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No one has asked: how old are you?
Do you have a girl/boyfriend or are you single?
Are you a self-sufficient person? Emotionally? Financially?
Can you cook? Clean? Iron (if required)? Shop?
Are you good with money?
Where the answers are no, there may be challanges, but meeting those challanges can be a good thing.....
I'm 28 (I know how have I survived this long at home?! Trust me it hasn't been without its dramas)
I have a boyfriend but he's working away at the mo
Yes I am self sufficient 👍
Yes yes and yes. Yep.
Very good with money
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It would help if you could say what aspect of living alone is worrying you otherwise it is hard to know what sort of tips you want. Are you worried about being in charge of the house? Crime/security? Loneliness? Will you have friends nearby?
I would definitely take this opportunity even if you decide you want to go back to your family afterwards. Getting used to being on your own is a good idea as you never know what will happen in the future. Having a practice run might really help you one day. I am currently watching a 60 year old colleague pretty much have a mental breakdown at the fact she is now having to live alone for the first time. I am sure she could have adapted more if she had tried this 30 years ago.
I love living on my own. I don't think it is better/worse than living with others. It just has different pros and cons.
I think it's the loneliness and security. The flats very secure but just having never done it before it's a bit scary. I'm quite introverted and don't have tonnes of friends, a lot have moved away. I'm quite used to my own company but still can get a bit lonely but I'm hoping that'll make me get out and do more.0 -
I'm 27 and lived alone for 2 years...
Living alone does mean you won't have to worry about what you look like / what you're wearing / can walk around the flat naked if you want!
No nagging that the dishes have been soaking for a whole hour without being done.
No 'where have you been/who you been out with.
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Or maybe that was just my parents
There's always sites like this or others depending on your interests to talk to people or just feel like it's not only you!
Local groups for your interests mean you can meet new friends and then there is new people to go out for a drink with etc
Personally, if it wasn't for work sometimes I'd happily go weeks not seeing anyone though I do have a mate sneak over everything week for dinner!
Security wise. Just always remember to double lock your door of a night.0 -
skullncrossbones wrote: »I think it's the loneliness and security. The flats very secure but just having never done it before it's a bit scary. I'm quite introverted and don't have tonnes of friends, a lot have moved away. I'm quite used to my own company but still can get a bit lonely but I'm hoping that'll make me get out and do more.
- You do have to make the effort to "get out and about" more when living on your own. Living somewhere like London - then that should mean lots of younger people also doing the same - which is a positive. You will learn to "fake it till you make it" re coming over as confident etc etc.
- Good that the security of the flat is good. As a young woman living on your own that is important. If you are also attractive = it's even more important. That is voice of experience time:mad::(:mad:. Any gaps in security - ask the owner if you can (at your own expense) enhance the security. I'm less concerned than I was - now I'm no longer young and attractive. If I'd known then what I know now - I would have been a sight more concerned than I was...0 -
Whoknowskt89 wrote: »No nagging that the dishes have been soaking for a whole hour without being done.
No 'where have you been/who you been out with.
..'
Or maybe that was just my parents
No, that was my ex too!
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You'll have to become more self-reliant and organised. Nobody else to remember to pick up some milk or loo roll on the way home when you've run out!
In particular keep a well-stocked medicine cabinet. If you wake up with a sore throat and streaming nose you won't have anyone to beg to go and buy you tissues. Best to keep some lemsip and so forth on hand so at least you can make yourself feel a little bit better before dragging yourself out of the house.0 -
gingercordial wrote: »You'll have to become more self-reliant and organised. Nobody else to remember to pick up some milk or loo roll on the way home when you've run out!
In particular keep a well-stocked medicine cabinet. If you wake up with a sore throat and streaming nose you won't have anyone to beg to go and buy you tissues. Best to keep some lemsip and so forth on hand so at least you can make yourself feel a little bit better before dragging yourself out of the house.
Good point - re well-organised.
Personally - I tend to keep a (regularly updated) list in my handbag always of things I need to buy/do in town.0 -
Nope that's my parents too!! I feel your pain!Whoknowskt89 wrote: »I'm 27 and lived alone for 2 years...
Living alone does mean you won't have to worry about what you look like / what you're wearing / can walk around the flat naked if you want!
No nagging that the dishes have been soaking for a whole hour without being done.
No 'where have you been/who you been out with.
..'
Or maybe that was just my parents
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I lived alone in London on and off for a number of years in my 20s - 40s with the occasional flat mate/husband in between. I loved it because, as already said, it brings a great deal of independence. There were a lot of singles groups around back then (I met my current partner 20 years ago) and evening classes in every imaginable subject.
I think everyone should experience living alone at least once in their life.
As you have a partner have you considered getting somewhere together? You would still have your independence as he is away a lot but the added security of having someone around plus it would be cheaper
Do you like cats? They make great companions and are suitable for having in a flat.0 -
You don't say how far the flat is from your parents' house. If it's fairly local you will still have friends living nearby. If it's miles away it could be more isolating.0
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