Separation Telling the children Yes / no

Sorry if this sounds rude but I think you are lucky your wife bothered checking your viewpoint.
Once you have walked out she will maybe parent her way regardless of what you think because you won't be around.
If I had a husband who left me with 2 year old and 5 year old I would change the locks and I would not be remotely interested in your parenting opinions.

When I read your post I assumed you'd been married 20/30 years. I was shocked to see you had a two and five year old!

I believe you should talk to your son and explain things and reassure him. To be honest I think your bored. Bored of your wife, having two young kids and life being different to how it was.

I've 4 children and been with my husband just over 14 years, since I was a teenager. I've had times I've been bored, when things have seemed like its the end. But I've never gave up and I won't ! I believe in seeing marriage out (within reason) it needs worked on. And I want to ensure my kids are brought up with a mum and a dad together.

Maybe you living on your own, after you've had your fun will make you see what you've lost.

You are being selfish. You should tell them, but first you should try a bit longer to make your marriage work. You made a commitment and your wife presumably agreed to have children on the basis that you'd bring them up as a committed couple? I too was shocked to see that you hadn't been married for 20 years or so, with the way you talk about your marriage.

Okay, things have been difficult for a year, but a year is really nothing, when you have very young children and thus very limited time to spend together and work on things. You're giving up at the time when things are hardest due to the normal demands of a two and five year old.

If you can stay together and get through the next couple of years, then you will probably have an extremely strong and close marriage and relationship, just when your children start to be more independent and more fun to care for and to spend time with. All relationships go through rough times when children are very young, but strong and caring parents and partners work through the problems, rather than giving up.

LKRDN_Morgan wrote: »

Woah for a second there I thought I'd stumbled into mumsnet not MSE. So many bitter responses. Times have changed. People don't stay in unhappy marriages anymore for the sake of the kids. It doesn't do them any favours. Being around unhappy parents is not a nice experience

Not sure if OP has responsed or not, I must have missed it in a sea of man haters but be honest with your boy. He'll work it out for himself anyway so better you're upfront about it than hear of from his upset mum. Things can so easily be said in the heat of the moment whilst she's still coming to terms with it

Do you not think that's the problem in society though now ? Far to many people just end it, Infact I know numerous who didn't even last a year in marrisge. Sadly it's the lure of the hen and stag and the big party. It's actually a joke !! Then children are brought into it, then everyone's bored. Toddlers are hard, the wife isn't as fun as she used to be, she's too tired etc. The man doesn't help enough so then people decide that's enough. Whereas I think I have a husband who is loyal, who I love and although having 4 young kids and jobs is hard we will come out the other side. People do not try anymore ! Then within months the new mans moved in, the new girlsfriends introduced and so on.

I appreciate there's circumstances where it can't be avoided such as violence or affairs among others. But it's just sad and frustrating how people don't work real hard to actually make their marriage work.