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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • debjay
    • By debjay 9th Oct 16, 8:27 PM
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    9/31 for tonight please.
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 9th Oct 16, 9:13 PM
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    1 more for me pls shaggy.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 9th Oct 16, 9:48 PM
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    4/16 - the first sunday I have had AF in as long as I can remember!
    MF 03Sep2016
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 10th Oct 16, 12:21 AM
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    Calling in super-early for today (Monday), 6/15 for me please.
    No. 11 in Save 12K in 2016: £18,915.68/£15,000. Target reached 1 August.
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    • stoplurking
    • By stoplurking 10th Oct 16, 7:02 AM
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    I'm on 4 for October please Shaggydoo
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 10th Oct 16, 10:05 AM
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    Everything I seem to have watched on TV today has had someone with a glass of wine and I really fancied one but I will stay strong!
    Originally posted by BeTheChange
    It's interesting, isn't it, that the less we drink the more we notice that the media portrays boozing as sophisticated, and a normal part of everyday life. Insidious.

    10/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 10th Oct 16, 12:11 PM
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    Afternoon

    1 more AFD for yesterday.



    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 10th Oct 16, 12:18 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : October 2016
    October

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF
    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = target achieved


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers
    /15

    Barny1979
    4/20
    Be The Change 9/31


    CathyBird 6/15


    CuppaTea
    5/18
    DebJay 9/31

    DizzyImp 4/25


    ElusiveLucy
    4/16

    GreenKaren 4/14

    Honey Bear 10/31

    LuckyLise /18

    Maman
    4/10

    NewMe
    1/TF

    Pricey
    2/15

    Sandypan
    /21

    Shaggy 5/17


    StopLurking 4/TF

    SukeyBoo
    2/15

    TopGirl
    /22

    WBF 3/10



    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 10th Oct 16, 12:23 PM
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    Twas a terrible weekend for alcohol consumption I am drawing a line beneath it and starting again

    Declaring early for today on a miserable 3/15 please Shaggy
    • Top Girl
    • By Top Girl 10th Oct 16, 1:07 PM
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    6/22 please Shala. Busy and stressed and have a poorly Nana, trying to stay on the wagon/plan as best I can
    • maman
    • By maman 10th Oct 16, 2:07 PM
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    Everything I seem to have watched on TV today has had someone with a glass of wine and I really fancied one but I will stay strong!
    Originally posted by BeTheChange

    I know exactly what you mean. I found that really difficult when I was first cutting down but I'm (mostly) over it now. It does get better, promise.


    No plans to drink today.


    5 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 10th Oct 16, 4:48 PM
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    6/18 for me please. Hoping to go straight through this week to Friday.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 10th Oct 16, 5:05 PM
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    No intention to drink tonight, so I am calling in early with 5/16 please Shaggy
    MF 03Sep2016
    • debjay
    • By debjay 10th Oct 16, 7:17 PM
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    10/31 for tonight please.
    • BeTheChange
    • By BeTheChange 10th Oct 16, 8:50 PM
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    Honeybear - sometimes I think when watching the soaps that most of he characters must have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol given how much of their lives is spent in the pub!

    Maman - glad to hear it gets better!

    10/31 for me please Shaggy
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    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 10th Oct 16, 8:54 PM
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    5 and 6 for yesterday and today
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 10th Oct 16, 10:23 PM
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    4 for today please Shaggy. Goodnight all.
    • Dizzy Imp
    • By Dizzy Imp 11th Oct 16, 7:04 AM
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    Morning all! Seems like ages since I posted, but I've been good(ish) and would like to report I'm on 8/25 Thanks Shaggy x

    Ooh, I get the cat smilie
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 11th Oct 16, 10:46 AM
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    Honeybear - sometimes I think when watching the soaps that most of he characters must have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol given how much of their lives is spent in the pub!
    Originally posted by BeTheChange
    Very true, and it normalises boozey behaviour. Plus which, whereas 20 years ago a woman coming home from work on television would put the kettle on, nowadays she's shown pouring herself a glass of wine and taking a generous swig the minute she walks in the door. All that rubbish about 'wine o'clock' saddens me because, again, it's normalising alcohol as part of our all day, every day, booze culture. Brits have always had an odd relationship with alcohol (Hogarth, mother's ruin etc) but now it's seen as sophisticated, funny and clever to drink to excess frequently and regularly, whereas before it was seen as aberrant behaviour. I'm just glad I'm out of it.

    Speaking of which, I still find myself monitoring how I feel about not drinking when I'm out and about, or having a meal with friends. It's taken about two years three months to get to the stage when I'm really comfortable and confident about not drinking when other people are - I literally can't remember the last time I felt the pull of a glass of red wine in those circumstances and in the early days it could be very tempting sometimes. I think I'm too conscious of how grateful I am not to be drinking with them. It feels like a freedom to me that I absolutely wouldn't want to give up.

    11/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • maman
    • By maman 11th Oct 16, 10:57 AM
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    Very true, and it normalises boozey behaviour. Plus which, whereas 20 years ago a woman coming home from work on television would put the kettle on, nowadays she's shown pouring herself a glass of wine and taking a generous swig the minute she walks in the door. All that rubbish about 'wine o'clock' saddens me because, again, it's normalising alcohol as part of our all day, every day, booze culture. Brits have always had an odd relationship with alcohol (Hogarth, mother's ruin etc) but now it's seen as sophisticated, funny and clever to drink to excess frequently and regularly, whereas before it was seen as aberrant behaviour. I'm just glad I'm out of it.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear

    I was that woman!


    Like you HB, I've analysed this. It's become a lifestyle thing rather like walking down the street with horrendously expensive cups of coffee. Also I think there's a sense of entitlement that's grown up and a need to reward oneself. To me it's part of the whole materialism thing that brought us retail therapy.


    No drinking here today.


    6 AFDs please Shaggy.
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