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    • neneromanova
    • By neneromanova 31st Dec 13, 7:29 PM
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    Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!
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    • 31st Dec 13, 7:29 PM
    Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!! 31st Dec 13 at 7:29 PM
    This is a continuation of This thread which will be closed due to it's length.

    It's a thread that came from the very different needs of early pregnancy and is the springboard for the main MSE pregnancy thread here...

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    Its probably best to go to the main thread for these... all on the first page, thanks ticklepenny

    Please don't forget that this is a public forum and anyone could be reading it. Don't let this put you off discussing anything personal, just please be aware that the people posting on the thread may not be the only ones reading (it may just be that these people, aka lurkers, are too shy to post). Now enjoy your pg natter

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    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 12th Jun 17, 12:05 AM
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    Thanks Twentysomething. Just wrote a long reply but then the site logged me out! So will save my thoughts for another day.
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    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 15th Jun 17, 10:27 PM
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    Not much to report here.
    No nausea over the past week, touch wood. Absolutely shattered though. Been really busy at work, what's new lol. But I am hitting a wall about 7pm.
    Very conscious of my belly. Should not feel / look pregnant yet, but I do. My ever tactful mother says I must be eating too much / the wrong foods but actually I have been craving salad and fruit etc.
    I know it sounds self-indulgent but I know the difference between weight gain and pregnant belly. Hoping people who don't know aren't noticing though. Also hoping I'm not further along than I think.
    Been contemplating a bigger car, but decided I'm better making do my my Ford Focus. Either DS1 or the baby can sit in the front, as there will only be room for two carseats in the back, if DH is with us then DS1 will have to sit in the middle without a booster.
    Hoping to save an average of £500 a month in the run up to maternity leave. Feeling torn as we really wanted to get the kitchen and dining room sorted this year. Part of my thinks just go for it, get a loan and save at least the equivalent of the payment each month so we can make ends meet on maternity. It will be much easier without a baby in the mix. But then the worrier in me says save first. Perhaps get plans done but delay the work
    Last edited by fluffysox; 15-06-2017 at 10:34 PM.
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    • Timeflies
    • By Timeflies 17th Jun 17, 9:10 PM
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    Hi fluffy socks, I stopped by and saw it's very quiet here, hopefully some newbies will join you soon.

    I'm thinking about a new car for OH too, one that will fit me and two car seats in the back. I always sit in the back with our daughter on long journeys to entertain her and supervise. It's an expense though isn't it?

    Ideally I'd get our kitchen done too, but I'm hoping new tiles and worktop will give it a facelift we can live with, will get a kitchen fitter to have a look.

    Don't worry about a big belly - I have a really. If bump already at 15 and a bit weeks. I think it's just your body going, ooh, pregnancy, I remember how to do this!

    Did you come up with a good excuse for drinks with your friend?
    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 20th Jun 17, 11:00 PM
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    Hi Timeflies, thanks for dropping by x

    I just told my friend in the end (and swore her to secrecy lol). Only because I know she would have kept trying to make similar plans. This way she understood I did want to meet up, just not late. So we went out for a meal and a lovely walk on Saturday evening. Weather was gorgeous. We walked along the beach and there was no wind. Usually it has a bit of a chill in the evening.

    We are looking into planning re: the kitchen. Bit complicated with potentially a few beams required. We have decided to get plans now but we may not do the work straight away. Both for financial reasons and also to be certain we are happy with the design before we commit.

    Feeling no nausea at all- makes it harder to believe! Just tiredness and a need to go to the loo in the middle off the night already. Plus my belly seems bigger by the day.

    Had some spotting yesterday. But only a little. Was worried but read online and it seems doctors only worry if the bleeding continues and/or if its bright red. (Or if associated with cramps) Sounds like it is very common, but it is not something I experienced with my earlier pregnancies. Anyway did not ring out of hours or anything, as it seems there is little they would do anyway. Nothing since, so all is good.
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    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 22nd Jun 17, 7:37 PM
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    So more spotting today. Bit worrying, but I am sure its nothing.
    Anyway what will be will be.
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    • TwentySomethingGirl
    • By TwentySomethingGirl 22nd Jun 17, 8:18 PM
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    Hey fluffy! I hope your spotting isn't anything to worry about, easier said than done. How far along are you?
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    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 22nd Jun 17, 10:53 PM
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    Thanks twentysomething x I am not sure exactly how far along I am. Best guess is about 8 weeks.
    Spotting is brown rather than red which reading other people's accounts is a good sign. And it has stopped again. But it is quite worrying so if it happens again I will have to ring docs or something.
    Felt a bit woozy a couple of times today too.
    I have a few things going on at work atm, including a lesson observation next week and a couple of trips I am involved with organising so I don't really want to miss work.
    Nobody at work knows yet but I think I am going to have to tell my line manager and the Head tomorrow in case I have any further concerns.
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    • penguingirl
    • By penguingirl 23rd Jun 17, 11:46 AM
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    Fluffy- I had spotting early in my pregnancy and had a scan in the early pregnancy unit. I rang them, and they said I had to go to A&E who then referred me and I had a scan the next working day. I think I also read on here that some EPUs have walk in appointments. I'd definitely ring your midwife and ask them.
    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 23rd Jun 17, 7:14 PM
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    Thanks penguingirl. I rang community Midwives this morning and they arranged an appt at EPU for Monday. But they also said if the bleeding gets worse to go to A&E. At work shortly after I had some more spotting. But heavier this time and red. So went to A&E. Waited 4 hours to see a doc, who said all she can do is refer me to EPU for Monday. Total waste of time. She did say she thinks it's something harmless like implantation bleeding.
    I was in work today. So I had to tell a couple of people so I could leave.
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    • penguingirl
    • By penguingirl 24th Jun 17, 12:05 AM
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    Thinking of you fluffysox- mine was also a Friday/Monday and it was the longest weekend ever. Do whatever you need to do, but I found it helpful to get out and be distracted but also rest. I found work colleagues really supportive in the same circumstances (I'd already told manager due to nausea and a couple of colleagues had guessed because of it)
    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 24th Jun 17, 12:12 AM
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    Having to wear sanitary towel now. Heavier than spotting. Not heavy bleeding but definitely heavier. And bright red. Worst when I sit on the loo, something about the position causes sharp pain down below. I feel like my insides are trying to get out. Feeling the pain front and back. Sometimes happens when I'm standing up too.

