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    • Verbatim
    • By Verbatim 12th Aug 08, 10:19 AM
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    ex and would be ex-gamblers support thread
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    • 12th Aug 08, 10:19 AM
    ex and would be ex-gamblers support thread 12th Aug 08 at 10:19 AM
    There seem to be a good few posts recently from people who are in debt due to gambling and I wondered if anyone else thinks a support thread or a sub-board like the bankruptcy sub-board or giving up alcohol thread would be a good idea?
    CCs @0% £24k Dec 05 £19,621.41 Au £13400 S 12600 Oct £11,981 £9481 £7500 Nov £7250 D £7100 Jan 6950 F £5800 Mar£5400 May £4830 June £4660 July £4460 Aug £3200, S £900, £0 18/9/07 DFW Nerd 042
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    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 28th Mar 17, 12:49 PM
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    cantcope
    thanks.it was just thought it might of been the slots/ roulette etc on the internet.

    the problem with sports bets is that some sports men play to lose thats what put me off.


    I watch it in slow mo
    Originally posted by prosaver
    Please dont put betting related videos or pictures on here. we are all trying to stop gambling. see a horse race on here is torture for some.
    Would you put a pint in front of an alcoholic??
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • prosaver
    • By prosaver 28th Mar 17, 12:55 PM
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    prosaver
    Please dont put betting related videos or pictures on here. we are all trying to stop gambling. see a horse race on here is torture for some.
    Would you put a pint in front of an alcoholic??
    Originally posted by cantcope
    ok took it off, just thought it would help as the race was fixed.
    “Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”
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    • Hillwalker17
    • By Hillwalker17 31st Mar 17, 6:03 PM
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    Hillwalker17
    Hope everyone is still doing well!

    Day 16 for me and I just ain't looking back, only forward.
    Ex Gambling Addict - Last bet made on 15/03/2017 - 29 Days
    Slowly building an emergency fund - £1000/£6000
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 5th Apr 17, 9:03 AM
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    keep going Hillwalker!
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 12th Apr 17, 11:07 AM
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    How's everyone doing?
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • buddiebabe
    • By buddiebabe 13th Apr 17, 12:10 AM
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    Not going well here at all havent posted for a long time and the email notification thats just popped through has come at the right time. I was paid my monthly wage today and have just blown it all. Im so angry and upset with myself right now.... what the hell was I thinking ive done so well for so long.
    DEBT OUTSTANDING 23.04.17 £16802.97
    • jools1985
    • By jools1985 13th Apr 17, 1:05 AM
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    jools1985
    oh no buddiebabe! I can totally relate to what you've done tonight and can almost feel that gut wrenching feeling. I've no great words of wisdom for you as what is done is done. Have you ever sought help from GA? It really helps being amongst people who understand and don't judge,
    • HEROWHENZERO
    • By HEROWHENZERO 13th Apr 17, 12:40 PM
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    HEROWHENZERO
    Not going well here at all havent posted for a long time and the email notification thats just popped through has come at the right time. I was paid my monthly wage today and have just blown it all. Im so angry and upset with myself right now.... what the hell was I thinking ive done so well for so long.
    Originally posted by buddiebabe
    What thoughts led you to gambling? It's important to be honest with yourself and ask yourself the questions that are much easier to avoid.

    https://www.gamblersanonymous.org.uk

    If you haven't been to GA before, I strongly recommend it. Without GA, I'm sure I would have gambled again, but I'm now 13 months without it. I've been where you are many times over and I can't stress enough, please reach out for help, it is there and you can do it :-)

    All the best

    Hero
    Just for today I will not try to solve all my life problems at once. | DFD: April 2033 April 2029
    Original Debt: £96K Mar 2016 | Current Debt: £85431.73
    Jul 2017
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 19th Apr 17, 3:05 PM
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    cantcope
    Not going well here at all havent posted for a long time and the email notification thats just popped through has come at the right time. I was paid my monthly wage today and have just blown it all. Im so angry and upset with myself right now.... what the hell was I thinking ive done so well for so long.
    Originally posted by buddiebabe
    oh no if you haven't already get some blocks on your electronics. k9 is free ( shut your eyes and smash out a password if there is nobody you can ask to do it for you) (my dad comes to my house and does mine every time i get something new) and will stop you being able to gamble on your tablet/phone/laptop.

    I also second GA. I've been in the room 11 years in May and off a bet 10.5 years. i couldn't do without it. the support i get daily outside of the rooms from other members is invaluable. not just for gambling, which i rarely think about now, but for life in general, things that COULD lead me back to it.

