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    Real-life MMD: Should I pay to see my girlfriend?
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    • 9th Nov 12, 12:48 PM
    Real-life MMD: Should I pay to see my girlfriend? 9th Nov 12 at 12:48 PM
    Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay to see my girlfriend?

    My girlfriend's recently moved away to study. Though I want to see her on weekends, it's not cheap to travel. I've suggested we go halves, since I normally pay the fare to go to her, but she thinks she shouldn't contribute as I'm earning and she's not. However, I don't earn much and while I know she's worse off than me, I think it's a little unfair I should effectively pay to see her.

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    Last edited by Former MSE Debs; 13-11-2012 at 4:41 PM.
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    • By MothballsWallet 18th Nov 12, 7:20 PM
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    Find someone local, these long distance things rarely work.
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    • By JayD 21st Nov 12, 12:30 PM
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    There are plenty of long distant student relationships with this problem.

    Of course you should share the cost - but given the pitiful amount students are expected to live on, 50/50 hardly seems fair.

    Saying that you are 'paying to see your girlfriend' smacks of quite a bad attitude to a common situation- do you really see it like that? It also implies that somehow you feel she is responsible for this extra expense and inconvenience in your life and that you somewhat resent her for it.

    If your relationship isn't worth the effort and expense to you, then end it. However, I am sure that if you discussed it with her - and came to a reasonable agreement as to the proportion of this extra expense that you now have to cover - things will be resolved.
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