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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • debjay
    • By debjay 14th Oct 16, 8:56 PM
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    14/31 for tonight please.
    • stoplurking
    • By stoplurking 15th Oct 16, 6:28 AM
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    stoplurking
    7for me please Shaggy.
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    • mobo1980
    • By mobo1980 15th Oct 16, 8:21 AM
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    mobo1980
    good morning

    Yesterday was 5/22yay

    Thanks, Mobo xx
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 15th Oct 16, 9:55 AM
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    I'd disagree too HB. To me that's like saying you shouldn't have decaff coffee or sugar free squash. Just because you like the taste but not the alcohol (or caffeine or sugar) then why stop drinking it. Perhaps you shouldn't even be allowed in the pub or pubs should stop selling AF drinks?? What nonsense!

    I'm having an AF Friday which is unusual for me. Yesterday I found I'd gained 2.5 lbs in the past 7 weeks of socialising so my vanity is giving me the needed kick in the rear end. We're off to a local theatre so it'll be easier. Definitely no wine in the interval or ice cream either!
    Originally posted by maman
    Exactly, Maman. I thought it was a very strange, heavily negative, thing to say. Whatever works is my motto. I know for you the biggest motivation is knocking weight gain on the head, so I hope losing the 2.5lbs is quick and painless.

    There is a LOT of carp talked about booze and the longer I go without the more it irritates me. It's tough enough deciding that we're going to do without the 'Instant Relaxer' without people making up nonsense arbitrary 'rules.'

    15/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • antonic
    • By antonic 15th Oct 16, 10:04 AM
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    Today is the 5th anniversary of me deciding to give up alcohol and lead an AF life.

    During the past 5 years my alcohol consumption has been....... 0

    I don`t miss alcohol, the money I haven`t spent on booze has allowed me to do other things, and generally life is good.

    Have I been tempted by booze during the last 6 years ?? - yes, but I fought those negative thoughts and have reprogrammed my brain to avoid the need for booze.

    Will I be AF till my dying days - probably yes.

    Good luck to all of you trying to get there like I have done.
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    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 15th Oct 16, 8:17 PM
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    1 more for today pls. I had wine last night so making up for it today. I dont feel 100% so not missing it at all.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • debjay
    • By debjay 15th Oct 16, 9:54 PM
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    15/31 for tonight please.
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 16th Oct 16, 10:52 AM
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    Honey Bear
    Today is the 5th anniversary of me deciding to give up alcohol and lead an AF life.

    During the past 5 years my alcohol consumption has been....... 0

    I don`t miss alcohol, the money I haven`t spent on booze has allowed me to do other things, and generally life is good.

    Have I been tempted by booze during the last 6 years ?? - yes, but I fought those negative thoughts and have reprogrammed my brain to avoid the need for booze.

    Will I be AF till my dying days - probably yes.

    Good luck to all of you trying to get there like I have done.
    Originally posted by antonic
    Huge congratulations on your fifth anniversary, AnTonic and thanks for coming back to let us know! Lovely to hear there are people out there who cracked it and stayed off the booze - it gives us all hope.

    16/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 16th Oct 16, 1:34 PM
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    11/15 for me please.
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    • BeTheChange
    • By BeTheChange 16th Oct 16, 1:50 PM
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    BeTheChange
    14/31 for me as I took a little detour and had a glass of fizz on Fri and a couple of glasses wine last night.

    Compared to a few weeks ago that is so so much less than I would have drunk. But I don't want this to be the thin end of the wedge so I am back on track and planning to stay on course for the remainder of the month.
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    • debjay
    • By debjay 16th Oct 16, 4:51 PM
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    16/31 for tonight please.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 16th Oct 16, 8:01 PM
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    Since we are so close to the end of the year I am mulling over what target to set for next year. Towards the end of this year I have felt myself really going off alcohol to the point where I prefer AFDs to days I drink . This is nothing if not a fairly major change. However, it's only a slight preference, and I don't want to go off alcohol altogether. I do know I want to raise my target but not sure if I want to go for 17-18 days per month (easy) or 21 days (harder, but not impossible). 21 days per month would make a total of 252 for the year, which is neat, because it leaves 100 days each year where I can drink. But I might go for 18 per month next year and then maybe 21 the year after that. I'm still deciding.
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    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 16th Oct 16, 9:14 PM
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    1 more for me pls shaggy.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 16th Oct 16, 9:53 PM
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    9/16 for Friday for me. 6 whole days in a row, mainly thanks to Slimming World I think
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    • New Me
    • By New Me 16th Oct 16, 10:26 PM
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    New Me
    5 for tonight please
    • maman
    • By maman 17th Oct 16, 10:09 AM
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    maman
    If you lurk then I'd like to congratulate you too antonic. Great achievement.
    Target setting is tricky cathy. It perhaps depends how much you'd beat yourself up if you didn't achieve an aspirational target. Personally I know I work better if I can be assured of an 'easy' target and then feel good if I get more. That being said, it's only become easy by sticking with it because when I started even 1 AFD was a struggle.


    The other positive is that when I do drink these days I'm sensible so no more embarrassing moments or hangovers. Part of what I wanted to achieve was being in control of my drinking (rather than the other way round) and just be able to have a 'normal' social drink.


    Definitely no drinking planned today.


    9 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 17th Oct 16, 10:30 AM
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    Honey Bear
    That being said, it's only become easy by sticking with it because when I started even 1 AFD was a struggle.
    Originally posted by maman
    Ditto.

    17/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 17th Oct 16, 11:15 AM
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    12/15 for me today please.

    Maman, I absolutely agree with you on the easier target - I'd much rather have a moderate target I beat than a high target I fail, because failure is so demotivating. One of the things I've noticed about this year though is I don't tend to beat my target, just to stick to it, because that's easy, and I'm unlikely to move "up" without changing it. I'm also confident I could do more days each month without too much pain. It is true it is logical to move up gradually though, rather than go strict right away.
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    • PriceySOS
    • By PriceySOS 17th Oct 16, 11:36 AM
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    6 please, Shaggy, thanksJust got back from a great holiday - back on the wagon during the week now
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 17th Oct 16, 12:28 PM
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    Target setting is tricky cathy. It perhaps depends how much you'd beat yourself up if you didn't achieve an aspirational target. Personally I know I work better if I can be assured of an 'easy' target and then feel good if I get more. That being said, it's only become easy by sticking with it because when I started even 1 AFD was a struggle.

    The other positive is that when I do drink these days I'm sensible so no more embarrassing moments or hangovers. Part of what I wanted to achieve was being in control of my drinking (rather than the other way round) and just be able to have a 'normal' social drink.
    Originally posted by maman
    Absolutely agree with you there Maman - I think I have overdone it on my target the last two months and I am struggling with that as I seem to miss it by one day but, like you, do keep to sensible amounts when I do drink

    I'd much rather have a moderate target I beat than a high target I fail, because failure is so demotivating. One of the things I've noticed about this year though is I don't tend to beat my target, just to stick to it, because that's easy, and I'm unlikely to move "up" without changing it. I'm also confident I could do more days each month without too much pain. It is true it is logical to move up gradually though, rather than go strict right away.
    Originally posted by cathybird
    Very true cathy - it needs to be enough of a challenge but not unachievable. I admire all of you who can manage so many AFD's every month . I think I will revise my target next month as 15 seems to be just beyond my reach and when I don't quite get there it does feel like I have 'failed'

    Declaring early for tonight on 7/15 and finally earning my 'black cat' as a reward
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