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    • Jojo the Tightfisted
    • By Jojo the Tightfisted 20th Mar 13, 5:25 PM
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    Hoarding - Springing Ahead
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    • 20th Mar 13, 5:25 PM
    Hoarding - Springing Ahead 20th Mar 13 at 5:25 PM
    Well, it's the vernal equinox, the first day of proper Spring, and it seemed like a good point to start our third thread, what with 2,000 posts on the last.

    The second thread is here.

    And the original is here.

    So, as usual, here comes the introductory post, and we can move on making our lives better!

    Welcome to the Thread

    This is a friendly, supportive thread for anybody who is affected by hoarding issues. Hoarding isn't just untidiness, it isn't laziness - it's a genuine problem, and it can affect generations of families, all in different ways.

    Some of us are the product of an environment where somebody else's hoarding affected us deeply, some have much loved partners, some have the condition and are trying to deal with the emotional and practical issues involved. Some are the exact opposite and just want to help. Everybody is welcome.


    So, if you would like to post, whether once or often, lurk quietly in the shadows, never saying a word, or if you have an interest in understanding why this is happening to somebody, please, come in, take a seat and someone will be popping in to say hello.


    We don't hide our thoughts or our opinions - it isn't a thread for agreement, if someone thinks another poster is making excuses or avoiding the real issues, we will say so in a fair, calm manner. We're not going to tell you that hoarding is OK. But we do understand it's more than tidying up. We've seen it, we've experienced it one way or another. We are unshockable, so don't hide your problems, thinking we'll judge you.


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    Through the course of this thread, we're realising just how much hoarding confuses our lives and our emotions - and hoarding is inextricably linked to emotional pain, loss and unresolved feelings.

    A poster has asked the question - what happens next? This is her question and the reply I gave - it may help somebody else;


    I am also dragged down by fear...what happens when I've de-hoarded...what happens if I'm still unhappy and lonely...?



    You feel the same emotions, but

    you are capable of finding clean clothes,
    a pair of socks,
    of sitting down on any chair,
    of going to bed without having to take your life in your hands going upstairs,
    of inviting someone round who wants to see you and could make you feel less lonely without concern for their opinion or personal safety,
    you have more money as you aren't spending it on 'stuff' to fill the hole in your heart.

    You aren't harbouring mould spores,
    dust mites
    and various other nasties that can sap your strength and make you or your loved ones unwell.

    You have space to think,
    to adjust,
    acknowledge,
    adapt to the uncomfortable feelings,
    as you aren't hemmed in by distractions such as a pile of things over there that are threatening to fall over.


    You can find different things to do that can give you pleasure - having a lovely colour on the walls,
    finding a beautiful picture, having it framed and putting it on your wall where you can see and appreciate it properly,
    going out and starting other activities,
    inviting friends round without worrying,
    not stressing about the gas man,




    It doesn't solve everything. But it makes the day to day so much better, easier, smoother. Which gives you time and space to deal with the harder stuff.


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    • thriftwizard
    • By thriftwizard 11th Mar 17, 7:31 PM
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    Reviving this thread... I'd kind of ground to a halt, but I'm holding a little tea-party next week for a friend, and the conservatory was still pretty much unspeakably awful. It's been too cold to be out there much, and out of sight is out of mind. So this week I've been going through the debris like a dose of salts...

    This afternoon an entire van-load of unsold stock & no-further-use-to-us stuff went off with a freecycler who's doing car boot sales to raise money for charity. Yes, I could have done that myself, but there's more where that came from, and the weather's not great for car booting yet. I've also taken several loads to the Tip and only came back with some books, which will be moved on as soon as they've been read. (I happen to know another trader who will be glad of them - they'll be at Spitalfields market in a couple of months!) I've decided to take a job lot of fabric & other surplus craft supplies down to our local Scrapstore, and will expedite that early next week. It's all got a bit silly in my sewing room; too much stuff is getting in the way of me actually being able to do anything with it!

    The conservatory & the porch are both looking much better, but there's probably twice as much excess stuff still here as I've sent off today & got rid of earlier in the week. (That included sending a small Dimplex electric stove and a large PVC tablecloth off with my brother yesterday.) My plan now is to get these two areas sorted & keep them that way, then tackle my shed & the garage. I haven't done too badly keeping the rest of the house clutter-free, so I'm beginning to believe I can do it.

