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    • kerri gt
    • By kerri gt 15th Apr 17, 12:51 PM
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    Was just popping in to wish everyone a happy Easter...but I've just read your post cw so sorry I wasn't on sooner to read it, how awfully stressful for you. And a chest infection to boot is not helping I'm sure.

    I'm clueless as far as planning permission goes but can you add replies to the comments such as about the fact the structure of the garage is undermined due to the ivy etc or is that what you need a surveyor for? I imagine adding the apex roof and thus better drainage (I'm assuming) would be a good thing as the water will be channeled to the drains properly , and i can't believe they have objected about 'more rainwater coming off the roof' ...even flat roofs aren't actually flat to allow for water to run off so it would be the same amount whatever...silly tool.

    Could you perhaps write a letter to the lady to say you haven't been round due to illness which you didn't want to risk passing on, and when you're better perhaps you could discuss things further with her? You could perhaps go the compromise root that she can leave the gate etc she's erected on your property if she would agree to the party wall access with the renovations being done?

    It basically sounds like the nephew is making the objections because he doesn't want the fuss and she might actually be far more amenable.

    Been busy here as usual, our garden is still in the planning stages, we've has to change the materials we want for the patio as our original choice was both expensive for the materials (which we'd have prob gone with if it was just the) but also needed specialist laying which added significantly to the labour. We've now found sandstone we like...but that needs sealing because it's sawn...more labour and now OH wants lights added on a feature too still I think we're getting there, have two people to give final quotes so we'll see. Just wanting it done now.

    We did order some patio furniture which won't arrive til after the bank holiday but at least we'll have it. I was going to wait until the garden work was done but a) I'm fed up of having two white plastic chairs to our name out there b) we might use it down on the patio area VS the deck so it will be good to have it to hand when working out sizes / spacing of beds / features.

    Hope everyone is enjoying some dry weather at least. And Easter choc. Xx
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    • CouponWoman
    • By CouponWoman 17th Apr 17, 9:28 AM
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    Morning kerri, red and Jeferey.

    I thought the objections might be more from the nephew than the old lady but we are wrong. My ds spoke to our new neighbour on the other side and he said he has lived there for over 20 years and had to idea who lived in the other house, he has never seen her. Then my ds went to the shop and an old lady in the street facing asked my ds how are the renovations going and he told her and she knows the old lady from the past and said she is the neighbour from hell, she is awkward, and it really didn;t suprise her at this attitude as she has always been like that. Then my ds spoke to the neighbour the other side of the old lady and she said she is always like this and there will be no budging her, she is really difficult and awkward. This other neighbour, well all these old ladies moved in at the same time when the houses were new in the 1960's so all got to know each other then, so have known each other for over 50 years now. Well this other neighbour said my new neighbour has loads of conifers around the garden and they pushed her fence down and she was supposed to pay half to repair them and then wouldn;t.

    God knows what we are going to do now. We have to wait to hear from planning and if it goes through we might have to take her to court, but how do you sue a 93 year old woman..... She is the neighbour from hell indeed but no one says they ever see her.

    Hope your garden makeover goes well kerri, all I can say is get the best you can afford, even if it means waiting a bit longer, as its a waste of money getting something that "will do" because it will just annoy you in the long run.

    Hope you have a lovely Easter

    CWxx
    • kerri gt
    • By kerri gt 17th Apr 17, 2:08 PM
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    Argh, want a nightmare situation CW from what you say though about the renovations you need to do, there doesn't sound any real reasons why the planning would be turned down, the thing about more water into the drains is a load of carp IMO. The access of course would be more difficult, but, builders can be creative (the guy who may be doing our garden has just done another where they had to remove the back wall of a garage to get machinery in to dig the back garden they needed to access, there are ways and means). Given the fact she sounds a right PITA I'd raise the point about her gate / fence being on your land. I know she's 93 but she sounds like she's been a pain all her life there.

    I remember years ago a neighbour over the road from my mums objected to the house next door (both semis) wanting to add a massive extension to the end of their house as the neighbour said it would pretty much turn the two houses into a terrace and devalue her property. The planning still got approved.

