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    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 1st Jan 17, 2:18 PM
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    Mooloo's Joining up the dots in 2017
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    • 1st Jan 17, 2:18 PM
    Mooloo's Joining up the dots in 2017 1st Jan 17 at 2:18 PM
    Welcome to another year in the life of Mooloo.
    I have been posting for many years now and have shared all the ins and outs of life, love, families and work.
    I started when I was struggling to bring up my children and their new babies under quite difficult circumstances.
    I am happy to say that I am in a much better stage of my life than all those years ago.
    I live with my 9 year old granddaughter with a Guardianship order for the past seven years.
    I have my own business running a sewing shop, and I have a rather tenuous relationship with my chap for 12 years plus.
    We are moving into 2017 with the new challenges of joining up the dots and hopefully moving forward to a single home in a couple of years.

    So while I attempt to get things done I will continue to keep my life on track by being accountable for my actions by committing what is going on here.
    I will see if I can remember how to post a link from one thread to another.
    Last edited by Mooloo; 02-01-2017 at 6:54 PM. Reason: Change title
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
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    • Eager_Elephant
    • By Eager_Elephant 1st Jan 17, 2:25 PM
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    Happy New Year Mooloo!!


    Happy New Diary!!


    Looking forward to joining you on your journey!!
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    • Tescodealqueen
    • By Tescodealqueen 1st Jan 17, 2:25 PM
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    Subscribed.Happy new year Mooloo
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    • By pollyanna 26 1st Jan 17, 2:31 PM
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    Will subscribe Mooloo . Maybe this year life will let me keep up with threads a little better .
    Here's to the new year ahead and good luck !
    polly
    • ivyleaf
    • By ivyleaf 1st Jan 17, 5:19 PM
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    Wishing you happiness Mooloo
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 1st Jan 17, 6:05 PM
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    Well Changes have started already. I have a business planner diary to help kickstart my focus on the shop, and tonight I am visiting Oxford for a couple of nights. I will be working on the business plan from here, and going home on Tuesday ready for dgd coming home and the gas boiler is going to be serviced. Dgd is coming home a day earlier than originally planned which is actually better for me as it gives me a day to make sure her school things are ready.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
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    • By pollyanna 26 1st Jan 17, 6:47 PM
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    That's a good start Mooloo . Will the new thread have a title ? New start needs something appropriate but any suggestions don't come to mind - fibro fog !
    polly
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 1st Jan 17, 7:00 PM
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    I couldn't think of a title this year. Called it my Thread as a link to my sewing thread!
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Little Miss Winner
    • By Little Miss Winner 1st Jan 17, 8:15 PM
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    Wishing you all the best for 2017 x
    • fruitycar
    • By fruitycar 2nd Jan 17, 10:54 AM
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    Welcome to another year in the life of Mooloo.
    We are moving into 2017 with the new challenges of joining up the dots and hopefully moving forward to a single home in a couple of years.

    So while I attempt to get things done I will continue to keep my life on track by being accountable for my actions by committing what is going on here.
    I will see if I can remember how to post a link from one thread to another.
    Originally posted by Mooloo

    new thread title '2017 Joining up the dots' ?
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 2nd Jan 17, 12:07 PM
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    Not sure if I can change the title now?
    I will have to ask if anyone knows how to. For now I will leave it.
    There are a lot of dots to join. I wish I could say it would be straight forward but looking at my life so far I very much doubt it.
    For today, it is our last day before BF goes to work and I get dgd back. the sun is shining and we're going to walk into oxford centre. I need some exercise after a week of very little walking with my Mum and lots of good food.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Feral Moon
    • By Feral Moon 2nd Jan 17, 3:12 PM
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    Not sure if I can change the title now?
    I will have to ask if anyone knows how to. For now I will leave it.
    There are a lot of dots to join. I wish I could say it would be straight forward but looking at my life so far I very much doubt it.
    For today, it is our last day before BF goes to work and I get dgd back. the sun is shining and we're going to walk into oxford centre. I need some exercise after a week of very little walking with my Mum and lots of good food.
    Originally posted by Mooloo
    You can, go into edit as normal the click on "go advanced mode" and the title will be in a white box at the top. You can change it there x
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 2nd Jan 17, 7:01 PM
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    Yah done it. Thankyou.
    Walked into Oxford today and bought myself some gloves and socks. We had lunch in an all you can eat Place. So we won't be eating again today!
    I have been working on the accounts this afternoon and my Brother has Skyped me from France.
    He said Mum was so happy with the holiday and that I should be looking at getting another one booked for her for Next Christmas.
    I don't think I am quite ready to commit to another one yet. I think I need to work on the new dynamics of the split homes living with BF at the moment.
    I am already going away in two weeks for a long weekend to Portugal and dgd and I are away there again in April.

