Advice required please

sangie595 wrote: »

We weren't discussing what you were on. We were discussing what you are on. If your social anxiety is so bad then you need to reapply with the support of your medical professionals. But at no point did you ever comment that your reason for not attending was due to social anxiety. You said, and you said it very clearly, that you didn't attend because you didn't learn anything previously at such sessions and so you decided that you wouldn't go because it was a waste of your time. That has nothing to do with social anxiety.

And, as pointed out, it's only a week since you were looking for an excuse not to go to sign on.

You do not have to claim JSA. It isn't compulsory. You can choose not to claim benefits. You can choose to reapply for ESA. Or you can get a job. But there is a very simple relationship here - if you choose to claim JSA then things like attending courses and signing on are not optional. You decided to claim JSA, and you decided not to attend the course for which you were sanctioned. I've got every sympathy with people who genuinely cannot work due to mental illness - but that was never the question here. The question was that you decided not to waste your time going on a compulsory course and got sanctioned, so you wanted to claim a hardship payment. Changing your version of events doesn't make us forget what you wrote.

Excuse me, but you've got this wrong. At no point did I say that it would be a waste of my time attending. I stated what I had already previously told the Jobcentre about the courses not being helpful. However, I have always still attended them despite the Jobcentre knowing how they affect my social anxiety problem. On that particular day, the social anxiety was extreme. I let them know that I would not be attending.

By the way, as I stated above, I will not accept you accusing me of making excuses of not going into sign on. I was very anxious about not being able to turn up because of the snow. I don't see why I should accept people like yourself throwing complete lies at me and I don't assume to know anything about yourself. However, you seem to insist that I don't have any problems at all and that I'm trying to get out of doing anything the jobcentre are asking me to do. You have no idea what I've been through with social anxiety. There are people out there who work for a living and still claim all the benefits they can get even though they are not entitled to them.
What you have written is very upsetting.

I've told you why I changed the initial post. I started getting negative responses which had nothing to do with the question. I only wanted to know if hardship payment is available to people, living with their parents, who don't have any savings. I wanted to delete the message but I don't think MSE allow it, so I went ahead and tried to rephrase the question to being as basic as possible. Please don't bother replying with any more assumptions of my situation and by the way, it was only one course that I didn't attend. Yes, I realise that I should have attended but I explained to them beforehand, that my social anxiety was particularly extreme that day and I asked to be excused. I accept people having their points of view but I won't have people accusing me of not doing something because I couldn't be bothered or that it was a waste of time. That isn't true at all. I accept that I need to do what they ask of me and I have always tried doing that. I'm sure that I wouldn't be the only person that missed a single day.