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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • maman
    • By maman 16th May 17, 2:58 PM
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    Not offended at all HB . I don't think my issues are to do with my friend. If anything it did me good to see how well she copes.

    If you remember I had a whole load of chest infections last year. Then earlier this year I had a cold that wouldn't go away. Now I have a few other aches and pains and I think I'm just feeling a bit mortal if that makes sense.

    I'm not a control freak but I do like to be in control so when my body won't conform it gets to me. I don't set high targets and when I drink it's always planned and moderate so having 2 ' s*d it ' evenings last week got to me a bit.

    But you're right I'm in a better mood this week so onwards and upwards! 4 weeks today I go on holiday so something to look forward to.
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 16th May 17, 6:17 PM
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    12/24 AFDs today
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 16th May 17, 6:59 PM
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    5/14 please for last night Shaggy.
    No. 44 Save 12K in 2017 £3,278.68/£7,500 43%
    AFDs 44/150 14/4/10/9/7 27.3%
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 16th May 17, 7:23 PM
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    16/31

    Half way there.

    A bit grouchy today and I think (for me personally) that makes me not want to drink or socialise.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 16th May 17, 7:44 PM
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    Interesting catch up read tonight. Thanks HB.

    Keep going everybody, this week sounds positive so far.

    9/17 for me please Shaggy.

    I have been really tired this week, but I have been constantly on my feet and rushing around. I had an early night last night but planning another tonight too. Like Maman I haven't thought about having a drink these last two nights. The next two I am busy, so it shouldn't feature either. Hoping to rack up 4 in a row.

    I know how you feel Maman about feeling mortal, I think that about myself too. May I ask what age decade you are in?
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • fakeplastictwee
    • By fakeplastictwee 16th May 17, 8:00 PM
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    16/25 please. At this rate I'll be going for the whole month.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 17th May 17, 8:27 AM
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    Morning all, 14/21 for me please.
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    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 17th May 17, 9:47 AM
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    9/12 for today please Shaggy
    • maman
    • By maman 17th May 17, 11:32 AM
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    I know how you feel Maman about feeling mortal, I think that about myself too. May I ask what age decade you are in?
    Originally posted by CuppaTea

    Lots older than you I'm afraid cuppa. I took early retirement, then worked part time and now I'm slowly easing out of that too so maybe having time on my hands to think about it doesn't help. I'm in my 60s.


    Another easy evening yesterday as I was out dancing. Tonight I'm off to football and determined not to drown sorrows (I don't think celebrations will be an option as playing MUFC).


    9 AFDs please Shaggy.


    Without counting chickens I should get to target tomorrow and then bonus time next week.
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 17th May 17, 1:37 PM
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    Wow I thought you were a lot younger Maman. I was thinking late 40,s. I guess online people can come across as any age. It's sounds like you live a full life.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 17th May 17, 5:16 PM
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    I know you've been under the weather Maman. I hope that's no longer the case and you go from strength to strength because you and Shaggy are my Rock on this thread. I'm glad you're feeling more like yourself; long may it continue.

    16/25 please. At this rate I'll be going for the whole month.
    Originally posted by fakeplastictwee
    Good on you FPT!

    17/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • fakeplastictwee
    • By fakeplastictwee 17th May 17, 7:57 PM
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    17/31[/COLOR] please, Shaggy.
    by Honey Bear;72563053
    Good on you FPT!

    [COLOR=Red
    Thanks HB 17/25 for me too please. Started a course of antibiotics two days ago and I am feeling much more like me again today. I hope it continues this time... I was getting a bit worried there!
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 17th May 17, 8:40 PM
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    17/31

    I don't think my skin has ever looked so bad. Going to do a facemask and see if there is any improvement.
    Reminds me of when I am hungover very poorly but look fine.
    Loving these sober nights at home but outside the home is the hard bit.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 17th May 17, 8:41 PM
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    Maman I also pictured you around 40. Come on Southampton!
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 17th May 17, 9:06 PM
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    13/24 AFDs today and took part in a 5mile race tonight
    • pollyanna24
    • By pollyanna24 17th May 17, 9:24 PM
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    Still on 8/12, but I have passed a hurdle tonight which I am quite proud of.

    I bought two bottles of wine last night and, tut tut, drank one of them last night. The other bottle is still in the fridge and I will not be opening it tonight.

    Mum asked me to pick her up a bottle of wine and I had a glass of it at dinner. No harm in one glass right?

    But then I thought, well, I can't count it as an AFD, so I might as well crack open the bottle in the fridge and drink it. Might as well make the most of it!

    And then... I decided not to. So what that I can't count it as an AFD. I will still feel heaps better tomorrow after stopping at one glass. And it's what I've always wanted to be able to do. Drink in moderation.

    Surely one glass of wine (if I can stop at that) a day is healthier than the whole binge, no drinking, binge thing that I seem to have going on.

    So that's my little achievement for today.
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    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 17th May 17, 10:57 PM
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    Well done PollyAnna,great logical thinking.

    I've come up with what I think is a great idea to monitor units and intake. Ok, 4 pint milk bottles have markings on the side to indicate the pints. Why don't wine bottles have the same for for units? It would stop me guessing!!
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 18th May 17, 7:55 AM
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    Morning all, 15/21 for me today please.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £7,475.85/£12,000
    Save 12K in 2016: £20,880.11/£15,000
    Save 12K in 2015: £25,464.86/£10,000
    June AFDs: 22/21 2017 AFDs: 136/252
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 18th May 17, 8:02 AM
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    How was the run Barney I am
    I'm awe of people who can manage such things.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 18th May 17, 8:57 AM
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    Good morning everyone,
    14 AFD please Shaggy.
    Arkers x

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