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    • Butti
    • By Butti 25th Jul 12, 7:49 AM
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    Butti's Journey: A matter of loaf and death
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    • 25th Jul 12, 7:49 AM
    Butti's Journey: A matter of loaf and death 25th Jul 12 at 7:49 AM
    Hello Peeps

    Well here we are at my diary or my cry for help as you may like to call it! Shortly, when someone from Aaardman actually get back to me and tells me it's trade marked we may be calling it something else entirely, but in the words of a psychotic lover 'they haven't returned my calls'.

    Oh dear this is going well, I'm rambling already.

    So where am I in my journey.
    At the moment it feels like hurtling towards a situation in which I am waiting for Kharma to join the dots. I have four days in which to declutter, sort, paint and start repairing a hoose. On the fifth day I shall move about 170 miles away and start a new job on the seventh. As the kharmic quote is from Steve Jobs I am kinda hoping for divine intervention from him in helping join the dots. C'mon Steve.

    Anyway having tired of living the high life on benefitsI am getting a job. A real permanant job down south where I am led to believe they still have jobs.

    I have decided to start a diary so you can all keep me on the straight and narrow (you may prefer to call it shouting at me!) I did wonder whether to start in about a month because;
    1. I'll have been paid
    2. I'll have spent MORE MONEY on having a fitted wardrobe put in that actually works with doors that actually slide, paint, more paint and a new sink. Why do I need a new sink? Because my lovely 1970's brown version has a leak and the tap is integral to the sink. Then we let the house (we being me and the friend of a friend who is my agent who in setting deadlines has just made the job real and the timescale real and the amount of work real!)
    3. I shall be living on a narrowboat close to a pub with free wi-fi so in order to;
    a. See any Olympics
    b. Communicate with any of you lot
    I shall have to spend some time in the pub. See how I suffer for your entertainment!

    But we're starting now so I'm just warning you. My debt will go UP in the short term but it has to or I will not let the house when it will start to go down.

    So there we are. I'm sure a budget (or several) will pass in the next few days. I'll have to give you lot something to do .
    First job for today - some paint for the garage door! More money

    Butti
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/14) £9127 (12/14) £8530 (2/15 )£7790
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 20th Aug 16, 4:21 AM
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    Oh Butti. I dont know what to say to be honest.
    Can you maybe say that you are not allowed personal calls at work so no point in giving out number.
    Glad that you are enjoying Edinburgh (again��).
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.*** ***Keep plodding***
    • Butti
    • By Butti 20th Aug 16, 10:49 AM
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    TBH Beanie, as ever that is good advice from you.
    Thank you x


    Hi dad,
    My phone number is ............... You can leave a message on here if I am not in / unable to answer.
    My email address is .................. You can also leave a message here.


    I cannot give you my work phone number. It is for work related calls only and to do otherwise is frowned upon.


    Sent today - It's not strictly true but fairly close to the truth
    Last edited by Butti; 20-08-2016 at 11:22 AM.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/14) £9127 (12/14) £8530 (2/15 )£7790
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • Butti
    • By Butti 20th Aug 16, 11:28 AM
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    Went to see Susan Calman yesterday which was very funny.


    Describing herself arriving on the set of QI and sitting between Stephen Fry and Sandi Toksvig. 'It's like a sandwich formed of beautifully crafted artisan bread with loads of classic ingrediants like olives and then shoving a dairy lea cheese slice in the middle".
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/14) £9127 (12/14) £8530 (2/15 )£7790
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • ZTD
    • By ZTD 20th Aug 16, 11:36 AM
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    • C Connect with others
    • L Learn new things
    • A Keep active
    • N Notice things, live in the moment
    • G Give back to others, volunteer
    • E Eat well
    • R Relax
    • S Sleep
    Originally posted by Butti
    CLANGERS is quite appropriate for the NHS...

    Talking of anger, and not in a good way..... Yes, its that man again. My brother rang and asked me to ring my dad so I did. It was about my cousin's wedding in a fortnight. My dad was offering me a bed for the night before. Fortunately my brother has already offered me a bed.
    He then asked me if he could have my work number and I said okay. But really its not okay. Part of the reason its not okay is that my workplace is a calm, supportive environment where I am trusted to get on with my job and as a result I can do a professional and competent job with stress kept to a minimum. The last thing I need is an unpredictable passive aggressive man on the end of the phone trying to bait me. So I have to think of how I can put that in a slightly more palatable message.
    Originally posted by Butti
    Well basically, IMHO he wants your work number because you're obviously not paying him enough attention in his opinion. At work, you have to be there, and you have to answer the phone, so he believes he has a virtual captive audience.

