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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 16th Apr 17, 8:27 AM
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    Happy Easter all on this bright and beautiful Sunday morning.

    10/21 for me please,Shaggy. From now on I'm hoping to go straight through to target.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £7,475.85/£12,000
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 16th Apr 17, 9:38 AM
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    Off topic, can I have some advice?
    I have a cat, think she's around 13 (not 100% certain as we got her from RSPCA aged around 9.
    She has taken to peeing indoors over recent months.
    If any door is left open she's on the soft furnishings having a Wiss.
    The house is starting to smell and we have the washing machine on 2-3 times a day.
    Any suggestions? Otherwise it's the final trip to the vet. We can't take much more.
    Thank you
    Jo x
    Originally posted by scatterbrain109
    So sorry to hear your little cat is peeing everywhere, Scatterbrain. I'd second the suggestion of a trip to the vet asap, not because the cat's needs are urgent, but because yours are. There is a limit to how long we can go on clearing up after them, as I know from experience. Also, any major behavioural change in an animal is usually a sign of distress, either physical or emotional.

    If you can take a urine sample to the vet that would help him/her enormously and they may very well ask for one anyway, so forewarned is forearmed and here we go. I've only ever found one way of doing this relatively cheaply and painlessly, especially if you have more than one cat.

    The incontinent cat has to be confined to a room without soft furnishings - I use the bathroom or shower room. They must have a clean, sterilised or new litter tray (usually about £1.50 from places like £stretcher or poundshops) and a bag of the fine aquarium gravel that's about the same size as normal cat litter. The gravel can be a bit dusty, so it might need a rinse and then being left to dry outside if you can before the cat uses it. If you can't get hold of a cheap new cat litter tray, I'd suggest a very large (disposable) tin foil roasting pan. When the cat has used the litter tray, you'll need to decant the pee into a clean, steralized glass jar with a lid and keep it upright when you transport it - you don't need to ask why I know that, do you?

    You can wash and dry the litter tray for future use, but the gravel seems to hold the stench of cat urine no matter how many times you wash it, so it'll have to be chucked away when this is all over. In the meantime, wash it, dry it and keep it in case this particular cat needs another sample taken.

    If you can't get a sample the vet may need to admit the cat and confine it so that they can get the sample and that's usually quite expensive in comparison to my DIY method.

    It may be that the cat isn't unwell at all, but the problem is behavioural. You mentioned that you'd adopted this cat's son, so I'm assuming you have at least one other cat in the house. There can be behavioural issues that develop between cats that have previously lived together perfectly peaceably, and one of the ways that can manifest is one cat not letting the other cat use the litter tray if you have one. The vet will want to rule that out, as well, and only you can work out how best to seperate them.

    I once had to keep a newly adopted stray apart from our two existing cats because the stray kept trying to kill the elderly diabetic male cat. and the female who had cancer. It's not something I'd chose to go through again but I did it for 18 months because I had to. The ex-stray is still with us, 10 years later, and just on the verge of costing us a fortune as he too has developed a major health problem, the prognosis for which could be very grim. He's off to a specialist vet on Tuesday having seen our regular vet who's referred him for a difinitive diagnosis and decisions about the best way forward.

    Good luck with it.

    16/30 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 16th Apr 17, 8:29 PM
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    9/18 please shaggy.
    Halfway through and half way through target
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 16th Apr 17, 9:37 PM
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    13/23 AFDs today
    • scatterbrain109
    • By scatterbrain109 17th Apr 17, 12:49 AM
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    Thank you HB, I'll give that a go. Fun times ahead chez Scatterbrain!

    Other than that I've been feeling glum today. I had to nip into T*sco for catfood and passed the wine aisle. For a fleeting moment I just fancied a glass (in my world 1 glass = 2 bottles). I didn't get any and didn't feel deprived, just wistful that I can't have wine on an occasional basis.
    But then, I'm an all or nothing type gal, it's served me well in other areas of my life but not in relation to booze.

    14/28 please Shaggydoo

    Jo x
    Sealed pot challenge number 10 - #057
    • Diyer
    • By Diyer 17th Apr 17, 8:16 AM
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    Good morning everyone, lovely sunny day.

