 18th May 17, 8:37 PM
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    14/24 AFDs today
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 18th May 17, 8:38 PM
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    How was the run Barney I am
    I'm awe of people who can manage such things.
    Originally posted by Poor_Single_lady
    It was very hilly!
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 18th May 17, 9:22 PM
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    Do they? I've never noticed.
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    Originally posted by maman
    Bet you've been looking now.

    10/17 for me please
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • fakeplastictwee
    • By fakeplastictwee 18th May 17, 10:31 PM
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    18/25 please
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 19th May 17, 8:51 AM
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    Good morning all, 16/21 for me please.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £11,183.81/£12,000
    Save 12K in 2016: £20,880.11/£15,000
    Save 12K in 2015: £25,464.86/£10,000
    Aug AFDs: 20/21 2017 AFDs: 189/252
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 19th May 17, 12:18 PM
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    Arkers
    Good afternoon everyone,
    15 AFD please Shaggy.
    Arkers x

    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 19th May 17, 12:26 PM
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    Mum asked me to pick her up a bottle of wine and I had a glass of it at dinner. No harm in one glass right?

    But then I thought, well, I can't count it as an AFD, so I might as well crack open the bottle in the fridge and drink it. Might as well make the most of it!

    And then... I decided not to. So what that I can't count it as an AFD. I will still feel heaps better tomorrow after stopping at one glass. And it's what I've always wanted to be able to do. Drink in moderation.

    Surely one glass of wine (if I can stop at that) a day is healthier than the whole binge, no drinking, binge thing that I seem to have going on.

    So that's my little achievement for today.
    Originally posted by pollyanna24
    And that's exactly what it's all about. I know reporting in helps keep me on the straight and narrow but I don't think it's the be all and end all of dealing with drinking more than we think we should. So, well done for stopping after one. It was more than I ever managed.

    I've come up with what I think is a great idea to monitor units and intake. Ok, 4 pint milk bottles have markings on the side to indicate the pints. Why don't wine bottles have the same for for units? It would stop me guessing!!
    Originally posted by CuppaTea
    I suppose with wine there are several variables, not the least of which is the strength. As far as I can remember wine can be anything from round about 5º to 13º so a unit wouldn't be a uniform amount across different types of wine. Plus, of course, the label only covers a relatively small part of the bottle, whereas you can mould the milk carton to show the amount used/left. Do they put the number of units contained in a bottle? I suppose the people who profit from selling the stuff would argue most people wouldn't drink a whole bottle that so there's no need - which is of course exactly why they should.

    If everyone drank in moderation, which is what the booze industry says is what it wants, the booze industry would go bust within a year. Their business model and profitability relies on people drinking to excess - and they fund the 'drink aware' campaign; it's not an independant unbiased organisation so it's no good expecting them to come up with any kind of useful help. Turkeys do not vote for Christmas (although recently I've come around to thinking that an awful lot do but that's a completely different matter).

    It would be useful if they put the number of units contained on the label, but as far as I can remember some show a 'per glass' thing, but that depends on the size of the glass we pour ourselves. For the last three years I was drinking I'd pour a glassful right up to about a quarter of an inch from the top if I were on my own, say, doing the washing up, so that I could tell myself I only had one glass. If other people were about I'd leave quite a bit of space at the top. The things we do to fool ourselves ....

    19/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • macpep1
    • By macpep1 19th May 17, 1:57 PM
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    Hi All

    I have not been on since the start of the month, busy getting ready for NYC & just got back on Tuesday I am busy getting caught up with stuff. I had a ball in NYC, I did drink every night…. but a big thing for me was that I didn’t drink too much, which is a major factor for me, I didn’t feel the need to drink until I passed out & couldn’t remember, not once.It has made me think why do I have to do this at home, so I havn’t had a drink since I came back so am declaring 4/14.I am away to the caravan this weekend & have a (family) festival tomorrow, there is alcohol there but I didn’t drink last year & plan on doing that this year as well, I havn’t had time to read back the thread so hope you are all well.
    Gratitude is the best Attitude
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