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    • MrsTinks
    • By MrsTinks 1st Jan 09, 11:43 AM
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    The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2
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    • 1st Jan 09, 11:43 AM
    The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2 1st Jan 09 at 11:43 AM
    Back at the beginning of 2008 a thread was started by In Search Of Me which proved hugely successful. It's grown so big that I think it's about time we start a fresh one and what better time to do so than the new year?

    The old thread can be found here:
    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=761479

    And that inspirational first post

    There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    DFW Nerd #025
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  • barshamhillbilly
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    • 1st Jan 09, 11:49 AM
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    • 1st Jan 09, 11:49 AM
    Hello ...... Anyone found there way here yet ?
    Embrace your inner Hillbilly
  • Lurkio
    • #3
    • 1st Jan 09, 11:53 AM
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    • 1st Jan 09, 11:53 AM
    I have and here's the AFJ club list, too


    1 - Lurkio (target 31/31)
    2 - jo1972 (target 31/31)
    3 - Needstochange (target 15/31)
    4 - Miss Piggy (target 31/31)
    5 - Mollypolly (target 31/31)
    6 - winebox (target 15/31)
    7 - eselt (target 31/31)
    8 - *Mari* (target 31/31)
    9 - Grey Pilgrim (target 31/31)
    10 - 115K (target 10/31)
    11 - jjef (target 25/31)
    12 - the rugby coach (target 25/31)
    13 - yellow monkey (target ?)
    14 - Bismarck (target 31/31)
    15 - beckseven (target 31/31)
    16 - barshamhillbilly (target 15/31)
    17 - happyshopper (target 28/31)
    18 - Nessa56 (possible )
    19 - miamoo (target 31/31)
    20 - Mrs Lurkio (target 27/31)
    Last edited by Lurkio; 02-01-2009 at 7:32 AM.


    Neigh, neigh, and thrice neigh
    • yellowmonkey
    • By yellowmonkey 1st Jan 09, 11:54 AM
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    • 1st Jan 09, 11:54 AM
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    • 1st Jan 09, 11:54 AM
    Nice in here isnt it


    • *Mari*
    • By *Mari* 1st Jan 09, 11:57 AM
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    • #5
    • 1st Jan 09, 11:57 AM
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    • 1st Jan 09, 11:57 AM
    Ohhhh Im here Happy New Year everyone

    Well its finally January 1st and I can quite honestly say Im really excited about being part of AFJ.

    Last night we had a houseful loads of alcohol flowing ........I didn't manage to abstain completly but only had a couple of glasses of wine and a sip of bubbly at midnight. Woke up raring to go no hangover feeling fab

    Off for a long walk this afternoon then a nice roast and have promised kids a game of monopoly so shall need my wits about me

    Hope evereyone is OK and ready for the challenges that lie ahead...

    Take care

    Mari xx
  • RecoveringAlcoholic
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    • 1st Jan 09, 12:00 PM
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    • 1st Jan 09, 12:00 PM
    Twelve hours into a New Year.

    One minute, one hour, one day at a time........

    and Good Luck.
  • mymatebob
    • #7
    • 1st Jan 09, 12:02 PM
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    • 1st Jan 09, 12:02 PM
    Went round to friends for dinner and to see in the New year last night.
    He knows I don't drink but he decided that I wouldn't be able to enjoy the "bells" without a glass of something. So I was offered all manner of things all night but managed to see 2009 over the threshold with nothing more than some sparkling water.

    Was great to be able to drive home and not have to hang about for a taxi till all hours.
    This is without doubt my favourite time of year for being a non-drinker ex-drinker

    God luck to all who are embarking on the first steps to cutting down or giving up.
  • Bismarck
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    • 1st Jan 09, 12:04 PM
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    • 1st Jan 09, 12:04 PM
    Indeed New Year, New Thread.

    New Years Eve Sober Version II has been and gone and I have to say it was easier than last year by far.

    Hope everyone's OK.

    Bis
    For what I've done...I start again...And whatever pain may come ...Today this ends... I'm forgiving what I've done -AF since June 2007
  • asp746
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    • 1st Jan 09, 12:05 PM
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    • 1st Jan 09, 12:05 PM
    fortunately for me i've only ever had a penchant for lager and only occasionally a vodka & coke. once the kids came along and i split from partner i was more or less constantly drinking in the house cos i couldn't get out. i used to get a crate of cans for about 15 with the intention to only have them of a weekend but the temptation was too much - it ended up thru the week too.

    i didn't enjoy drinking as such but it was the only thing i had for 'me'. but it got to the stage where the kids were seeing me 'merry' and which they referred to jokingly on occasion and i was horrified and thought no way - i don't want my kids seeing me drinking and thinking its normal, also i'm the only carer for my kids so if anything happened to me whilst i was drunk or if i ended up getting properly addicted i don't know who would look after them. Alcohol or kids erm kids and kids every time.

