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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 4:23 PM
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    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 4:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 4:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5320917&page=501

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/news/family/2016/03/martin-lewis-launches-new-money--mental-health-policy-institute

    http://blog.moneysavingexpert.com/2016/05/16/the-money-and-mental-health-policy-institute-whatll-it-really-do

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/credit-cards/mental-health-guide
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 9:29 AM.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 17th Mar 16, 4:24 PM
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    (The thread etiquette will be reposted every ten or so pages.)
    ......................................... ......................................... .................
    Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

    !!!But first...............please be assured........................................... .......................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


    - This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

    - People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

    - The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

    -If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

    Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.



    - So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

    "Possible penguin about.........(Type of Trigger)" The trigger might be:- child abuse, marital abuse/violence, paranoia, stalkers, death, etc. (It's important to indicate the type of trigger, so that people can avoid reading it if they need to).

    Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

    It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
    (Harmless example follows here):-
    PENGUIN

    This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
    It isn't really! So you can look
    . https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


    END OF PENGUIN

    (NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

    IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
    To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

    Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
    N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

    The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

    We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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    !!!So, to reiterate..............******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******

    - More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

    ...............Thread Motto...............
    Nos Omnes Ad Audiendum Parumper
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 4:26 PM
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    Hahahaha! Super speedy Pyxis!

    As I was saying, WaSp suggested I make a thread with a poll asking if people on benefits should be allowed wild rice. My guilt seems to be amusing him, he just told me that I am a special little snowflake...
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-03-2016 at 4:29 PM.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 17th Mar 16, 4:35 PM
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    Hahahaha! Super speedy Pyxis!

    As I was saying, WaSp suggested I make a thread with a poll asking if people on benefits should be allowed wild rice. My guilt seems to be amusing him, he just told me that I am a special little snowflake...
    Originally posted by Waves and Smiles
    My stylus was hovering over the refresh button!



    Ooooh! WaS! You could bankrupt the country by indulging in wild rice!

    Make do with tame rice, like the Hoipolloi!


    Seriously though....... No-one's going to begrudge you wild rice! Anyway, it's very nutritious!!

    Special little snowflake! You'll be SLS now!
    Last edited by Pyxis; 17-03-2016 at 4:38 PM.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 17th Mar 16, 4:41 PM
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    Just thought! .........

    On the other thread you said you were a sloth.


    That means you're a goth sloth!


    (God, I'm so funny! I crack me up! )
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 4:45 PM
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    • 17th Mar 16, 4:45 PM
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    Hahahahaha! Ok, wild rice is going into the basket! I feel decadent!

    Although WaSp finds it funny it also frustrates him because I have no problem with him buying branded products that he likes for him. WaSp only likes ground coffee so he will have that and I won't use it when I know I can manage on value coffee, just one example. I do struggle with what I allow myself out of guilt which is silly I know. Then again I struggle with being dependent on other people paying to keep me alive anyway. It all goes back to feeling useless.

    I am such a SLS! Or a Goth Sloth!
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
    • elsien
    • By elsien 17th Mar 16, 4:46 PM
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    I am feeling decrepit. My massage was lovely but somewhat forceful and I now feel more bruised than when I started. Then Gitdog lunged off down a flight of stairs without warning with me still attached. Luckily I still bounce.

    Pyxis, I challenge you to find a goth sloth picture.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 17th Mar 16, 4:48 PM
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    .

    Pyxis, I challenge you to find a goth sloth picture.
    Originally posted by elsien
    I thought of looking but wondered if I should bother!..............



    I'll look, you never know! .....................
    (I just lurve spiders! )
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    • Torry Quine
    • By Torry Quine 17th Mar 16, 4:49 PM
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    Elsien Ouch Hugs that you aren't too sore.
    Life is like riding a bicycle, to keep your balance you must keep moving . Albert Einstein.

    I can bear pain myself, he said softly, but I couldna bear yours. That would take more strength than I have -
    Diana Gabaldon, Outlander
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 17th Mar 16, 4:49 PM
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    Well,whadderya know!








    There are LOADS!
    Last edited by Pyxis; 17-03-2016 at 4:52 PM.
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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 4:53 PM
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    Hahahahaha! pics of me!

    Eeeep! Naughty Gitdog! Hope you aren't too bruised, elsien!
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 17th Mar 16, 5:04 PM
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    I am feeling decrepit. My massage was lovely but somewhat forceful and I now feel more bruised than when I started. Then Gitdog lunged off down a flight of stairs without warning with me still attached. Luckily I still bounce.
    You didn't go to the beach, then?

    Pyxis, I challenge you to find a goth sloth picture.
    Originally posted by elsien
    Done. Next!
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

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    • tea lover
    • By tea lover 17th Mar 16, 6:56 PM
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    WaS, you do know no one can see your rice right??

    It could be gold-plated for all the good old taxpayer knows

    Seriously though, your benefits are for your benefit! Eat whatever you fancy xx
    • faerielight
    • By faerielight 17th Mar 16, 7:00 PM
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    Hello new thread
    Many thanks to all who contribute on MSE
    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 7:07 PM
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    Hello faerie!

    Hahahahaha! Ok, that made me crack up laughing, tea. Now I am imagining the rice police coming after me with a full forensic kit! The wild rice is in my online order! It's been so long since I last had any I'll probably find out I don't like it anymore now after all of this.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
    • Solarjunkie
    • By Solarjunkie 17th Mar 16, 7:08 PM
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    Hello new thread. Are there enough of them now to start weaving, or at least plaiting?
    Deal with things as they are, not as they should be.
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 17th Mar 16, 7:11 PM
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    Yes, you can make a plait with four threads!
    (I just lurve spiders! )
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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 7:12 PM
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    Hello Solar! We are up to number 4! June is our two year anniversary of when the first thread appeared, I keep thinking we should have a party or something!
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 7:14 PM
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    CORRECTION! We are all wrong! This is thread 5! I just checked in my created threads!
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
    • elsien
    • By elsien 17th Mar 16, 7:47 PM
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    Thursday night is no longer training night. From here on in it has been renamed I'm going to bloody kill him night. And breathe.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
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