    It's my birthday today and i have more cards and well wishes from GA members than any of my friends and family! They ARE my friends and family.
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • jools1985
    • By jools1985 19th Apr 17, 9:25 PM
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    Happy birthday CC. I hope you've had a great day. You give tremendous support to others on this thread. It's good to hear you get the same from your GA buddies
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 20th Apr 17, 12:39 PM
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    Happy birthday CC. I hope you've had a great day. You give tremendous support to others on this thread. It's good to hear you get the same from your GA buddies
    Originally posted by jools1985
    Thanks Jools.
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • 611
    • By 611 24th Apr 17, 8:43 AM
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    611
    I'd be interested in hearing from anyone who has remained abstinent without attending GA. My gambling addiction has always been a very private thing that I don't discuss with others, even those closest to me don't know about it. Social situations with strangers can make me anxious so I'd really like to find another way to beat this (currently on day 17 and feeling very confident about it).
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 24th Apr 17, 12:28 PM
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    i think you might struggle to find anyone who managed to abstain for a long period of time without any support from GA or gamcare or some form of counselling. Everything is easier to deal with if you can be open and honest about it. too much pressure otherwise.

    i'd be interested to know too though. i only see evidence of people returning to the rooms having not been for a period of time and they are in more debt and have lost family, friends, jobs etc
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • HEROWHENZERO
    • By HEROWHENZERO 25th Apr 17, 1:08 AM
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    HEROWHENZERO
    I'd be interested in hearing from anyone who has remained abstinent without attending GA. My gambling addiction has always been a very private thing that I don't discuss with others, even those closest to me don't know about it. Social situations with strangers can make me anxious so I'd really like to find another way to beat this (currently on day 17 and feeling very confident about it).
    Originally posted by 611
    I can only tell you of my experience, and my observations of others in the fellowship. I tried on my own many many many times and failed to stay off a bet EVERY time. One the the best ways that I now stay off is by talking about it with like minded people. I've seen a number of people stop going to GA and then come back a few months having succumbed to gambling addiction.

    Personally keeping everything private was what fuelled my continued gambling, as I was not accountable and hadn't declared that I had an issue. Being open and honest about my addiction was vital to staying off, and my family appreciate it. All the time I kept it to myself I suffered in silence, and the suffering would surface in other indirect ways, taking out frustration on my loved ones, normally without even realising it.

    I've not gambled now since 15/03/2016 and I'm pretty sure that without GA and honesty, I would have gambled since then.

    I really hope you all the success in your gambling free recovery, but I strongly suggest you give GA a try. Gambling addiction is an illness and GA is my weekly medicine.

    Hero
    Just for today I will not try to solve all my life problems at once. | DFD: April 2033 April 2029
    Original Debt: £96K Mar 2016 | Current Debt: £85431.73
    Jul 2017
    • S3ph1
    • By S3ph1 30th Apr 17, 6:15 PM
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    S3ph1
    Hi,

    I'm a gambler and have racked up £11000 of debt trying to chase back losses over the past 8 months. I used to be relaxed and gamble for fun only what I could afford, but one month a while back I got a bit drunk in my local casino and pretty much withdrew everything and lost.... Probably wouldn't be writing this now if I won from it, but... being the beginning of the month when this happened, I stupidly turned to a payday loan to get me through the month. (My credit was on the verge of Fair and Bad at this point)
    Well... this is where it went reeeealllly bad, as come the time I had to pay back the payday loan on payday, it didn't leave me much, and rather than turn to another payday loan, I thought I'd open an online casino account and try gamble a bit to earn a bit. (Don't know which would've been worse, another payday loan or gamble it.)
    Well.... I lost again, as gambling is a mugs game and I'm clearly a mug.
    I took out loans and a credit card with high interest to get me through but with thoughts of payday being non existent due to being swallowed up with debt repayments, I gambled pretty much all of it. Depression setting in, it began a downward spiral of gambling what I didn't have to try make a quick buck for a less stressful month.
    Well, again I've never turned a profit for months and my debts are sky high and have no way of paying them back. 2 defaults and 2 CCJs mean I can't even borrow more which I guess is a good thing.
    I have applied for a loan at my local credit union and am awaiting their reply. This would cover ALL my debts with a simple £350 a month repayment (20% of my monthly salary) which if approved will be a dream come true. If not, I'm really down the toilet.

    My question is, I only gamble relentlessly when I'm 'chasing' yet I'm concerned that if I get this loan from the credit union (which may be a big IF) that I'll pay off all my debt and the payments come straight out of my salary before it even hits my bank account... but is this a wise idea? And do any gambling addicts believe I will just be able to stop gambling with out any help? I'm kinda thinking I have a big gambling problem, but the other hand I'm thinking it's just one stupid night that went wrong, with many wrong decisions relating to gambling afterwards. I don't feel I need to have a bet, I don't feel I have to place money on a blackjack table, but I just did it because I thought it was (stupidly) an option out of debt.