    Hope your cat gets sorted out Scatterbrain. Well done with your supermarket trip urge. I had just one beer while out Saturday, had a fantastic day so not af but fine. Yesterday however I woke up feeling upset, so had 3/4 of a bottle of wine, then finished with cider. Not proud of it, I just didn't want to feel anything at all.
    Today I'm struggling with myself as woke up feeling bad inside again, but it's such a beautiful sunny day. Going to make a tea in a minute, and try to get back up. I need to get over this.
    Last edited by Diyer; 17-04-2017 at 8:18 AM.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 17th Apr 17, 8:42 AM
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    Morning all, 11/21 for me today please.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £7,475.85/£12,000
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    June AFDs: 24/21 2017 AFDs: 138/252
    • jp1964
    • By jp1964 17th Apr 17, 1:06 PM
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    Hi All,

    Just discovered this thread whilst looking for something else entirely, just what I need to be honest!
    I drink to cope with stress these days, never used to be like that, and about 5 years ago I gave up alcohol for 7 months, then only used to drink occasionally.
    The last two years have been one nightmare after another, a serious shoulder injury in 2015, ongoing business and serious money problems, still ongoing, surgery for suspected breast cancer last summer (thankfully successful) then two weeks after the all clear from that, my mother became very ill and that situation is still ongoing after over 9 months, very stressful. Yes, you guessed it, the drinking is back, most nights, just to relax and escape the stress for a few hours, stupid but there it is.

    Just wondered how this thread works, I really could do with some moral support, and of course in turn offer the same to others trying to cut down or give up.

    My aim for this week is to not drink until next weekend, then decide how I want to go forward. Hoping that posting here will help keep me accountable....any advice welcome x
    Making time for me now. Out with old habits and ideas, and open to change......
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 17th Apr 17, 1:42 PM
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    Welcome JP1964. It sounds as though you've had a really rough and tough time of it over the last couple of years. (((Hugs))) The thread seems to work best for most people if they post every day, so I hope we see a lot of you over the next few weeks and months. Good luck with it.

    17/30 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • scatterbrain109
    • By scatterbrain109 17th Apr 17, 6:05 PM
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    Afternoon everyone, very close shave today but I managed to avoid catastrophe. Alcohol wouldn't have resolved the situation, it would have just made me feel worse.

    Hope Easter Monday is going well for everyone

    15/28 please Shaggydoo

    Jo x
    Last edited by scatterbrain109; 17-04-2017 at 6:11 PM. Reason: Forgot my numbers
    Sealed pot challenge number 10 - #057
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 17th Apr 17, 8:49 PM
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    I did have a drink today but there is wine left in the bottle and its gone back in the fridge for Friday night.
    Welcome JP1964. As HB said posting every day helps even when you do drink.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 17th Apr 17, 9:42 PM
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    14/23 AFDs today
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 18th Apr 17, 7:57 AM
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    13/23 please

    I've drunk far too much this month. Thinking about taking a break the whole of May. It would help funds and let me read a few books which I would love.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 18th Apr 17, 8:22 AM
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    Good luck with May if you decide to keep me company, PSL.

    18/30 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 18th Apr 17, 9:01 AM
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    Morning all, 12/21 for me today please.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £7,475.85/£12,000
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    June AFDs: 24/21 2017 AFDs: 138/252
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 18th Apr 17, 12:37 PM
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    8/12 for today please Shaggy
    • PriceySOS
    • By PriceySOS 18th Apr 17, 12:50 PM
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    6 please, ShaggyI am doing particularly badly this month so far. Been on hol for a week, then the Easter weekend - no excuse, I must get firmly back on that wagon.

    Sorry to be a pain, Shaggy, but please can I update my March total to 22?
    Last edited by PriceySOS; 18-04-2017 at 12:58 PM.
    • Eltee12
    • By Eltee12 18th Apr 17, 1:02 PM
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    Afternoon All


    12/24


    Thanks


    El
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    • macpep1
    • By macpep1 18th Apr 17, 1:54 PM
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    Hi All


    I had a lovely overnight away with my friends on Saturday to my caravan, there was alcohol, had a lovely meal out with my family last night as well, there was alcohol, back on the wagon today, so at the moment 3/17 for me please, be hard pushed to hit my target now but I will do what I can, any day AF is a bonus for me.
    Gratitude is the best Attitude
    Long Term Flylady
    • Diyer
    • By Diyer 18th Apr 17, 4:47 PM
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    Good afternoon all,
    No more af days, but I've decided to pull myself together. He really wasnt worth it. Aiming for 10 more days this month.
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