    I can't empty too much out of the garage yet, as the robins have nested in a box of my Ebay packaging, and I don't want to disturb the chicks. But the markets start up again at the end of this month, so I do need to get my stock in the shed sorted out & spruced up, and anything that's had its chance & hasn't sold moved on, whether by selling it cheap or just giving it away.

    How's everyone else doing...?
    Angie

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    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 11th Mar 17, 11:49 PM
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    I'd say I'm 'could do better' but getting there slowly.

    DS3's gf is still lovely and is very easy to live with. Their friend did come to visit (then a second one the following weekend and then the first one came back) so the bed is made up and he tried a little training with the chinchillas - apparently they were fighting/ having s e x (difficult to tell the difference?) in the night and as they were next to the bed he sorted them out.

    Unfortunately DS3 has taken to sleeping in the bed - don't know if it's when he has been working and he just moves across the room and flops down. they haven't fallen out, they are both awake more at night than in the day but manage to do this and have seperate sleeping patterns - so their room and the front room can be off limits any time (DS3 tends to work for a bit then sleep for a bit).

    Some of their things are still in the front room. I did buy them two sets of shelves ('Is your mum still in?' footsteps, followed by 'Can you help, the shelves don't have instructions?'). Gf was worried about the cost but now at least all her books and their 'ornaments' (collectors editions of their favourite games characters) are on shelves. I also sneaked in there and hung clothes away in the wardrobe.

    Got over the bug but mum generously gave me another cough and sore throat so low energy again. I have been trying to get back to 'socialising' this month - only crafts session once a week, local history meet (just two of us - been reading an encyclopedia type book on engineers with fabulous illustrations as we had looked at trains, canal boats, trams and buses). Also went back to film club (was so ill/ tired before Christmas that I kept missing it).

    Last two Tuesdays I have been at mum's. Her partner is now going to day care 5 days a week (last stage before he goes into a care home - I did ask point blank if she had had enough and offered to tell his family). His dementia is fairly advanced so it's like having a giant (and very strong) toddler around and he has refused to let the carers wash him on several occasions recently.

    First Tuesday mum phoned to say she was ill, would I go and look after her for the day. This week she was having a new washer and fridge freezer delivered and had forgotten an appointment at the hospital 8 miles away (she has been ill so they had cancelled several appointments) so I minded partner until the day care bus came for him and then waited for delivery men (and a man who came to check the boiler - shove all the appointments in while someone is in).

    I've also had diabetic foot appointment, diabetic retinopathy, see doctor as something had shown up on my blood tests (trying to narrow things down - all immune system markers), diabetic review with practice nurse, regular appointment with other doctor to review depression meds plus more blood tests and urine before I see him again and a flappy bird thing (that's testing if I have the myaesthenia gravis that mum has).

    Last week I started on the kitchen. DS3's gf is very good at feeding him and herself but doesn't put the ingredients away. I do want/ need another shelf in the kitchen, to go under the top cupboards and with the rail relocated under it (so all the pans and tools + jug, manual grater are suspended on s hooks). Gf is only tiny (scrapes to 5' on a good day) so it is possible that putting everything back is too much - she has a little stool.

    Moved all the ingredients (flour/ spices/ stock cubes) and equipment off the worktop, unearthed another sink load of utensils and spoons, did enormous quantities of washing up. Have carried on during the week, worktops clean and cupboard fronts, sink done - recycling, rubbish all segregated and out of the house. Gf did stove top, fridge was done Thursday night, bits put back in Friday morning.

    Kitchen is now at the stage I wanted it to be in when gf moved in with us (she has also been back to her parents for two visits and brought more things back). normally never seem to get much beyond doing all the washing up and the rubbish round up.

    I cleared my bed 2-3 weeks ago (I'm a dreadful 'nester'). Seperated mum's filing/ household filing/ business paperwork into piles and all the craft stuff (mostly wip + patterns - bulk of material and threads are all in boxes on shelves downstairs). Bagged and boxed it and am now working through one pile at a time.

    Tried to work out how it got in this state (all mixed together). Well mum insisted that I had a certain piece of paperwork (I have most of her paperwork, everything other than bills and stuff she would need often, as her partner had started to play with paperwork and move things). I got her box file out from storage, the box ripped apart, things from either end went astray (most recent -tax return, oldest/historic - phtos of my greatgrandmother and her siblings, grave papers, bills of work done on graves). The paper mum needed was in her file but I have been trying to get the genie back in the bottle ever since (done Friday night).

