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TallGirl · 23 January 2017 at 1:26PM

Hi LP
I remember you from MFi3 sorry to hear of your breakup but sounds like it was for the best and you are enjoying yourself even if you see less of the kids.

Ive subscribed

lincoln-potter · 23 January 2017 at 3:30PM

Hey TG,

Thanks for popping in, yes its definitely for the best for me. I didn't realise just how oppressed I was until this all happened, I actually look forward to coming home now whereas before it was always "is she drinking already", or wondering what the next argument would be about.

it'll delay my overall plans obviously but I am still determined!

I am going to sell some banking shares I have which should be another £220-240 in the kitty.

TallGirl · 23 January 2017 at 5:13PM

Sounds like you're definitely better off without her I know what that dread feels like coming home you end up making any excuse to stay away obviously not good when you have kids. I definitely don't believe in staying together for the sake of the kids not good for them growing up in that atmosphere. Enjoy your "freedom" and the ability to set your own goals etc.

Secret_Saving_Squirrel · 23 January 2017 at 10:12PM

It is an awful time - I am divorced and sadly now my son and grandchildren have been going through the same thing. I can only sympathise and say that it does get better and you will have a happy future.

lincoln-potter · 24 January 2017 at 11:02AM

TallGirl wrote: »

Sounds like you're definitely better off without her I know what that dread feels like coming home you end up making any excuse to stay away obviously not good when you have kids. I definitely don't believe in staying together for the sake of the kids not good for them growing up in that atmosphere. Enjoy your "freedom" and the ability to set your own goals etc.

Yeah I most certainly am better off, had a few messages last night from her friends who are even shocked by her behaviour and yet I was led to believe they all agreed with her. I just need to stay strong when she tries to use the children as a bargaining tool, which he has done already.

You are right there is no point staying together just for the sake of the children, I have actually seen my patience with them grow after she left because I don't have so much bottled up inside anymore. Not that I was short with them before but now I am even more relaxed.

Secret_Saving_Squirrel wrote: »

It is an awful time - I am divorced and sadly now my son and grandchildren have been going through the same thing. I can only sympathise and say that it does get better and you will have a happy future.

Thanks for those words SSS, I am sure it will get easier, as they say time is a healer.

On a MSE front I had a BACS from music magpie today for £60.50 for my old phone. Tonight is my last free night for a few nights so I am going to try and ebay a couple of larger items, like an old cot, stair gates etc. I am also going to wrap some birthday presents ready and make some crafty birthday cards for the kids. Its early but at least I won't be rushing last minute then.

I did the meal planner last night and except for going to the shop for milk, I think I have enough food in the freezer, tins and fridge to cover me for the next 30 days.....

Also should be getting a £213.96 refund from electric supplier next few days

misscousinitt · 24 January 2017 at 5:42PM

Well done on the meal plan LP (did you freeze your LO Pulled Pork?) - also glad that you had a good weekend.

MCI

lincoln-potter · 24 January 2017 at 6:20PM

misscousinitt wrote: »

Well done on the meal plan LP (did you freeze your LO Pulled Pork?) - also glad that you had a good weekend.

MCI

No i wasn't sure on how soon after I was able to freeze, so had most of it the next day in a butty. I think in future I'll either cut the portion in half or just try to buy a smaller one to begin with! :rotfl:

There won't be any mort OP this month as since I got his with stamp duty and some other bills I am "overdrawn" on what figure I like to have in the bank at any one time. Maybe next month. I'll also post a current SOA soon once I know the monthly outgoings now I am single.

lincoln-potter · 25 January 2017 at 2:03PM

Placed a couple more matched bets today, should all come in this weekend, finding it quite easy so far. Glad I started a spreadsheet as its easy to lose track of who you have free bets with still.

The payment came through for the phone £60.50 and the refund on the electric bill. Came through faster than I was expecting in fact.

Last night i assembled some more guy equipment that had arrived, just need to hang the punching bag and I think I am about all set with everything I need then. Just need to get back into the habit of using it on a night. Just been that busy of late I don't seem to have had time.

Going to the cinema tonight to see Passengers, the trailer looks good so hopefully the film won't disappoint. I'll use my 2for1 app when I get there so thats something at least. not exactly a no spend but still....

Visiting some old friends for some drinks tomorrow night who I haven't seen for a couple of years but I am trying to reconnect now that I am single. No doubt I'll be quizzed on what went on but I want to get to the point where the main conversation isn't always the past but instead the future.

Then another busy weekend coming up, off to see a uni mate on the saturday and watching a football game at his local team then over to see my old man on the night, so sunday will have to be "jobs" day, the jobs I will try to do are:
- Move some building materials from the front of the house (since the house is empty in the daytime anybody could make off with them).
-Fix some bed side tables
-Paint DD ceiling

misscousinitt · 26 January 2017 at 2:50PM

You can freeze it as soon as it's cool

Sounds like you have a lot on at the moment - good to be busy though.

MCI

lincoln-potter · 26 January 2017 at 3:58PM

misscousinitt wrote: »

You can freeze it as soon as it's cool

Sounds like you have a lot on at the moment - good to be busy though.

MCI

Duly noted, next time I'll be sure to freeze it.

Yes hardly any free nights really, the film was quite good a bit of a plan on titanic but in space really but easy enough to watch.

Next week schedule is already starting to fill up, only have Sunday and Tuesday as "free" nights, and by free I mean nights where I can actually tackle some of the house jobs I want to get sorted, although I guess I will be able to do some that weekend on a night when the kids are in bed.

Not much of a NSD day today, bought some locks and bits to make the house, sheds and fence gates a bit more secure. Since I am out all day I want that extra security to put my mind at rest.

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