    I am going to do some target figure work based on last years sales etc and think about the lessons I have been planning to do and how I am going to advertise them.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Savvy_Sue
    • By Savvy_Sue 2nd Jan 17, 10:45 PM
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    and my Brother has Skyped me from France.
    He said Mum was so happy with the holiday and that I should be looking at getting another one booked for her for Next Christmas.
    I don't think I am quite ready to commit to another one yet. I think I need to work on the new dynamics of the split homes living with BF at the moment.
    Originally posted by Mooloo
    And just why is it YOUR responsibility to sort out your mother's plans for next Christmas?

    Maybe next year she'd like to spend Christmas with your brother. Maybe she'd like to spend it in her own home, inviting you or others.

    And that's before we get on to how YOU would like to spend Christmas!

    Honestly, the cheek of it ...
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    • just trying
    • By just trying 2nd Jan 17, 10:51 PM
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    Best wishes mooloo here's to a fab year Xx.
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    • dktreesea
    • By dktreesea 3rd Jan 17, 1:19 PM
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    And just why is it YOUR responsibility to sort out your mother's plans for next Christmas?

    Maybe next year she'd like to spend Christmas with your brother. Maybe she'd like to spend it in her own home, inviting you or others.

    And that's before we get on to how YOU would like to spend Christmas!

    Honestly, the cheek of it ...
    Originally posted by Savvy_Sue


    I kind of agree with this, but I can see the other side too. You're close to your Mum and live nearby. Plus your mum is in good enough health to travel. If you and her enjoy going away together, it's a good thing you are doing making the most of it.


    My own mum, who is a similar age to yours, hasn't been able to travel for years due to ill health, and is now pretty much housebound.
    • Savvy_Sue
    • By Savvy_Sue 3rd Jan 17, 1:37 PM
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    I kind of agree with this, but I can see the other side too. You're close to your Mum and live nearby. Plus your mum is in good enough health to travel. If you and her enjoy going away together, it's a good thing you are doing making the most of it.


    My own mum, who is a similar age to yours, hasn't been able to travel for years due to ill health, and is now pretty much housebound.
    Originally posted by dktreesea
    Oh I get that too, but it's not as if Mooloo's mum isn't in a fit state to make her OWN decisions and express what she'd like to do. Brother saying what he did just comes across to me as HIM deciding he doesn't want to have to have Mum to his for Christmas, but equally doesn't want to feel guilty about not inviting her.
    Still knitting!
    Completed: 1 adult cardigan, 3 baby jumpers, 2 shawls, 3 pairs baby bootees,
    1 Wise Man Knitivity figure + 1 sheep, 2 pairs socks, 1 seaman's hat ...
    Current projects: 1 shawl, another seaman's hat
    • dktreesea
    • By dktreesea 3rd Jan 17, 2:06 PM
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    Oh I get that too, but it's not as if Mooloo's mum isn't in a fit state to make her OWN decisions and express what she'd like to do. Brother saying what he did just comes across to me as HIM deciding he doesn't want to have to have Mum to his for Christmas, but equally doesn't want to feel guilty about not inviting her.
    Originally posted by Savvy_Sue

    Yes, but that's a far cry from actually going ahead and organising the holiday. The thing is with older people, they often don't have a lot of confidence. Mooloo, correct me if I am wrong on this, but it does sound like your Mum does need some help doing a few things?


    They often can't travel alone. Just not strong enough to lift bags, they can get confused easily, just overwhelmed by being in unfamiliar surroundings. Take something like going to France. Possibly Mooloo's brother would need to come over to England, to his Mum's house, accompany her over to France, then deliver her back at the end of the stay.


    Plus, parents can feel different levels of closeness and trust towards their children. It doesn't follow that just because one of their children is making the invitation, the parents are going to want to go.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 3rd Jan 17, 3:06 PM
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    Mum spends up to three months of the year in France with my siblings.
    I don't think my brother was trying to pass the buck. He was just saying that It would be good to make plans etc, so Mum has plans to look forward to. ( also so that Mum doesn't have to go to my Sister for Christmas as Mum doesn't like the cold weather there, and there is nothing for her to do).
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 3rd Jan 17, 5:32 PM
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    After I have been back to work for the month of January and I start to get more work back in, my mission is to start to increase takings and my wages bit by bit. I am hoping that I can up it by £10 a week and increments of £10 each month, if the business can sustain it then I will eventually be on a more suitable wage and ween me off of the benefit system. Obviously I will have to keep hmrc and the council informed as I go along so that I don't end up owning them over payments.
    I suppose that will also keep me focused on the bottom line of the business.

    I will also be back on the debt chasing as I have ended up with more debt this year due to bailing out the kids!
    I obviously am going to have to be very focused and not just coast this year.

    I am looking forward to the challenges that I am planning for my personal and professional growth.

    Dgd is home, presents are opened and she is settling down after a tearful goodbye to her Mum and brother. I noticed that she calls the partner Her step dad now. I will have to just get used to it.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
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