    By Wednesday of last week it already felt like late Thursday/ Friday morning so on Friday I let myself sleep. Woke briefly several times, went to the loo, ate/ took pills. When I finally 'woke up' (tea time ) I did some work and have carried on like that since - sleep, do some work, rest when tired, work when I have some energy.

    I'm also trying to get back to losing weight and exercising. Possibly the only thing I can do that might improve my energy levels. Have been reading the OS Ways and Ill Health thread, writing down tips. Working out how to do more with less (energy/ time) is my main priority this month.

    Will try to post with progress (stopped reading a lot of threads due to constant exhaustion).
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    • thriftwizard
    • By thriftwizard 12th Mar 17, 8:47 AM
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    Mothernerd, sounds like you are doing as much as can be done under the (somewhat difficult) circumstances, and I take my hat off to you! At least I have my health, my mother's not in bad shape for 91 (even if she's 25 miles away) and we do now have some space. And a fair bit of the mess is my own fault, for continuing to buy stuff in when there was nowhere sensible to put it, and no time or space to "process" it.

    Absolutely with you on the kitchen front, and wondering whether it's a little-known minor symptom of ASD-type difficulties? My OH has never been able to remember where things live, so never puts them away, and causes absolute chaos when he's looking for things - pulls everything out, then leaves it lying... The girls are not as bad as their middle brother was, but they still do it, and I'm ashamed to admit I get totally fed up with putting everything away after everyone else & sometimes just can't face it. It's not deliberate, and I did teach them better when they were young, but somehow it didn't "stick" and it's as if they expect the household fairies to tidy up after them. Gentle reminders are seen as nagging; all I can do is try to set a good example, but that makes me feel somewhat doormat-ish.

    ETA: purely by chance, following a FB link, I found this blog, Lost Words, which throws some light on the very-real differences in the way that high-functioning autistic minds work. At one point he mentions his lack of sense of direction; that he simply can't remember his way around places he's been many times before. That's very much like the way my OH simply cannot remember where things "live" in the kitchen. It's not laziness, it's very real, if inexplicable to those of us with fewer challenges!
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    Angie

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    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 12th Mar 17, 1:16 PM
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    I did wonder if there was such a thing as an OCD slob - I am quite happy for things to be 'clean enough' but get upset if the pans aren't hung by size order or the spices aren't alphabetical.

    When the boys were small, one of the jobs I hated was putting the dvds (probably still on videos then) in order - they had a habit of putting whatever had just been watched into the box they had just opened to put into the machine - you could track their viewing/ playing history but it was harder than putting away all the loose ones.

    I will get there, just re-thinking how I do things. It's a point several of the 'poorlies' make - the 'normal' way doesn't work, I need to find a way I can manage.

    Some things are familiar - I have been sitting rather than standing to chop veg since my hip operation (alternating standing and sitting jobs extends the period I can keep going). When I had the work done last year, I decided to leave the kitchen as long as possible but will jot down what modifications I want to install whilst waiting (most people wait too long and then are to ill to cope with the work that needs doing). I have two lovely le c re uset pans (bought at a bargain price when our co-op shut down). DS2 has them currently but I have realised that they were getting too heavy for me now.

    I will adapt as I can, try not to fret over things I can do nothing about, plod slowly on to retirement (counting the days) and work on not letting my mother take over my life - she was planning coach holidays last week (you will go free 'as my carer' - read unpaid slave). I have been married and had three children yet my family seems to have cast me as 'maiden aunt' from childhood.

    I'm so glad you are finally getting to grips with the conservatory. I need to do something radical with all my craft stuff - currently estimating how many hours work have gone into each wip and how many would be needed to complete them. I have let some go and am trying not to start any unless I have a specific 'end user' in mind.
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    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 12th Mar 17, 4:39 PM
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    Is it worth putting inventory lists on cupboard doors and drawers?

    Like nursery where they labels on the drawers.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • thriftwizard
    • By thriftwizard 12th Mar 17, 9:29 PM
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    Massive success in the conservatory today; it looks almost like a normal room in a normal house! Apart from the fact that it's still full of plants, and the odd cockatiel, but IMHO that's what conservatories are actually for, and most of the plants will be going outside for the summer. What I'm quite proud of is that I haven't done it this time by "churning" stuff to somewhere else, but have actually got rid of a lot of stuff, and sorted the rest out. There's a car load to go to the Tip tomorrow, and a box of bits & bobs has gone out into my stock shed, but it should have been out there all along.