    You're right not to give him that number.

    You're worrying too much about making it palatable - too much of a desire to please?

    How about;
    • I work in a calm environment and am keen to avoid introducing volatile elements into that
    Originally posted by Butti


    • Oh and by the way I am about to start a tranche of treatment for a bout of depression
    Originally posted by Butti



    In slightly better news I am spending a shedload less at Edinburgh than I budgeted for.
    Originally posted by Butti
    Less presents than normal, or cheaper beer?

    TBH Beanie, as ever that is good advice from you.
    Thank you x


    Hi dad,
    My phone number is ............... You can leave a message on here if I am not in / unable to answer.
    My email address is .................. You can also leave a message here.


    I cannot give you my work phone number. It is for work related calls only and to do otherwise is frowned upon.


    Sent today - It's not strictly true but fairly close to the truth
    Originally posted by Butti
    Don't worry about being strictly true. "Palatable" and "strictly true" are diametrically opposed in his general area...
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."
    OMD 'Julia's Song'
    • Butti
    • By Butti 20th Aug 16, 11:37 PM
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    CLANGERS is quite appropriate for the NHS...


    You're worrying too much about making it palatable - too much of a desire to please?


    Less presents than normal, or cheaper beer?



    Don't worry about being strictly true. "Palatable" and "strictly true" are diametrically opposed in his general area...
    Originally posted by ZTD

    You are correct of course. My main source of stress throughout my childhood was a desire to please and the impossibility of ever achieving that goal!
    Time I got over it really.


    I think in Edinburgh I have just eaten less (or eaten more at breakfast and fasted for the rest of the day!), drank less and made sure I drank before I reached the venue. Because let me tell you, the beer is crap at the venues AND incredibly expensive. Like a double whammy but in a bad way.


    No presents would be more appropriate - this is not America!
    Some shortbread from a newsagent for work will do!
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/14) £9127 (12/14) £8530 (2/15 )£7790
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • ZTD
    • By ZTD 21st Aug 16, 1:18 AM
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    You are correct of course. My main source of stress throughout my childhood was a desire to please and the impossibility of ever achieving that goal!
    Time I got over it really.
    Originally posted by Butti
    You may be able to repress it, but "getting over it" is probably not something you'll manage - it's probably part of your makeup, and so not a trivial thing.

    I think in Edinburgh I have just eaten less (or eaten more at breakfast and fasted for the rest of the day!), drank less and made sure I drank before I reached the venue. Because let me tell you, the beer is crap at the venues AND incredibly expensive. Like a double whammy but in a bad way.
    Originally posted by Butti
    Is it crap beer brands that they're selling, or just not keeping them right?

    No presents would be more appropriate - this is not America!
    Some shortbread from a newsagent for work will do!
    Originally posted by Butti
    And there I was, thinking you'd be commemorative beer all round...
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."
    OMD 'Julia's Song'
    • Butti
    • By Butti 21st Aug 16, 10:38 AM
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    Is it crap beer brands that they're selling, or just not keeping them right?



    And there I was, thinking you'd be commemorative beer all round...
    Originally posted by ZTD


    The beer at the venues is generally, but not entirely, rubbish brands served okay. Elsewhere there have been pubs where I have had to point out unless my IPA is unfiltered or he has served me a wheat beer by mistake, it should be clearer than it is. a quick sniff usually confirms it.


    I still can't do multiple quotes! Can't remember how to do it.


    You are right Zed. An eagerness to please will stay with me for life. It's all about fitting in when you are very small to ensure you remain with the pack and are not cast out to be eaten by a wolf. I think the risk was quite high on parts of Teesside!
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/14) £9127 (12/14) £8530 (2/15 )£7790
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • ZTD
    • By ZTD 21st Aug 16, 11:31 AM
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    The beer at the venues is generally, but not entirely, rubbish brands served okay.
    Originally posted by Butti
    "Profit maximising" as they say. It's irritating as it costs almost as much to produce crap beer as good beer.

    Elsewhere there have been pubs where I have had to point out unless my IPA is unfiltered or he has served me a wheat beer by mistake, it should be clearer than it is. a quick sniff usually confirms it.
    Originally posted by Butti
    That is pretty poor. These people should know their stuff.

    But at least you seem to have enjoyed this little jaunt. It's good to get away sometimes.

    I still can't do multiple quotes! Can't remember how to do it.
    Originally posted by Butti


    I'll have to run a training course...

