spousal maintenance

SM17
SM17 Posts: 1 Newbie
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I'm considering claiming spousal maintenance on amicable divorce. Broadly, partner takes home £4K/mth and I take home £1.8K after tax/NI/pension. We expect each of our living costs to be roughly the same after divorce. We have been married for 25 years. What sort of maintenance should I be looking at and for how long?

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  • KateBob
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    You're posting multiple times under different names, at least have the decency to wait an hour or 2 :mad:
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  • antrobus
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    SM17 wrote: »
    I'm considering claiming spousal maintenance on amicable divorce. Broadly, partner takes home £4K/mth and I take home £1.8K after tax/NI/pension. We expect each of our living costs to be roughly the same after divorce. We have been married for 25 years. What sort of maintenance should I be looking at and for how long?

    If I had to guess, about £0 for 0 years.

    What is spousal maintenance? This is a regular payment made by a former husband, wife or civil partner to their ex-partner. It’s only paid where one partner can’t support themselves financially without it.

    https://www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/en/articles/clean-break-or-spousal-maintenance-after-divorce-or-dissolution

    You should be able to support yourself financially on £1800 a month. :)

    For a definitive answer, ask a divorce lawyer.
  • heartbreak_star
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    If you can't support yourself on £1800 a month something is wrong...

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  • PasturesNew
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    I think you're barking up the Tree of Great Hope.

    £1800/month is a lot of money, plenty to live on. Yes, his £4k/month is more, but that's his money and you've said nothing in your post that indicates you're "owed" any of that.
  • Mojisola
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    If the split is very amicable and you have joint savings, he might agree to let you have more than 50% but there's no justification for wanting a share of his salary after you divorce.
  • maman
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    PasturesNew wrote: »
    I think you're barking up the Tree of Great Hope.

    £1800/month is a lot of money, plenty to live on. Yes, his £4k/month is more, but that's his money and you've said nothing in your post that indicates you're "owed" any of that.


    Maybe OP thinks they've found the Magic Money Tree!:rotfl:
  • gettingtheresometime
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    maman wrote: »
    Maybe OP thinks they've found the Magic Money Tree!:rotfl:



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  • Ozzuk
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    You and your ex can come up with pretty much any agreement, but as others have said based on what you have said there are no grounds to force them to pay anything. I paid my ex for a while because I earnt a lot and they didn't, I was happy to.

    You may however be entitled to part of his pension (and him yours). You've also not mentioned what else is in the pot (savings/bills etc).

    You could for instance agree a greater share in any assets in return for giving up claim to pension.

    Both of you list all assets and liabilities, including pensions and then agree the split - far better to do this between you than involve courts.
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