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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 7th Oct 16, 12:12 AM
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    Laughing at the idea of putting a really hungover picture next to the mirror. Maybe an app that takes a photo of your face and then shows you what you'll look like after a heavy night. Put your units in and see how bad it will be. Like those apps that show you what the haircut will be like before you do it.

    Another one here so 3/10 please Shaggy. Sleep well everyone.
    • Dizzy Imp
    • By Dizzy Imp 7th Oct 16, 7:10 AM
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    Laughing at the idea of putting a really hungover picture next to the mirror. Maybe an app that takes a photo of your face and then shows you what you'll look like after a heavy night. Put your units in and see how bad it will be. Like those apps that show you what the haircut will be like before you do it.

    Another one here so 3/10 please Shaggy. Sleep well everyone.
    Originally posted by Wanna Bee Free
    This is genius! And so, so funny
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 7th Oct 16, 10:10 AM
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    A lightbulb moment - the booze ain't the great idea it seems to be.
    Who knew?!
    Originally posted by Wanna Bee Free
    Goodness that made me laugh! I knew that I absolutely had to do something about my drinking for years before I stopped but could I get that through to my head at 8.00pm every night? Could I bu**ery!

    I've not found it easy this week. No real cravings but just seems like a long week. Probably a tiny bit bored after all the socialising last month and missing the wine is just part of it.
    Originally posted by maman
    One of the pernicious things about booze that I genuuinely didn't understand is that the effect of it is cumulative. Having a really social and sociable time liberally oiled with booze means that afterwards we're bound to miss it's warm and fuzzy embrace. I honestly didn't know how to switch my Control Button back on after a hectic month or two and couldn't find out how other people did, either. It's bound to seem a bit dull, Maman, after such a lovely summer. Hang on in there - you know you can do it.



    Shaggyx
    Originally posted by shaggydoo
    Love this! I totally am, which is still a marvellous revelation more than two years on. 7/31 please, Shaggy. My first smiley for October, and one of my absolute favourites, too. Good-oh.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 7th Oct 16, 11:04 AM
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    Morning all! 4/15 for me please.
    No. 11 in Save 12K in 2016: £18,915.68/£15,000. Target reached 1 August.
    Amazon/eBay July '15 to end Aug: £4,283.59. MB: £406.67 Total: £4,690.26
    December AFDs: 3/21 2016 AFDs: 196/200
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    • maman
    • By maman 7th Oct 16, 12:07 PM
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    Goodness that made me laugh! I knew that I absolutely had to do something about my drinking for years before I stopped but could I get that through to my head at 8.00pm every night? Could I bu**ery!

    It's bound to seem a bit dull, Maman, after such a lovely summer. Hang on in there - you know you can do it.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear

    You waited until 8 o'clock? I'm impressed!


    I think you're probably right about that end of summer feeling HB. I'll get over it and I'll feel better when I've a few more AFDs under my belt.
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 7th Oct 16, 12:24 PM
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    [QUOTE=maman;71417132]You waited until 8 o'clock? I'm impressed!


    QUOTE]

    Me too!!

    Quite understand where you are both coming from. Finding this thread very very supportive. I think its the longest I've stayed here, as in the past I've dipped in and out depending on my levels of drinking.

    Now I have established the habit of checking in every day and it does help me moderate myself (most of the time!!).
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 7th Oct 16, 12:42 PM
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    No more AFD's to report - have been struggling a bit this week - just haven't wanted to say no to the odd glass of wine when offered

    Have a great weekend everyone - mine won't be AF but I am determined to try harder next week
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 7th Oct 16, 2:35 PM
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    Afternoon

    1 more AFD for yesterday.



    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 7th Oct 16, 2:37 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : October 2016
    October

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF
    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = target achieved


    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers
    /15

    Barny1979
    4/20

    Be The Change 6/31

    CathyBird 4/15


    CuppaTea
    4/18

    DebJay 6/31


    DizzyImp 4/25


    ElusiveLucy
    2/16

    FizzandNonsense

    GreenKaren 4/14

    Honey Bear 7/31

    LotsToGain

    LuckyLise /18

    Maman
    4/10

    NewMe
    1/TF

    Pricey
    2/15

    Sandypan
    /21

    Shaggy 4/17


    Slowdown

    StopLurking
    2/TF

    SukeyBoo
    2/15

    Tabitha


    TopGirl
    /22

    WBF 3/10



    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 7th Oct 16, 2:39 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : October 2016 Targets
    Roll up, Roll up. A New Month, A New Challenge.