    Any advice?

    Thanks!
    • HEROWHENZERO
    • By HEROWHENZERO 2nd May 17, 5:16 PM
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    HEROWHENZERO
    Hey S3ph1,

    It sounds like you've crossed the line from responsible gambling to compulsive gambling. You're no mug, just someone who like many of us have been lured into the destructive pattern of compulsive gambling.

    I strongly suggest you take a look at gamblers anonymous and find your nearest meeting. You'll quickly realise you are not alone, and within the fellowship, the only requirement being a desire to stop gambling, can gain help to stop and stay stopped by following a simple 12 step program.

    I tried many times to stop on my own and failed every time. The debts will get better over time, but from my experience, continuing to gamble will only ever make them worse.

    One day at a time

    Hero

    Hi,

    I'm a gambler and have racked up £11000 of debt trying to chase back losses over the past 8 months. I used to be relaxed and gamble for fun only what I could afford, but one month a while back I got a bit drunk in my local casino and pretty much withdrew everything and lost.... Probably wouldn't be writing this now if I won from it, but... being the beginning of the month when this happened, I stupidly turned to a payday loan to get me through the month. (My credit was on the verge of Fair and Bad at this point)
    Well... this is where it went reeeealllly bad, as come the time I had to pay back the payday loan on payday, it didn't leave me much, and rather than turn to another payday loan, I thought I'd open an online casino account and try gamble a bit to earn a bit. (Don't know which would've been worse, another payday loan or gamble it.)
    Well.... I lost again, as gambling is a mugs game and I'm clearly a mug.
    I took out loans and a credit card with high interest to get me through but with thoughts of payday being non existent due to being swallowed up with debt repayments, I gambled pretty much all of it. Depression setting in, it began a downward spiral of gambling what I didn't have to try make a quick buck for a less stressful month.
    Well, again I've never turned a profit for months and my debts are sky high and have no way of paying them back. 2 defaults and 2 CCJs mean I can't even borrow more which I guess is a good thing.
    I have applied for a loan at my local credit union and am awaiting their reply. This would cover ALL my debts with a simple £350 a month repayment (20% of my monthly salary) which if approved will be a dream come true. If not, I'm really down the toilet.

    My question is, I only gamble relentlessly when I'm 'chasing' yet I'm concerned that if I get this loan from the credit union (which may be a big IF) that I'll pay off all my debt and the payments come straight out of my salary before it even hits my bank account... but is this a wise idea? And do any gambling addicts believe I will just be able to stop gambling with out any help? I'm kinda thinking I have a big gambling problem, but the other hand I'm thinking it's just one stupid night that went wrong, with many wrong decisions relating to gambling afterwards. I don't feel I need to have a bet, I don't feel I have to place money on a blackjack table, but I just did it because I thought it was (stupidly) an option out of debt.

    Any advice?

    Thanks!
    Originally posted by S3ph1
    Just for today I will not try to solve all my life problems at once. | DFD: April 2033 April 2029
    Original Debt: £96K Mar 2016 | Current Debt: £85431.73
    Jul 2017
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 5th May 17, 12:51 PM
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    i agree with whats been said above. i was always responsible with money and bet occasionally. until i stepped over the invisible line and lost all control. chased my losses for 14 months. racking up bigger losses.
    you have a problem. its up to you how you address it.
    accept you've had your last bet and you wont ever get that money back without hard work, or carry on and be in a bigger mess in a years time.

    if you honestly think you can accept the loss and move on then that;s great. i couldn't without the help of GA and support forums.
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • jools1985
    • By jools1985 16th May 17, 7:37 PM
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    Well I already knew how stupid I'd been with the compulsive gambling, then last night I had another massive reality check. I have a Santander bank account and have a handy little app called spendlytics. I discovered yesterday that I could look at the previous years overall spend. I was horrified when I saw how much I'd spent gambling - tens of thousands of pounds. OK I got some of it back through winning, the app only shows money out not money in, but God I felt so sick and slept really badly last night waking up numerous times thinking about it.

    I know I can't change what I've done, but I just wanted to get it out on here as I don't know who else to talk to today
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 24th May 17, 9:52 AM
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    i know the feeling Jools. When i first stopped gambling about a week later i got a bank statement through the post. it was 114 pages for 3 months of ins and outs all from gambling sites. made me want to vomit.

    The important thing is not to get there again. xx
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • jools1985
    • By jools1985 24th May 17, 11:56 PM
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    i know the feeling Jools. When i first stopped gambling about a week later i got a bank statement through the post. it was 114 pages for 3 months of ins and outs all from gambling sites. made me want to vomit.

    The important thing is not to get there again. xx
    Originally posted by cantcope
    Thanks CC you are so right about the important thing being not to get there again.
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