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Need help NOW!! What am i entitled too from him?
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TallBlondie
Old 26-06-2010, 8:37 PM
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Default Need help NOW!! What am i entitled too from him?

Questions answered thankyou.

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Old 26-06-2010, 8:48 PM
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As per CSA rulings, you are entitled to 15% of his net income for maintenance.
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Old 26-06-2010, 8:49 PM
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And you should be getting more than 100pw in all your benefits...are you sure you are claiming to all you are entitled to?
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Old 26-06-2010, 8:49 PM
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As you are on income support, and LHA is paying 420 of your 650 monthly rental, you're left with a shortfall there of 230. Don't forget, you can claim a 25% reduction on your council tax bill as the single adult in the home.

How much does your OH earn?
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Old 26-06-2010, 8:49 PM
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Hi

If you are getting that much income support each month and you are a married person can i ask what does your husband do ? ...Work etc ? If so how much does he earn ? We be useful if we knew so we could all advise you how much you could ask for ?
Baby Due 11th August 2012
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Old 26-06-2010, 8:59 PM
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Go and see a family solicitor, you are entitled to free legal advice as you receive income support. They will be able to look at what you both have and what you both need and advise you properly. Its hard to advise on here without knowing all the ins and outs. Perhaps pop into the benefits board for some assistance with that.
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All he has to give you is 15% of his monthly wages for CSA. And that is just for your child. Not you or the dogs.
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Old 26-06-2010, 9:09 PM
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Another burden on the state for years to come no doubt.

Bloated welfare state makes this so easy to do, split up and hold your hand out for freebies.
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Old 26-06-2010, 9:15 PM
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As you are on income support, and LHA is paying 420 of your 650 monthly rental, you're left with a shortfall there of 230. Don't forget, you can claim a 25% reduction on your council tax bill as the single adult in the home.

How much does your OH earn?
The OP will already receive full CTB.

With IS + CTC + LHA + CTB, the OP will clear at least 1,000 per month tax free.
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Another burden on the state for years to come no doubt.

Bloated welfare state makes this so easy to do, split up and hold your hand out for freebies.
The OP described her marriage as hell, also that the split was not mutual. Divorce is legal in this country.

Should she be forced to stay married just to keep Daily Mail readers happy?
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The OP described her marriage as hell, also that the split was not mutual. Divorce is legal in this country.

Should she be forced to stay married just to keep Daily Mail readers happy?
No she should get off her !!!! and get a job.
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No she should get off her !!!! and get a job.
That's not what she posted about. We don't know anything about her reasons for not working.
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Old 26-06-2010, 9:40 PM
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That's not what she posted about. We don't know anything about her reasons for not working.
No we don't, but we know that she expects the state and her estranged husband to support her and her pets. Which is not on. His child, yes. He should be paying 50% of every cost for the child, and she should be paying the other half.
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No we don't, but we know that she expects the state and her estranged husband to support her and her pets. Which is not on. His child, yes. He should be paying 50% of every cost for the child, and she should be paying the other half.
Supported by the fact that this is her fourth thread on the subject!

OP, is it not possible for you to work?
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Blondie, your benefits don't seem right..you should be getting approx 120 which is made up of your IS and CTC and then on top of that you should be getting your CB.

I assume the LHA you are getting is the maximum for your property size?

There is a calculator on the CSA website which will tell you how much he should be paying. Had a quick skim of other posts and I see your ex is in the Forces? Try to get a private arrangemet going with him as it is a nightmare trying to get CSA from Forces people. Basically they (Army) decide what - if any - CSA they will pay..and that is even if there is a wages arrestment on his wage. You are not entitled to any money via the CSA when he is on active duty.
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Is there no way to get your marriage working again, it's a shame xxx

Oops sorry I never saw your above post.....
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Blondie, your benefits don't seem right..you should be getting approx 120 which is made up of your IS and CTC and then on top of that you should be getting your CB.

I assume the LHA you are getting is the maximum for your property size?

There is a calculator on the CSA website which will tell you how much he should be paying. Had a quick skim of other posts and I see your ex is in the Forces? Try to get a private arrangemet going with him as it is a nightmare trying to get CSA from Forces people. Basically they (Army) decide what - if any - CSA they will pay..and that is even if there is a wages arrestment on his wage. You are not entitled to any money via the CSA when he is on active duty.
Do you mean i am getting too much benefits?
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Do you mean i am getting too much benefits?

No I don't think you are getting enough!! You said in your opening post that you get IS/CTC and CB and 'they total 400 a month'.

You should be getting about 140 a week (560 per month) plus your LHA and your council tax benefit as well.

When you do get maintenance from him, you don't have to declare it to anyone - you get to keep all your benefits plus your maintenance.

There is a website www.entitledto.co.uk which is v good for telling you what benefits you are, well - entitled to!!, so put your details in there and make sure you are getting all your due.

As for other comments, you are quite entitled to claim benefits and don't have to justify it to anyone. I wish these people would complain to their MP's about the benefit system rather than posting nasty comments and passing judgement to people that are entitled to claim them and are doing no wrong.
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He has totally cut off all the people who care for him, he fears we will all be made to feel the pain and loss he is feeling if something happens to him. It took me weeks to get the real reasons out of him, initally he said we had lost our spark which i knew was rubbish. Its all very sad trust me, my best friend is walking around with the world on his shoulders and i can't do nothing about it.

Ive tried, but now i have to concentrate on sorting things for our girl.
What a sad situation he clearly feels very scared out there. Is there any way you could speak to his CO or a family officer as he sounds like he is suffering from depression and it would be a real shame to throw away your marriage.

When does this tour end? (sorry, I've not read your posts indepth -leave that to the weirdos!!) so sorry if you have said.
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No I don't think you are getting enough!! You said in your opening post that you get IS/CTC and CB and 'they total 400 a month'.

You should be getting about 140 a week (560 per month) plus your LHA and your council tax benefit as well.

When you do get maintenance from him, you don't have to declare it to anyone - you get to keep all your benefits plus your maintenance.

There is a website www.entitledto.co.uk which is v good for telling you what benefits you are, well - entitled to!!, so put your details in there and make sure you are getting all your due.

As for other comments, you are quite entitled to claim benefits and don't have to justify it to anyone. I wish these people would complain to their MP's about the benefit system rather than posting nasty comments and passing judgement to people that are entitled to claim them and are doing no wrong.
I understand them in a way, but they couldn't of assumed it about anybody different.

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65.45 Income support.
20.30 child benefit.

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