How Did You Afford/Pay for Your/Your Daughter's Wedding?

tesuhoha · 20 July 2011 at 11:23AM

Thank you for your replies. So basically its a bit old fashioned for the parents to pay. That's a relief. I am going to start paying though to contribute something.

LEJC · 20 July 2011 at 11:24AM

tesuhoha wrote: »

Thanks. I didn't even know there was a wedding thread. I will have a look.

Its a sub board of "special occaisions ans celebrations"....

celyn90 · 20 July 2011 at 11:24AM

We paid for our wedding ourselves; we would never have expected either set of parents to contribute financially at all.

I don't like the reasons behind the tradition of the brides family paying for it all either.

cel x

mirrorimage0 · 20 July 2011 at 11:28AM

we got married almost 3 yrs ago and we had every intention we were paying for things ourselves, but my parents insisted on paying for the bridal car as i wasnt bothered about having one, was gonna have a couple of friends with their black taxis done up. and hubbys parents paid towards the mens suits (becuase they wanted all the brothers etc as ushers were as we would of been quite happy with just the groom, best man and two dads in the same suits.

my dress i bought at auction, i think the original label was something just over £3000 and i paid £120, and favours, flowers, order of service etc etc i did myself and wirtht he help of mum and friends

tesuhoha · 20 July 2011 at 11:29AM

Thank you everyone. Can I just point out that she doesn't expect anything and hasn't even mentioned getting married apart from an 'I don't want to be single all my life' comment. Its just me thinking of that eventuality or of her suddenly announcing they want to get married in a couple of months! I want to plan ahead.

tesuhoha · 20 July 2011 at 11:34AM

There are some great ideas here. I remember once we were talking about it and she said big weddings were a waste of money so she won't want one.

Kimberley82 · 20 July 2011 at 11:36AM

My parents paid for my wedding apart from the evening do that my inlaws paid for, they only thing we paid for was the rings.

Magicboo · 20 July 2011 at 11:44AM

my parents paid for the majority of our wedding, when we told them we didn't expect them to pay for anything, they told us they would be very upset if they didn't pay for their daughters wedding. However they did get a little offended that DH's parents didn't offer to pay for anything.
We contributed by paying for bits like the wine and anything relating to DH and Best man (as we really couldn't get our heads round my parents paying for suits for 2 chaps they're not particularly close to) etc..and I also spent ALOT of time making everything as MSE as we could.
I'd definately recommend the Wedding board on here, it gave me SO many ideas!

floss2 · 20 July 2011 at 11:46AM

We paid for our own wedding last September, we are both working and wanted to make it the day we wanted, not the day anyone contributing thought we should have.

I have two sons (not DH's) and if they decide to marry we have an Isa which will be split between them and their father can also contribute. However, if we need to undertake any urgent repairs to our home, roof for example, they will come out of the emergency/wedding pot first.

marywooyeah · 20 July 2011 at 11:47AM

I got married on saturday and we paid for everything ourselves, not a single penny from anyone else.
We (I) spent a lot of time trawling through preloved.com and ebay for things, got y bridesmaid dresses of there, my veil (£8) and our wedding favours. we found a lady who makes cakes in her spare time, she did us a 3 tier wedding cake and 30 cupcakes for £70! if you shop about you can get better value for your money, not everything has to cost the earth!
It may be a good idea to set up a bank account and give her a wad of cash down the line, or when the time comes and she gets engaged follow tips above and others from the weddings board.

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