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    • Former MSE Wendy
    • By Former MSE Wendy 10th Nov 08, 1:50 PM
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    Former MSE Wendy
    Free guide from Refuge for women experiencing domestic violence
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    • 10th Nov 08, 1:50 PM
    Free guide from Refuge for women experiencing domestic violence 10th Nov 08 at 1:50 PM
    What this is all about?

    Refuge, the domestic violence charity, has produced a free new guide called 'You Can Afford To Leave' to help women experiencing domestic violence or abuse take control of their finances.

    It's designed to cover all the basics, from benefits and basic budgeting to setting up a bank account and what to do about joint debts (mortgages etc). It’s aim is to help women who feel trapped with an abuser, but also to help those who have left and need help getting their finances sorted.

    How to get the guide

    The 35 page guide is available to download from the Refuge website (you'll need Adobe Acrobat to open it) or it can also send hard copies to women or to people who might come across women seeking help if you call 020 7395 7731 or send an email.

    Why has Refuge produced the guide?

    It's research has shown that domestic violence often involves economic abuse as well as physical, sexual and emotional abuse and that many women stay with abusive men because they are worried about the financial consequences of leaving and are unaware of the options that are available to them. Economic abuse can include taking the woman’s money, not allowing her to work, strictly limiting what she’s allowed to spend or, really commonly, placing debt in her name to trap her in the relationship.

    Refuge says that one in four women experience abuse at some point in their lives. If this affects you or anyone you know, check out or pass on the guide.

    Also read our 5 minute Benefits Check Up & Debt Help Guide.

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    Last edited by Former MSE Wendy; 12-11-2008 at 3:00 PM.
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    • Violetta
    • By Violetta 2nd Jul 15, 4:14 PM
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    Violetta
    News that Clare's Law has now been extended throughout Scotland, (I think it's in place in the rest of the UK, perhaps someone could clarify? More info here and there are also link's with help & advice http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-33340728
    Booo!!!
    • Violetta
    • By Violetta 1st Oct 15, 12:39 AM
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    Violetta
    That's the scheme up and running now, http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-34403806 and you can find the disclosure form is here https://www.scotland.police.uk/secureforms/disclosure/ , I do hope if someone does use this from this post their fears are unfounded & if not that you get all the help you can.
    Booo!!!
    • DJoyceB
    • By DJoyceB 7th Oct 15, 3:16 AM
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    DJoyceB
    Wow, it's nice to have such a thread around here.
    • shannonhill
    • By shannonhill 21st May 16, 4:46 AM
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    shannonhill
    I just would like to say that its great to see Domestic Violence awareness.

    I escaped DV 6 years ago with my then 3 year old daughter. We left out home with a bag of clothes and went into a refuge runned by Womens Aid. Although it was very difficult to adapt it was the best thing that could have happen to us. We were re housed about 15 months later and had to start from scratch but we did it. I got furniture from a local charity, looked for free to colector stuff from the local newspaper and slowly built up a home.

    If you have an escape fund all the better but sometimes the situation you are in is so bad you just need to escape.

    I just hope that people out there male or female that are caught in a Domestic Violence situation dont give up on escaping due to financial issues. At the end of the day your life and well being its priceless, everything else can be replaced.
    Originally posted by zita
    Sad to hear what you had to go through, and happy that it's all over now

    Although I've never been in an abusive relationship before, I've counseled women who've gone through the phase, and it's very, very difficult. It's not just financial issues. Some feel that they're on the receiving end of the abuse because they've done something wrong. DV victims first need to stop finding fault with themselves and understand that their is nothing that can justify physical abuse.
    • margaretclare
    • By margaretclare 11th Sep 16, 4:51 PM
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    Is anyone following the relevant storyline on 'The Archers'? A woman arrested and being tried for attempted murder when she tried to leave. Coercive control and marital rape have come up in course of the trial. Verdict this evening in an hour's episode, normally 12 minutes.

    I've contributed to Refuge - the charity has raised approx £150K I believe, following an appeal 'Free Helen Titchener'.
    Ær ic wisdom funde, ær wearð ic eald.
    Before I found wisdom, I became old.
    • thorsoak
    • By thorsoak 19th Sep 16, 6:48 PM
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    thorsoak
    Is anyone following the relevant storyline on 'The Archers'? A woman arrested and being tried for attempted murder when she tried to leave. Coercive control and marital rape have come up in course of the trial. Verdict this evening in an hour's episode, normally 12 minutes.

    I've contributed to Refuge - the charity has raised approx £150K I believe, following an appeal 'Free Helen Titchener'.
    Originally posted by margaretclare
    Me too - the story has raised the profile of coercive control.
    • EdwardB
    • By EdwardB 9th Feb 17, 1:14 AM
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    EdwardB
    Can we have a separate thread for Men and can you make it a sticky like this one please.
    Please be nice to all MoneySavers. That’s the forum motto. Remember, the prime aim is to help provide info and resources. If you don’t like someone, their situation, their question or feel they’re intruding on ‘your board’ then please bite the bullet and think of the bigger issue.
    • EdwardB
    • By EdwardB 9th Feb 17, 1:17 AM
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    EdwardB
    Is anyone following the relevant storyline on 'The Archers'? A woman arrested and being tried for attempted murder when she tried to leave. Coercive control and marital rape have come up in course of the trial. Verdict this evening in an hour's episode, normally 12 minutes.

    I've contributed to Refuge - the charity has raised approx £150K I believe, following an appeal 'Free Helen Titchener'.
    Originally posted by margaretclare
    What do you think of the Story Line NOW?

    I helped someone who was a lot worse, it went on for a lot longer and did not end so well.
    Please be nice to all MoneySavers. That’s the forum motto. Remember, the prime aim is to help provide info and resources. If you don’t like someone, their situation, their question or feel they’re intruding on ‘your board’ then please bite the bullet and think of the bigger issue.
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