    For our garden we really want it done for the summer as it will make a massive difference to the house overall downstairs. Although we have things to do upstairs it's all mainly cosmetic. The compromise on the paving means we should be able to then put in the features we want. To have the original paving we looked at was just more than we could justify cost wise, but I agree, even though it's still a lot of £ with the changes, we are doing it once and once only. I don't want to sit for 5yrs wishing we'd done something else, and then pay to have it all redone because it wasn't what we wanted in the first place.
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    • CouponWoman
    • By CouponWoman 18th Apr 17, 7:59 AM
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    Morning kerri.
    I would save up like mad, do car boots to get rid of anything I could and generally scrape together the money to do the garden as you want. It would grate on you to accept second best kerri and ultimately cost more too. If you really cannot afford what you want then I personally would do something as cheap as poss and just put up with it till I could afford what I really want.

    I saved up for years to get my bedroom redone exactly how I wanted and it cost a fortune but it was worth it. The annoying thing is just after it was done is when I hurt my knee and now we do need to move to a bungalow. I have to be so carefuly with my knee as it cannot be repaired and there is nothing I can do, its still unstable and painful. The only thing is at least the new bedroom has added value to my house.

    Busy today but tomorrow I might try and go and see this silly old woman and see if she is going to see reason. If not I might have to track down a party wall expert to get advice.

    Take care


    CWxx
    • kerri gt
    • By kerri gt 18th Apr 17, 6:37 PM
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    I know what you're saying about the garden CW but we also have had to put our sensible hats on regarding the size / what we're having done vs the cost - or rather the places we want to channel our budget into rather than spending arms and legs on the paving and labour. We have a decent budget so are trying to spend it sensibly.

    Best not talk about bedrooms, I had a couple of quotes for fitted wardrobes just to get some ideas and they came back quoting £4k for one room - gulp!

    Fingers crossed the neighbour is more accommodating when you speak to her face to face.
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    • CouponWoman
    • By CouponWoman 27th Apr 17, 8:04 AM
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    Good morning kerri and anyone else who might pop in.

    Things are still difficult atm. I went to see the old lady, don;t know if I satisified her that we won;t make a mess of her path if we go ahead and rebuild the garage, won;t know until after the 12th May if she is going to complain again.

    So I rang the leaseholder (most of the houses around here are leasehold) only to find out our solicitor who did the conveyancing had never notified them we bought the house as they had not been served a Notice of Assignment............I was fuming, contacted the solicitor who unfortunately is on holiday, on Monday got hold of her assistant who checked the file and also found out they had overcharged me by £260. She sorted out the Land Registry as that also hadn;t been completed.........I think fate is conspiring against me to tell me I should not have bought the bungalow. I now have to wait for my money, etc.

    kerri re your wardrobes. I waited over 15 years to get the wardrobes I wanted. I saved up and got them 2 years ago, just before I hurt my leg/knee. They cost £5500 but I love them. I got them from Hammonds, they had a sale on and should have been £8500, I love the quality of them. I haven;t decided if I should have them taken out and put in the new house, if ever we get to move, as it would mean redecorating the bedroom here and the carpets then wouldn;t fit either. Not sure what to do yet. Just get your main bedroom done in the cupboards you like, leave the other ones for now.

    Good luck with your garden too.

    CWxx
    • CouponWoman
    • By CouponWoman 1st May 17, 7:50 AM
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    Good morning guys
    Bank Holiday today so hope you all get a lie in.

    I have been up since 5.30 am, can;t sleep for thinking about my house wreck. The problem continues unfortunately. The new neighbours nephew has now written to my architect to complain, moan, moan, moan, about the build, its a flippin new garage not the taj mahal. I have been advised we are going to get planning permission so its now a civil matter between us and the neighbour. got to go around again, I was told to ask for a meeting with this flippin trouble causing nephew and see if we can resolve matters but he hasn;t answered my email and the woman didn;t answer her door so got to try again today. I can;t keep delaying as the building work needs to be done in the summer months.

    Hope you all have a good day

    CWxx
    • kerri gt
    • By kerri gt 1st May 17, 10:29 PM
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    Hi CW what a parlarva about the house regarding the transfer and your solicitor - although it doesn't surprise me, we only recently got our share certificates for the road and completed almost a year ago.