    I still have more work to do in there, and more to get rid of, but it's looking manageable now. Needless to say, there's been a fair amount of flack from the family - it's like, oh no, Mother's getting out of her box again! Once or twice I've felt like giving up & retreating to my room for a good cry, but gritted my teeth & carried on - I'm doing this for ME, never mind anyone else. If they really want to live in a "nice" house like "everyone else", they can stop picking fault when I'm trying to do something about it...
    Angie

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    • thriftwizard
    • By thriftwizard 13th Mar 17, 8:50 AM
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    Gingernutty, thank you for that idea; the girls think lists (inside the doors, rather than outside) would help; OH doesn't. But if it will help some of us, I'll do it; you never know, the idea may work its way in eventually & work for him too! Wouldn't be the first time...
    Angie

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    • greenbee
    • By greenbee 13th Mar 17, 9:01 AM
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    TW - when they're all making comments about your decluttering and clearing, point out to them that they are welcome to move into their own homes so you can use your own to keep your stuff. Either that or help...

    I'd make sure that any of their stuff you find during your clearing is flung unceremoniously through the door of the relevant room. Or stuffed in a binbag with a name and an expiry date... after which you can take it to the tip.

    It may be everyone's home - but it's also your HOUSE. And ownership (and seniority!) does give you some rights to set the rules. Plus you need enough space to be able to run your business efficiently. I'm sure much of the issue with stock management was due to having to move stuff out of the way quickly as more people moved back in. Give yourself (and the house) a chance to breathe.
    • thriftwizard
    • By thriftwizard 15th Mar 17, 8:42 AM
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    Thank you, Greenbee! Now the inevitable has happened & OH is leaving home - again! This is an inevitable part of the tidying-up process & never actually happens, so I'm afraid I'm treating it all with my usual indifference; it's a bit like something out of a very gloomy Ibsen play. Onwards & upwards!

    I took a huge car-load of fabric down to the local Scrapstore yesterday; most of it was stuff I'd bought from the widower of a fellow-trader who died suddenly last year. I bought most of her stock when he was clearing out; some of it was a very sound investment, but I just hadn't got around to sorting it out & moving on the stuff I didn't want. Done now, along with several bags of stuff from another crafter/hoarder; I gave her two hours to sort some stuff out for me to take, and she was delighted because she didn't have time to agonise over it! We look on it as "released back into the wild"...
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    • greenbee
    • By greenbee 15th Mar 17, 8:58 AM
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    Sorry TW I was thinking more of your kids... although I understand some of them have now moved themselves (and hopefully their belongings) into their own homes and hopefully appreciate a little more how much work goes into managing a home.

    Hopefully OH will start to feel the benefits of the space rather than the stress of the tidying. Can you put him in the conservatory to enjoy the space?
    • thriftwizard
    • By thriftwizard 16th Mar 17, 8:51 AM
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    I blew up at him, Greenbee, and I think he's realised now that his attitude has not exactly been encouraging...
    Angie

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    • parsniphead
    • By parsniphead 16th Mar 17, 7:35 PM
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    It's nice to see this thread again and that people are plodding on.

    I challenged myself to a 30 bags in 30 days challenge. I managed 15 bags in 8 days, then came to a grinding halt after coming down with the lurgy. I really need to start over again. It was really motivating me.

    My sewing room is still . Its needs sorting if i ever want to start building my business properly.

    One day i will be organised.
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    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 16th Mar 17, 8:14 PM
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    I know the feeling parsniphead. Everything is fine until I take something out to use it - might need several pieces to determine whch is best, then need threads - I am trying not to start anything until I have used all the threads associated with a particular piece and had several periods where I have tried to 'use up' a pile of small leftover pieces and the 'leftover threads' - short lengths, some not labelled.

    Made a massive effort a few weeks ago to seperate out into categories and keeping them in seperate bags for now, but I am sure they come out to play at night or when my back is turned. This room was originally (pre-children) supposed to be a sewing room / study - if only there was somewhere else to put me and my bed there would be loads of room.

    I've also been helping out at a crafts session for people with mixed abilities - one girl is blind and has some problems with her hands, one lady is in a wheelchair and has had a stroke so only has the use of one hand - again I have pulled things out from my stores - bits of fabric, card, stuffing, threads that people could use. I am also building up templates and instructions for if I am unable to help in future years, stars and trees before Christmas etc.

