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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • maman
    • By maman 17th Oct 16, 1:16 PM
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    12/15 for me today please.

    Maman, I absolutely agree with you on the easier target - I'd much rather have a moderate target I beat than a high target I fail, because failure is so demotivating. One of the things I've noticed about this year though is I don't tend to beat my target, just to stick to it, because that's easy, and I'm unlikely to move "up" without changing it. I'm also confident I could do more days each month without too much pain. It is true it is logical to move up gradually though, rather than go strict right away.
    Originally posted by cathybird
    I know that pitfall cathy . It's easy to reach target and then have an unplanned drink just because you can.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 17th Oct 16, 1:58 PM
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    Afternoon

    2 more AFDs for Thursday and yesterday.



    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 17th Oct 16, 2:03 PM
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    Today is the 5th anniversary of me deciding to give up alcohol and lead an AF life.

    During the past 5 years my alcohol consumption has been....... 0

    I don`t miss alcohol, the money I haven`t spent on booze has allowed me to do other things, and generally life is good.

    Have I been tempted by booze during the last 6 years ?? - yes, but I fought those negative thoughts and have reprogrammed my brain to avoid the need for booze.

    Will I be AF till my dying days - probably yes.

    Good luck to all of you trying to get there like I have done.
    Originally posted by antonic

    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 17th Oct 16, 2:12 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : October 2016
    October

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF
    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = target achieved


    Alcohol Free Days
    Arkers 7/15
    Barny1979
    9/20
    Be The Change 14/31

    CathyBird 12/15

    CuppaTea 9/18
    DebJay 16/31
    DizzyImp 10/25
    ElusiveLucy 9/16

    GreenKaren 5/14

    Honey Bear 17/31

    LuckyLise /18
    Maman 9/10

    Mobo 5/22

    NewMe
    5/TF

    Pricey
    6/15

    Sandypan
    /21
    Shaggy 10/17

    StopLurking 7/TF
    SukeyBoo
    7/15

    TopGirl
    6/22

    WBF 4/10



    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 17th Oct 16, 3:53 PM
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    Good afternoon everyone,

    1 more for last night please Shaggy 8/15

    Thanks Arkers
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    • mobo1980
    • By mobo1980 17th Oct 16, 5:11 PM
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    hello

    I'm on 7/22today , feeling annoyed as I didn't want to drink anything and oh has arranged for me to go out for a birthday drink with someone on Friday (I haven't known her long) , so I think i'm going to have to make my excuses and let her down and risk upsetting her

    Mobo xx
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    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 17th Oct 16, 7:02 PM
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    +1 please shaggy. Have a rotten cold so no temptation here. Early night for me.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • debjay
    • By debjay 17th Oct 16, 7:08 PM
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    17/31 for tonight please.
    • BeTheChange
    • By BeTheChange 17th Oct 16, 9:25 PM
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    Ooh I have a witch on a broomstick

    15/31 please shaggy
    Debt @ Sept '16 = £51804 Oct '16= £51,095 1.37% paid off
    Oct grocery challenge = £229.05/£250
    Oct AFD challenge = 20/31
    Oct NSD = 13/18
    Emergency Fund member #209 = 376/1000
    • Dizzy Imp
    • By Dizzy Imp 17th Oct 16, 10:48 PM
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    Ooh I have a witch on a broomstick
    Originally posted by BeTheChange
    Me too! Whoo hoo (some might say I am the witch, but they're all frogs now...)

    14/25 please Shaggy x
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    Wombling total 2016 = £5649.63 as at 14/11/2016
    Sealed pot challenge 2017 (#501)1/6/2016 = 10.12.2
    • New Me
    • By New Me 17th Oct 16, 10:56 PM
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    6 please Shaggy
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 17th Oct 16, 11:05 PM
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    10/16 for tonight please Shaggy. This has got the potential to be my first month meeting target (or even exceeding it). The diet is definitely helping with cutting down the alcohol.
    MF 03Sep2016
    • AlexLK
    • By AlexLK 17th Oct 16, 11:49 PM
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    Checking back in here after quite a few months off.

    Generally things have been going well, I drink a lot less than I did and quite infrequently (1-2 nights per month) or was until this last few weeks. During the last few weeks I've started to get back into the habit of drinking on an almost daily basis. Just a glass of wine with my evening meal but for the past few days one glass has turned into two. I know this is not a route I wish to visit again, so am going to not drink for the rest of October.

    I couldn't have dreamt about having such self control a year or so ago.
    Savings 2016: £9,790.
    £32,000 in debt on 2/9/2013. Debt free on 12/1/2015.
    Saved £11,000 in 2015.

    • New Me
    • By New Me 18th Oct 16, 8:58 AM
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    Checking in early for tonight makes 7 AF. No chance of back sliding as I have slimming world weigh in tomorrow
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 18th Oct 16, 9:09 AM
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    Good morning everyone,

    [COLOR="red"]9/15 please Shaggy

    Arkers x
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 18th Oct 16, 9:18 AM
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    Still got horrible cold so 11/18 for me please Shaggy.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • maman
    • By maman 18th Oct 16, 10:45 AM
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    Good to see you back Alex. Being in control is a good feeling.


    mobo, would you go out for the birthday celebration and be AF? Your choice of course.


    Target day for me and there's loads of month left.


    10 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 18th Oct 16, 11:10 AM
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    Morning all, 13/15 for me please.
    No. 11 in Save 12K in 2016: £18,915.68/£15,000. Target reached 1 August.
    Amazon/eBay July '15 to end Aug: £4,283.59. MB: £406.67 Total: £4,690.26
    December AFDs: 7/21 2016 AFDs: 200/200
    Savings goal for 2015: £10,000. Saved: £25,464.86
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 18th Oct 16, 2:06 PM
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    I didn't want to drink anything and oh has arranged for me to go out for a birthday drink with someone on Friday (I haven't known her long) , so I think i'm going to have to make my excuses and let her down and risk upsetting her
    Originally posted by mobo1980
    Tricky. The good news is that you could take this as an opportunity to find out if there's a real chance of this person becoming a good and real friend, or that she'd just prefer to be a drinking buddy. If you're honest with her and say that you'd like to meet up with her but you're off the sauce for a few days, you might be pleasantly surprised to find that she'd be okay with it. Good luck with whatever you decide to do about it, anyway.

    Welcome back, Alex!

    18/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • mobo1980
    • By mobo1980 18th Oct 16, 5:34 PM
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    Thankyou Maman and Honeybear

    I think at the minute I wouldn't be able to go out and be AF - unless i'm with oh and driving so Know i have too .
    I hope one day I will be able too though i am nervous in social situations if im on my own without oh , soo this morning I texted her and thankfully she was fine about it - yay !


    Mobo xx
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