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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 5:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5320917&page=501

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/news/family/2016/03/martin-lewis-launches-new-money--mental-health-policy-institute

    http://blog.moneysavingexpert.com/2016/05/16/the-money-and-mental-health-policy-institute-whatll-it-really-do

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/credit-cards/mental-health-guide
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 10:29 AM.
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    • tea lover
    • By tea lover 18th Mar 16, 9:33 AM
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    Have you got an actual sausage dog??? I'm so jealous! There is a sausage dog club weekend?!? That sounds like the cutest event ever If I ever had a dog it would be a little sausage dog.... but I think P cat might eat it .
    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 18th Mar 16, 9:36 AM
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    The number of times I've read the word "shiny" this morning has reminded me that my annual watching of Firefly is well overdue. Best I dust off the DVDs when I get home
    Originally posted by Izadora
    I watched the whole series through and the film last month Celebration of me putting the projector and screen up in my living room was to flop on the sofa in front of it and watch scifi (currently on Battlestar Galactica which I haven't watched in some years, I had forgotten just how compelling it is)
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    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 18th Mar 16, 9:44 AM
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    I'm off work next week - very excited!! Am starting the decorating this evening.... less excited about that. I love it once I get to the painting part... it's the trying to move everything out of the way and sand woodwork part that does my head in.
    Originally posted by tea lover
    I've been replacing most of the woodwork in my house as I decorate, as it's the original from 1951. No sanding, but primer and undercoat in addition to the gloss, so it all balances out in terms of effort.

    Hope you have a good week off For decorating, or are you off on hols? If you're at home, try not to do what I do, which is potter around, then realise it's lunchtime and I haven't achieved anything useful with the day yet
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    • happilymarried2013
    • By happilymarried2013 18th Mar 16, 9:49 AM
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    Hi Tea! Yes an actual sausage dog. She's gorgeous. Its our first time to go to sausage dog club, the lady who runs it said there's often 100+ sausages there. My two cats are accepting her slowly... we've had one or two arguments though.

    Hope you have a fun weekend decorating - I have to do the garden this weekend. Eurgh.

    My anxiety is playing up this morning, (I've only got a week left in this job which is probably why) and I've picked all the skin off my little finger and middle finger, I'm trying really hard to limit it there though.
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    • tea lover
    • By tea lover 18th Mar 16, 9:52 AM
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    Know what you mean ono - I have such big plans that they might just overwhelm me. There's a good chance I'll just end up lying on the sofa watching being human for the 10th time .

    General sanding isn't too bad I guess, but this room also has a picture rail and the airing cupboard doors so that's going to get boring quite quickly .

    Am so sad.... I've made myself a project plan showing what needs to happen each day (starting from 6pm tonight when I get home from work!)

    Plan is to get the ceiling, walls, woodwork and wallpapering done by Thursday. Then a day off on Friday. Then have to sort out when the carpet and furniture can be delivered, but am not worrying about that part for now .
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 18th Mar 16, 10:16 AM
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    Lighthearted penguin about food.....


    Look here! Do you realise that sausages have been mentioned
    9 times! in the last 6 posts, and my food resolutions for today are now already in serious jeopardy! End penguin!
    Last edited by Pyxis; 18-03-2016 at 10:23 AM.
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    • happilymarried2013
    • By happilymarried2013 18th Mar 16, 10:37 AM
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    [QUOTE=Pyxis;70338036]Lighthearted penguin about food.....



    Oh No!!!! I'm sorry Pyxis - I didn't realise that this could be a penguin issue for some. hmm.... I'll have to call her mollywobbles instead. Is that better?

    I'm really sorry if I've made things hard for some. I just love my dog so much that I have to talk about her.
    Last edited by happilymarried2013; 18-03-2016 at 10:38 AM. Reason: Penguin showed. Whoops
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    • tea lover
    • By tea lover 18th Mar 16, 10:39 AM
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    HM - I'm pretty sure Pyxis is pulling your (teeny-tiny sausage) legs

    Aww... I want a little doggy cuddle!
    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 18th Mar 16, 10:40 AM
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    I've made myself a project plan showing what needs to happen each day (starting from 6pm tonight when I get home from work!)
    Originally posted by tea lover
    If I did that, I'd just end up cross with myself when I'm not running on schedule, or wanted a break but the plan said it wasn't allowed

    I'm very disorganised though, so that level of planning is never going to happen
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    • happilymarried2013
    • By happilymarried2013 18th Mar 16, 10:52 AM
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    TeaLover - fingers crossed. I really don't want to cause anyone upset. I'm a bit on edge today. Gonna have to pop out of the office in 5 for plasters for my fingers. They're so sore.