    don't get me wrong i missed it like mad for a month or so but somehow managed and its the best thing i ever did. now the kids are older and i've got my freedom back but if i go out i drink coke and couldn't be happier also, i live in liverpool and after 6pm parking anywhere is free so i can have a great meal out and just drive home so life's so much easier.
    Last edited by asp746; 01-01-2009 at 12:08 PM.
    • jo1972
    • By jo1972 1st Jan 09, 12:11 PM
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    Ooooh, how great, a spangly new thread for a spangly new year! We can put all the old carp behind us and start afresh! Thanks Mrs Tine for starting up a new one!

    Although, have to report, I've had panics already and it's not even lunchtime
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
    • yellowmonkey
    • By yellowmonkey 1st Jan 09, 12:20 PM
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    Try not to have the panics Jo. Stay strong you will feel better for it. I am saying that as much to myself as well cause I finish work soon and I have 1 can of beer in the fridge.

    In keeping with the NSD Challenge I am not going to spend on beer so will the can still be there tomorrow.

    Tune in tomorrow to find out

    Stay strong Jo

    ym


    • jo1972
    • By jo1972 1st Jan 09, 12:26 PM
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    I drank all the beer in the house last night (that sounds bad....I actually only bought enough for last night ), but I forgot OH bought a box of beer and a box of cider for us to take to a friends house last week but we ended up not going and now it's in the boot of my car. I've no interest in the cider but there's 18 bottles of becks out there in the cold boot
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
    • yellowmonkey
    • By yellowmonkey 1st Jan 09, 12:32 PM
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    I've no interest in the cider but there's 18 bottles of becks out there in the cold boot
    Originally posted by jo1972
    Ahhh let them sleep. They are probably really comfy in there so why not let them be See how long you can leave them in there.

    Why not have a comp with me and see who's lasts longer. My can in the fridge or your Becks.

    ym


    • *Mari*
    • By *Mari* 1st Jan 09, 12:32 PM
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    Jo, can you get OH to take it out and grt rid of it or hide it?? Just to get it out of harms reach? We have a houseful of wine/beer/spirits...Im hoping my new found resistance will hold out!!!! If not will have to take it to my MiLs for safe keeping
    • jo1972
    • By jo1972 1st Jan 09, 12:39 PM
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    Mari, its the DFW in me that can't waste it, that's the problem

    Luckily it's not Stella cos I wouldn't be able to leave it. I'll leave it there for now cos I can't let YM beat me
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
    • yellowmonkey
    • By yellowmonkey 1st Jan 09, 12:41 PM
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    Thats the idea Jo

    I cant lose to a girl

    ym


    • MrsTinks
    • By MrsTinks 1st Jan 09, 12:42 PM
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    MrsTinks
    Whilst I've never thought of myself as having an issue with alcohol not only has my dad had his fight with it but my stepfather and mum are definitely over the line on the dependance... I used to enjoy a glass but could happily do without - unless I was out with friends - then I felt boring if I didn't have a glass... apart from odd glass of bubbly I haven't had a glass for oooooo 16 weeks... since finding out I was pregnant Not recommending that to anyone as a solution btw! But by golly - that's a wake up call and a half! Still tough not to have just one when I am out with friends but it IS doable
    Stay strong all and if anyone asks just say you are detoxing as your new years resolution!
    DFW Nerd #025
  • Bismarck
    Jo, can you get OH to take it out and grt rid of it or hide it?? Just to get it out of harms reach? We have a houseful of wine/beer/spirits...Im hoping my new found resistance will hold out!!!! If not will have to take it to my MiLs for safe keeping
    Originally posted by *Mari*
    take them out of the house now.

    you're at huge risk now and getting rid is the easiest thing to do if you want to start off well.

    small steps that help make a huge difference
    For what I've done...I start again...And whatever pain may come ...Today this ends... I'm forgiving what I've done -AF since June 2007
  • Bismarck
    Mari, its the DFW in me that can't waste it, that's the problem
    Originally posted by jo1972
    I know that feeling but if you don't waste it, it will have no qualms about wasting you.
    For what I've done...I start again...And whatever pain may come ...Today this ends... I'm forgiving what I've done -AF since June 2007
    • jo1972
    • By jo1972 1st Jan 09, 12:47 PM
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    Mrs Tine, this is what I was pondering with the other day as one of our posters on here 'Shoppy' is now pregnant, thought maybe I should have another go (got 3 already ) to stop me drinking! Hmmmm maybe not, not got the house room anyway good luck with your pregnancy

    YM, love a challenge!!!

    Bis, I know you're right.......as always
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
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