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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • maman
    • By maman 13th Mar 17, 11:12 AM
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    Hope you are OK HB, not like you not to keep up with posting.


    It was my birthday yesterday but as it was a weekend it was a planned drinking day anyway. Nothing excessive, but I had a good time.


    No drinking planned today but I am out tomorrow for a meal with friends and then away for a week's holiday. I've done much better than I expected at this point so I'll get to target and more when I get back.


    9 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 13th Mar 17, 11:15 AM
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    6/12 for today please Shaggy
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 13th Mar 17, 11:52 AM
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    I really need to learn that going away on holiday doesn't mean that the trip automatically turns into a non-stop bender right from the moment I get to the airport departures lounge. I still want to be able to sample the local beer and wine but it would be nice to get back, remember more of what happened and not spend a few days at work unable to think straight.

    Any tips on low alcohol holidays?
    Originally posted by Doshwaster
    What works for me is alcohol free beer. It seems there are a lot more brands available everywhere else, whereas in England most bars only stock one and corner shops that sell alcohol over there sell a choice of AF beers, whereas in the UK that means a trip to a supermarket. The only place I had a hard time getting hold of AF beer was in Bristol - the restaurant ran out of it after I had what was apparently their only bottle, and the pub didn't have any at all. In Barcelona everywhere we went had lots of choice and it made eating out much easier.

    The other thing I'd suggest is thinking about what you want from a holiday. If it's sitting in cafes and bars and watching the world go by followed by an evening of a long, slow dinner, you're bound to feel the pinch of cutting the booze down or out altogether.

    I've realized a completely useless thing. You know on the MSE site when you go to your control panel to (say) update your signature and among other things it shows all the threads you subscribe to. It shows the name of the thread, the newest poster, the number of replies and the number of views. This morning I accidentally pressed on the number of replies and a panel appeared showing everyone on this thread and how many times they have posted, in descending order. So I can see shaggydoo has posted 1,975 times, Honey Bear 977 and Barny1979 927. I'm actually seventh in the list with 489! That surprises me because I thought I had joined this thread quite late on, though I guess I do post most days. I'm quite chuffed about it though, I feel it somehow has to be a good thing. Anyway, as I say, it's completely useless information, in a good way though.
    Originally posted by cathybird
    Useful! Thanks for that. There are some contributors I know I find interesting, so that's a great way for me to scan threads to see who's got a lot to say.

    Happy birthday Maman!

    Thank you everyone who wished me well. I'm feeling better but still a bit feeble. I'm back to getting on with stuff because it's piling up here and I don't really cope with it all hanging over me. I've got to learn to pace myself a bit better.

    Sorry life's been throwing lemons at you, Shaggy. Very sad when people you've always believed absolutely belonged together decide they don't. Quite destabilizing. 13/31 please.
    Keeping it AF
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 13th Mar 17, 5:19 PM
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    8/16 pls shaggy
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 13th Mar 17, 5:53 PM
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    10/22

    Trying to go through to Saturday.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • debjay
    • By debjay 13th Mar 17, 7:02 PM
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    8/16 for tonight please.
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 13th Mar 17, 8:00 PM
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    10/24 AFDs today
    • Green Karen
    • By Green Karen 13th Mar 17, 8:13 PM
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    12/20 AF for tonight please.

    Glad you're back HB.
    • scatterbrain109
    • By scatterbrain109 13th Mar 17, 8:14 PM
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    Hi Shaggydoo

    9/25 for me today please

    Jo x
    Last edited by scatterbrain109; 14-03-2017 at 9:52 AM.
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    • fakeplastictwee
    • By fakeplastictwee 13th Mar 17, 9:27 PM
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    Hi everyone. 6/20 for me tonight please.
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 13th Mar 17, 11:00 PM
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    Hi everyone, 2/10 for me. I had a lovely holiday with no hangovers or going OTT. I have only managed no - alcohol holidays when driving a vehicle was involved so I suggest a road trip somewhere.

    My next AFD is planned for tomorrow. Sleep well everyone.
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 14th Mar 17, 9:19 AM
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    Thanks Green Karen.

    14/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 14th Mar 17, 10:17 AM
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    hey all, for some reason I didn't post yesterday but I didn't drink either and no plans to drink today so up to 10/21.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. 7,475.85/12,000
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    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 14th Mar 17, 11:11 AM
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    Haven't posted for a while as OH was rushed into hospital last week. He's home now thankfully and OK but being home alone stressing didn't do anything for my AF count.


    I did manage AF on Sun and last night so I am calling in early for tonight with 8/16
    MF 03Sep2016
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 14th Mar 17, 11:19 AM
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    7/12 for today please Shaggy
    • maman
    • By maman 14th Mar 17, 11:41 AM
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    Good to see you posting HB.

    Haven't posted for a while as OH was rushed into hospital last week. He's home now thankfully and OK but being home alone stressing didn't do anything for my AF count.
    Originally posted by ElusiveLucy
    Sorry to hear that lucy, hope OH is on the mend.

    Hi everyone, 2/10 for me. I had a lovely holiday with no hangovers or going OTT.
    Originally posted by Wanna Bee Free
    Good to hear you say that wbf, that's exactly my plan for the next week. I know I've improved hugely as I no longer drag people into bars during the day, quite happy with a coffee shop. Not fussed about drinking at lunchtime as it makes me sleepy and I want to enjoy the afternoons. No obsession with having a bottle in my hotel room. All good signs that I've cut down permanently.


    I'm out for a meal with friends tonight so I will have a drink but not excessive as we've an early start tomorrow. See you next week all.
    • Eltee12
    • By Eltee12 14th Mar 17, 12:22 PM
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    Afternoon All


    8/21 for me please


    Thanks


    El
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    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 14th Mar 17, 1:26 PM
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    Good afternoon everyone,

    9 AFD please.

    Belated birthday wishes Maman. Hope everyone who is not 100% or with relatives who are ill get well soon.

    Arkers x
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 14th Mar 17, 3:01 PM
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    Happy belated birthday from me too Maman - and ElusiveLucy, hope your OH will get well soon - and Honey Bear, hope you are feeling better soon too. Thanks for finding my useless info useful too!!
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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 14th Mar 17, 3:15 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : March 2017
    March 2017
    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = Target Achieved


    Alcohol Free Days
    Arkers 9/TF
    Barny1979
    10/24
    CathyBird 10/21


    CoastalChick 1/26
    CuppaTea 8/16

    Dansmam 2/31
    DebJay 8/16

    DizzyImp 1/25

    Eltee
    8/21
    ElusiveLucy
    8/16

    FakePlasticTwee
    6/20
    FreysMum
    9/27
    GreenKaren 12/20

    Honey Bear 14/31
    LoveASale 7/16

    MaggieM
    /15
    Maman
    9/10
    Poor Single Lady 10/22
    Pricey 9/22
    ScatterBrain 9/25
    Shaggy 7/17

    SukeyBoo 7/12

    WBF 2/10

    WJN222 2/10


    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

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