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    • fermi
    • By fermi 1st May 09, 8:55 AM
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    fermi
    The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3
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    • 1st May 09, 8:55 AM
    The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3 1st May 09 at 8:55 AM
    The previous thread was getting very very big, so once again we have a new thread.

    That great first post by In Search Of Me is below.

    The previous thread (part 2) is HERE and the original is HERE.

    There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!

    PS have amended this slightly as I have decided that I will try for the moderation way! That means for me not drinking over the recc limits (bottle & a half of wine for me!) but I know at times this will be a struggle plus I'm aware that others want to do the same.
    Originally posted by In Search Of Me
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    • jo1972
    • By jo1972 1st May 09, 9:16 AM
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    • 1st May 09, 9:16 AM
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    • 1st May 09, 9:16 AM
    Am I first???

    ETA: woohooo I am!!! Thanks Fermi! Brand new month, brand new resolve :rolleyes:

    Lurks, enjoy your day today
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
  • Needstochange
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    • 1st May 09, 9:38 AM
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    • 1st May 09, 9:38 AM
    ooooh a shiny new thread Budgie will be pleased new month new thread

    hi jo how ya doing?

    Very intrigued re Lurkios cryptic post. Sounds fun though

    Good luck for May everyone
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  • winebox
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    • 1st May 09, 9:46 AM
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    • 1st May 09, 9:46 AM
    hey ho third one in!
    Gotta be quick now to make it - morning all!

    eta: in such a rush to dive in forgot to say:

    wbf well done! Feels good, eh?
    lurky good to know you're still about & excited about.......???
    Budgie good luck with the scoring; I'll try & be considerate & not trouble you with an update til next week
    Last edited by winebox; 01-05-2009 at 10:41 AM.
    • jo1972
    • By jo1972 1st May 09, 10:44 AM
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    • #5
    • 1st May 09, 10:44 AM
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    • 1st May 09, 10:44 AM
    Budgie, I have been thinking about your May Challenge and yes, I am going to do it (if that's okay ). I've been struggling to think about how many days as if I say 31 then I can't do the 'just for one day' theory and will feel completely let down if I have a mulligan , but I also need to be positive, so swings and roundabouts methinks....(I can already see GC's face, it's a little like this :rolleyes.

    Anyhooo, I shall be going for 31 please Budge and I shall once again start the water challenge as that went out of the window about a week ago I've drunk a large glass already so on my way to day 1 success with that one!

    I will have to think if there is anything I would like to change about 'me' and will post if I think of something, apart from getting fitter, which is not going to happen, I can't think of anything. Don't need to lose weight at the moment, keep being told I'm too thin, but this is due to the fact that I only ingest alcohol and no food. After 31 days of eating I shall be as big as a bus and might need to do a losing weight challenge in June

    (I typed this message before 10am and have been hovering for an hour with my finger over the submit button )

    xx
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
    • maman
    • By maman 1st May 09, 11:27 AM
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    • 1st May 09, 11:27 AM
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    • 1st May 09, 11:27 AM
    Just had a panic moment, thought I'd lost you all! Wow, this thread is popular, I feel like a superstar already. I love Colin Firth, do we get to pour beer over him for a wet shirt scene??
    • jo1972
    • By jo1972 1st May 09, 11:30 AM
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    • 1st May 09, 11:30 AM
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    • 1st May 09, 11:30 AM
    I love Colin Firth, do we get to pour beer over him for a wet shirt scene??
    Originally posted by maman
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
    • happyshopper
    • By happyshopper 1st May 09, 11:44 AM
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    • #8
    • 1st May 09, 11:44 AM
    And so, the time is near...
    • #8
    • 1st May 09, 11:44 AM
    April final scores

    Name Target/30 Actual/30

    115k 15 11
    40somethingmum 27 16
    ad1jnl 30 10 (needs updating)
    budget babe 30 30
    dotstar24 6 4
    eselt 30 30
    fayjmck 20 21
    fedupandskint 19 20
    fluffybishop 10 13
    glasgowgirl 12 9
    happyshopper 20 20
    lillibet dripping 10 7
    lurkio 18 6
    maman 10 10
    maz123 7 7
    miss piggy 25 24 bloody nearly
    needstochange 16 16
    noynoy 13 9
    pariskate 15 14 bloody nearly
    sleepyjo ?? 13
    stroppy 10 6
    **upsy daisy** 15 2
    wanna bee free 10 10
    winebox 10 7

    So collectively we've achieved well over 80% of our target of 378 days. I think that's marvellous! Well done everybody . I'll update this post with any more final scores that come in. sleepyjo is that right, or are you on more? budgie, you'll do an outstanding job in May, I have absolutely no doubt. I suspect you'll be rather more proactive at marshalling the troops than I .

    Over and out...HS (I'll be watching you all. Best of luck for May!)

    EDIT: Lurkio, is your big secret thing something musical?
    Last edited by happyshopper; 02-05-2009 at 11:13 AM. Reason: tidying up :)
    ...nothing to see here...
    • Pippilongstocking
    • By Pippilongstocking 1st May 09, 12:03 PM
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    • 1st May 09, 12:03 PM
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    • 1st May 09, 12:03 PM
    Well done HS and grand big thanks for doing the scores in April.