    I do hope that the garage gets sorted for you. Not being 100% familiar with these kind of things is it a case of if planning is granted and the neighbour's objections are dismissed you can proceed regardless? I know it would be much better to have her (and her family it would seem) on board but frankly they sound a right miserable bunch to deal with.


    kerri re your wardrobes. I waited over 15 years to get the wardrobes I wanted. I saved up and got them 2 years ago, just before I hurt my leg/knee. They cost £5500 but I love them. I got them from Hammonds, they had a sale on and should have been £8500, I love the quality of them.

    Good luck with your garden too.

    CWxx
    Originally posted by CouponWoman
    We had Hammonds quote for the work just to get a ball park figure and it came out something like that - basically to add one wardrobe space, and put door / new inners on existing spaces and bring the front out a bit. Tbh I wasn't inspired with the guy who came round, I felt that I was the one pushing ideas when I was looking to him for solutions. It basically confirmed that what I had in mind in the first place is prob what we'll get done. However we'll prob get a carpenter to do the work - but that's not even in the planning until next year.

    Garden first (finally got a date) - just went to order the water feature we have decided on and it's OOS until June so gone with one that is the same but a different finish - sure it will be ok, I'm trying not to get upset about it as there's nothing I can do and working on the basis of 'someone somewhere' suggesting the one I've ordered will be better in the end.

    Hope everyone else is ok and just busy with RL. x
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    • CouponWoman
    • By CouponWoman 10th May 17, 10:50 AM
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    Good morning guys, hope your all well.

    We should get planning permission from the council on Friday all being well. Unfortunately we cannot proceed until we get a party wall agreement signed and they won;t sign it.

    We had a meeting on Friday, lasted over an hour. We proved the garage has to come down as its leaning, got cracks and is in a really bad way. They said they understood but waffled on that they now want a meeting with my architect. I said he isn;t the one to answer the questions they had, ie how long will it take to rebuild the garage, what impact will it have on next door etc. All of which is irrelevent as they know the new garage is going on the same footprint exactly and the only difference is a real roof not a flat roof.

    The architect won;t come as he would charge us and he also said its the builder who needs to answer those questions. I can;t instruct a builder as I have no idea when they could start because the neighbour won;t sign the party wall agreement. If this keeps going I have to pay a party wall solicitor and surveyors for both sides to try and resolve this. So lots of money wasted for nothing.

    If I was brave I could demolish the garage and rebuild and put up with possibly being sued by next door but I am not brave enough to risk it.

    So it drags on, no chance of us moving in this year at this rate anyway.

    Your garden will be lovely kerri even if the water feature is not your first choice. Sometimes things work out better by having a slight change forced on you and you end up preferring the substitute. What a pain re Hammonds, hope you find exactly what you want in the end.

    CWxx
    • CouponWoman
    • By CouponWoman 21st Jun 17, 9:47 AM
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    Wow, they don;t make it easy to find this thread. Loads of waffle, tells me to sign in. If it aint;t broke don;t fix it mse.

    Morning guys

    not checked in for a while now and see I was the last person on here. Oh well, looks like everyone has gone now so I shall turn the lights off

    Take care if anyone does check in

    CWxx
    • kerri gt
    • By kerri gt 21st Jun 17, 12:33 PM
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    Wow, they don;t make it easy to find this thread. Loads of waffle, tells me to sign in. If it aint;t broke don;t fix it mse.

    Morning guys

    not checked in for a while now and see I was the last person on here. Oh well, looks like everyone has gone now so I shall turn the lights off

    Take care if anyone does check in

    CWxx
    Originally posted by CouponWoman
    I'm still here CW - sorry, been a bit caught up in RL - again. Garden is still under construction here and 101 other things all being juggled.

    How are your plans progressing? I do hope you've managed to get the old biddy to agree to something amicably. x
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    • CouponWoman
    • By CouponWoman 10th Aug 17, 9:17 AM
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    Hi kerri and anyone else around.

    My other house is a nightmare atm. The old woman still hasn;t signed the party wall agreement. Building costs have sky rocketed out of control and I am pulling my hair out. I actually regret ever buying the bungalow it definately was not worth the stress, problems, and the costs that are being forced on us.

    When we bought the house the surveyor said it needs £70K spending on it, that was after we talked about what we wanted to do. The builder came and said approx £40K plus the garage. Same builder now says £200K for the work and we nearly died. So my dh and ds have been stripping the house out, took all the ceilings down and all the plaster off walls, all the skirtings, doors etc out while we all dither around. Builder now says £128K without the garage. But I want it down more.

