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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 12th Oct 16, 8:46 PM
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    I confess to buying the odd cup of coffee when on the way to work but only when I haven't slept properly and my brain needs a shot of something galvanising to rev it into first gear! It's not a habit though.
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    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 13th Oct 16, 11:26 AM
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    Morning all, 9/15 for me please.
    No. 11 in Save 12K in 2016: £18,915.68/£15,000. Target reached 1 August.
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    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 13th Oct 16, 12:28 PM
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    6/15 please Shaggy
    • maman
    • By maman 13th Oct 16, 12:35 PM
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    I confess to buying the odd cup of coffee when on the way to work but only when I haven't slept properly and my brain needs a shot of something galvanising to rev it into first gear! It's not a habit though.
    Originally posted by cathybird

    sorry but I didn't mean to imply that there's anything wrong with buying take away coffee just that the whole lifestyle thing of retail therapy was getting out of control and it being 'cool' to be seen with coffee was the a bit like it being cool to drink wine.


    No drinking planned here today and I get to have my cat!!


    7 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 13th Oct 16, 2:52 PM
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    sorry but I didn't mean to imply that there's anything wrong with buying take away coffee just that the whole lifestyle thing of retail therapy was getting out of control and it being 'cool' to be seen with coffee was the a bit like it being cool to drink wine.
    Originally posted by maman
    ^^^ Wot she said.

    13/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 13th Oct 16, 3:16 PM
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    Honey Bear and Maman, I agree absolutely with you on the retail therapy/"cool to be seen with coffee" thang. In fact it's interesting how quickly even the odd cup of coffee can add up.

    Meanwhile I was in M&S at lunchtime and they were selling tiny containers of posh salt for £10.50 The container was so pretty you could actually have kept it and used it to store bits and bobs, say in the bathroom, but you know, salt is salt! Amazing how much you can spend on food/drink (including booze) without really thinking about it.
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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 13th Oct 16, 3:43 PM
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    Afternoon

    2 more AFDs for Tuesday and yesterday.



    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 13th Oct 16, 3:51 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : October 2016
    October

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF
    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = target achieved


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers
    /15
    Barny1979
    7/20
    Be The Change 11/31

    CathyBird 9/15

    CuppaTea 7/18
    DebJay 12/31
    DizzyImp 9/25

    ElusiveLucy
    5/16

    GreenKaren 5/14

    Honey Bear 13/31

    LuckyLise /18
    Maman 7/10

    Mobo 3/22

    NewMe
    3/TF

    Pricey
    2/15

    Sandypan
    /21
    Shaggy 8/17


    StopLurking 6/TF

    SukeyBoo
    6/15

    TopGirl
    6/22

    WBF 4/10



    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • mobo1980
    • By mobo1980 13th Oct 16, 6:41 PM
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    Today is 4/22

    Thankyou

    Mobo xx
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    Then there's the mortgage
    • Dizzy Imp
    • By Dizzy Imp 13th Oct 16, 6:52 PM
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    10/25 for me tonight...calling in early
    DFBXmas2016 #27 £3606.60/£34,027.17 = 10% as at 28/6/2016/2016
    Wombling total 2016 = £5649.63 as at 14/11/2016
    Sealed pot challenge 2017 (#501)1/6/2016 = 10.12.2
    • debjay
    • By debjay 13th Oct 16, 7:13 PM
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    13/31 for tonight please.
    • BeTheChange
    • By BeTheChange 13th Oct 16, 7:15 PM
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    Another 2 for me so 13/31 for me please
    Debt @ Sept '16 = £51804 Oct '16= £51,095 1.37% paid off
    Oct grocery challenge = £229.05/£250
    Oct AFD challenge = 20/31
    Oct NSD = 13/18
    Emergency Fund member #209 = 376/1000
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 13th Oct 16, 11:04 PM
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    8/20 AFDs today
    • New Me
    • By New Me 14th Oct 16, 8:29 AM
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    4 please for last night
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 14th Oct 16, 9:21 AM
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    Been a very stressful week, but pleased to report another 3 AFD (one of them thanks to a bottle of AF wine!).


    Now at 8/16, and I may even have another AF night tonight as I am going out and driving. That would be a run of 6 consecutive days which is a major achievement for me.


    Glad to finally get my little cat icon!
    MF 03Sep2016
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 14th Oct 16, 10:18 AM
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    £10.50! Cripes, Cathybird. For that I'd expect gold leaf in the salt!

    Brilliant numbers, Elusive Lucy, and really pleased that the AF wine helped rack them up, particularly as it was a stresssful week. Whatever works, as they say. Someone I respect said that drinking AF beer or wine means that we shouldn't consider ourselves done with booze. Hmm. I've been off booze for well over two years so I completely disagree. As far as I'm concerned if it's one drink less than we would have otherwise had, one evening more than normal off the booze, or however else anyone has changed the habit - it's a victory and we should celebrate it.

    14/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • maman
    • By maman 14th Oct 16, 10:37 AM
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    I'd disagree too HB. To me that's like saying you shouldn't have decaff coffee or sugar free squash. Just because you like the taste but not the alcohol (or caffeine or sugar) then why stop drinking it. Perhaps you shouldn't even be allowed in the pub or pubs should stop selling AF drinks?? What nonsense!


    I'm having an AF Friday which is unusual for me. Yesterday I found I'd gained 2.5 lbs in the past 7 weeks of socialising so my vanity is giving me the needed kick in the rear end. We're off to a local theatre so it'll be easier. Definitely no wine in the interval or ice cream either!


    8 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 14th Oct 16, 3:31 PM
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    Afternoon all, 10/15 for me please.
    No. 11 in Save 12K in 2016: £18,915.68/£15,000. Target reached 1 August.
    Amazon/eBay July '15 to end Aug: £4,283.59. MB: £406.67 Total: £4,690.26
    December AFDs: 8/21 2016 AFDs: 201/200
    Savings goal for 2015: £10,000. Saved: £25,464.86
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 14th Oct 16, 4:56 PM
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    Hello everyone,

    Sorry I haven't touched base for a while. Hope all is well? Fairly sociable month to date, so can only claim 7 AFD days please Shaggy. Having a few this evening x

    Arkers
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 14th Oct 16, 6:06 PM
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    9/20 AFDs today
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