    If only we didn't craft - but then our stress levels would rise and maybe there would be a GTA style killing spree.
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    • parsniphead
    • By parsniphead 18th Mar 17, 11:51 AM
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    If only we didn't craft - but then our stress levels would rise and maybe there would be a GTA style killing spree.


    Too true mothernerd. I would have lots of space but be very grumpy indeed.

    DS's toys are another issue. They get everywhere even though he has moved to a bigger bedroom. I get too emotional about things, especially earlier toys but he has chosen a few to donate. I'm going to have to toughen up if I ever want to get this house sorted.

    I'm starting my 30 bags in 30 days challenge today. I'm aiming for two bags today and two tomorrow. Then if I can get I to the sewing room I can completed some work and get paid for it.

    I'm starting to see deterioration in my house and I need to get things fixed before it goes too far.

    I wish I was a neat freak.
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    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 18th Mar 17, 3:48 PM
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    I might do the 30 bags in 30 days - but only because one of the charity shops wants carrier bags and, despite a large selection of reusable bags, those two keep bringing more carriers in (unless I stand over them at the door holding the bags for them to take).
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    • parsniphead
    • By parsniphead 18th Mar 17, 8:17 PM
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    30 carrier bags of clutter is much more achieveable than bin bags.....well for me anyway.
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    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 8th Apr 17, 9:54 AM
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    Doing my bit to keep this thread going. DS3 and Beloved have gone to a convention for the day. Curtains and window in their bedroom opened as they went out the door at 6.30am and downstairs as well. Put a load of washing in the machine and brought breakfast back upstairs to have with morning pills. Read for a bit then had another go.

    I have filled a papersack since Wednesday (keep going through a tray or pile of paperwork and thinning out - will start sorting once the obvious discards are gone. Put a plate (breakfast), bowl (supper) and 2 empty cans from my room into a jumbo bag for life and have filled it with bottles and cans from their room (+ 1 fork so still 9 hidden around the house).

    Worked my way to the far side of her desk and found the mini dalek was overflowing so used a bag their pillows came in (her mother sent them more bedding to be collected from our Arg*s) and filled it with dalek offerings (some cans into the other bag) and random bits from the floor. Also swept under the bed - going back to sort later and will do the same exercise downstairs.

    Resting now as my back is aching. Really want to put as much as possible into their wardrobe (s) - only the one that used to be mine has any room in it - before they come home. Try to reclaim a little space in the front room. We were hunting for a particular jumper of Beloved's last night, found part filled binbag under two bags/ suitcases that have fallen off the couch - some stuff from when she first moved in but parents have brought her back twice from visits with more of her stuff from their attic.

    Kitchen needs attention too - I have been chipping away at the washing up mountain all week (wasn't well last week and need to catch up - as well as finding a basic minimal routine that gets me through the bad weeks).

    Serious de-clutter is needed - some stationery and 'decorative' items identified (don't have much, these are 'storm lantern' type candle holders but finding I am doing less 'Christmas decorating' so gradually weeding out - candles are essential but I have 3 ceramic ones which hold big candles and last throughout the twelve days rather than lots of tealights and taper candles (okay I like playing with fire) that I used to have.

    Have identiifed that I need to look at my work in progress - work out how much time has been invested in each piece and how much time is needed to complete it, then make some decisions. Unused materials and threads are stored neatly - the problem is clearly when I have wip (pattern, materials, scissors and needles which easily get separated) with lots on the go at once - some complicated designs can only be worked on for short periods of time and I sometimes have a use up month going through a box of small pieces (card size) with the 'use up threads' box putting in things like a kitten's eye that need just a few stitches in green or blue.

    Think the main problem is that for most of my life the materials were expensive. I had the contents of both my grandmother's embroidery supplies when I first showed an interest (mum's mum embarked on a series of evening classes after granddad died so she often had booklets with different craft ideas in eg paper flowers) and there was a stall on the market that did house clearances (bought all my cotton - 1 linen - sheets and feather quilts from there in the early eighties) and would occasionally have embroidery threads.

    For years I started a project with whatever threads I had (not always the pattern colours) and then made a trip to the city/ centre with a craft shop to buy the 2 or 3 threads I was missing. It's only internet acces that has given me other people's unwanted stash and bargain lots of 'odd colours'. I want to do my own designs on-line (plus some less labour intensive pieces to sell) but have not made much progress - real life keeps getting in the way and I still find it difficult not to cave in to others demands.