    SET A



    25 days up for grabs!

    Everyone Welcome!!!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 7th Oct 16, 3:33 PM
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    One more for last night for me please Shaggy - 3/16


    I can totally relate to the recent comments on here, but thanks to the support on here and trying very hard at Slimming World I am seeming to do a bit better. I still need to cut back at the weekends but at least I feel a little bit more in control during the week.
    MF 03Sep2016
    • debjay
    • By debjay 7th Oct 16, 7:21 PM
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    7/31 for tonight please. First whole weekend AF for ages if I manage it. It's not helped by the fact that OH isn't going AF this month.
    • BeTheChange
    • By BeTheChange 7th Oct 16, 10:01 PM
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    Laughing at the idea of putting a really hungover picture next to the mirror. Maybe an app that takes a photo of your face and then shows you what you'll look like after a heavy night. Put your units in and see how bad it will be. Like those apps that show you what the haircut will be like before you do it.

    .
    Originally posted by Wanna Bee Free
    Fab idea!! I do know some developers but not sure I would want to be a part of the prototype

    7/31 for me please.
    Debt @ Sept '16 = £51804 Oct '16= £51,095 1.37% paid off
    Oct grocery challenge = £229.05/£250
    Oct AFD challenge = 20/31
    Oct NSD = 13/18
    Emergency Fund member #209 = 376/1000
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 8th Oct 16, 9:59 AM
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    Morning all and it's 5/15 for me today please.
    No. 11 in Save 12K in 2016: £18,915.68/£15,000. Target reached 1 August.
    Amazon/eBay July '15 to end Aug: £4,283.59. MB: £406.67 Total: £4,690.26
    December AFDs: 3/21 2016 AFDs: 196/200
    Savings goal for 2015: £10,000. Saved: £25,464.86
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 8th Oct 16, 10:01 AM
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    PS weather forecast is overcast all day, pretty thick cloud here, but actually I'm pleased because one of the triggers for me if I'm home is a beautiful afternoon and sunset, especially if it's warm - sparks off the thought in my head, "a drink as the sun goes down, mmm". I don't usually have an AFD on Saturdays so am glad the British weather has decided to support my challenge
    No. 11 in Save 12K in 2016: £18,915.68/£15,000. Target reached 1 August.
    Amazon/eBay July '15 to end Aug: £4,283.59. MB: £406.67 Total: £4,690.26
    December AFDs: 3/21 2016 AFDs: 196/200
    Savings goal for 2015: £10,000. Saved: £25,464.86
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 8th Oct 16, 11:35 AM
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    Now that's really interesting. I thought having my first drink when I started eating was normal, but there you go, apparently not. My problem was that once I started I didn't stop, which is why I had to discipline myself not to drink until I had food in front of me. I'd been doing that for 20 years. Still caught up with me, though, in the end.

    Went to the pub last night with some chums and one of them bought a round. OH told him I was drinking an AF beer and he asked if I ever drank alcohol. Wow! I stopped drinking well over two years ago and there are still people in my life who don't know. Didn't think that was possible. He was fine about it, just interested in whether I drank champagne, spirits etc on special occasions, that's all. I admitted to eating liqueur chocolates.

    Thanks for my favourite smiley Shaggy, and it's 8/31 please.
    Keeping it AF
    • BeTheChange
    • By BeTheChange 8th Oct 16, 5:22 PM
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    8/31 please Shaggy
    Debt @ Sept '16 = £51804 Oct '16= £51,095 1.37% paid off
    Oct grocery challenge = £229.05/£250
    Oct AFD challenge = 20/31
    Oct NSD = 13/18
    Emergency Fund member #209 = 376/1000
    • debjay
    • By debjay 8th Oct 16, 5:34 PM
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    8/31 for tonight please.
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 9th Oct 16, 2:11 PM
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    9/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • BeTheChange
    • By BeTheChange 9th Oct 16, 6:53 PM
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    9/31 for me please Shaggy.


    Everything I seem to have watched on TV today has had someone with a glass of wine and I really fancied one but I will stay strong!
    Debt @ Sept '16 = £51804 Oct '16= £51,095 1.37% paid off
    Oct grocery challenge = £229.05/£250
    Oct AFD challenge = 20/31
    Oct NSD = 13/18
    Emergency Fund member #209 = 376/1000
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