Money Moral Dilemma: Should I say it's your turn to pay for Christmas dinner?

If she is playing host, she needs to understand what that means. It definitely doesn't involve dividing the costs of food, drink etc among the participants, which might be excusable among friends who know and understand each other well enough and, in a pub, say, run a kitty where the costs of drinks are shared reasonably fairly.

A host, though, always appreciates if guests contribute something towards the day, in much the same way that a party invitation includes the bringing of a bottle of plonk to keep the celebrations going.

On this occasion, and rather than fork out money, I think your safest course is to tell your sister what you'll bring along, so that she doesn't need to think about buying or cooking them herself. Take what you think is appropriate and fair, but don't go overboard.

The last thing you'll want to happen is for the family to fall out over this. Best of luck.:)

If you can't afford to host it, then don't!

If you offer to host it, then do so with the goodness of your heart!

I would never ask any one to contribute, neither would I be happy to contribute other than the usual bringing gifts, drinks or a dish or 2.

Your sister has messed this one up!

I think I would be grateful for the family company as a guest or host, you are actually very lucky. Just enjoy it however you work it out.

It all depends if they have the money , have 3 kids etc and are struggling.
I wouldn't give money, I'd bring flowers, soft drinks and a wine just the same as I would when visiting anyone else. If it's family, perhaps more crackers and a dessert or cheese board, and I would pointedly remark that I'll ask the same next time I host .