    I am not convinced this is going to end well. What will be will be but we are supposed to be attending a get together with close friends tomorrow and I will not cope if I am in pain and don't have my home comforts
    Last edited by fluffysox; 25-06-2017 at 12:21 AM.
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    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 24th Jun 17, 12:20 AM
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    Thanks again penguingirl xx Its hard not being able to talk about it in the real world. I have had hardly any nausea with this pregnancy so it has been easier to hide. (My first pregnancy was my worst for nausea, but even with that one I would feel sick but not actually vomit)
    My work colleagues were very supportive.
    For once Monday seems too far away
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    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 25th Jun 17, 12:33 AM
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    So, still bleeding. If anything it is heavier, but I am not in discomfort apart from the odd twinge, mainly when stood up. Went to a friends this afternoon for a family BBQ. Lovely weather despite the forecast.
    Random observations:
    1. Last night was the first night in weeks I haven't needed to go to the loo in the early hours.
    2. My bosoms are all of a sudden no longer heavy or tender.
    How I'm staying positive:
    1. If Monday's scan surprises me and the pregnancy is still ongoing- I am going to enjoy some retail therapy for baby stuff
    2. If it confirms what my instincts are telling me, or if something happens before then, I am going to plan some pampering time for me whilst drinking a large glass of Red.
    I am trying not to think to deeply about it.
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    • penguingirl
    • By penguingirl 25th Jun 17, 5:17 AM
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    Hang in there fluffysox- really hoping that the outcome isn't what you think it is tomorrow
    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 25th Jun 17, 6:38 PM
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    Thanks for caring penguingirl x Its a lonely process, people don't know you're even pregnant and you are at home in pain not in hospital with support.
    I have had regular contractions today, every few minutes throughout the afternoon. They are like early labour but obviously the uterus is smaller so its only the lower belly that hurts. Then an hour or so ago, the miscarriage started. It did not hurt. Not sure if its finished yet. I am not going to A&E, just lying in the bath. I will keep my appt at EPU tomorrow morning.
    I thought about whether to post this as I don't want to worry any possible newly pregnant ladies x But today I have spent a lot of time trying to find real accounts from ladies who have had a mc as even at the hospital they do not tell you what to expect. Personally I like to know what I'm in for. Wishing you all well x
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    • Munchkin84
    • By Munchkin84 25th Jun 17, 7:01 PM
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    Fluffy sox I'm sorry to hear your news. I had a mc in january, if you would like to ask anything, please do.
    • Keekee
    • By Keekee 25th Jun 17, 7:38 PM
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    Hi Fluffysox, I've sent you a PM xx
    • saver-j
    • By saver-j 25th Jun 17, 8:28 PM
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    Hi fluffysox.

    Also thinking of you having been through this last year. If you want to read about others there was a miscarriage support thread on this forum which I found really helpful, I read the entire thread back after mine even though I didn't post much. Just search miscarriage support and I'm sure you'll find it, and if you need support I'm sure if you post there I'm sure you'll get replies.

    I also found the miscarriage association and tommys websites helpful. Tommys has lots of stories of miscourage, from people who have been through pregnancy and baby loss which you might find helpful if you're looking to read that kind of thing.

    As I said thinking of you. X
    • Timeflies
    • By Timeflies 25th Jun 17, 10:00 PM
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    So sorry fluffysox. I hope you're bearing up ok and you have people to support you through this xx
    • fluffysox
    • By fluffysox 26th Jun 17, 11:51 AM
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    Thanks everyone for the advice, I am OK. Had scan today which confirmed the miscarriage. Although it also confirmed it is not yet over. I have to go back in a couple of days to bring it on if nature doesn't sort it out itself.
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