    Meeting yesterday with architect, which cost me £100 and the buillder and all they can say is take a loan out, or sell the house we live in to a company that lets you rent it back off them to free up some more money.

    So I say knock off all the pointing for a start, my ds can do it and that should save at least £5K minimum but they don;t like that, they want the work. If we spend £100K we are taking the cost of the house to the top of the ceiling price for the area.

    Anyway rant over. I will quietly go and get on with my nightmare house, lack of sleep and stress.

    Hi kerri, hope you got your garden project sorted, its been a bit damp this summer so far so it might have slowed you down a bit but I am sure it will look great when you finish.

    take care anyone who pops on the thread.
    CWxx
    • kerri gt
    • By kerri gt 11th Aug 17, 9:28 PM
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    Hi CW

    Oh my, I'm so sorry that something which started out as so perfect with some work has turned into a total nightmare. Why has the builder upped his quote so significantly? Can you get other quotes?

    Is the old lady still being stubborn about the same issues with the party wall? I can't quite recall but can you go ahead with planning without her agreement even if it does mean discord in the neighbourly relations?

    My garden issues are tiny in comparison to your problems, though needless to say thr budget came and went some time ago. It is nearly finished (thank goodness) but now the builder wants to get another tradesman in to finish some parts that aren't his forte...which is fine except good tradespeople obviously available at the drop of a hat so now I'm waiting to hear when someone can actually come and do what's needed. It's now nearly three months since the job started, which was expected to take a few weeks....so we're hoping for an Indian summer to actually get to use the finished article this summer.

    I do hope things take a turn for the positive with your house, keep posting on here if you feel the need / want to vent x
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    • CouponWoman
    • By CouponWoman 12th Aug 17, 11:04 AM
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    Hi kerri

    we have had numerous meetings with the old lady and her nephew and they won#t back down. This only concerns the garage and utility room which is attached to the garage. We had a meeting with the builder and the people next door and they wanted me to pay for some extra drains on their land to attach to my drains at MY COST and still won;t sign the party wall agreement. I am not letting her attach her drains to mine, thats it, and definately not at my cost.

    The only way we can force the issue is if we take it further legally. That means party wall surveyors and as she has said she won;t let them on her land it means I would have to take legal action against her. As we need all the money we can get our hand son for the house we have no choice but to temporarily drop the garage/utility/extension plans for now.

    When we bought the house the estate agent said it needs £40k spending on it and tbh we didn;t believe that. The surveyor said around £70k which we thought was probably more like it.

    We asked the builder who was building an extension on the house facing to come and he said around £40K plus the garage etc. We thought more like £70k in total. we got plans drawn, got planning permission and needed a structural surveyor too and all well we thought till we asked for a proper quote.

    The builder looked at the plans etc and came back with just over £200K for what we wanted doing. Well there is no way on earth I am paying that. My ds and dh have took the plaster off walls, took the ceilings down, removed skirtings, doors and are now removing the floorboards as well and removing all the stuff to the tip. We told the builder we will take all the rubbish to the tip in our car, that will save at least £6k as its £220 a skip and he reckons we would need at least 25.

    After we said forget the garage etc the price came down to £128k but thats still too much and some things in that we can do ourselves, my son can do the pointing for example if he has to that should save at least £5k again. But the builder says "oh thats a drop in the ocean and its only £25 a metre", well to me every time we remove a job it brings the price down but he is being quite difficult as was the architect when we had a meeting the other day and they keep trying to force me to take a loan out to pay for it.

    tbh I really wish I had never bought this house. It was supposed to be the perfect house but its now the house from hell. My dh has used all his accident compensation to pay for this and I do not want to take out loans. (he had a serious accident a few years ago) but he does what he can to help even if its only sweeping up, he is trying. But everything is falling on my son and its just a nightmare.

    Why don;t builders tick to the quote, yours has gone over budget too and they assume your pocket is always full to pay for things. I don;t know what the other tradesman is but surely that work was included in his quote anyway even if they sub it out to someone else. I dont think the weather will improve tbh, we have rain most days here and that has a knock on effect on working on the house and your garden unfortunately. Good luck with your project and hope it all looks fabulous when finished.

    CWxx
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