Miscarriage support

COMP - it was a miscarriage regrdless of what stage you were (unless its easier for you to think of it another way) and your hopes and dreams were no less real than anyone else's. THose were taken away and it is hard to wrap your heada round that sometimes. The only difference in feelings that I had the second time which was at an earlier stage than my first was that I dealt with it better physically. Emotionally was a different matter. And you can post here any time you need to!

Tinks - "WHEN" - that's my girl! Hope you're doing ok!

So another chemical pregnancy for me. That's 2 months in a row now..unlucky or what.

I haven't started bleeding yet, so guess that's on the way.

If I don't start bleeding by say the end of the weekend however, should I go and see the Dr? Would I need an ERPC at this stage or should I just wait?

If anyone could advise I'd appreciate it.

MV - I would speak /see the GP asap. Explain 2nd chemical in a row there may be tests or help they can provide?
So sorry we are all in this crappy place at the moment xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I had to wait too MV. I had a molar pregnancy whereby my hormone levels were way higher than they should have been, and I had to have weekly testing to check that they were down to normal. It took 10 weeks to come down to normal, and I still have to have fortnightly testing to make sure the levels stay normal. I won't be signed off officially til January, and I am not 'meant' to TTC again til then either after having my ERPC in May this year.

I found the waiting harder in a lot of ways to comprehend than actually losing the baby. If I have been able to try again and get pregnant again I felt as though some of the hurt of losing the baby would have gone - and that I was at least doing something proactive about wanting a baby.

I chose not to wait as long as recommended after speaking it through with the molar nurse counsellor, as my mental health would have suffered far too much by waiting further than I had already. Still not preggars tho, so maybe my body is telling me I should have waited

My MIL said to me the other day that my testing was 'no problem' now which annoyed me a bit. Its still a reminder twice a fortnight (test day and results day) of what I have been through.

Hugs for everyone on the thread. Sucks to be us and know what each other is feeling Would give anything to go back to being naive

Morning guys.

Thankfully (never thought I'd say that) I began to bleed this morning, so hopefully I will just have another heavy period and things will be back to normal soon.

Thanks for the advice Teamlowe. I was hoping I didn't have to have anything kind of proceedure and thankfully it looks like that will be the case.

I am slightly concerned that I have had 2 chemical pregnancies one after the other though. We don't appear to have trouble actually conceiving, and I think OH's sperm is top notch, but something is occurring to halt things in the early stages.

I doubt my GP will be interested, but am going to try and get an appointment for monday evening, but am also considering a private fertility clinic to see if they may be able to help me at all.

I just don't think I can bear to keep going through this, as I am at the stage now of even when I get a BFP, I don't believe things are going to work out (which I was right about this time).

Has anybody here been through a few CP's and had a happy tale at the end?

I woke up very down and upset this morning but my method of coping today is by throwing myself 100% into my DS. We are taking him for his first haircut later and then out to lunch and a local playground.

I feel at the moment that we will never get another child, and that DS was a very lucky fluke It's a horrible feeling.

I am sorry for rambling..I just need to get my thoughts down, and this thread has always been amazing for support.