    Ono - it takes a lot of organization to be that organised. lol - I try then fail miserably to get sorted like that....
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    • tea lover
    • By tea lover 18th Mar 16, 10:52 AM
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    I'm much better at the planning than the actual work Plus it's the only way I can even attempt to get any sleep - if I've written down what I need to do the next day I can hopefully stop it all careering around my head so much.
    • codemonkey
    • By codemonkey 18th Mar 16, 12:10 PM
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    Do you know that sausage dogs make the list of most aggressive dog breeds in the UK? But their little faces!

    I am feeling a bit self-conscious today.. I was feeling pretty good this morning. I listened to Cherry Pie on my way to work which is one of my confidence boosting songs (I know, I know!). Then one of my colleagues mentioned one of my biggest flaws in my appearance and thing I am most sensitive about (not my weight for once), but I used to get teased about it as a child. So now I've gone from positive to feeling super ugly and considering putting a paper bag over my head. Why couldn't I have been born pretty, like all the other women in my family, rather than looking like someone tried to make a playdough face.

    Sigh. I wonder if I could just build a robot me and spend my days at home under a blanket.
    Eu não sou uma tartaruga. Eu sou um codigopombo.
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 18th Mar 16, 12:23 PM
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    [QUOTE=happilymarried2013;70338184]
    Lighthearted penguin about food.....



    Oh No!!!! I'm sorry Pyxis - I didn't realise that this could be a penguin issue for some. hmm.... I'll have to call her mollywobbles instead. Is that better?

    I'm really sorry if I've made things hard for some. I just love my dog so much that I have to talk about her.
    Originally posted by Pyxis
    No no no no! Happily, I was joking! Well, sort of joking! in as much as I got the munchies for sossises! Note well the grinning emoticon at the end! That's usually a clue that it's all tongue in cheek! Emoticons are so useful like that, because you can't see the twinkle in my eye!

    The only reason I penguined it, (and I didn't originally - I went back on reflection and whited it), was in case a craving subject triggered anyone else!

    M&S do these fantabulous sossises called "Italian Style". They are delish! I've got two packs in th freezer, but I haven't seen them in Marks for several weeks, and am terrified they've stopped doing them! So I'm trying resist for as long as poss!

    (((((((Happily)))))))
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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 18th Mar 16, 12:38 PM
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    Afternoon all!

    Hahahahaha! So far the rice is still on the delivery list! I feel terribly self-indulgent although it is actually only £4 for a kilo which isn't as expensive as it could be. As I now only smoke e-cigs and don't drink, wild rice can become my guilty pleasure! WaSp thinks I have lost the plot by even questioning it. This happened with a jar of pickles once, I felt it was a waste of money but I was really craving them. He happened to mention it to Milliefleur because he thought it was funny and she sent him to the shop with her money to buy me 4 jars. I often have benefit guilt much to WaSp's amusement, usually over things that would be good for me but aren't available in value brands.

    Aw, I love sausage dogs! They are so adorable! Don't worry Happily, Pyxis was only joking. I think being in a group of 100 little sausages would make me very happy!

    Good luck on the decorating, tea and ono! Want to do mine next? This place badly needs painting, it hasn't been touched for 9 years and the last time it was done very cheapily so has become transparent showing random dabs of plaster over the years. WaSp can't do it because he can't stretch and the idea of me trying it is laughable.

    Aw, code! I am sorry that happened. You are totally gorgeous to us! It is also lovely to see you. Have a big hug.

    Pyxis, if I can throw my money away on the extravagance of wild rice you can have a sausage! I am a terrible influence...
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 18-03-2016 at 12:42 PM.
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 18th Mar 16, 12:41 PM
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    ((((((Code)))))))

    Re. the reference to your 'flaw', what sort of tone did your colleague use? Was it a jokey one, or a helpful one? I'm hoping it wasn't a jibe.