    Lots of us (?) on 31 in May some other really great targets set too - as a collective force I am sure we can do it

    I can't remember when I regularily joined the thread I only know I hadn't had an AFD before joining for a very very long time - I think joined regularily in Oct? I do remember having the receipt for the last bottle of wine I bought on my own 31/10/08.

    Since then I have only bought stuff when in company, or drank when out. (or been given )

    Got rid of my other birthday bottle of wine - gave it to a chum

    Thanks for all the support and hugs. xxx
    Pippi's Debt Free Diary
    • Miss Piggy
    • By Miss Piggy 1st May 09, 12:57 PM
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    Miss Piggy
    Nice shiny new thread for us all!

    Well done everyone on their April totals - I think we all did jolly well!!! Thanks again Happyshopper for keeping score!

    Miss P
    xx
    **Keep Calm and Carry On!**
  • noynoy
    thanks happy shopper my final score was 9 ..so still only a smiley face lol..esters secret is driving me crackers psml..another baby on the way perhaps?
    can i be put down for 10 this month many thanks
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  • maz123
    Ooooh,
    A new thread, that made me worried, thought i'd lost you. A big thankyou to happyshopper for scoring.
    Good luck to everyone on this new month, we can do it!!!
    maz
  • 115K
    Hello all, ooh a new thread how exciting.

    I didn't make my target for February and for April but I shall try again.

    15 days AF for me for May please.

    I also would like to lose 7 pounds this month as well.

    I'm not massively overweight but I could certainly do with eating less chips and more salad.

    Not a good start, today won't be AF for me.

    Good luck everyone.
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  • 115K
    I really fancy some chips now and some salad. Why did I mention food?
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  • sleepyjo
    [QUOTE=happyshopper;21172751]April final scores

    Name Target/30 Actual/30

    y
    sleepyjo ?? 13

    So collectively we've achieved well over 80% of our target of 378 days. I think that's marvellous! Well done everybody . I'll update this post with any more final scores that come in. sleepyjo is that right, or are you on more? budgie, you'll do an outstanding job in May, I have absolutely no doubt. I suspect you'll be rather more proactive at marshalling the troops than I .

    Hi happy shopper i had - what you said 13 days out of 14 - so not too bad, but as i said last night, i am now alcohol free! and have given up for good-if i can.
    even though i was very very tempted, took mum (81) to hospital for check up - she has alziemers and soesn't know any of us any more and my dad (84) who is going the same way - probably due to looking after mum, but she was being a real handful, worse than any child and she wouldn't get into the car, for us to go to the hospital, took me over 10 minutes to persuade her to sit inside, then she was in a grumpy mood all morning, took them out for lunch afterwards and she wouldn't eat her dinner, wouldn't get back inside the car, etc, etc - i kinow it isn't her fault and it is the illness, but i come back so wound up, usually i call at the off liscence and get stocked up, ready to come home to - but i didn't of course today, came home and poured myself a large lime and lemonade and sat and drank that and thought back to happier times, when i was younger with her as my mum and not the stranger she thinks i am today!
    sorry that is my rant over with - sometimes you just have to let it out or in the past get drunk instead!
    good work on keeping all the figures together, you are amazing
    I am going to be 31/31 for may
    jo-jo

    • Pippilongstocking
    • By Pippilongstocking 1st May 09, 4:48 PM
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    I really fancy some chips now and some salad. Why did I mention food?
    Originally posted by 115K

    I had fish and chips on the beach for lunch - yum yum

    I also walked the mutts - so not entirely a chipfest.

    Twas local haddock though - double yum

    Ok am going now...........
    Pippi's Debt Free Diary
  • barshamhillbilly
    Evening All - found you !!
    Embrace your inner Hillbilly
    • 40somethingmum
    • By 40somethingmum 1st May 09, 7:36 PM
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    Got rid of my other birthday bottle of wine - gave it to a chum
    Originally posted by fayjmck
    Wow well down Fay - that's brilliant

    40SM
    • 40somethingmum
    • By 40somethingmum 1st May 09, 7:47 PM
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    40somethingmum
    Evening All !


    It has been a gorgeous day here and it has set me in a good mood to start the May 31 Day Challenge.

    My delivery arrived from Holland & Barratt this morning so I am off to a good start. God they are big - I am not very good at swallowing big things!

    I left work early today so that I could spend some time in the garden with a nice cold drink ! I bought a lovely tall glass from M&S ( cost 50p and its really pretty) to drink all those long cool non-alcoholic drinks over the coming month. Today I am drinking ginger and lemongrass cordial topped with lemonade , chopped strawberries, oranges & Mint . It is very , very nice . I am just pretending it is a Pimms ( minus the Pimms of course)!!

    To be honest I have no desire to drink alcohol tonight even though DH has nipped out to buy himself some beers . A good start to the month.

    Have a lovely , Sunny weekend everyone .

    40SM
  • eselt
    Here you are all !!!!!! Sorry if I haven't thanked everyone on the last thread- but hey, here we all are, shiney shiney.

    Right everyone, bank holiday weekend, hold your nerve- eselt
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