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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 11th Oct 16, 11:06 AM
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    Morning all, 7/15 for me please.
    No. 11 in Save 12K in 2016: £18,915.68/£15,000. Target reached 1 August.
    Amazon/eBay July '15 to end Aug: £4,283.59. MB: £406.67 Total: £4,690.26
    December AFDs: 6/21 2016 AFDs: 199/200
    Savings goal for 2015: £10,000. Saved: £25,464.86
    • mobo1980
    • By mobo1980 11th Oct 16, 12:56 PM
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    mobo1980
    Hi everybody !

    am I ok to join you this late ?

    I have tried this challenge before a couple of years ago .

    I have been drinking way too much lately and the bad thing is my o/h who can put away quite a bit himself actually told me yesterday he was worried about my drinking soo he suggested we try to stop drinking for the rest of the month and see how we go and I could definately use the support of you fab guys

    Drinking for me is a way to relax , but recently there is no stop button once I start .
    I tend to suffer from blackouts as well theres been times me and o/h have argued I have no recollection of ... (not good)

    so if you will have me I would like to declare 2/22
    Thankyou Mobo xx
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 11th Oct 16, 2:04 PM
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    4/15 for me today please Shaggy
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 11th Oct 16, 2:45 PM
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    Afternoon

    1 more AFD for yesterday.



    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 11th Oct 16, 2:49 PM
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    so if you will have me I would like to declare 2/22
    Thankyou Mobo xx
    Originally posted by mobo1980
    you're on the list and Good Luck!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 11th Oct 16, 2:53 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : October 2016
    October

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF
    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = target achieved


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers
    /15

    Barny1979
    6/20
    Be The Change 10/31

    CathyBird 7/15


    CuppaTea
    6/18
    DebJay 10/31
    DizzyImp 8/25

    ElusiveLucy
    5/16

    GreenKaren 4/14

    Honey Bear 11/31

    LuckyLise /18

    Maman
    6/10

    Mobo 2/22

    NewMe
    1/TF

    Pricey
    2/15

    Sandypan
    /21

    Shaggy 6/17


    StopLurking 4/TF

    SukeyBoo
    4/15

    TopGirl
    6/22

    WBF 4/10



    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 11th Oct 16, 6:34 PM
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    Smiley day today, 7/20
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 11th Oct 16, 7:18 PM
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    1 more for me pls shaggy.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • stoplurking
    • By stoplurking 11th Oct 16, 7:57 PM
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    6. For me please Shaggy.
    LBM Oct12 Debts at LBM £17715.93.
    Orig DFD Apr15 DFD 24/12/13
    3-6monthEFC#9 £1450/£4000 36%
    • debjay
    • By debjay 11th Oct 16, 9:34 PM
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    11/31 for tonight please.
    • BeTheChange
    • By BeTheChange 11th Oct 16, 10:04 PM
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    11/31 for me please shaggy
    Debt @ Sept '16 = £51804 Oct '16= £51,095 1.37% paid off
    Oct grocery challenge = £229.05/£250
    Oct AFD challenge = 20/31
    Oct NSD = 13/18
    Emergency Fund member #209 = 376/1000
    • Green Karen
    • By Green Karen 11th Oct 16, 10:50 PM
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    Mark me up for 5/14 AF tonight please. Have been doing badly lately and thought I had better start notching up the days if I am going to hit 14.
    • Dizzy Imp
    • By Dizzy Imp 12th Oct 16, 7:06 AM
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    Morning lovelies

    Another AFD to report and I'm jolly pleased with myself, 'cos yesterday was reeeeealy stressful. 9/25 please Shaggy x
    DFBXmas2016 #27 £3606.60/£34,027.17 = 10% as at 28/6/2016/2016
    Wombling total 2016 = £5649.63 as at 14/11/2016
    Sealed pot challenge 2017 (#501)1/6/2016 = 10.12.2
    • New Me
    • By New Me 12th Oct 16, 7:38 AM
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    No drinks the last 2 nights, so now on 3 please Shaggy
    Last edited by New Me; 12-10-2016 at 8:36 AM.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 12th Oct 16, 11:06 AM
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    Morning all, 8/15 for me please.
    No. 11 in Save 12K in 2016: £18,915.68/£15,000. Target reached 1 August.
    Amazon/eBay July '15 to end Aug: £4,283.59. MB: £406.67 Total: £4,690.26
    December AFDs: 6/21 2016 AFDs: 199/200
    Savings goal for 2015: £10,000. Saved: £25,464.86
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 12th Oct 16, 11:30 AM
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    I was that woman!

    Like you HB, I've analysed this. It's become a lifestyle thing rather like walking down the street with horrendously expensive cups of coffee. Also I think there's a sense of entitlement that's grown up and a need to reward oneself. To me it's part of the whole materialism thing that brought us retail therapy.
    Originally posted by maman
    The first time I heard the expression 'retail therapy' I thought it was funny. Twenty-five years later it seems to be a lot of people's hobby and I don't find it funny at all, given that a lot of the spending is borrowed money. I find that just sad.

    As to walking around holding a cup of coffee, someone referred to them as 'sippy cups, you know, the kind that infants use' and from that moment on in my mind's eye all I've been able to see is adults wearing nappies, a bib and baby bonnets clutching their sippy cups, and I've found all of those people utterly ridiculous ever since. Probably not what they intended.

    Welcome Mobo! I hope you find being with us and amongst us helpful. I don't know where I'd been if I hadn't found this thread when I needed it. Good luck with it.

    12/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 12th Oct 16, 12:14 PM
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    5/15 please Shaggy
    • mobo1980
    • By mobo1980 12th Oct 16, 2:23 PM
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    Thankyou for the lovely welcome

    I have just done my sig and scared myself

    Mobo xx
    CC1-£362.00
    CC2-£1620
    LOAN-£14,844.33
    TOTAL DEBT £16,826.33
    Then there's the mortgage
    • mobo1980
    • By mobo1980 12th Oct 16, 8:35 PM
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    My total A/F days today are 3/22

    Mobo xx
    CC1-£362.00
    CC2-£1620
    LOAN-£14,844.33
    TOTAL DEBT £16,826.33
    Then there's the mortgage
    • debjay
    • By debjay 12th Oct 16, 8:43 PM
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    debjay
    12/31 for tonight please.
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