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    • skintandfat
    • By skintandfat 4th Oct 17, 5:15 PM
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    Apologies for your situation

    If the will cannot be changed then there may be other options

    Do you have any kids?
    Can your MIL put the money in a trust when she is alive and of sound mind?

    If the money is tied in the house then she could do an equity release (there will be fees but she will release the cash)
    The money could be then left in trust for someone younger and bypass you and your wife.

    I don't really understand 'absolute' will jargon but I thought one could change a will as long as one was of sound mind.

    See a lawyer
    • Jenniefour
    • By Jenniefour 4th Oct 17, 11:14 PM
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    On the subject of the will, it is 'absolute' thanks to my FIL's wishes, so can't be changed.

    Originally posted by foulplay13
    OP - there is no such thing as an "absolute will", although the use of the word "absolute" in a will is normal. What it means is that something (usually money) is left to someone with no conditions attached. It does not mean the will cannot be changed.

    Might be worth checking out, if you think that's possible in this difficult situation.
    • silvercar
    • By silvercar 5th Oct 17, 8:58 AM
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    The majority of this thread dates back to 2009, so pointless answering now.

    Someone added to it, but has been redirected to another board.
    • alanq
    • By alanq 9th Oct 17, 5:31 PM
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    Hello JKSTF1969,

    I think you need to start a new thread about this on the Deaths, Funerals and Probate board under Marriage, Relationships and Families. Can you copy and re-post it over there? "New Thread" is on top left.
    Originally posted by Jenniefour
    JKSTF1969 has instead opened a discussion on Savings And Investments.
    I'm a Board Guide on the Budgeting and Bank Accounts, Savings & Investments, Food Shopping and Over 50s MoneySaving boards. I'm a volunteer to help the boards run smoothly, and I can move and merge threads there. Any views are mine and not the official line of Board guides are not moderators. If you spot an inappropriate or illegal post then please report it to
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