    Code, sometimes when I'm in a coffee shop, or sitting waiting for someone, I people-watch. I look to see just how many really beautiful/pretty people of either sex there are out there. And do you know, there are hardly any that you'd call really stunning, and only a few that you'd call good-looking. Most people are lumpy and bumpy with too big this and too small that.

    I know it's easy to say, and I'm self-conscious about two or three things, one of which I can't do anything about, at least not without having surgery which I would never contemplate!

    We recently had some photos taken for the AmDram group, and I really don't like the way the weight I've put on has affected my face, plus I'm starting to look old, unless I smile! So I try and smile all the time now! I was practising a routine in front of the mirror last weekend, and I was concentrating, so had a serious face on, and I looked awful! So old and fat! But when I smiled, I looked a lot younger!
    When my face is in a neutral expression, I look like Grumpy-Cat!
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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 18th Mar 16, 12:52 PM
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    I love Grumpy cat. I agree with Pyxis, code. Most people just look average and ok. There are very few absolutely stunning people out there. The biggest flaw I worry about is that I look like I have a big double chin. It isn't what it seems, it is because of my thyroid disease which means my neck and jaw are always swollen over my thyroid area but I hate it! Then there is the acne that chooses to pop up randomly, or the fact that my teeth are brown because the dye in my antibiotic has stained them over the course of 20 years. I could go on. I am still pretty average though, most of us are.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

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    • tea lover
    • By tea lover 18th Mar 16, 12:56 PM
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    I love Grumpy cat. I agree with Pyxis, code. Most people just look average and ok. There are very few absolutely stunning people out there. The biggest flaw I worry about is that I look like I have a big double chin. It isn't what it seems, it is because of my thyroid disease which means my neck and jaw are always swollen over my thyroid area but I hate it! Then there is the acne that chooses to pop up randomly, or the fact that my teeth are brown because the dye in my antibiotic has stained them over the course of 20 years. I could go on. I am still pretty average though, most of us are.
    Originally posted by Waves and Smiles
    Totally! While there are people like Aiden Turner around in the world, there have to be lots of us normal people to even things out .

    I am cross on your behalf though code - there is no need for meanness, and come to think of it no need to ever mention anyone's appearance if it's not to give a compliment.
    • Birdie85
    • By Birdie85 18th Mar 16, 1:28 PM
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    Big hugs Code, what did they mention and how was it said? I can't see why anyone you work with would say something mean about your appearance?! Agree with the others though, the majority of folk are average lookers, I know very few people who are genuinely, naturally 'beautiful'. Apart from myself, of course!

    Tea - I love that you have a decorating plan! Hope you manage to stick to it! I think I need a plan for live in general, I lose so much time faffing about doing nothing!
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 18th Mar 16, 1:43 PM
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    Well, I am gradually working through the piles, and sorting/tidying - cleaning as I go.
    I need to get some cupboards installed. That's been a big part of the problem, not having proper cupboards, so things are just piled up everywhere.
    Upstairs, I've just got what should be my workroom left to do. That's a nightmare, because it holds big boxes of craft stuff that will stay, but I need cupboards. They're all piled up on each other, four or five deep, so if I want something out of the bottom box, I can't get it.

    Plus I've got loads of tools and stuff like screws and bolts and electrical stuff. I don't have a garage, and the little garden shed is only big enough for garden stuff. Anyway, I wouldn't keep tools in a shed. They'd go rusty.

    One big problem is a lot of china I inherited. Good sets. Vintage, etc. I wouldn't use it myself, but it's too good to give away, really. The thought of trying to sell it does my head in, though.

    I wish I did like it, but I really don't!
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    • codemonkey
    • By codemonkey 18th Mar 16, 1:49 PM
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    He didn't mean to be insulting. He was saying that he had the same thing only not as bad as me. I don't think he realised. The thing is, if you met me you wouldn't think I had any body issues. I'm quite open about being chubby and not pretty. I wasn't even the most beautiful woman at my wedding ffs. DH has a very beautiful friend who was invited. Biach looks like a Disney Princess.

    He just triggered one of my buttons in that I do wish I was more attractive. It's not even like an ugly I can do something about with weight loss and makeup. I knew I should have eyelinered more today.
    Eu não sou uma tartaruga. Eu sou um codigopombo.
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