    I seem to take on more things every time I go to mum's - spent 2 Tuesdays there, once when she was ill and once to wait for deliveries and workmen as she had an appointment. I am currently making curtains (cutting down, trimming and then re-attaching the cut off bit as a pelmet and she has asked about the possibility of me doing her decorating when the weather improves - she will pay me for these things (she passed on the tax return yesterday, partner's daughter pulled a face until I explained I am now mum's accountant) but not sure until nearer the time whether I will have the extra energy.

    I declined painting her fences last year - took me about a morning per panel when I did the ones at my old house 4 years ago, despite lots of heavy hints.

    Anyway back to plodding, baby steps and purposeful pottering - I will get there in the end.
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    • thriftwizard
    • By thriftwizard 2nd May 17, 9:09 PM
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    I'm at it again; a sudden need to accomodate a 91 y.o. with dodgy eyesight who's not too nimble on her pins any more put a big fright into me! Mum's block of flats have developed a carpet-beetle infestation, & they've been asked to absent themselves for 24 hours whilst they're decontaminated. So she's coming here. One glance at the room I'll have to put her in - downstairs, with easy access to a loo & shower and the kitchen - and I'd identified 8 trip-hazards... so off I trotted at silly o'clock this morning to the first car boot sale of the summer. I made a fair bit of pocket-money and the room looks much safer now!

    However I'm hoping this will be the first sale of many, as there's still lots to go; last year frittered away between Mum's health problems and bad weather, so we were left with a fair bit of very saleable stuff. I'm being very good & not acquiring any more, unless I'm certain it will sell quickly & I'll make a reasonable profit on it, but there's plenty of old stuff still to go. Onwards & upwards!
    Angie

    Money's just a substitute for time & talent...
    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 2nd May 17, 9:41 PM
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    mothernerd
    Last month my regular monthly challenge had decluttering at least one item per day as the random extra challenge. I decided to do the 1 thing on day one, 2 on day 2 etc but did it any order. Didn't meet my target of 396 for the month but it helped.

    Decide to continue this month and have just found 25 items to go in the bin as there was space. Mainly old seed trays and other junk from the yard. I have started nibbling at the problem of craft supplies - sent some threads to the charity shop last month (+ bits of fabric and odd items). They were all lurid colours that came in random bundles and I decided if I hadn't used them in the last 10 years (approx), then I wasn't going to. may donate some material and threads to the embroidery group that meets at the library. They do quite a bit for raisng money for cancer charities so may donate pink threads - I seem to have lots and it's not my favourite colour.

    I would like to find 'good homes' for everything but at the moment I seem to have reached crisis point (pile on the half of the bed I'm not sleeping in is reaching landslide proportions again) and I think for the sake of my mental health I just need to get rid of whatever I can.

    Last month I was very sluggish again. I slept and slept however much I tried to stay awake. Seeing the doctor this week, not sure if he would increase my medication - I stopped taking the hayfever stuff as I thought that might be causing the sleepiness in cmbination with my other meds but not really noticed any improvement.

    Putting my positive head on for this month. If I can get rid, i will.
    Building a rainbow of happiness and joy
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    • Nodette
    • By Nodette 20th May 17, 10:33 PM
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    Nodette
    Oh dear - Confession time . . .
    OK - I commented at the very start of this thread and then life went haywire.

    We moved house 4 times in 2 years. That got rid of a LOT of stuff. Then a year ago we moved into this house and we're staying put now!!

    The confession part is that we were in a 2-bedroom terraced house and hoarding was a problem (hubby & I are both hoarders). At the time I had ". . . at least 6 boxes of yarn . . . two shelves, one large bag and at least 4 boxes of fabric . . . and 2 freezers crammed full of food...."

    Now we're in a house twice the size - but I have twice as much yarn, fabric and freezers!!! Not to mention other household bits & pieces.

    Admittedly, much of this came to me when my mother-in-law died. Nobody else in the family did crafts of any kind, and even though we took a car full of craft stuff to charity, I kind of ended up with about 2 car-fulls of craft stuff coming home to me. And her freezer full of food. Sigh.

    We recently took four boxes full of some of our own household items to the charity shop, but it hasn't really made a dent in the overall 'stuff' we have.

    So here I go again trying to get rid of our excess things . . .

    mothernerd - I think I'll try your idea of decluttering at least one item a day. That feels do-able.
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