    You are right Zed. An eagerness to please will stay with me for life. It's all about fitting in when you are very small to ensure you remain with the pack and are not cast out to be eaten by a wolf. I think the risk was quite high on parts of Teesside!
    Originally posted by Butti
    More likely to end up in a kebab than a wolf to be fair. Mainly because a wolf is likely to end up in a kebab too...
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."
    OMD 'Julia's Song'
    • Butti
    • By Butti 21st Aug 16, 2:06 PM
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    Free comedy events today. Not quite free in reality unless you are really mercenary!!

    Unlike a free lunch. I was thinking how wrong that phrase was when I was blackberry picking!
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    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • ZTD
    • By ZTD 21st Aug 16, 2:33 PM
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    Unlike a free lunch. I was thinking how wrong that phrase was when I was blackberry picking!
    Originally posted by Butti
    Blackberry picking is only free if you don't value your own time.

    Some comedy I've see "free on TV" was only free if I don't value the 45 minutes that isn't coming back into my life...
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."
    OMD 'Julia's Song'
    • Butti
    • By Butti 22nd Aug 16, 2:57 PM
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    Blackberry picking is free if the alternative is sitting on your !!!! watching TV.

    I have enough trouble valuing myself let alone my time!
    Last edited by Butti; 22-08-2016 at 3:02 PM.
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    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 22nd Aug 16, 3:46 PM
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    We value you Butti. ��
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.*** ***Keep plodding***
    • ZTD
    • By ZTD 22nd Aug 16, 8:28 PM
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    We value you Butti. ��
    Originally posted by beanielou
    Hear hear.

    And I too, second that.
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."
    OMD 'Julia's Song'
    • Butti
    • By Butti 3rd Sep 16, 2:52 AM
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    Life is bizarre.
    As far as you're concerned your whole family are thinking you are a waste of space. They are all finding you negative and talking about you.

    Of course, if you actually stop and talk to them you will realise they have a very real grasp of reality and of the relatives that have been bad mouthing you.
    (Obviously I exclude my father and sister in law from this! )
    Last edited by Butti; 03-09-2016 at 3:03 AM.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/14) £9127 (12/14) £8530 (2/15 )£7790
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • ZTD
    • By ZTD 3rd Sep 16, 10:27 AM
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    Hmmm...3:03 am?

    Life is bizarre.
    Originally posted by Butti
    Only because people are...

    As far as you're concerned your whole family are thinking you are a waste of space. They are all finding you negative and talking about you.

    Of course, if you actually stop and talk to them you will realise they have a very real grasp of reality and of the relatives that have been bad mouthing you.
    Originally posted by Butti
    Is this because when faced with people saying good things about you, and other people saying bad things about you - you have a tendency to dismiss one, and take-to-heart the other?
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."
    OMD 'Julia's Song'
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 3rd Sep 16, 6:46 PM
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    Who gives a stuff about them.
    We love you.
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    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.*** ***Keep plodding***
    • Butti
    • By Butti 4th Sep 16, 11:22 AM
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    Butti

    Is this because when faced with people saying good things about you, and other people saying bad things about you - you have a tendency to dismiss one, and take-to-heart the other?
    Originally posted by ZTD
    Ah how well you know me!
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/14) £9127 (12/14) £8530 (2/15 )£7790
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    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • Butti
    • By Butti 11th Oct 16, 5:03 PM
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    Much like Will Farrell I am pondering whether I am in a comedy or tragedy.

    As a few of you know I've had my three car related bad luck things recently.
    This has been followed by breaking my nose and then a week ago having it re broken! It's now straight.

    Last night I found out why my friends of a certain age go on and on and, tbh, on about night sweats. Wow, I woke up to that joy last night. Just to reinforce the point, the bathroom had been deserted by my resident woodlouse and he was sitting on the mattress. He was very flat!
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/14) £9127 (12/14) £8530 (2/15 )£7790
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 11th Oct 16, 7:11 PM
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    Eek to having your nose rebroken.
    Take care xx
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.*** ***Keep plodding***
    • ZTD
    • By ZTD 12th Oct 16, 9:44 AM
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    Much like Will Farrell I am pondering whether I am in a comedy or tragedy.
    Originally posted by Butti
    If you're having problems telling the two, then you must be a romance...

    As a few of you know I've had my three car related bad luck things recently.
    This has been followed by breaking my nose and then a week ago having it re broken! It's now straight.
    Originally posted by Butti
    And if it gets out of line again, it knows what to expect...

    Last night I found out why my friends of a certain age go on and on and, tbh, on about night sweats. Wow, I woke up to that joy last night. Just to reinforce the point, the bathroom had been deserted by my resident woodlouse and he was sitting on the mattress. He was very flat!
    Originally posted by Butti
    Are you arranging a proper burial?

    Or just a burial at sea in his adopted home (the bathroom)?
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."
    OMD 'Julia's Song'
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